Obviously, you don't even FUCKING know me....

[RachelWalsh]

Have you ever been in a LONG term relationship- poured out your soul, told your secrets, and heard things from your partner that let you know that he or she doesn't know you at all, despite how honest and vulnerable you made yourself?

I don't of course. I am asking for a friend....


Of a cousin.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Have you ever been in a LONG term relationship- poured out your soul, told your secrets, and heard things from your partner that let you know that he or she doesn't know you at all, despite how honest and vulnerable you made yourself?

I don't of course. I am asking for a friend....


Of a cousin.

Does anybody really know anybody?

 

[RachelWalsh]

Does anybody really know anybody?

I would hope on some level.

 

[Lazaran]

If someone (not you of course) was led to believe that the person they were “sharing” with was actively listening and interested, and later it became apparent that they weren’t, then that sucks.

It’s certainly not unusual however.

There are numerous examples in movies, etc, where a woman is seriously “sharing “ with a man, and, while the man ACTS interested in what the woman is saying, all the man is really focused on is the woman’s physical attributes and the possibility of sex. - Art imitates life.

Shallow people suck, but aren’t uncommon. -Identifying them before getting deeply involved with them is the trick.

Of course, because of potential health / substance abuse issues, a person can’t rule out the possibility that the individual they apparently pointlessly “shared” with hasn’t suffered some kind of memory loss, etc. - Age and substance abuse history would be important factors to consider.

Ultimately it comes down to: What does the person who “shared” do now???

Hmmm…..

 

[ronde]

Have you ever been in a LONG term relationship- poured out your soul, told your secrets, and heard things from your partner that let you know that he or she doesn't know you at all, despite how honest and vulnerable you made yourself?

I don't of course. I am asking for a friend....


Of a cousin.

It depends upon the definition of "long term relationship". What I think is that no matter how long the relationship, unless you've lived with the person for at least a year. If it's just sex when you can, it's too easy for both parties to act like they think the other person expects them to act. Living together exposes all the warts.

 

[RachelWalsh]

It depends upon the definition of "long term relationship". What I think is that no matter how long the relationship, unless you've lived with the person for at least a year. If it's just sex when you can, it's too easy for both parties to act like they think the other person expects them to act. Living together exposes all the warts.

10 years. And thanks all for the thoughts and nice wishes

 

[RachelWalsh]

Still a bit fixated---

 

[RachelWalsh]

still pouting in the corner- obviously

 

[Lady2020]

IDK. I've learned it's not a good thing to pour my soul out to anyone. Human nature is pretty fickle.

 

[RachelWalsh]

IDK. I've learned it's not a good thing to pour my soul out to anyone. Human nature is pretty fickle.

Yeah. I get more cynical as I get older- which isn't good based on being cynical from the start.


Lol


I like your profile and hope you are well

 

[eomerson]

Yep...never trusted her since but stayed for kids and other reasons. Hard to trust anyone again ....

 

[RachelWalsh]

Yep...never trusted her since but stayed for kids and other reasons. Hard to trust anyone again ....

I am sorry hun. People are tricky

 

[juttjaw]

Sometimes people are clueless. Mostly, just selfish. When a person, who pays attention, talks to a person who doesn't, we tend to think like we think, they are paying attention. When, if they think like they think, they are just waiting for the other to stop talking.

However, I don't think they don't care. They are just shitty people.

Remember, people are different and there is no such thing as a mind reader. There are people with good listening and observation skills and people who don't possess any of those things. Tell your friends cousin to find one the former.

 

[HordHolm]

Have you ever been in a LONG term relationship- poured out your soul, told your secrets, and heard things from your partner that let you know that he or she doesn't know you at all, despite how honest and vulnerable you made yourself?

I don't of course. I am asking for a friend....


Of a cousin.

Err, yeah. It's why I have a second wife...

 

[mark_j]

Have you ever been in a LONG term relationship- poured out your soul, told your secrets, and heard things from your partner that let you know that he or she doesn't know you at all, despite how honest and vulnerable you made yourself?

I don't of course. I am asking for a friend....


Of a cousin.

Damn! Did someone piss in your corn flakes?

 

[IrisAlthea]

(even if being there means we just kinda stand there like a gargoyle).

Thank you, I just snorted tea through my nose.

 

[Lazaran]

This is definetely a he.

You're ( cousin's friend) is experiencing a problem as old as the species.

You (r cousin's friend) should consider if he does other things to show that he cares, as men often show care by physical service, affection or "being there" (even if being there means we just kinda stand there like a gargoyle).

If he doesn't do those things, then he doesn't care. If he does, then he's just a man being a man.

Um,….. Do women not “show care by physical service” and “affection” ???

Isn’t active listening the very definition of “being there”???

Is a gargoyle what a person needs in times of psychology, physical, or emotional crisis???

Hmmmm……

 

[Lazaran]

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Yeah, I didn’t think so…..

 

[Lazaran]

You're right. I don't care about you enough to try and figure out what you're upset about. No gargoyle for you.

Upset???

If pointing out some flaws in your rationale equals “upset” then you are using a different dictionary than the rest of us.

If you want to double down on women not providing “physical service” or “affection”, and that being “a gargoyle” is good enough if you’re a “man”, then so be it.

 

[Lazaran]

And this folks is what failing to start an argument looks like, Lazaran will continue have this conversation with themself for as long as they like.

If you keep trying to pull me into this nonsense, I'll just block you.

Please do.

Being blocked by an idiot won’t “upset” me.