What might a woman get wrong when writing from a man’s POV

[Sultry23]

Inspired by my last thread. I usually write women so I am clueless lol. Maybe keep it to the men in the direct replies?

 

[ElectricBlue]

Inspired by my last thread. I usually write women so I am clueless lol. Maybe keep it to the men in the direct replies?

The same thing she'd get wrong writing about women.

If you don't observe what's going on around you, observe people being people, you won't portray convincing characters. Doesn't matter if you're a woman writing about men, or vice versa - write about people.

 

[AG31]

I'm a female, but I only write from the male POV (2 short exceptions). I had an experience in early 2021 that just switch me from female to male POV fantasies. The experience of being in a male body just came to me. I've been told that it wasn't clear I was female in the first story I wrote. So my answer to you is, do you feel it? Can you imagine what an erection feels like?

 

[MrPixel]

What might a woman get wrong when writing from a man’s POV?​

Everything. Just everything. Women simply don't understand us.

 

[lovecraft68]

She'd most likely portray the character as not being stuck at 14 mentally, which would be an epic mistake.

 

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

She'd probably write him too thoughtfully to the woman.

 

[Bazzle]

Food and sex...
The two main thoughts. When those two are done it's sleep.
Then start again the next morning.

 

[LMWM321]

Perhaps too much misogyny - too much anger.. I'm a man, and I've never once had sex with a woman and said or thought "Take that, you f'ing wh@re!" or "choke on this, bitch!" etc. etc..

For me and the guys I know, sex is about mutual enjoyment, not humiliation or anger.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

Limiting My comment to erotica writing, I think she would oversimplify his mindset and motivation. Yes, we are driven toward sexual pleasure, it’s programmed into us. But we are more complex than that.

It’s messy in the context of writing smut, so requires are full choosing; but we can also be motivated by love, power, recognition, responsibility, fear, and most importantly, what’s for dinner.

 

[Zootonius]

I'm of the opinion that that there is such diversity in both sexes that you can write almost any characteristic you want and it won't be wrong.

 

[StillStunned]

Just throw in the occasional thought about the POV character's mother and you should be fine.

 

[8letters]

This is my take - it might be very different than other people's:
There are these wonderful very-male worlds that are incredibly enjoyable to spend time in - Online FPS, MMORPG, board games, playing M:TG, drinking beers in a pub, watching football, etc. Those are always calling out to guys. There are two problems with them - #1 they don't lead to getting laid and #2 they don't lead to making the money needed to get laid. So boys are always balancing losing themselves in these enjoyable worlds and doing what it takes to get laid.

I remember hearing or reading some research somewhere that teenage girls lose self-esteem the more time they spend online whereas boys don't. It's because when boys are online, they are in these very-male worlds having very fulfilling and positive interactions with other boys. In contrast, girls are looking at models on Instagram and getting depressed that their bodies don't compare.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Everything. Just everything. Women simply don't understand us.​

Oh yes we do, hun. Better than you know

 

[EmilyMiller]

What might a woman get wrong when writing from a man’s POV​

I know you asked about guys, but these are things that men have told me I get wrong when writing guys:

1. Taking way too much notice of clothing (not lingerie, regular clothing)
2. Crying too easily
3. In general being too in touch with their emotions
4. Deferring to women, even taking instruction from them
5. Being petty

Emily

 

[StillStunned]

Oh yes we do, hun. Better than you know

You understand us. You just don't care. We're mostly wrong anyway.

 

[MrPixel]

"I'm a man. But I can change. If I have to. I guess."
--Possum Lodge credo, The Red Green Show

 

[EmilyMiller]

You understand us. You just don't care. We're mostly always wrong anyway.

I fixed your post for you, hun.

Emily

 

[XerXesXu]

This is my take - it might be very different than other people's:
There are these wonderful very-male worlds that are incredibly enjoyable to spend time in - Online FPS, MMORPG, board games, playing M:TG, drinking beers in a pub, watching football, etc. Those are always calling out to guys. There are two problems with them - #1 they don't lead to getting laid

Pubs must be very different in the USA. In the UK they're the places girls go, on a Saturday night, to get laid. I don't know what those other activities are, but I used to play a Corinthian game of rugby on a Saturday afternoon, shower then go off to the pub to drink beer and get laid.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I'm of the opinion that that there is such diversity in both sexes that you can write almost any characteristic you want and it won't be wrong.

I would agree with this. There is so much variation out there, you could ascribe any characteristic to a character and odds are there are multiple men out there who would say "that's me".

 

[SimonDoom]

I think there are elements of truth to both sides of the debate on this question: people are people, and yet men are often quite different from women.

I remember an incident a long time ago that has always struck me as a great illustration. When I was young my girlfriend and I were together on a long car ride, and neither of us said anything for a while, and she broke the silence and apologized for being quiet and wondered if I was upset about something. I had no idea what she was talking about or wasn't concerned about and hadn't thought about her silence at all. I was probably just thinking about a football game, or just watching street signs passing by.

 

[djrip]

Pubs must be very different in the USA. In the UK they're the places girls go, on a Saturday night, to get laid. I don't know what those other activities are, but I used to play a Corinthian game of rugby on a Saturday afternoon, shower then go off to the pub to drink beer and get laid.

I hear a lot about people going to bars and pubs to get laid. I've always had better luck at her or my house...

 

[XerXesXu]

I hear a lot about people going to bars and pubs to get laid. I've always had better luck at her or my house...

Did you walk down the street knocking on doors? Good man. And, I bet your sister/mother was a looker.

 

[vagrantx]

I remember hearing or reading some research somewhere that teenage girls lose self-esteem the more time they spend online whereas boys don't. It's because when boys are online, they are in these very-male worlds having very fulfilling and positive interactions with other boys. In contrast, girls are looking at models on Instagram and getting depressed that their bodies don't compare.

Yep, yep yep, that's all I do, look at instagram and binge ben n jerrys Best get back to it!

<quietly alt f4's out of the latest Yakuza game>

 

[alohadave]

It's because when boys are online, they are in these very-male worlds having very fulfilling and positive interactions with other boys.

I have not found that to be true at all. It can be very Lord of the Flies in many places.

 

[alohadave]

I know you asked about guys, but these are things that men have told me I get wrong when writing guys:

1. Taking way too much notice of clothing (not lingerie, regular clothing)

Generally accurate. We'll notice the fit before we notice anything else.

1. Crying too easily

Unfortunately, generally true.

1. In general being too in touch with their emotions

This varies. Men can be in touch with emotions, but have trouble expressing them, besides anger.

1. Deferring to women, even taking instruction from them

Highly variable, and dependent on the individual.

1. Being petty

We can be incredibly petty, and petulant.

Emily