FemDom Rituals that enhance FLR

[NancyPan]

I believe that certain rituals can strengthen the D/# dynamic in a relationship and keep the spark alive. We have several. One that starts out every day is that I kneel as my wife selects the panties she will wear that day. She hands them to me to hold open for her as she steps into them. I pull them up as she looks down on me.Then, she turns for me to kiss her ass. We both recognize the significant symbolism of my starting each day by kissing her ass.

What rituals do you have (or would you like to have)?

 

[Goldenfinger]

I would not use the word rituals. Also some are not a daily event. Since sometimes our work schedule do not sync activities get modified. I wake up with my wife and make her breakfast if I’m out of town I call her at the wake up time and spend breakfast with her. I always get her stuff ready for bed. I don’t really consider this femdom but this is not normal in other relationships I see. Everything else would be bedroom activities and differ from day to day.

 

[MrAshsub]

Starting the day by serving coffee is a dream. something like this..

I quietly make my way to the kitchen to prepare for the day. I measure out by weigh the fresh ground coffee and water to make sure the ratio is always the same and brew a fresh pot of coffee. I add one sugar cube and one tablespoon of cream just the way you like your coffee to your favorite mug and slowing pour the coffee in not causing any to splash on the rim of the cup or on the tray. Making sure all the sugar is dissolved I stir the coffee with a frozen silver spoon and check the temperature making sure it is down to 140 degrees from the brew temperature of 200 degrees so you can begin drinking your coffee right away. I arrive at your bedside where you are sitting up just waking from your wonderful nights sleep. I kneel and present your coffee. I smile as you take it knowing I have pleased you at the start of your day.

 

[NancyPan]

There are rituals and there are rules in most FLR relationships. I think both are important. Of course sometimes “life gets in the way” and we miss our morning ritual, but when we do, I miss it (a lot).

One rule she has is that I am to always keep her lingerie drawers neat and organized, panties carefully folded and separated by style, bras neatly organized, and foundation garments (like Spanx, etc.) folded and neatly put away. I fold all of the laundry for both of us anyway. When She undresses at the end of the day, She leaves her bra and panties on the floor for me to pick up.

 

[Wonderer67]

After I work out, I always get her a cup of coffee or tea. I ask her each morning which she’d prefer.

I ask her what she wants for breakfast and make it.

I call her each day about 10 minutes before I get to work, just to catch up, talk about our day, plans, etc.

I make dinner each night. Or I prepare it for her to make.

After dinner I prep the next nights meal.

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

Regardless of role associations or BDSM or sexual aspects in relationships, rituals can prove genuinely helpful and quite beautiful in relationships. Most current and continuing data reinforces the significance and usefulness in having rituals within all manner of family/household relationships and dynamics.

 

[artslut86]

Im not in a FLR. But I make my wife espresso and a pastry every morning. I bring it to her bed on a tray. I then tend to our dogs, and cats and let the chickens out while she reads and drinks her coffee. I like doing that for her. The rest of our personal life is a chaotic shambles and as per most guys in late 50s mostly sexless.

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

Im not in a FLR. But I make my wife espresso and a pastry every morning. I bring it to her bed on a tray. I then tend to our dogs, and cats and let the chickens out while she reads and drinks her coffee. I like doing that for her. The rest of our personal life is a chaotic shambles and as per most guys in late 50s mostly sexless.

These are such beautiful ways to show you care... the KEY to such things being received as the actions you are taking to represent that care FOR HER is to make sure you are speaking HER love language. It is so easy to speak our own language and find ourselves disappointed for all of our thinking we are speaking so clearly, yet if it is not saying TO HER, what your intention would convey, it only serves to increase the frustration and distance for ALL involved...

What I know for certain is that one of the reasons that sexlessness can be a struggle for people at certain points in life or relationships is that the effort to increase connection in the ways that our partners need to know it can fade. Are you still courting one another? Has the investment in one another and the entire scope of the relationship intentionally been nurtured and expanded? There is me as an individual, you as an individual, and the "US" that we represent together... like a triangle, the balance of all three needs to be prioritized and cared for. Women at this stage are genuinely next-level sexually awakened and inspired... I find that if there is lack in the sense of what that experience could offer, it is because there is a sense of lost trust and respect.

The general way I refer to that tethered connective magic is that you must absolutely tickle and care for the grey matter thoroughly to afford the free release and expansive expressive engagement with the perfectly pink parts... What could it hurt, right?! I wish you both all the best!

 

[artslut86]

Hey there Deeply. This is more a physical thing. My partner hit meno pause, about the time I found a corrective solution to my lack of libido. I jumped on a HRT program, and lost a bunch of weight. So Im moving more like a 30 yr old, and she is not interested in PiV at all. But she does provide manual stim with her hands. I still stimulate her externally. That said, its the biggest gap in our r.ship that I'm attempting to fill with some alternative activities online. So we enjoy our relationship where it is, for what it is.

 

[cocktaildress21]

Does it count if we're both female?

