Cock Talk

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Did our threesome just turn into a foursome?

No still just three @Apisto42 bowed out over the cheese.

No ATM for this monkey.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Whose mouth?

I'm flexible on the deets

 

[jason28053]

I'm flexible on the deets

Is deets what you call it now?

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Is deets what you call it now?

Is that not what you use for androgynous sexual innuendo? I thought deets was the catch-all for that?

 

[Apisto42]

No still just three @Apisto42 bowed out over the cheese.

No ATM for this monkey.

Dibs on mouth

Yeah, indie was wanting hot anal action. I do love a good bj though.

I suppose if default take mouth and I take ass, I can overlook your distaste for cheese. Just for @Indie of course.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Yeah, indie was wanting hot anal action. I do love a good bj though.

I suppose if default take mouth and I take ass, I can overlook your distaste for cheese. Just for @Indie of course.

You guys. I love when a community cums together for the greater good.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

You guys. I love when a community cums together for the greater good.

It takes a village.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Oh so this is where all the fun was hiding.

 

[jason28053]

Oh so this is where all the fun was hiding.

And you have one, so join in!

 

[Hodes101]

Oh so this is where all the fun was hiding.

I've just discovered it.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Oh so this is where all the fun was hiding.

Go away. You know this doesn't end well if we're both involved.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Go away. You know this doesn't end well if we're both involved.

I'm still holding out hope the boys just got tired

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I will say I am legitimately sorry to derail @hotwords229_A serious attempt to discuss bisexuality openly and honestly.

But also hey @Indie

There’s two beasts inside of me but only one has a penis.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

I'm still holding out hope the boys just got tired

Maybe they were holding out hope that you were going to share with the group how generous people were being?

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Maybe they were holding out hope that you were going to share with the group how generous people were being?

People were so generous. Before they disappeared

I haven't been waiting naked for anyone to come back or anything... yeah.

 

[Photog1rl]

So I know I’m coming into this discussion a little late-but it’s still todays question so…I figured it’s ok.

So here is the theory part: Women enjoy seeing two hot studs go at it, but are less comfortable with the idea of their husband/boyfriend sucking some guy off because she prefers to be the sexual center of his attention.

Maybe it’s because a blow job is something he can’t do to her and something she can do where as anal isn’t and so she may feel like her partner is getting something she can’t give him.

This may be because she wants a guy who is totally devoted to her exclusively OR because she fears a bi guy will be more inclined to cheat.

I don’t think a bi person is more inclined to cheat. @NRJLIVES4ever and @Wand3rlust really touched on this well. Bi folks are not just out there fucking anything and I think that breaking down that stereotype is super important.

I think you miss the mark on why there are more closeted curious men than are openly curious men.

I think it's more to do with the double standard of acceptance. Bisexual women are a massive turn on and we'll watch two women pleasure each other any chance we get. We encourage our women to kiss their friends and hope that they get drunk enough to fall all over each other in our presence.

But how many times have you called your friends cock suckers after they get one over on you? Or vice versa. Or even someone who pissed you off? There's a negative spin on the same homosexual activity between men that is encouraged in women. This most likely should over to pile on the social standards that are projected on women and shapes their view as well.

I agree 100% with this! Additionally in gay couples there is an often a societal push to make one hypermasculine and one hyperfeminine in a way to “normalize” or understand the relationship. The idea that one of the men is more woman like makes it more acceptable and creates a further divide for men that may want to explore their bi curiosity without being labeled as feminine.

While it's much more normalized and accepted, almost encouraged, on a sex positive site like this, you get a skewed sample set of the mindset towards it.

Even here we get a lot of “sissy” men or boys as if being a sissy makes it more acceptable to want to explore this side of themselves.

I agree with what you’re saying and, I think, all your points are valid. However, I‘m the rare(?) person who thinks ”society says“ is based on some kind of natural inclination that got skewed somewhere along the line, thus taking us back to women not being into it as much.

I think that “society says” is based on religious puritanical values and probably more traced to the Bible( Old Testament) than women not being into it as much.
Or maybe women not being included in the discussion out of the fear of repercussions.

I could be totally wrong about this.

This is what I’ve learned more than anything. There are a LOT of guys who are in relationships and either can’t, or feel like they can’t, talk about this with their partner. It’s pretty depressing, but why not try it, you might be surprised at her response.

I think this can be true of many things in relationships that do not have good communication around sex. Things that are “taboo” can be hard to discuss.

