Lootequiette: Pmann's Totally Original/Unaffiliated Thread

So… What is something surprising people often notice or bring up? What shocks people when they discover this little fact about you? Do you find it’s something different here on Lit versus in real life?
Don't knock golf...it's the only sports-ing I can participate it. I'm an excellent cart-girl. I've only been sited once by GC-Marshal!

There are a ton of things in real life that people are shocked by. That a lady with my mouth & penchant for colorful language, also teaches Sunday School. Or, that I have grown kids at my age. But the most common would be that I'm short. I've been told its because I've got a big personality that takes up a lot of space apparently, and I'm always in heels.

On Lit, the only thing people seem to find strange is that I won't share pics willy-nilly
 
Me too! It's the worst, and people don't understand it. Then I'm criticized for my stoicism for not crying when I'm sad or receive bad news
Sadly people fail to realize its a learned skill to deal with bad news/loss without breaking down...
 
Sadly people fail to realize its a learned skill to deal with bad news/loss without breaking down...
Exactly, and many of us learned that it's better to analyze bad news than to react to it, because as a child you are helpless to change things so crying is pointless
 
Exactly, and many of us learned that it's better to analyze bad news than to react to it, because as a child you are helpless to change things so crying is pointless
I think I consciously learned it as an adult. It was a very practical thing. I have a set of goals or outcomes I wanted/needed to achieve. What is most likely to help me accomplish that? What will work against me? Take ego and emotions out of it. What needs to be done and in what manner to maximize the chance of success?
 
I think I consciously learned it as an adult. It was a very practical thing. I have a set of goals or outcomes I wanted/needed to achieve. What is most likely to help me accomplish that? What will work against me? Take ego and emotions out of it. What needs to be done and in what manner to maximize the chance of success?
Same here, however with me it was sort if a sink or swim thing.
 
I think I consciously learned it as an adult. It was a very practical thing. I have a set of goals or outcomes I wanted/needed to achieve. What is most likely to help me accomplish that? What will work against me? Take ego and emotions out of it. What needs to be done and in what manner to maximize the chance of success?
I was taught these skills by my parents and am monumentally grateful.
My parents are cops (Aussie ones who were legit peacekeepers as opposed to the American kind). It is the single biggest contributing factor to my devices success in life. I'm sure of it.
 
Oof, same.

It's a pretty big theme in my marriage now. My lack of explosiveness can be confronting.
I've been this way since I was a kid. I like that I go into "analyze & solve it" mode, instead of dwelling in a "pour me" moment. It has served me well, but also garnered criticism from people who expect a different reaction from a woman
 
My lack of explosiveness can be confronting.
I find this absolutely hilarious as well as scarily true.

I was taught these skills by my parents and am monumentally grateful.
My parents are cops (Aussie ones who were legit peacekeepers as opposed to the American kind). It is the single biggest contributing factor to my devices success in life. I'm sure of it.
That’s a good call out. My parents absolutely laid a lot of the foundation. There were no explicit discussions on calm versus emotional, but they were very candid about the lessons they learned in their first 5-10 years of marriage before they had kids. And not speaking in anger or saying things you don’t mean were the biggest. You can’t take it back and you can forgive but not forget the things said and done in a fight. They really figured out how to communicate well as a couple before we came along and I’m very vocal that it shaped me immensely.
 
While I'm more extroverted on Lit, I'm very introverted in person.

I'm also very boring. 🤣
 
Also, people think I’m into pony play. People actually think that. I blame @Trekka for this confusion. People don’t even realize that I didn’t start that pony play thread and think I’m really a horse fucker!
 
So, I’ve been very insightful over the last few days. Just watching how Lit works and the complexities and all that.

I always like watching the interactions of various groups in different threads. I kind of only stick to a couple of threads at a time as far as regular activity. One consistent thing I’ve noticed over the years is the friendship groups among women. They’re very obvious and you can usually surmise which women are friends and if they’re close.

However, I don’t see the reciprocal. I’ve never really seen much interaction between the guys that leads me to believe there is anything similar out there. (Not that I’m looking. Sorry, bogey.)

Why do you think that is? Why do girls have so many same sex friendships here and guys don’t seem to have that?

And before you come here and say, “Oh this guy talks to that guy occasionally,” think about the frequency and intensity.
 
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