To cum inside or not?

[CelticTiger88]

I am looking for a female perspective on whether sex between a man and a woman, is really sex without a man cumming inside a woman. I have heard some women say that unless they get a guy's cum inside them during sex, they haven't had proper sex. What you Lit women think?

 

[lil_jenni]

Everyone's different, and I am sure there are women out there who feel this way; but I don't, and I can't recall hearing/reading it from another woman. Maybe it's phrasing it as 'proper sex,' which is very hetero-normative and vanilla
-normative, that's my main issue. Sex can be all manner of sexual activity, and can end satisfactorily in all manner of ways.

 

[CelticTiger88]

Everyone's different, and I am sure there are women out there who feel this way; but I don't, and I can't recall hearing/reading it from another woman. Maybe it's phrasing it as 'proper sex,' which is very hetero-normative and vanilla
-normative, that's my main issue. Sex can be all manner of sexual activity, and can end satisfactorily in all manner of ways.

That is very helpful and I see your point - pun intended!

 

[lil_jenni]

That is very helpful and I see your point - pun intended!

I should add that I have known women who profess a preference for a man to come inside them during vaginal intercourse, and I enjoy that a lot with my Hubby too. But whether he comes inside me or on me or in my mouth after fucking my pussy, it was still all equally 'sex' in my mind.

And if it is in my mouth, I get that extra benefit of his pulsing cock in my mouth as he fills it with yummy cum while the tastes of my juices from his slick cock linger on my tongue... mmmmmm...

 

[canopy]

I am looking for a female perspective on whether sex between a man and a woman, is really sex without a man cumming inside a woman. I have heard some women say that unless they get a guy's cum inside them during sex, they haven't had proper sex. What you Lit women think?

I luv getting creampie. But I don't think cuming inside is what defines proper sex

 

[saintcero]

I’m a male so I will apologize for the intrusion. Just as a thought exercise consider the following:

Female, “I’m still a virgin because he didn’t ejaculate in me”

Female, “I didn’t cheat on my husband because my partner didn’t ejaculate in me.”

Male, “I didn’t rape her because I didn’t ejaculate in her”

 

[BiWife_Angela]

If I’ve been penetrated by his cock, condom or not then it’s sex

 

[Bbl87]

I mean, as a guy and one who has a bit of a breeding/creampie kink, it can definitely be sex without cumming inside. It's my preference, but sometimes the mood dictates something else.

 

[CelticTiger88]

I should add that I have known women who profess a preference for a man to come inside them during vaginal intercourse, and I enjoy that a lot with my Hubby too. But whether he comes inside me or on me or in my mouth after fucking my pussy, it was still all equally 'sex' in my mind.

And if it is in my mouth, I get that extra benefit of his pulsing cock in my mouth as he fills it with yummy cum while the tastes of my juices from his slick cock linger on my tongue... mmmmmm...

That's interesting.

I guess it varies from person to person.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I should add that I have known women who profess a preference for a man to come inside them during vaginal intercourse, and I enjoy that a lot with my Hubby too. But whether he comes inside me or on me or in my mouth after fucking my pussy, it was still all equally 'sex' in my mind.

And if it is in my mouth, I get that extra benefit of his pulsing cock in my mouth as he fills it with yummy cum while the tastes of my juices from his slick cock linger on my tongue... mmmmmm...

My wife was one: If tab "P" was in slot "V," she wanted me to "fill her."

When we were negotiating our first and only sharing playtime, she made it explicit (figuratively and literally): "It's not really sex unless the boy comes inside the girl."

"Sex" was later clarified to mean intercourse. Not that other play that involved erogenous zones wasn't "sex" (old-fashioned girl, apparently: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20618745/), but intercourse was meant to her to end in an internal ejaculation.

 

[lanceGibs]

I do not need a guy to cum in me for it to be sex. I’ll be honest, I’d count oral alone as “sex”.

Given I prefer (for “prefer” read “only let”) guys to cum in my mouth… the if that was the definition of sex, I haven’t had sex for over a decade!

That’s a bad situation for someone who was an escort for nearly a decade

Also… as someone who is currently seeing a woman… she’s never cum inside me. Does that not count as sex?

Sorry, feeling a little testy today!

Lots of love, Sara xxx

If sends the blood rasing and gets you to orgasm you need not test any further

 

[LucieLou007]

If I’ve been penetrated by his cock, condom or not then it’s sex

Have to agree with you.

 

[lanceGibs]

Have to agree with you.

You are cute

 

[metal4lace]

Have to agree with you.

Shit, the previous gentleman is right, you ARE cute if your avatar is really you!

 

[lovedoublepenetration]

I prefer the cocks Cumming inside me. Love cum dripping down my legs.

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

So many variables...who, where, how much time, when. I like inside mostly (oral or anal) Sometimes a facial if he wishes or on my belly or butt if we don't have time to get messy

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

I prefer the cocks Cumming inside me. Love cum dripping down my legs.

