Are smarter women better at sex?

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Not all the great sex in my life has come from smarter (than average) women but it does seem that both IRL and in the cyber world the best sex happens with the most intelligent women. They are (usually) more expressive and communicative verbally and physically with a greater harmony of mind and body.
 
What a great question!

Intelligence certainly plays a role in libido, I think. Intelligence and creativity often go hand in hand. However, society also plays a role telling women not to be sexual. I think some women are smart enough to see that they don't have to play by society's rules and they can have sex on their own terms. Others will be limited by what they perceive as 'right and wrong'.
 
Not all the great sex in my life has come from smarter (than average) women but it does seem that both IRL and in the cyber world the best sex happens with the most intelligent women. They are (usually) more expressive and communicative verbally and physically with a greater harmony of mind and body.
At a certain stage in my sexual history I targeted grad students -- especially from overseas. They seemed to enjoy sex a lot and were more experimental. This may have simply been because they were in a sense tourists and felt freer
 
What a great question!

Intelligence certainly plays a role in libido, I think. Intelligence and creativity often go hand in hand. However, society also plays a role telling women not to be sexual. I think some women are smart enough to see that they don't have to play by society's rules and they can have sex on their own terms. Others will be limited by what they perceive as 'right and wrong'.
I think that getting beyond society's schizophrenia about sex helps get to that greater harmony of body and mind that let's us fully enjoy the experience of sex the way we like it. Weaker minds have more trouble fully letting go of those artificial social inhibitions and the myths and misperceptions they are based on.
 
No. In my experience, smart women are not better at sex. CRAZY women are the best at sex. Unfortunately, they are usually not great for sustained relationships.
Yes, crazy woman sex can be very, very good though I'm never sure on what level and in what world they are experiencing it. That harmony between body and mind is often AWOL, though.
 
I was married to the smartest person I've ever known. She was utterly lacking in sexual imagination. :(
Sorry to hear that. I hope you've found better. Of course individual experiences may differ. The fire burns brighter in some other geniuses though.
 
I had a very erudite girl with a PhD candidate at the time.. By the age of 27 she had never even tried oral sex because she believed it was only for whores. That's how she was sex-educated by her relatives.
But later she became very lustful )
 
Tough question. Even defining smart is tricky. Certainly a smarter person might be more creative and think of things they want but they might also be so focused on other things that they barely think of sex. On the other hand, a rather simple person who allows their lizard brain to come to the fore may be a wonderful sexual partner. I think there are just too many factors to actually answer the question. Of course that does not mean that it might not be fun to try.
 
Tough question. Even defining smart is tricky. Certainly a smarter person might be more creative and think of things they want but they might also be so focused on other things that they barely think of sex. On the other hand, a rather simple person who allows their lizard brain to come to the fore may be a wonderful sexual partner. I think there are just too many factors to actually answer the question. Of course that does not mean that it might not be fun to try.
Of course my observation is based on my own anecdotal experience unscientifically correlated from a random and uncontrolled sample of women based on entirely subjective criteria. Is sex at the lizard brain level the same (as good as?) sex at a more cerebral level? Each is good for what they are at their own level of personal connection.
 
I had a very erudite girl with a PhD candidate at the time.. By the age of 27 she had never even tried oral sex because she believed it was only for whores. That's how she was sex-educated by her relatives.
But later she became very lustful )
Once her experience and intellect overcame the social conditioning... It's that ability to learn and adapt that gives us our intellect.
 
No. I been with all kinds of intelligence levels. Some are just good at it and some not so much. Ironic a swinger that I was her side action was terrible at blowjobs. You would think a swinger would be good at that.
 
Yes cause pleasing the man's body is one thing. Pleasing his mind with the right words at the right time, said in just the right way is the full experience of sex. That requires understanding my man. Even if acting like a cheap bimbo, one should always continue to analyze their man. His subtle reactions, his unsaid kinks... After all some consider mind to be the biggest sex organ
Not all the great sex in my life has come from smarter (than average) women but it does seem that both IRL and in the cyber world the best sex happens with the most intelligent women. They are (usually) more expressive and communicative verbally and physically with a greater harmony of mind and body.
 
While intelligence does play a part, it's probably different with every woman, because it depends upon a lot of what she was told when she was growing up and what she's experienced in the past. It's probably changed somewhat now, but when I was a teenager, most mothers considered her daughter getting pregnant before she was married to be a close second to murder. They taught their daughters that sex wasn't all that great anyway, and it was something they should save for their husband. I'm certain there are still many mothers out there with the same idea and the same teaching. It takes a very strong and confident woman to ignore everything her mother's told her about sex since she was 11 years old.

I once had a woman tell me that many women don't enjoy sex because they're thinking too much. They're wondering if they're feeling what they should be feeling and acting like they're acting. They wonder if their partner is doing it because he thinks that's what they want or if he's doing it because he really wants to. I would think the most intelligent woman would have this problem especially if they're wired for logical thinking and have to analyze everything.

To me, the best sex is with the woman who will just let herself go with the flow, who will allow herself to feel everything without thinking it's probably not morally right, and who will allow herself to let her body react as it wants to react. I don't need to hear that she's liking what I'm doing and in fact that makes me suspect she's just acting out her part. If she's responding, I'll know she's enjoying herself.
 
I'd say it's more of a question of experience rather than intellegence if all things are equal. Practice makes perfect.
 
Best fucks by far for me have been the smart alpha females types. They pose a greater challenge than the needy, clingy type girls you find in abundance at the clubs.
 
Of course my observation is based on my own anecdotal experience unscientifically correlated from a random and uncontrolled sample of women based on entirely subjective criteria. Is sex at the lizard brain level the same (as good as?) sex at a more cerebral level? Each is good for what they are at their own level of personal connection.
Each person may react differently but I know that I enjoy when my partner or I can just let go and do as the body desires.
 
Are smarter women better at sex?
It doesn't correlate.

The smartest woman I've been with is really, really not good at sex. She's so cerebral that she's disconnected from her own body, and someone like that can't connect to their partner's body either.

Another very smart woman was really good at it, because she didn't have such a deficit in body awareness/connection, and then was able to apply her smarts to what was going on in bed.

Everyone's just different, period.
 
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