Stupid Question- can a man suppress a boner even if he’s really turned on

[Sultry23]

When we write porn, we tend to exaggerate.

Guys get instant erections, and they remain rock hard for as long as required.

Women are immediately wet, never need lubrication.

Reality is of course very different.

In the end, how realistically you wanna portray a guy and his erection, how fast he gets one, whether he can "control" it, really just depends on the story you wanna tell.

Is it some dare / challenge thing? Like "how long can she tease him or how much skin can she show before he gets hard?"

Is he making out with a new girlfriend and trying not to get an erection because he's afraid she'll notice and be offended?

Is it a nude beach thing? New guy, naked around a bunch of attractive nude women and trying not to get an erection?

So many variables. In the end you can write it however you want really.

It goes from a sexy scene to having to be put in chastity

 

[Djmac1031]

It goes from a sexy scene to having to be put in chastity

So essentially she's (I'm assuming a she anyway) is arousing him in some fashion but then flips the scenario?

"Put in chastity" = what exactly? Cock cage?

All I can tell you is personally, if i were with a woman and we're fooling around but then she tries to put my dick in a cage, I'm definitely losing my erection pretty damn quick.

Now, someone who gets off on that kinda thing may actually struggle to lose their erection because that particular kink / fetish works for them.

 

[Sultry23]

So essentially she's (I'm assuming a she anyway) is arousing him in some fashion but then flips the scenario?

"Put in chastity" = what exactly? Cock cage?

All I can tell you is personally, if i were with a woman and we're fooling around but then she tries to put my dick in a cage, I'm definitely losing my erection pretty damn quick.

Now, someone who gets off on that kinda thing may actually struggle to lose their erection because thar particular kink / fetish works fid them.

Yeah a cage

I know nothing about men

 

[Djmac1031]

Yeah a cage

I know nothing about men

Well again I suppose the male reaction would be dependent on how he feels about the scenario.

 

[Devinter]

It goes from a sexy scene to having to be put in chastity

It still completely depends on if he's into it or not. Even if he was extremely turned on before the idea is sprung up; If he hates the idea of being put in chastity, then his erection will disappear faster than he could get dressed and leave the room, but I imagine he'd also object to it verbally and - if necessary - physically, in such a case.

All I can tell you is personally, if i were with a woman and we're fooling around but then she tries to put my dick in a cage, I'm definitely losing my erection pretty damn quick.

Agreed 100%. But you'd never get the chastity cage onto a man that doesn't want it, unless he's completely restrained, in which case you'd better be prepared to keep him tied down for all of eternity because he's either going to get violent or go straight to the police once you let him go.

EDIT: Possible solution below, I suppose.

https://c.tenor.com/Vemqtnprvd0AAAAC/tenor.gif

 

[Djmac1031]

It still completely depends on if he's into it or not. Even if he was extremely turned on before the idea is sprung up; If he hates the idea of being put in chastity, then his erection will disappear faster than he could get dressed and leave the room, but I imagine he'd also object to it verbally and - if necessary - physically, in such a case.



Agreed 100%. But you'd never get the chastity cage onto a man that doesn't want it, unless he's completely restrained, in which case you'd better be prepared to keep him tied down for all of eternity because he's either going to get violent or go straight to the police once you let him go.

EDIT: Possible solution below, I suppose.

https://c.tenor.com/Vemqtnprvd0AAAAC/tenor.gif

I'm assuming the OPs goal here is writing some kind of Domination story, and that perhaps the guy volunteers for this kinda thing.

The flip end of that is the ficticious Non Con scenarios that flourish on LE, stories where someone is forced into a sexual situation against their will, and has some sexual act forced on them, but its okay because they wind up "enjoying it."

 

[Sultry23]

I'm assuming the OPs goal here is writing some kind of Domination story, and that perhaps the guy volunteers for this kinda thing.

The flip end of that is the ficticious Non Con scenarios that flourish on LE, stories where someone is forced into a sexual situation against their will, and has some sexual act forced on them, but its okay because they wind up "enjoying it."

Yeah it’s not noncon but in the story he has to do whatever his Mistress wants, even if it’s not something he likes

I’m writing this one for a friend so I’m not sure on everything

 

[Comshaw]

Yeah, to echo this;

As a younger man, I could get a boner in a light breeze.

Now as a, um... mature gentleman, it really depends.

Seeing a sexy, beautiful woman may pique my interest. Maybe even quicken my pulse if I linger over the idea of her. But it's not an instant erection.

Even say, at a strip club. I'm not walking around hard the whole time. Especially if I know nothing is gonna happen with any of them.