To a large degree, we're just a mostly vanilla - if same gender - couple. I even had to 'teach' her to be dominant. But as time has shown, either she had it inside her all along, or she really took to it with vigor.

Like I said, on any regular wednesday (or whatever), we might as well be totally vanilla. But for special occasions, she'll ride me hard, mostly figuratively. Like, let's say we're visiting my family. They're still vaguely surprised I'm with a woman, but not as such super aware of the power distribution among us. And she doesn't require me to tell them, but she does demand that I show her proper respect. So, say someone asks about how we're doing financially, I'll answer something like 'thank god Ms. Secher takes care of that, she's much better at that sort of thing than I am.' I use the Ms. Secher as a term of endearment - or occasional taunt - so that in itself doesn't raise any eyebrows.

Also, I'll certainly be wearing a buttplug, and propably something symbolic of some sort. Like, I have a tiny gold key pendant I wear around my neck.

Oh, and she texts me my 'score'. Plus points for being a good girl, minus for being bad - so any negative score is taken out on my backside. A positive score usually results in something I really enjoy, even if that could still look like a punishment. Like .. drinking her urine. Or licking her feet.

 

[LustyScribe]

Does it count if we're both female?

To a large degree, we're just a mostly vanilla - if same gender - couple. I even had to 'teach' her to be dominant. But as time has shown, either she had it inside her all along, or she really took to it with vigor.

Like I said, on any regular wednesday (or whatever), we might as well be totally vanilla. But for special occasions, she'll ride me hard, mostly figuratively. Like, let's say we're visiting my family. They're still vaguely surprised I'm with a woman, but not as such super aware of the power distribution among us. And she doesn't require me to tell them, but she does demand that I show her proper respect. So, say someone asks about how we're doing financially, I'll answer something like 'thank god Ms. Secher takes care of that, she's much better at that sort of thing than I am.' I use the Ms. Secher as a term of endearment - or occasional taunt - so that in itself doesn't raise any eyebrows.

Also, I'll certainly be wearing a buttplug, and propably something symbolic of some sort. Like, I have a tiny gold key pendant I wear around my neck.

Oh, and she texts me my 'score'. Plus points for being a good girl, minus for being bad - so any negative score is taken out on my backside. A positive score usually results in something I really enjoy, even if that could still look like a punishment. Like .. drinking her urine. Or licking her feet.

I think what is so universally HOT about this is that you are so closely attuned to each other, and you make that WORK. There is nothing quite so sexy as two people on the same page, working to please each other.

 

[rjr_1954]

I believe that certain rituals can strengthen the D/# dynamic in a relationship and keep the spark alive. We have several. One that starts out every day is that I kneel as my wife selects the panties she will wear that day. She hands them to me to hold open for her as she steps into them. I pull them up as she looks down on me.Then, she turns for me to kiss her ass. We both recognize the significant symbolism of my starting each day by kissing her ass.

What rituals do you have (or would you like to have)?

My wife is my Domme of 45 years. We have a FLR Relationship. Our day starts, I get her coffee, I get her breakfast, after that I am allowed to eat, I then do the dishes and clean up and she inspects our immaculate house, If anything is amiss, I kneel and accept what is due. I also assist in her dressing as requested, but she prefers to do that herself after I lick her front & back. I'm a total submissive as I was raised that way in a DOM/sub family.

 

[NancyPan]

I think what is so universally HOT about this is that you are so closely attuned to each other, and you make that WORK. There is nothing quite so sexy as two people on the same page, working to please each other.

Agree!

 

[Grogu269]

To wake her every day with my face between her legs, have her sit on my face with I get home from work, and be her toilet.

 

[rjr_1954]

To wake her every day with my face between her legs, have her sit on my face with I get home from work, and be her toilet.

Ohh, that sounds sooo lovely!

 

[DevotedHusband1]

About once a week, my queen and I have a relationship inventory meeting. She sits in a comfortable chair while I kneel naked at her feet. She discusses my performance and attitude over the past week, and we talk about both the things I did well and the things I need to improve on. This is not a discussion. If she points out a way in which I've fallen short, the only response from me is "I'm sorry my lady, I will try to do better."

After this, it's my turn to speak. Usually I just praise her and talk about how lucky I am to be her knight and husband. In theory I'm allowed to mention any issues I'm having with her, but there aren't many. After all, what can there be to criticize about a goddess who is always right? If I really need to bring something up, I am careful to wait for a time when she will be receptive. She will then consider what I have to say and decide whether any action is needed on her part. Often it's not, and all that's needed is a reminder to me about the proper attitude toward her. For example, recently I mentioned that when she gets angry I find it really unpleasant, and I asked her if she could sometimes make the tone of her lectures a little more gentle. She said she would consider it, but she also said, "If you don't want me to be angry then you shouldn't do things to provoke my anger." And, of course, she was right. If I met her standards 100% of the time then there would be no issue. It was a good reminder to me that I need to serve her well and treat her with the chivalarous deference and adoration that are her due. Afterwards we went to bed and she permitted me to caress her feet as she fell asleep.

