A question for the female authors so I don't get slapped around by the trolls

[Comshaw]

I'm in the process of writing a story and hit a situation I need an answer to. As a guy I've more than once had a wet dream. I've awakened from an erotic to find I was cumming. Do women do that? Dream to orgasm? I asked my wife but she had never experienced such a thing. So have you? Or have you talked to another woman that has? No need for a description (although my deviant little brain would love to hear it!) a yes/no verification should suffice to keep me from getting slapped around by the trolls telling me that doesn't happen. If you are so kind as to give me an answer, thank you dear ladies.

Comshaw

 

[EmilyMiller]

I'm in the process of writing a story and hit a situation I need an answer to. As a guy I've more than once had a wet dream. I've awakened from an erotic to find I was cumming. Do women do that? Dream to orgasm? I asked my wife but she had never experienced such a thing. So have you? Or have you talked to another woman that has? No need for a description (although my deviant little brain would love to hear it!) a yes/no verification should suffice to keep me from getting slapped around by the trolls telling me that doesn't happen. If you are so kind as to give me an answer, thank you dear ladies.

Comshaw

I’ve woken up very aroused from an erotic dream. I’ve had physical manifestations of that, the normal. But as for cumming in my sleep? Not that I am aware of.

Em

 

[NotWise]

You can google "do women have wet dreams" and get as many answers as you want.

 

[Comshaw]

You can google "do women have wet dreams" and get as many answers as you want.

Really??? I was totally unaware of that!

Comshaw

 

[EmilyMiller]

Really??? I was totally unaware of that!

Comshaw

I guess his point was, why ask then?

Though I’m so easily led, I’ll answer pretty much anything. It’s a failing. I overshare.

Em

 

[JaxRhapsody]

As a guy, I've never had one. Sounds like something from 90s/early 00s teen comedies. Better be careful, ya might be yanking it one day, and Eugene Levy is going to walk in as you cross the finish line.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I have had a couple of former lovers who claimed to have had "wet" dreams but I never witnessed it while in their presence.

Whether it was coincidental or not, all of the ones who claimed this had extremely sensitive nipples and could squirt with very little stimulation.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Orgasm is a weird beast for many women. Sometimes your body can cum without your brain, or vice versa. If it's not both it can be a bit of a non-event.

Whichever, there may be little evidence. I've had erotic dreams, woken very aroused, no idea if I came in my sleep. Probably not.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Orgasm is a weird beast for many women. Sometimes your body can cum without your brain, or vice versa. If it's not both it can be a bit of a non-event.

Whichever, there may be little evidence. I've had erotic dreams, woken very aroused, no idea if I came in my sleep. Probably not.

What she said.

Em

 

[Euphony]

As with many things we include in stories, it's comes down to the difference between the culturally accepted as possible/common versus scientifically understood and/or verifiable.

Female sexual response is woefully understudied (patriarchy ftw ) but, yes, nocturnal orgasms are thought possible in both sexes.

Whether a reader knows that (unlikely) or is blindly willing to accept that (magic 8 ball says: Don't count on it.) is the tightrope of reality/fiction we often walk.

To the subject at hand, my research has shown it's possible but not as reliably evident as in men. Also, those women who have them tend to experience them early on in life, in their highly hormonal years.

It would read odd to me to me to see it as a surprise to a mid-lifer without some inciting event. (hormone replacement therapy, medical condition, etc.)

There's two paths here, the educational path (write it b/c it is scientifically valid even if not widespread (outlier's stories are better for telling) or the invitation to identify/embody the character path through commonality. What I will say, women generally are a little more empathetic readership so your characters can be a little more outside their life experience and still engender plenty of empathy.

Both work well if you stay firmly on the path you've chosen.

Caveats are careful not to get too technical or preachy if you are introducing something a little outside the norm.

Readers want to trust you but they have their limits.

TL: DR:

1. Yes, it happens.
2. They are harder do diagnose b/c less obvious and less interest by science to go looking.
3. #2 informs much of the social attitudes/beliefs about commonality of them.
4. Write it well, women (and men) will find their empathy reserves and identify w/your character even if not a shared experience.
5. Trolls argue not for group enlightenment, but only to argue. Reality doesn't matter.

As with everything narrative, if it's necessary, write it being sure to support it properly when you do.

 

[Zootonius]

"Do women do that?"

With billions of women on the planet, the law of probability same there are a least some out there that do.

 

[EmilyMiller]

"Do women do that?"

