Interesting Sex Stats About Monogamy And Multiple Partners

[gordo12]

https://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle...pc=U531&cvid=4c47249b48e4492b82e65c2d64a216d5

The one that shocked me was that 69% of all divorces are started by women. I'm going to have to be nicer to my wife

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Interesting

 

[colddiesel]

https://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle...pc=U531&cvid=4c47249b48e4492b82e65c2d64a216d5

The one that shocked me was that 69% of all divorces are started by women. I'm going to have to be nicer to my wife

If the woman is college educated that 69% rises to 91%.

 

[MajorRewrite]

https://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle...pc=U531&cvid=4c47249b48e4492b82e65c2d64a216d5

The one that shocked me was that 69% of all divorces are started by women. I'm going to have to be nicer to my wife

The article you linked to doesn’t say that. In fact it’s 5 paragraphs contain almost no information. But it does link out to 3 spam-ish websites.

 

[gordo12]

The article you linked to doesn’t say that. In fact it’s 5 paragraphs contain almost no information. But it does link out to 3 spam-ish websites.

Doubt if the linked websites are spam. And the article was originally a lot longer. It looks like it's been edited (truncated) since I read it. However, the 69% is backed up online by research.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Doubt if the linked websites are spam.

There are a couple of relevant links in the article, but there are also four (including the first two) that just seem like excuses to link to pages at "mtlblog.com" that have very little to do with the story. Stuff like "cheap date ideas in Montreal".

And the article was originally a lot longer. It looks like it's been edited (truncated) since I read it. However, the 69% is backed up online by research.

When I opened it yesterday it was very short (5 paragraphs sounds right) but trying again now, it's longer than I remember it. I think there may be an issue with text after a video not loading.

Text from below the video:

Over 4000 people across Canada responded to the team's survey — 58% women, 36% men, and 5.4% non-binary folks — sharing their views on the perfect relationship. About a third were single, and within that demographic, three out of ten were dating one or more people.

Among respondents aged 65 and over, most considered sexual exclusivity to be ideal (87%), compared to young people between 18 and 24 (66%).

A majority of respondents in a relationship prefer romantic exclusivity (81%), while fewer need sexual exclusivity (70%). Heterosexual adults in an intimate relationship largely seek both romantic exclusivity (91%) and sexual exclusivity (83%).

Meanwhile, only around half of 2SLGBTQIA+ adults in an intimate relationship deem romantic exclusivity (55%) or sexual exclusivity (36%) ideal. Among non-binary adults who are in a relationship, 36% prefer romantic exclusivity, compared to 24% when it comes to sexual exclusivity.

Single heterosexual participants were more likely to endorse sexual exclusivity compared to single 2SLBGTQIA+ participants, regardless of gender. However, single women of any sexual orientation were more likely to prefer romantic and sexual exclusivity.

Only 16% of Canadian adults in non-monogamous relationships saw romantic exclusivity as ideal, and 6% prefer sexual exclusivity. Among single participants dating one or more people, two-thirds considered romantic exclusivity as ideal, while only 51% prefer sexual exclusivity.

Fortunately for all involved in the study, and Canadians at large, love is in the air this month. That means it's time to get out there and celebrate your S.O., or find a partner or two… or more.

 

[gordo12]

No, there was a section in there detailing women's role in starting divorces. That's where the 69% came from. I can't explain why it's different but it is MSN and they're not the brightest bulbs on the internet.

 

[lovecraft68]

No, there was a section in there detailing women's role in starting divorces. That's where the 69% came from. I can't explain why it's different but it is MSN and they're not the brightest bulbs on the internet.

Man, you seem adamant that 69% gets out there. Have to blame women for divorce right? Can't be that 69% of men are useless tools can it?"
Know what we should do for fun? Look up domestic violence stats and see how the over whelming number of assailants are men. Same for rape.
But wait, I forgot, all those women probably deserved it, maybe some of dem bitches had the nerve to file for divorce even!

You spend too much time with the disgusting mouth breathing shit stains in LW. Too bad you got divorced(I remember your whiny poor me all women bad rant), happens to a lot of us, and not always our fault, but most of us can just man up and move on instead of being a bitter woman hating troll the rest of our lives.