I think many women are going to feel intimidated to say they may not like the idea of their man on his knees slobbing a knob with them for fear of being labeled some kind of phobic-whatever.

If there is fear about this I think it is more insecurity in the relationship than it is a husband sucking someone’s cock. For me the focus would be on pleasure and if I was feeling greedy I’d want to be the center of attention. At other times I find the idea of centering someone else just as exciting. Really reflecting on this though I think I’d feel more insecure about bringing in another woman to my relationship. That would be more likely to hit at my insecurities.

This is actually a massively shitty stereotype. Bi men don't cheat any more than anyone cis het.

You are right.

Yeah it’s not a gender or orientation thing at all. Insecurities are going to pop up no matter what. This is why communication is key.

The healthiest way to approach bringing in a third is to frame it as you two as a couple exploring together.

I would think having everyone on the same page and communication is so key!

No bi person is actually thinking "My partner isn't enough to satisfy my feverish, insatiable bisexual ways, so I have to fuck this other person along with every other hole that isn't attached to my completely inadequate parter."

This os the fear that is perpetuated. It’s that the bi male can not keep it in his pants. It’s super messed up.

 

[Apisto42]

I'm still holding out hope the boys just got tired

My refractory period is not long…

 

[ZfrkS62]

@Photog1rl got exactly what I was going to say about the roots of the social and societal views being based on religion being the dictator of morality and righteousness. It's the reason we all laugh whenever an evangelist or conservative politician gets busted with a male prostitute.

I know I've had that question off and on since my early 20's but I wrote it off as a fleeting question when lonely. It pops up every few years. It's been back lately and I've just accepted that it's there, and that is not burning a hole in my libido. Talking to my wife about it is pointless because she isn't the type to go "well who would you want to try it on?". She's already thinking she can't handle my sex drive so that would probably push her over the edge. There are several levels we need to get through before we go about addressing that anyway.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Go away. You know this doesn't end well if we're both involved.

Now I need the confused emoji.

I will say I am legitimately sorry to derail @hotwords229_A serious attempt to discuss bisexuality openly and honestly.

But also hey @Indie

There’s two beasts inside of me but only one has a penis.

Never accuse me of being serious. My purposes are entirely sexual.
Derail away!

So I know I’m coming into this discussion a little late-but it’s still todays question so…I figured it’s ok.

Feel free to answer any question anywhere at any time. Or ask any question any time.
There are no rules here.

Maybe it’s because a blow job is something he can’t do to her and something she can do where as anal isn’t and so she may feel like her partner is getting something she can’t give him.

Strap-on?

I think that “society says” is based on religious puritanical values and probably more traced to the Bible( Old Testament) than women not being into it as much.
Or maybe women not being included in the discussion out of the fear of repercussions.

Possibly. But I still think it goes further back.

I think this can be true of many things in relationships that do not have good communication around sex. Things that are “taboo” can be hard to discuss.

I like the taboo conversations. They are way more exciting.

If there is fear about this I think it is more insecurity in the relationship than it is a husband sucking someone’s cock. For me the focus would be on pleasure and if I was feeling greedy I’d want to be the center of attention. At other times I find the idea of centering someone else just as exciting. Really reflecting on this though I think I’d feel more insecure about bringing in another woman to my relationship. That would be more likely to hit at my insecurities.

This os the fear that is perpetuated. It’s that the bi male can not keep it in his pants. It’s super messed up.

Agreed. We should finally all agree that NO man can keep it in his pants gay, bi or straight!

My refractory period is not long…

But your hard period is longer!

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Now I need the confused emoji.

I thought it was common knowledge that @OrdinaryPerson was a chat killer?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I thought it was common knowledge that @OrdinaryPerson was a chat killer?

She makes it difficult to chat.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

She makes it difficult to chat.

*gulps*

 

[hotwords229_A]

*gulps*

That’s what he said!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I thought it was common knowledge that @OrdinaryPerson was a chat killer?

Alls I know is I’m not starting out with 10 inches. Gotta work up to that. I assume anyway.

 

[Photog1rl]

Alls I know is I’m not starting out with 10 inches. Gotta work up to that. I assume anyway.

I'm sure you'll be ok. I am 99% sure the 10 inches is open to interpretation.
There are two ways to think of it..
1-men are always exaggerating their size
2-women don't know what inches really look like because we are used to being lied to about them.