Anyone from the UK?

[joclfc]

Burn! Burn!

It's mine too Amanda

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

It's mine too Amanda

Burn! Burn!

 

[joclfc]

They do bin collections on Sunday?

I'm in work till 9 pm tomorrow

 

[NorthernCardinal]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".



It destroyed me. Yet I stayed. I have bpd, which explains some of it I guess... but really, never got over it and have a pretty shit life...



Am I the fucking wimp?

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".

What’s wimpy about getting past something horrible together with someone? (And if you haven’t got past it and want to try working to get past it, good for you - only you will know if that works or not).

 

[NorthernCardinal]

Tbh, I think psrt of me reads LW for the BTB and thinking that's how it could have been

 

[Yesok1]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".

First reaction, I'd say no.

You stayed strong and true to the relationship you committed too. You love the lady, you decided to stick to it.

I probably sense though that you need to work on communication with her and perhaps talk to her if it's eating you up.

 

[NorthernCardinal]

First reaction, I'd say no.

You stayed strong and true to the relationship you committed too. You love the lady, you decided to stick to it.

I probably sense though that you need to work on communication with her and perhaps talk to her if it's eating you up.

Oh, we've tried... me harder than her... but... well...

 

[HornyKatie1979]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".



It destroyed me. Yet I stayed. I have bpd, which explains some of it I guess... but really, never got over it and have a pretty shit life...



Am I the fucking wimp?

Absolutely not a wimp - these life decisions take a lot of courage to make and even more to face the consequences of the decisions.

But that doesn't make it any easier I'm sure.

 

[NorthernCardinal]

Absolutely not a wimp - these life decisions take a lot of courage to make and even more to face the consequences of the decisions.

But that doesn't make it any easier I'm sure.

Thankyou

 

[HornyKatie1979]

Absolutely not a wimp - these life decisions take a lot of courage to make and even more to face the consequences of the decisions.

But that doesn't make it any easier I'm sure.

@NorthernCardinal It's also not wimpy to make a different decision at a later point in your life.

 

[Yesok1]

Oh, we've tried... me harder than her... but... well...

You've tried communicating harder than her.

She could be wracked by guilt, regret and shame.

 

[NorthernCardinal]

Thank you all

 

[Yesok1]

@NorthernCardinal It's also not wimpy to make a different decision at a later point in your life.

I agree. If things have changed for you I think you need to communicate how you feel to her.

 

[NorthernCardinal]

I agree. If things have changed for you I think you need to communicate how you feel to her.

Oh, she knows.

My brain is the problem.

 

[NorthernCardinal]

Sorry if I put you all on a downer and killed the thread.. gonna shut up now.

<insert Homer Simpson backing in to hedge gif here>

 

[HornyKatie1979]

Sorry if I put you all on a downer and killed the thread.. gonna shut up now.

<insert Homer Simpson backing in to hedge gif here>

Don't be sorry for being yourself. We're here for you, for what little we can do.

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

The only people who should be sorry are the bin heretics

 

[HornyKatie1979]

The only people who should be sorry are the bin heretics

And the people who like Salt and Vinegar crisps

 

[NorthernCardinal]

And the people who like Salt and Vinegar crisps

... I'm sorry

 

[Yesok1]

What is a bin heretic, pray tell.

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

And the people who like Salt and Vinegar crisps

Whoah, where did this come from, has there been a schism?

 

[Yesok1]

Don't be sorry for being yourself. We're here for you, for what little we can do.

I've only met you this weekend, but you seem a good guy. X

 

[Yesok1]

Oh, no. This isn't good!

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

What is a bin heretic, pray tell.

Oh forgive her bin lord, for she does not know what she says, she is like a lost lamb in the Wilderness, and you, like a shepherd will guide her to the one true faith, the one true bin collection day, the Friday bin faithful