Learning to cum different ways

[Britva415]

I've never gotten off from a blowjob. Plenty of tries but it hasn't ever gotten me all the way there.

Am I stuck in a rut? How does one train one's body to learn to get off to new and different things when it's not going along with the mind?

 

[mtsnowrider]

I never understood why I had the problem. Took a combination of sucking and stroking many times before I could cum from just sucking. Makes no sense but...

 

[none2_none2]

Men aren't cut from the same cloth... On a different sexual topic. Some guys are big into feet worship, or nipple play. I never understood that as it never did anything for me. I think the same can go for oral. I have never gotten off from oral, and I had years of attempts. Life would be easier if I could as with my bad case of ED, I cannot penetrate my partner as I so wish I could again. Oral can be so very pleasant, but it was never orgasmic.

For me, I think part of it is emotional (and they say a good portion of sex is in the head). I want to merge with a man who I love. The first few years when I started m2m activity (I was a virgin until I was 21.5 years old. I'm now am 63.) I didn't get to be inside a guy until maybe 2 years later. I was naive and most of the guys I was with (older then me) made it sound like I wasn't suppose to be a top as my cock was average. I'd get sayings like: "hung guys glide, not-hung guys poke." I really had doubts about m2m sex as I found it miserable. Sure some would at least blow me, but it was never orgasmic, so it was a great let down. I wondered if m2m sex was supposed to be a poor substitute for "normal" m/f sex... Finally, one day a guy let me top him. There is a lot more too it that I won't go into about his sad heartbreak from his former lover... Anyway, it was the most wonderful sexual encounter I ever had with a man. I finally realized how wonderful m2m sex could be. Even that first time wasn't about banging so hard that the head board would hit the wall. and make noises. It was about the journey inside a man. The feeling that we actually merged. That I could see his eyes, hear his breathing, etc. I loved the orgasm. I didn't know if I was cuming, dying or being born or in the middle of 4th of July fireworks... It was all there. I took to it like a duck takes to water.

Again, that is all behind me now with my ED. What I did learn after all this time was the only thing that trumps being merged with a guy is if he truly also loves me. That makes the ED bearable. I don't deserve my partner, but he has stuck by me fo 21+ years. Now I know some guys are married (to a woman) or have other situations where they could never leave their commitments to be with you living together. Love doesn't have to be a live-in situation. It is how your treat one another. In my case I'm just so very fortunate. On 31-Aug of 2018, he insisted I go to the ER as I seemed to have a bad bout with something like a flu. I ended up being in the hospital for 5 weeks getting out 5-Oct 2018. I had a horrible case of West Nile that almost killed me. When I finally came out of sedation, there was my masculine, hairy, bear of a man holding my hand and crying as he was so afraid I would die. Situations like that even top the most wonderful m2m orgasmically fulfilling sex. I never once thought of sex with someone else in all my years with this wonderful angel of a man.

I don't know your situation, but just note, that even as wonderful as sex is and how much I know many males crave as much of it as you can get in any form you can get it. Having another man who truly gives a damn about you, your life, your health, etc gives you something even greater than a BJ, Jack, or fuck. Its a feeling that makes your heart want to leap out of your chest and tell that man how much his caring means to you and how much you (dare I say it) love that man too. So fuck the damn ED, I'll put up with this frustrating health as long as my guy can bear it. Life is truly wonderful when you have someone who loves you and you love him back.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I've never gotten off from a blowjob. Plenty of tries but it hasn't ever gotten me all the way there.

Am I stuck in a rut? How does one train one's body to learn to get off to new and different things when it's not going along with the mind?

Oh my you poor thing. Next time just clear your mind and be one with his cock, listen his sounds be relaxed. Are you naked or dressed when blowing your men. I find it nice to be naked and vulnerable and not touch myself. You will love the feel of his cock in you and your penis soft or hard dripping wit submission. Hugs and kisses sweet. Hope you cum soon

 

[Britva415]

Oh my you poor thing. Next time just clear your mind and be one with his cock, listen his sounds be relaxed. Are you naked or dressed when blowing your men. I find it nice to be naked and vulnerable and not touch myself. You will love the feel of his cock in you and your penis soft or hard dripping wit submission. Hugs and kisses sweet. Hope you cum soon

Turn things around. I was talking about my dick getting sucked.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Turn things around. I was talking about my dick getting sucked.

Oh my. I would like to try making you climax. What a sweet reward that would be, hear you grunt as your cum erupted into me