Lil_Jenni's Adventures, Past and Present...

[lil_jenni]

Not at all selfish, it is after all your body and this impacts it, regardless. My advice is share your concerns and make sure your people (husband, doctors, family etc) are listening to you when you voice them, “you’re going to be ok” is not a satisfactory answer. “I understand why you’re concerned and these are some of the things we could do” is a better response.

I think I’ve said this before but it’s always worth repeating try to address the mental side early and before as well as after the birth, waiting until afterwards to see if there are issues is like playing a bad game of catch up. With that said very excited for you.

Thank you for this. Hubby is always very supportive, and when I let him know what I'm feeling, he will be there for me. I just couldn't do it last night because he was so excited at the news.

 

[lil_jenni]

Because I'm kinda out of sorts and want to do something to help how I feel about myself, I'm thinking about going back to being blonde. Right now my hair is a dark strawberry blonde and a bit less red than my avatar. I would have to have it dyed close to my natural color so it will look good when it grows out.

So, what do you all think...

Blonde or Redhead?

 

[hairball18]

I kinda like the redhead jenni.

 

[Sct73]

I like all kinds of colors but I tend to go after redheads. I find strawberry blonde the most appealing

 

[TomTeacher19]

It so cute you think we were looking at your hair.

I am a major sucker for redheads so I would vote for that.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Because I'm kinda out of sorts and want to do something to help how I feel about myself, I'm thinking about going back to being blonde

I think this is key, and I say go for it, feeling better about yourself is the goal and I applaud the pro-activity.

 

[13Fantasies]

A. Red is always correct for hair color on a beautiful woman.

B. I understand the body image concern, especially if that's a part of your identity that you don't want changed.

C. Most women I know that have had twins actually seem to return to their pre-baby form relatively quickly, especially breastfeeding. Not sure why, but especially with two, you are a lot more active because they are always sleeping, eating, etc at different times.

I agree that talking about with your husband is key. Planning out some goals with him and your doctor to discuss now and after the twins are born could be an easy way to frame a future conversation.

Just remember that your body will need to heal after the C-section so know it won't be an automatic return to the previous activities. Take time to heal and enjoy the kids before you get too focused on the body.

 

[lil_jenni]

I have an appointment after work today to have my roots dyed, so I guess I'm staying strawberry blonde... for now.

 

[lil_jenni]

I came back from lunch, where I had the pleasure of being a yard monitor in the cold, and noticed a couple texts from a number I didn't recognize. The first congratulated me on expecting twins, and the second identified the sender and explained how she obtained my number. It was my crush!!!

My Hubby had told her boyfriend (his former boss) who told her and gave her my number.

Oh, nothing may ever come from this, but methinks I may have chance to gently explore...

 

[ShaneoD]

I came back from lunch, where I had the pleasure of being a yard monitor in the cold, and noticed a couple texts from a number I didn't recognize. The first congratulated me on expecting twins, and the second identified the sender and explained how she obtained my number. It was my crush!!!

My Hubby had told her boyfriend (his former boss) who told her and gave her my number.

Oh, nothing may ever come from this, but methinks I may have chance to gently explore...

It's a good think you had the cold weather to explain away those erect nipples at that moment in time

 

[lil_jenni]

It's a good think you had the cold weather to explain away those erect nipples at that moment in time

No... I wear t-shirt bras to work. They are thick enough so that only I know when that happens.

 

[lil_jenni]

I got an call from my mom last night. It starts out with talk about the pregnancy and my family. All good, right? Not for long.

Apparently, she and my father kind of rekindled their sex life (shudder) since he's been at home and she's been taking care of him after the heart attack. I could have handled that level of information, but she kept going. I told her I really didn't need details. She kept on. And on. And eventually asked me about.... SHE FUCKING ASKED IF I DID ORAL AND IF I COULD GIVE HER TIPS BECAUSE SHE'S ONLY DONE IT A LITTLE AS FOREPLAY. I told her I didn't want to be involved. She said she understood, but then asked how she could get my father to do it for her. I said nothing. I couldn't say anything. We have never had that kind of relationship. I am her daughter, not a friend. She changed subjects, but I got off the phone as soon as I could without being rude.

I'm not a prude. Anyone who reads what I post here knows that. But I can't talk to my mother about her sex life (shudder) with my father. I just can't.

 

[ShaneoD]

I got an call from my mom last night. It starts out with talk about the pregnancy and my family. All good, right? Not for long.

