It socks when one day u both are in a teasing n pleasing marathon. n the next ur being pushed away n told no. been like that for a year n a half.she gets mad if she sees a port in DVD player. Or is it's on my phone. To her I'm cheating on her. That's when the fighting escalates.
With my first wife trying to talk was no good, she just wasn't interested in sex except very rarely on her terms.
At least you weren't told that "I have no interest, no desire, you have a hand, handle it".... no discussion allowed after that.
I’m going through something very similar in my marriage. Tools for coping and or hope of improvement are becoming non existent. Would like to share with someone who maybe has an understanding if you are up for talking
Good morning would you like to chat?
i was told the same thing i feel for you I've been doing the online chats with other women, I know it's not right, but i still like the touch of a woman and I'm sick of beating off.
That post was from 2019 ... I doubt the lady is still a Lit user
Same here ... I wish I had either a lady with whom I could exchange regular naughty messages or an actual FWB for the occasional bit of fun. Sadly I'm also losing the desire for self-enjoyment.
That post was from 2019 ... I doubt the lady is still a Lit user
Same here ... I wish I had either a lady with whom I could exchange regular naughty messages or an actual FWB for the occasional bit of fun. Sadly I'm also losing the desire for self-enjoyment.
Should easy to find someone new considering your a girl. Near impossible if you’re a dude.
Even fulfilling needs online (camming, sexting, chatting, roleplaying) is nearly impossible. Porn is still the safest bet.
Thats the best post about how my situation is, thanks for posting. im not on meds for depression but for anxiety
Thats what happened in mine. Hot steamy lust to her hitting menopause. Masturbation was always OK in our relationship and she offered jerking off on her as an option. Till one night she said "why dont you go in the other room and do that". We sleep in seperate bedrooms now.
Pretty much the Same for me. Cause slightly different effect identical
I have no hate over this, it's physical. She knows Im busting a nut on my own, shes just not involved. Sometimes when we are together for a few days I tell her Im going to rub one out.
No such conversation here, but I am sure she knows
Sounds like my situation.
One last shot at the "positive" outcome. Dig out that homemade porn the two of you made when all cylinders were firing together, put it into high rotation in your playlist, and let her know she's still a feature attraction. Not only will it (hopefully) make her feel better about the porn truth, it should really help you continue to consider your spouse as a sexual entity.
Lovely thought, unfortunately body issues mean that my will rarely be naked and definitely won't let me take photos or videos. Apparently her first husband never saw her naked and they used to have sex with the lights off, I at least got her to embrace lights on or in daylight. These days I only see her naked when I help her in the shower. I do have a couple of videos from when she forgot we have external CCTV and, on getting out of the hot tub, stripped off her swimming costume on the back step - but I can hardly admit to having those.