With billions of women on the planet, the law of probability same there are a least some out there that do.

Not necessarily. Highly unlikely that I will spontaneously quantum tunnel into Elon Musk’s money vault and out again with $1 bn in loose change.

5 billion is not that big a number.

Em

 

[Zootonius]

Not necessarily. Highly unlikely that I will spontaneously quantum tunnel into Elon Musk’s money vault and out again with $1 bn in loose change.

5 billion is not that big a number.

Em

Hmm, a difficult experiment, is the probability of women dreaming to orgasm on par with quantum tunnelling into Elon Musk’s money vault?

 

[EmilyMiller]

Hmm, a difficult experiment, is the probability of women dreaming to orgasm on par with quantum tunnelling into Elon Musk’s money vault?

Prove otherwise. Show all your workings .

Em

 

[Zootonius]

Prove otherwise. Show all your workings .

Em

Now I regret not taking that statistics course!

 

[Voboy]

This is Lit. So. Women routinely wake up with their Sheets Stained by the Sweet Nectar from their Soft Petals. Or, perhaps, just their Center.

Write it as you wish; you'll find an audience. It's an interesting question, though. I've woken my female characters up with a nagging sense that they just came, so there's that.

 

[yowser]

A related (not quite tangential, but close) topic is the business of masturbating someone into a 'wet dream.' I am not trying to derail this thread (please skip if you have concerns) but this (wet dreams) was the theme, an underrated one as far as I am concerned, of one of my stories. The narrator, of dubious reliability, concludes, among other things:

'That you cannot do this [masturbate to climax while sleeping] with a female. The female sleep-cycle seems to be far more hair-trigger in operation, and everyone I have tried, no matter how light or gentle my touch, has woken up long before climax. I experimented with just about all my partners, with widely varying success. The best outcomes are when my companion's eyes fly awake in an extended state of arousal, and she is eager to continue things consciously.'

 

[JaxRhapsody]

A related (not quite tangential, but close) topic is the business of masturbating someone into a 'wet dream.' I am not trying to derail this thread (please skip if you have concerns) but this (wet dreams) was the theme, an underrated one as far as I am concerned, of one of my stories. The narrator, of dubious reliability, concludes, among other things:

'That you cannot do this [masturbate to climax while sleeping] with a female. The female sleep-cycle seems to be far more hair-trigger in operation, and everyone I have tried, no matter how light or gentle my touch, has woken up long before climax. I experimented with just about all my partners, with widely varying success. The best outcomes are when my companion's eyes fly awake in an extended state of arousal, and she is eager to continue things consciously.'

Yeah, I had an ex that told me I could have it if she was asleep. Rarely was she in a position I could have it, or moved as if she read my thoughts. The few times I did try, she woke up, no matter how long she was sleep, and she wasn't a light sleeper. I have been thinking about writing a story where a chick sleeps through sex.

 

[elizaloo]

This is Lit. So. Women routinely wake up with their Sheets Stained by the Sweet Nectar from their Soft Petals. Or, perhaps, just their Center.

Well, that's such an elegant way to describe it!

I have woken up cumming many times. The act wakes me - back arched, thighs clenched and sometimes I moan. My husband has commented upon it in the past.

*Usually it's NOT a dream about him I'm having.*

I can cum essentially 'on demand' as well.

It's a talent. `

 

[Omenainen]

I wrote a dream orgasm for a female character once and got zero trolls for my efforts. Stop being a wimp and write what you want.

 

[Seadog777]

2 of my sisters are visiting today, I'll ask them for you.

 

[Omenainen]

You can write anything as long as you write it well. And if you write it poorly, saying “but I asked a bunch of randos on a forum and they said so” is not going to redeem your story afterwards.

 

[elizaloo]

2 of my sisters are visiting today, I'll ask them for you.

Let us know how that goes!

Will the be honest with you?

 

[Seadog777]

Let us know how that goes!

Will the be honest with you?

Of course.
Why would I lie to them?
My sisters will proofread my stories as well.

 

[Comshaw]

Well, that's such an elegant way to describe it!

I have woken up cumming many times. The act wakes me - back arched, thighs clenched and sometimes I moan. My husband has commented upon it in the past.

*Usually it's NOT a dream about him I'm having.*

I can cum essentially 'on demand' as well.

It's a talent. `

Thanks. While I could have looked on the net that wouldn't have given the answer I needed. It wouldn't have given me the human part of it, that some women climax very easily and do so while dreaming.

Comshaw