Now run along to the Pink orchard event and pretend to be all about female empowerment but remember, I've seen how women are treated in your idea of 'erotic fiction/BDSM" is.

Maybe you should post that story in that contest, show women what you really think of them.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Well, that escalated quickly.

 

[gordo12]

Well, that escalated quickly.

No shit. And full of BS too!

 

[Voboy]

 

[gordo12]

Man, you seem adamant that 69% gets out there. Have to blame women for divorce right?

I was quite shocked at that figure.

Can't be that 69% of men are useless tools can it?"

You'd know more about that wouldn't you.

Know what we should do for fun? Look up domestic violence stats and see how the over whelming number of assailants are men. Same for rape.
But wait, I forgot, all those women probably deserved it, maybe some of dem bitches had the nerve to file for divorce even!

What the hell has rape got to do with it? I get it that something triggered you in life but you go to extremes expressing it. Women deserve being raped? Nowhere in my life have I ever thought that for a second.

You spend too much time with the disgusting mouth breathing shit stains in LW. Too bad you got divorced(I remember your whiny poor me all women bad rant), happens to a lot of us, and not always our fault, but most of us can just man up and move on instead of being a bitter woman hating troll the rest of our lives.

For the record, I've been married 35 years and love the heck out of her.

Now run along to the Pink orchard event and pretend to be all about female empowerment but remember, I've seen how women are treated in your idea of 'erotic fiction/BDSM" is.

That was the first (& ONLY) BDSM scene I've ever written. I looked at it again after you triggered and I took your advice and toned it down. Interestingly, my wife read the original scene and had no problem with it. As I said, your triggering is out of control. And I should hardly have to point out to you that we traded those stories (you wanted me to edit) under a confidentiality agreement. One that I've HONOURED, unlike you.

Maybe you should post that story in that contest, show women what you really think of them.

Why? I'll tell them right here. Love women. I adore women. I'd far rather talk to a woman any day of the week than a man. Far more interesting things they talk about than sports and beer.

 

[gordo12]

Here you go M, Here's the BDSM Stories link. Why don't you go rant, rave and share your rape accusations to those who write them? I'm sure they'll enjoy your input.

https://www.literotica.com/beta/c/bdsm-stories

 

[lc69hunter]

I wrote a story in which I said that 42% of women have admitted cheating on their spouse. I did it on purpose to stir the pot so to speak, and it did.

Most current surveys have men and women cheating at about the same rate (low 30% range). However, I did not pull that 42% out of my ass. It was a survey published in Cosmopolitan magazine, so I suspect a lot of self-selection bias. However, I said think about it, men. almost have of you have been cucked by your wife. I got ripped, most by men with fragile egos and a lot of insecurities. But it got attention

 

[SimonDoom]

Well, that escalated quickly.

No, let's be accurate and fair. "That" did not escalate. Lovecraft escalated it, in a disgusting, malicious, and entirely unwarranted way. Let's call it exactly what it is. Gordo made reasonable and benign observations about divorce statistics, and Lovecraft, as he does constantly, filtered his comments through his own personal insecure, chip-on-the-shoulder, rage-induced haze and spit back venom at a fellow AH author for the umpteenth time for no reason. There's no call whatsoever for this interpretation of what Gordo wrote.

Lovecraft, who loves to call out others for his perceptions of "hypocrisy," is by far the biggest hypocrite in this forum: the one who is most likely to rant against others' perceived moralism or wokeness or whatever, but who also is by far the most likely to pass moral judgment on the others in this forum. It's a tired, tedious, tawdry act.

 

[nice90sguy]

The one that shocked me was that 69% of all divorces are started by women.

In my case, 100%.

 

[alohadave]

I think it would be better to change this to



and think about the difference.

If you seriously think you need to be nicer (I did pick up that you were joking) then you've already started your divorce. Regardless, it's always good to aim for being nicer.

Is there an illegal divorce process?

 

[gordo12]

If you seriously think you need to be nicer (I did pick up that you were joking) then you've already started your divorce. Regardless, it's always good to aim for being nicer.