Apparently, she and my father kind of rekindled their sex life (shudder) since he's been at home and she's been taking care of him after the heart attack. I could have handled that level of information, but she kept going. I told her I really didn't need details. She kept on. And on. And eventually asked me about.... SHE FUCKING ASKED IF I DID ORAL AND IF I COULD GIVE HER TIPS BECAUSE SHE'S ONLY DONE IT A LITTLE AS FOREPLAY. I told her I didn't want to be involved. She said she understood, but then asked how she could get my father to do it for her. I said nothing. I couldn't say anything. We have never had that kind of relationship. I am her daughter, not a friend. She changed subjects, but I got off the phone as soon as I could without being rude.

I'm not a prude. Anyone who reads what I post here knows that. But I can't talk to my mother about her sex life (shudder) with my father. I just can't.

Hands up I empathized way too much and said eww, I don't think I've ever been so glad that my parents are divorced

 

[Purple_Fronds]

I got an call from my mom last night. It starts out with talk about the pregnancy and my family. All good, right? Not for long.

Apparently, she and my father kind of rekindled their sex life (shudder) since he's been at home and she's been taking care of him after the heart attack. I could have handled that level of information, but she kept going. I told her I really didn't need details. She kept on. And on. And eventually asked me about.... SHE FUCKING ASKED IF I DID ORAL AND IF I COULD GIVE HER TIPS BECAUSE SHE'S ONLY DONE IT A LITTLE AS FOREPLAY. I told her I didn't want to be involved. She said she understood, but then asked how she could get my father to do it for her. I said nothing. I couldn't say anything. We have never had that kind of relationship. I am her daughter, not a friend. She changed subjects, but I got off the phone as soon as I could without being rude.

I'm not a prude. Anyone who reads what I post here knows that. But I can't talk to my mother about her sex life (shudder) with my father. I just can't.

So I confess that reading this post has made my morning. It’s like hearing Superwoman tell you she‘s susceptible to kryptonite. Lil Jenni, seducer of 18 year old neighbor boys, straight women and everybody in between. Please please please tell me you told your husband. I‘m sure he’s way nicer than me but the sadist in me would want to torture and tease you with this (just a little).

 

[lil_jenni]

So I confess that reading this post has made my morning. It’s like hearing Superwoman tell you she‘s susceptible to kryptonite. Lil Jenni, seducer of 18 year old neighbor boys, straight women and everybody in between. Please please please tell me you told your husband. I‘m sure he’s way nicer than me but the sadist in me would want to torture and tease you with this (just a little).

Yes... I told him. And yes, he teased me a little.

 

[lil_jenni]

Well, another troubling issue with expecting twins has raised its ugly head. My Hubby, after pointing out that two infant seats and booster set would be a tight fit in my WRX, has renewed his push for me to get an SUV. And the really shitty thing about it is, he is right.

So, I told him I'd take a Cayenne. That was a no.

He's still pushing the Outback Limited. I promised we would go look next weekend if the weather holds.

 

[ShaneoD]

Well, another troubling issue with expecting twins has raised its ugly head. My Hubby, after pointing out that two infant seats and booster set would be a tight fit in my WRX, has renewed his push for me to get an SUV. And the really shitty thing about it is, he is right.

So, I told him I'd take a Cayenne. That was a no.

He's still pushing the Outback Limited. I promised we would go look next weekend if the weather holds.

I may have been reliving a moment from this thread a few days ago and wondering if that issue might rear it's head again.

I'll admit I've got no real solution but I did really enjoy reading about Ben again

 

[lil_jenni]

Last week, I told my students I'm pregnant. Today, One of my students told me that her dad thinks I'm pretty but her mom says I'm too skinny and she can't wait for me to start getting bigger now that I'm pregnant. I smiled and told her that's nice... But it's not at all nice.

I'm going to have to watch the dynamic with those parents. It is usually not a good sign when a student tells me his/her parents are discussing me for any reason other than what I'm teaching.

In news that is more fun, I'm sending my Hubby links to used Cayenne's, showing him I could get a 2019 or 2020 with pretty low milage for not much more than an Outbook Limited XT (~$50k for the used Porsche vs ~$45k for the Subaru). We could afford either, since it would be our only car payment. Our only other real debt is the mortgage, and we got it as low as we could back before interests rates shot up. Hell, we could afford a new Cayenne (base trim) if it weren't for the expected twin expenses starting around August. Well, we probably could even then, but we'd be on a budget and have to rely on the income from the rental property his uncle left us instead of putting that in savings and toward college for the Kiddo(s). But wouldn't I look killer in a Porsche Cayenne?