I do find this ritual very helpful. It helps me to reflect on how lucky I am to be with her, and it motivates me to work hard to please her in all things, as I should. I truly adore my queen, and I want her to feel and know that.

 

[GBPfanb2bo]

I believe that certain rituals can strengthen the D/# dynamic in a relationship and keep the spark alive. We have several. One that starts out every day is that I kneel as my wife selects the panties she will wear that day. She hands them to me to hold open for her as she steps into them. I pull them up as she looks down on me.Then, she turns for me to kiss her ass. We both recognize the significant symbolism of my starting each day by kissing her ass.

What rituals do you have (or would you like to have)?

My ex-mistress had a favorite ritual I believe. She would have me strip and lay naked in the shower and make me drink her as she urinated. Then she instructed me to bathe and shave her prior her evenings out with other men. Prior to leaving I was tied to our bed and administered a lengthy spanking and remained bound until she returned (usually after sunrise) at which time she would enjoy a last orgasm by sitting on my face and enjoying long sessions of oral worship of her obviously well used and swollen hole or holes⁷. Then she would fall asleep for hours having been up all night. She never said it was her favorite ritual, but the frequency strongly indicated she enjoyed it immensely.

 

[NancyPan]

My ex-mistress had a favorite ritual…. She never said it was her favorite ritual, but the frequency strongly indicated she enjoyed it immensely.

And you? Did you enjoy it? You obviously kept returning for more.

Had it been me, I would have reveled in the humiliation, the golden shower, and of course the oral worship. The overnight bondage? Not so much!

 

[artslut86]

Drinking piss. How does that become even remotely sexy or w.e. I struggle to understand some kinks.

 

[rjr_1954]

Hi @NancyPan
Remember me, Lynn?

 

[NancyPan]

Hi @NancyPan
Remember me, Lynn?

Of course. PM me any time.

 

[dalhart]

Drinking piss. How does that become even remotely sexy or w.e. I struggle to understand some kinks.

Assuming you actually want to understand and aren't just using more words to say "yuck", there's probably at least two aspects to it. One aspect would be the sensory aspect: the wetness, warmth, the visual of the urinating genitals, and the taste can be pleasurable to some. The reasons are likely to be fairly specific to the individual, and thus aren't readily explained in a general way. Some of this may be genetic or mediated through early development or adolescence. OTOH, pairing the sensations with sexual stimulation or sexual arousal can develop such associations at any time.

A second aspect is that, for the one being pissed on, and maybe both partners, it's representative of the acceptance of all of the one doing the pissing. Something like, "I love you so much, I welcome even your excretions." There's also a thing particular to submissives, that it's representative of the submissive role the receptive partner is taking in that scene or in the relationship generally. The link here is that it's an act that demonstrates something about the nature of the relationship and is an act of bonding.

There's maybe a third thing, mostly in contrast to the second, that some people get off on being degraded. I don't really have anything for you on that except to say that humans are still animals, and animals do all kinds of things that aren't amenable to rational analysis and exposition

 

[NancyPan]

A second aspect is that, for the one being pissed on, and maybe both partners, it's representative of the acceptance of all of the one doing the pissing. Something like, "I love you so much, I welcome even your excretions." There's also a thing particular to submissives, that it's representative of the submissive role the receptive partner is taking in that scene or in the relationship generally. The link here is that it's an act that demonstrates something about the nature of the relationship and is an act of bonding.

I am certainly no expert because I have only experienced it once and it was with a ProDomme, so I will guarantee you you it had zero to do with love or bonding. However, it remains one of the most intense acts of submission I’ve ever experienced, and even though it occurred many, many years ago, I still fantasize about it. It was absolutely an act of submission and a demonstration of Her Dominance! My wife, although my superior, would never do it. I would, however, submit to the experience again to demonstrate my submission to Women (with the right woman and in the right circumstance) and I would relish the privilege of taking my wife’s golden shower.

 

[Wonderer67]

I am certainly no expert because I have only experienced it once and it was with a ProDomme, so I will guarantee you you it had zero to do with love or bonding. However, it remains one of the most intense acts of submission I’ve ever experienced, and even though it occurred many, many years ago, I still fantasize about it. It was absolutely an act of submission and a demonstration of Her Dominance! My wife, although my superior, would never do it. I would, however, submit to the experience again to demonstrate my submission to Women (with the right woman and in the right circumstance) and I would relish the privilege of taking my wife’s golden shower.

I often drink my wife’s piss. To me, it’s a beautiful act of submission. It is one of the most trusting, intimate and sensual acts we engage in, IMO.

I find it very loving, but that’s the kind of relationship we have.

 

[NancyPan]

Tell us more. Is it “ ceremonial,” like presented in a wine glass with you on your knees, with you directly taking it, for example laying under her in the bathtub or shower? What is her demeanor as you are allowed this intimate privilege?