All this to say, it really depends on your scenario. But in general I'd say just SEEING a woman naked or something, we're not necessarily getting an erection.

Now if she's intentionally trying to seduce us and / or the scenario is leading to the possibility of sex? Yeah, we're getting hard, probably pretty quickly.

Not a good-quality video, but a perfect example of me in my youth.

Comshaw

 

[Djmac1031]

Yeah it’s not noncon but in the story he has to do whatever his Mistress wants, even if it’s not something he likes

Generally with those types of stories it's about discovery. He's reluctant at first but eventually gets into it and discovers he enjoys it.

If that's what you're going for, he might struggle with an erection at first but as she stimulates him or dominates him or whatever, he becomes more aroused.

 

[LizVegas79]

I've never met a guy who could suppress them but it seems like from reading some of the responses here that it actually is possible - at least for some of you. I guess we learn something new everyday, huh? Especially on Lit lol

I remember I was giving a guy a thank you bj once as we were driving on the interstate between Vegas and L.A. (he picked me up hitchhiking) He was doing over a 100 and just about to cum when we got pulled over by a cop. I stopped and came up for air of course. But I couldn't wipe the guilty smile off my face. His "situation" barely changed at all even while he was talking to the cop. He was still hard as a rock even after the cop wrote him a ticket and was walking back to his car. (I know because I checked!) It seems to me if he could have suppressed his boner he would have. I think the cop knew what was going on too because he wrote the guy up for a lot less than what he said his radar gun caught us going and he told us to "enjoy the drive but be more careful next time"

 

[ShaneoD]

I've never met a guy who could suppress them but it seems like from reading some of the responses here that it actually is possible - at least for some of you. I guess we learn something new everyday, huh? Especially on Lit lol

I remember I was giving a guy a thank you bj once as we were driving on the interstate between Vegas and L.A. (he picked me up hitchhiking) He was doing over a 100 and just about to cum when we got pulled over by a cop. I stopped and came up for air of course. But I couldn't wipe the guilty smile off my face. His "situation" barely changed at all even while he was talking to the cop. He was still hard as a rock even after the cop wrote him a ticket and was walking back to his car. (I know because I checked!) It seems to me if he could have suppressed his boner he would have. I think the cop knew what was going on too because he wrote the guy up for a lot less than what he said his radar gun caught us going and he told us to "enjoy the drive but be more careful next time"

That's a unique way of saying thanks, I'll admit I've only ever been able to avoid becoming completely erect, once you're there that thing has a mind of its own. On the verge of cumming, I imagine a bead of sweat running down his forehead and a willingness to pay any amount put on that speeding ticket

Were all wondering, did he enjoy the rest of the trip? and;
Exactly how far does a guy have to give a girl a lift to get this sort of thank you?

 

[MillieDynamite]

Isn't she the Savior? She just needs to use her light magic and rob him of his boner.

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/a8/07/e0/a807e02984cd15d8dcdcf4c0229e17b4.gif

 

[Codoc24]

Back in my younger days, I hated it when we would be in the middle of fooling around/heavy petting, and I would really, really need to pee. Usually, we had been drinking, and my bladder would be screaming for relief. At that age, I was never going to lose my boner when there was a girl, hot, horny and ready. I couldn't pee with it pointing in the wrong direction. What a conundrum.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Not with me, he can't.

Atta girl !!

 

[OverconfidentSarcasm]

Back in my younger days, I hated it when we would be in the middle of fooling around/heavy petting, and I would really, really need to pee. Usually, we had been drinking, and my bladder would be screaming for relief. At that age, I was never going to lose my boner when there was a girl, hot, horny and ready. I couldn't pee with it pointing in the wrong direction. What a conundrum.

...you guys can pee while having an erection?

 

[MillieDynamite]

When I was a teen, me a few friends hung out at the pool. One shortish, good-looking guy used to swim a lot but would get out at some point and lay on his towel. He'd lay on his back with his hands folded behind his head. You could see his penis outlined in his suit. It was big and soft, but if a girl flirted with him, it damn near grew outside his baggy suit. Other boys would whisper about his showing off to the girls. I never thought he was showing off, I felt like he was embarrassed, as his cheeks always turned beet red. There was just no way to hide his monster when his monster got angry.

 

[StillStunned]

(Never mind)

 

[LizVegas79]

That's a unique way of saying thanks, I'll admit I've only ever been able to avoid becoming completely erect, once you're there that thing has a mind of its own. On the verge of cumming, I imagine a bead of sweat running down his forehead and a willingness to pay any amount put on that speeding ticket

Were all wondering, did he enjoy the rest of the trip? and;
Exactly how far does a guy have to give a girl a lift to get this sort of thank you?