 

[ShaneoD]

Last week, I told my students I'm pregnant. Today, One of my students told me that her dad thinks I'm pretty but her mom says I'm too skinny and she can't wait for me to start getting bigger now that I'm pregnant. I smiled and told her that's nice... But it's not at all nice.

I'm going to have to watch the dynamic with those parents. It is usually not a good sign when a student tells me his/her parents are discussing me for any reason other than what I'm teaching.

In news that is more fun, I'm sending my Hubby links to used Cayenne's, showing him I could get a 2019 or 2020 with pretty low milage for not much more than an Outbook Limited XT (~$50k for the used Porsche vs ~$45k for the Subaru). We could afford either, since it would be our only car payment. Our only other real debt is the mortgage, and we got it as low as we could back before interests rates shot up. Hell, we could afford a new Cayenne (base trim) if it weren't for the expected twin expenses starting around August. Well, we probably could even then, but we'd be on a budget and have to rely on the income from the rental property his uncle left us instead of putting that in savings and toward college for the Kiddo(s). But wouldn't I look killer in a Porsche Cayenne?

That dad thinks your hot, the mom is jealous. I'll leave the financial part of that post up to yourself

 

[Fufumberuk]

Wha

Well, another troubling issue with expecting twins has raised its ugly head. My Hubby, after pointing out that two infant seats and booster set would be a tight fit in my WRX, has renewed his push for me to get an SUV. And the really shitty thing about it is, he is right.

So, I told him I'd take a Cayenne. That was a no.

He's still pushing the Outback Limited. I promised we would go look next weekend if the weather holds

I know slightly off topic, but what WRX do you have?

 

[Centauri1]

Last week, I told my students I'm pregnant. Today, One of my students told me that her dad thinks I'm pretty but her mom says I'm too skinny and she can't wait for me to start getting bigger now that I'm pregnant. I smiled and told her that's nice... But it's not at all nice.

I'm going to have to watch the dynamic with those parents. It is usually not a good sign when a student tells me his/her parents are discussing me for any reason other than what I'm teaching.

In news that is more fun, I'm sending my Hubby links to used Cayenne's, showing him I could get a 2019 or 2020 with pretty low milage for not much more than an Outbook Limited XT (~$50k for the used Porsche vs ~$45k for the Subaru). We could afford either, since it would be our only car payment. Our only other real debt is the mortgage, and we got it as low as we could back before interests rates shot up. Hell, we could afford a new Cayenne (base trim) if it weren't for the expected twin expenses starting around August. Well, we probably could even then, but we'd be on a budget and have to rely on the income from the rental property his uncle left us instead of putting that in savings and toward college for the Kiddo(s). But wouldn't I look killer in a Porsche Cayenne?

Whats the safety ratings on the Cayenne? And did you see the recalls on the 20-21 models about the back seat?

 

[lil_jenni]

Wha

I know slightly off topic, but what WRX do you have?

I have a 2019 WRX Premium 5-speed manual. I love the car, but it's going to be a tight squeeze to put two infant seats and a booster seat in it. Not impossible, but tight.

 

[hairball18]

I have a 2019 WRX Premium 5-speed manual. I love the car, but it's going to be a tight squeeze to put two infant seats and a booster seat in it. Not impossible, but tight.

Love a woman that is not afraid of a 5 speed.

 

[lil_jenni]

Whats the safety ratings on the Cayenne? And did you see the recalls on the 20-21 models about the back seat?

I didn't know about the recall, and we did not look at safety ratings because we both concluded that moving up a size or two in a two row vehicle didn't make as much sense as a three row vehicle (a little of my soul died with that realization). We looked at the Subaru Ascent online last night. It's okay, but it doesn't come with a manual. All of my cars (except the 76 Eldorado, but that's different) have been manuals. Yeah, I know... a millennial, and a woman at that, who drives stick... I bet some of you didn't think we existed. Anyway, I want a manual when I get a new car. Unfortunately, from what I now understand, it's rare for mid-sized three row SUVs to be available with a manual transmission. Maybe I coukd keep the WRX for fun drives and have the mom car for everyday stuff. That would give us five vehicles and only two drivers, but I could always give the Eldo to my pops. He likes it, and it fits him better than it fits me.

 

[lil_jenni]

Love a woman that is not afraid of a 5 speed.

Well, be prepared to be more impressed. I hit the wrong number in my early morning post. It's a 6-speed.

I really need to start wearing my glasses when I type on my phone, but I'm not old enough to need reading glasses, dammit!