Male anal play questions

[slayer420]

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a straight male who has been experimenting with anal play during masturbation. While jerking off I would insert a finger or whatnot into my ass and it would make me cum hard.
So recently I purchased a suction cup dildo. I enjoy riding it, even crave it. I find that when I am fucking myself with it, it feels like a mixture of I am going cum and I need to pee. But I can never quite get there to cum. I also find that I loose my erection while its in my ass. Is this normal? I really do enjoy the feeling, its a huge turn on for me, so why is my cock not rock hard?

 

[mtsnowrider]

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a straight male who has been experimenting with anal play during masturbation. While jerking off I would insert a finger or whatnot into my ass and it would make me cum hard.
So recently I purchased a suction cup dildo. I enjoy riding it, even crave it. I find that when I am fucking myself with it, it feels like a mixture of I am going cum and I need to pee. But I can never quite get there to cum. I also find that I loose my erection while its in my ass. Is this normal? I really do enjoy the feeling, its a huge turn on for me, so why is my cock not rock hard?

I don't think it's unusual. Cumming with something dick-like in my ass is incredibly intense (zucchini and Asian eggplant work well LOL) but sometimes the timing between stroking and inserting can be tricky. If I lose the hard-on I stop the ass play until I'm hard again and closer to cumming and then put it back in to make myself shoot. I'm sure it'd all be easier if a buddy was in charge of the dildo or, better yet, contributing his dick.

 

[slayer420]

I agree, the timing between stroking and getting the dildo in and going seems to be the hard part. I find if I lose my erection and keep jerking I will not get fully erect again. Almost but not quite, although I can still achieve an orgasm. But it would be nice to still have a raging erection. A helper would be nice, although I personally have no interest in the real thing.

 

[bottomshooter]

I agree, the timing between stroking and getting the dildo in and going seems to be the hard part. I find if I lose my erection and keep jerking I will not get fully erect again. Almost but not quite, although I can still achieve an orgasm. But it would be nice to still have a raging erection. A helper would be nice, although I personally have no interest in the real thing.

When i first started using a dildo, I would experience that as well. It became quite a turn on as I would watch my cock flop as I fucked myself. At first I would stroke myself hard. After a while I noticed the longer I fucked myself, I would start to grow and soon my hard cock was flopping and spraying precum everywhere.

 

[load69]

I like riding a nice fake cock. Watching my hard cock bobbing around as I ride my dildo is a real turn on.

 

[klippert]

its not unusual to not be hard while riding a dildo.. I loose my erection when I ride a toy...it doesn't take away from the pleasure

 

[jbird4]

When I was younger I had a yellow hairbrush that was dick shaped and I got into inserting it and just leaving it while I jacked myself off. Then I got away from it for years. A few years ago I worked out of town a lot. There was an adult store near where I stayed. I wanted to try it again. I bought a plug and masturbated with it in a little. I loved the feeling but it wasn’t big enough and I wanted more. So I bought a suction cup dick shaped dildo and some lube. It was maybe 6 or 7 inches long. I started by sucking it while stroking. That alone made me hard. Then I lubed and started slow. I’ll admit I was pretty close to coming from stroking. I never lost my erection. By the time I got it in to the base I couldn’t even touch my dick. I knew I would cum. I rode it a bit and - like others watching my dick bouncing was such a turn on. I started cumming spontaneously. But it was a ruined orgasm. I came without orgasm. It felt amazing. But the dildo still felt amazing and I was still hard. I jacked a bit and came again. Ending in a very cummy orgasm.

I see videos where guys lose their erection. I didn’t have that experience. It was pretty amazing every time. But sadly I changed job locations and had to get ride of my toys.

 

[Swuchmann]

My cock rarely stays hard when my top fucks me. I get him to shorten his thrusts to about 3-4 inches where his cock head is raking my p-spot. It’s 50-50 but when it’s right my soft cock will leak cum. He will then pull out lube his cock with my cum and then pound my hole till he is finished in me.

 

[Reggie2xx]

I have never felt a man cum inside I know they have when I sit and it all comes out.

 

[Swuchmann]

My cock rarely stays hard when my top fucks me. I get him to shorten his thrusts to about 3-4 inches where his cock head is raking my p-spot. It’s 50-50 but when it’s right my soft cock will leak cum. He will then pull out lube his cock with my cum and then pound my hole till he is

 

[Escierto]

My cock is never hard when my girlfriend tops me but then I am completely focused on her cock in my asshole. I kind of forget that I even have a cock while she is fucking me.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a straight male who has been experimenting with anal play during masturbation. While jerking off I would insert a finger or whatnot into my ass and it would make me cum hard.
So recently I purchased a suction cup dildo. I enjoy riding it, even crave it. I find that when I am fucking myself with it, it feels like a mixture of I am going cum and I need to pee. But I can never quite get there to cum. I also find that I loose my erection while its in my ass. Is this normal? I really do enjoy the feeling, its a huge turn on for me, so why is my cock not rock hard?

I am rarely hard when getting fucked, unless I am playing with it. I might start out hard, but I go soft after penetration.
As far as the sensation of feeling like you need to pee and you are about to cum, that is perfectly normal. It sounds like your finding your spot.