He did. Very, very much.

I asked him for a ride at a gas station in Barstow. I had gotten picked up by another guy in Vegas but he was getting super creepy so when we stopped for gas I pretended I got a phone call and had to go back to Vegas. It was summertime and hot AF out. Barstow is pretty much right in the middle of the Mojave Desert so I was pretty desperate for a ride. I wasn't wearing much either, just a thin little white slip dress (with no panties or bra) and my go to black, untied combat boots, which was basically my look back then. Back then, with traffic, Barstow was a little more than halfway between Vegas and L.A. and when he offered to drive me all the way to my friend's apartment in Hollywood I was very, very happy and beyond eager to thank him. Did I mention he was kind of cute, too? I probably only had like $5 or $10 on me so I couldn't help with gas or anything. He bought me a coke and two slices of shitty pizza because I was starving. So I had to thank him the best way I knew how.

I forget what kind of car he had but I remember it was pretty nice and faster than it looked. I think it might have been a BMW or one of those cheap Mercedes that were on the market back then.

When we got to my friends' apartment he asked how much money I had and if I needed any. I told him and said no but he said he had "won big" in Vegas and didn't mind loaning me some if I gave him my number. So I said sure, thanks. But I think he was lying because then we had to run by a ATM to get it. I think he gave me like $200 which was a fortune to me back then. When we got back to my friend's apartment I totally crawled over and told him to push his seat back so I could sit on his lap and watch his face as I let him cum inside me.

I remember liking his cock and that he came a lot because when I got up to my friend's apartment I realized I literally had cum leaking down my leg. I remember trying to hide it from my friend and jumping in the shower right away because of course this friend, who I didn't really like but I had to be nice to because I needed a place to stay, wanted to fuck me as soon as I got there. He actually joined me in the shower, but he either didn't notice or didn't care that I had just been with someone else literally ten minutes earlier.

The guy with the Beamer or whatever called me a bunch of times for a few months after that but I never picked up because even though he left several messages saying he didn't care about the money, he just wanted to see me again, I was secretly afraid he still expected me to repay him because that was our original deal. So I never called him back. He was a really nice guy. I should have called him back at least once to thank him but I was a total train wreck back then.

Wow, I literally haven't told anyone that story in like 20 years. I'm not proud of it, but looking back it was kind of hot. I wonder if hub's would like to hear about it some night when he could use a little lighter fluid for his candle?

 

[ElectricBlue]

...you guys can pee while having an erection?

Yes. A morning glory is mostly because of a full bladder, not that dream you just had. It can be like being a short giraffe, getting the damn thing pointing into the bowl.

Too much information?

 

[OverconfidentSarcasm]

Yes. A morning glory is mostly because of a full bladder, not that dream you just had. It can be like being a short giraffe, getting the damn thing pointing into the bowl.

Too much information?

Oh. I thought you guys meant peeing when you're full-on horny.

 

[StillStunned]

Oh. I thought you guys meant peeing when you're full-on horny.

Not a problem. As long as it's outside, or at least somewhere where it doesn't matter that the pee arches upwards two feet with the force of a rocket approaching escape velocity.

 

[mildlyaroused]

It still completely depends on if he's into it or not. Even if he was extremely turned on before the idea is sprung up; If he hates the idea of being put in chastity, then his erection will disappear faster than he could get dressed and leave the room, but I imagine he'd also object to it verbally and - if necessary - physically, in such a case.



Agreed 100%. But you'd never get the chastity cage onto a man that doesn't want it, unless he's completely restrained, in which case you'd better be prepared to keep him tied down for all of eternity because he's either going to get violent or go straight to the police once you let him go.

EDIT: Possible solution below, I suppose.

https://c.tenor.com/Vemqtnprvd0AAAAC/tenor.gif

This scene scarred me when I was a kid. Especially with the slow build up in the actual movie, when you know what's coming.

 

[Paul_Chance]

If he's really turned on - no. At that point a boner is an involuntary reaction.

If he was into cock-cages, then the application of the cage would turn him on, so he'd be erect in the cage.

He can try and turn himself off, but that's always easier said than done once you're aroused.

 

[Devinter]

It seems to me if he could have suppressed his boner he would have.

It's not as simple as flicking a switch. If he was really aroused - which it sounds like he was - then that arousal would have to decrease significantly for him to be able to regain control of himself. More than likely, he just wanted that cop to get the hell out of there so that you both could finish. Why would his erection go away if all he could think about was you finishing the job?

 

[Britva415]

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