And just let your mind go crazy.....and go with the feelings, taste, smells

 

[CuttingEdge]

I am looking for a female perspective on whether sex between a man and a woman, is really sex without a man cumming inside a woman. I have heard some women say that unless they get a guy's cum inside them during sex, they haven't had proper sex. What you Lit women think?

To me this is not so much of a question of sex, but of perspective.

It is kind of like defining foreplay. To some, foreplay starts in the bedroom, but I do not think so. For me, foreplay could start at the mall, going into the Wet Seal store, and picking out and buying that short, tight dress. At that moment, foreplay starts because endless possibilities begin. Two years later when my wife is wearing that same dress? We might be out on a dinner-date, but I remember the euphoria of when she said, "We can buy that. I'll wear it for you".

So when I hear of someone asking, "does sex require penetration", I am saddened that they define sex so specifically. Within the mind is where truly beautiful sex starts, not with a penis sliding into a hole.

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

To me this is not so much of a question of sex, but of perspective.

It is kind of like defining foreplay. To some, foreplay starts in the bedroom, but I do not think so. For me, foreplay could start at the mall, going into the Wet Seal store, and picking out and buying that short, tight dress. At that moment, foreplay starts because endless possibilities begin. Two years later when my wife is wearing that same dress? We might be out on a dinner-date, but I remember the euphoria of when she said, "We can buy that. I'll wear it for you".

So when I hear of someone asking, "does sex require penetration", I am saddened that they define sex so specifically. Within the mind is where truly beautiful sex starts, not with a penis sliding into a hole.

I must have posted in the wrong forum. I thought the question to cum inside or out(?). I did not see anything pertaining to SEX(?). Sorry

 

[CuttingEdge]

It was right there in the original posters question:

whether sex between a man and a woman, is really sex without a man cumming inside a woman

For some of us, we have a much more vibrant sex life because we see the totality of sex, and not so narrowly define it. Some people get that, and some do not.

I used foreplay as an example.

If a person considers foreplay to only mean physical touch, they are going to miss out on a lot of sexual-interplay between a couple. In my example, foreplay starts at a store, if a person is broad-minded enough to see it. That's because for me, it is anticipation. All the way home I am sexually excited, foreplay therefore starts at the store, not when she actually puts the dress on.

It is the same with those who only consider it to be only sex when a person cums inside them. That is a narrow definition, and tells me they are missing out on a whole lot if their sexual life has no gray areas.

 

[UtilityCurve]

It was right there in the original posters question:



For some of us, we have a much more vibrant sex life because we see the totality of sex, and not so narrowly define it. Some people get that, and some do not.

I used foreplay as an example.

If a person considers foreplay to only mean physical touch, they are going to miss out on a lot of sexual-interplay between a couple. In my example, foreplay starts at a store, if a person is broad-minded enough to see it. That's because for me, it is anticipation. All the way home I am sexually excited, foreplay therefore starts at the store, not when she actually puts the dress on.

It is the same with those who only consider it to be only sex when a person cums inside them. That is a narrow definition, and tells me they are missing out on a whole lot if their sexual life has no gray areas.

Don't get hung up on the terminology! According to Bill Clinton, it wasn't "sex," but he apparently wasn't missing much. It's entirely possible to engage in a wide range of sexual behaviors while reserving the "title" for intercourse (and as I said previously, my wife further restricted the term).

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife's fwb's in college tried to convince her that it wasn't really sex if they used a condom, which she required. They were trying to convince her that she wasn't really cheating on me while I was away at another university. I called bull-shit on that one.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

It's definitely sex. I have tokophobia (Google it if you want ) and don't want a man's cum in me unless he's been snipped, sterile, in my mouth or ass..

I am looking for a female perspective on whether sex between a man and a woman, is really sex without a man cumming inside a woman. I have heard some women say that unless they get a guy's cum inside them during sex, they haven't had proper sex. What you Lit women think?

 

[cdstefi]

I don't think it's "not proper sex" with anything other than an internal cumshot. The beauty of sex is that anything that turns you on is sex.

That said, a really hard, in to the hilt, cervix coating orgasm is the best feeling in the world for a man (I'd hope it's equally memorable for the woman involved). Probably an overshare but there's one I remember that was unquestionably the moment of conception of one of my kids. Fast, furious and my (totally average) cock felt enormous as I came to a crazy hard pumping climax with my shaft completely buried and my head hard against my wife's cervix.

 

[Katch123]

This might be seen as a hand grenade by some but I'm going to toss it anyway. If somebody cums, it was sex. It can be you, her or both of you. Where you cum , in or out of mouth, tits,or vagina is a matter of preference or control. JMO

Btw, sounds like a textbook example of impregnation, job well done. Have you considered making a pamphlet with illustrations?