 

[Sclovers]

Fuck now I’m hard !!

 

[DickandDoof]

Fuck now I’m hard !!

I’m beyond hard. Would so love to have something/someone pumping my ass right now.

 

[gametime07]

Just started getting into anal play a few months ago. Have several suction cup dildos and one butt plug. I do tend to lose my erection when using the dildos. But, with the butt plug inserted, I maintain a solid erection.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a straight male who has been experimenting with anal play during masturbation. While jerking off I would insert a finger or whatnot into my ass and it would make me cum hard.
So recently I purchased a suction cup dildo. I enjoy riding it, even crave it. I find that when I am fucking myself with it, it feels like a mixture of I am going cum and I need to pee. But I can never quite get there to cum. I also find that I loose my erection while it’s in my ass. Is this normal? I really do enjoy the feeling, it’s a huge turn on for me, so why is my cock not rock hard?

Your good. It’s normal but can be confusing. You confusing erection and being excited. The two don’t have to go together. Next thing you know you’ll cum while not erect. Keep trying but try not to think too hard about it.

 

[BlueEyes1969]

Yes. While being topped or using one of my varied-sized dildos, I rarely keep an erection under those circumstances. An exception comes with multiple partners. If I am topped and mouth-fucked and another guy is under me sucking my cock, the erection does come and the orgasm is phenomenal. But that doesn't happen often.

 

[Britva415]

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a straight male who has been experimenting with anal play during masturbation. While jerking off I would insert a finger or whatnot into my ass and it would make me cum hard.
So recently I purchased a suction cup dildo. I enjoy riding it, even crave it. I find that when I am fucking myself with it, it feels like a mixture of I am going cum and I need to pee. But I can never quite get there to cum. I also find that I loose my erection while its in my ass. Is this normal? I really do enjoy the feeling, its a huge turn on for me, so why is my cock not rock hard?

It's kind of like exactly what they're talking about when they say that masturbation technique affects what you get off to. Usually this is in the context of someone who can't perform with a partner but gets off just fine in their hand.

In that case as well as this one, someone can re-train how they get off/what they get off to.

It involves having the self-control to not do the old thing ever and do the new thing and nothing else until it gets you off.

The nervous system is adaptable. We can lift it out of its ruts. The good news is, after re-training, one will probably be able to get off both ways.

Is it worth it to forgo orgasms until your body decides it can do it this new way? With all the set-backs which are likely to occur along the way, basically putting you back to square one? Only you can decide.

 

[BlueEyes1969]

It's kind of like exactly what they're talking about when they say that masturbation technique affects what you get off to. Usually this is in the context of someone who can't perform with a partner but gets off just fine in their hand.

In that case as well as this one, someone can re-train how they get off/what they get off to.

It involves having the self-control to not do the old thing ever and do the new thing and nothing else until it gets you off.

The nervous system is adaptable. We can lift it out of its ruts. The good news is, after re-training, one will probably be able to get off both ways.

Is it worth it to forgo orgasms until your body decides it can do it this new way? With all the set-backs which are likely to occur along the way, basically putting you back to square one? Only you can decide.

Good approach and helpful advice!

 

[Astroman72]

Never taken a real cock, but I've enjoyed anal play (fingers, beads, dildos, vibrators) since puberty--and that was a long time ago!

I've always been rock-hard during any type of anal action, and I cum pretty easily with very little physical stimulation.

I think I started a thread on that here once---I was always amazed at watching videos of guys taking a nice cock in the ass, and although they seemed to really be enjoying it, their own cocks were soft. I was like "how is that physically possible?"

But yeah, I guess we're all wired a little differently, and it seems like anal penetration makes some guys rock-hard, some guys half-hard, and some guys not hard at all. The mystery of sex.

 

[Escierto]

Never taken a real cock, but I've enjoyed anal play (fingers, beads, dildos, vibrators) since puberty--and that was a long time ago!

I've always been rock-hard during any type of anal action, and I cum pretty easily with very little physical stimulation.

I think I started a thread on that here once---I was always amazed at watching videos of guys taking a nice cock in the ass, and although they seemed to really be enjoying it, their own cocks were soft. I was like "how is that physically possible?"

But yeah, I guess we're all wired a little differently, and it seems like anal penetration makes some guys rock-hard, some guys half-hard, and some guys not hard at all. The mystery of sex.

It is a mystery! Even though I find it really stimulating in many ways, being fucked for me is about my girlfriend’s pleasure. When she cums in my ass that’s really better than having my own orgasm.

 

[Uncut1969]

In my teens I would use my moms douche it was a long hard tube with ball on end for fluid to fuck my ass ! Oh to be a teen again with what I know now!

 

[gary04]

I have a sex machine I use on my ass with a 6 inch dildo. It feels so good that I forgot about my erection.

 

[AnalLady]

Your good. It’s normal but can be confusing. You confusing erection and being excited. The two don’t have to go together. Next thing you know you’ll cum while not erect. Keep trying but try not to think too hard about it.

Can you cum while being soft?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Can you cum while being soft?

I have many times.