Yes, I was joking. I'm not sure why the need to add legal as divorce is a legal process. It seems redundant.

 

[lazy_literotic]

what surprises me, is the guys that are just one gallery.
just their wife etc.

 

[gordo12]

Maybe that is redundant, but I wanted to stress out that, according to me, it's just wrong to say that



Maybe it's the definition of 'starting a divorce', which I have problems with. I think that, in most cases, a divorce starts long before the legal process begins. And in that case, I really don't believe the number of 69% to be true.

Yes, it may have been written in that blog you quoted, in the part that was quickly retracted. What does that tell you about the credibility of your source?

Of course, divorce starts long before the legalities. If you look online you'll find a lot of backup for the 69% claim. England claims 62%. College-educated women, they're saying 90%. I'm not looking to make a big deal out of the stats. It just shocked me. I would have thought more like 50/50 rather than 69/31 or even 90/10.

"

Women More Than Twice as Likely to Initiate Divorce as Men​

The findings were based on a survey titled “How Couples Meet and Stay Together,” which collected data from 2,262 adults in heterosexual relationships. Participants provided information about their relationship status between 2009 and 2015. Analysis of the data revealed that women initiated 69% of divorces, while men only initiated 31%. However, in cases where an unmarried man and woman lived together, either one was as likely to initiate a break up as the other.

The study’s lead author, Michael Rosenfeld, said his recent findings align with the results of similar studies conducted in the past.

 

[Thorlol]

The problem with statistics like this one is in general the pool of people you interview. For example, if the 'Cosmopolitan' does a survey and asks only their readers, the statistic is already biased. But too be honest, even if its 69%. What does that mean? That women are generally more prone to pull the trigger? Are 69% of the male population assholes they cant live with? I am missing the context here. Its the same with infidelity statistics. Lets take the 30% number. Does that mean that I got cheated on atleast once if I had 3 relationships? Dont think so. I had several longterm relationships and none ended because of infidelity. To be honest, in my wider circle of friends there was no breakup because of infidelity as far as I know. The relationships where cheating happend were already over in the most parts before any infidelity happend. The LW section for example skews that like crazy. The spouses that get cheated on there are always so perfect. In the real world when a couple is happy it rarely happens.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

In all honesty, even if the information is true, it really doesn't mean much. It would be great to see the reasons behind starting those divorces, though. How many were started due to simply growing apart, how many due to spousal infidelity, how many due to alcohol abuse, violence, not sharing the burden of the family and so on. For both sexes of course.
Also, I have no idea about US, but in my country (and region) divorces are usually much tougher for women in many ways. For example, a divorced man is a man like any other, I've never seen any of them having serious problems with finding a partner again. For women it is a whole different story, as kids, if there are any, stay with mother in most cases, and that is one serious difficulty for new relationships. I have seen attractive, divorced women having those kinds of problems. Truth be told, I have seen a few women just walking out on their family and running off with a guy, but it is far less common than the other way around

 

[gordo12]

The problem with statistics like this one is in general the pool of people you interview. For example, if the 'Cosmopolitan' does a survey and asks only their readers, the statistic is already biased. But too be honest, even if its 69%. What does that mean? That women are generally more prone to pull the trigger? Are 69% of the male population assholes they cant live with? I am missing the context here. Its the same with infidelity statistics. Lets take the 30% number. Does that mean that I got cheated on atleast once if I had 3 relationships? Dont think so. I had several longterm relationships and none ended because of infidelity. To be honest, in my wider circle of friends there was no breakup because of infidelity as far as I know. The relationships where cheating happend were already over in the most parts before any infidelity happend. The LW section for example skews that like crazy. The spouses that get cheated on there are always so perfect. In the real world when a couple is happy it rarely happens.

I didn't intend to start a discussion on the 69% figure but these threads go where they go.

Doing some further reading it seems like women don't feel emotionally supported by their male partners. Also issues like sharing housework and childcare. The issue festers until, by the time they file, it's already too late. Taking a flyer here and expecting a blast, I think women are far more tuned to the emotional ups and downs in their relationships whereas men are far more tuned to the physical ups and downs in the relationship. Both parties see failure from their spouses on issues important to them.

 

[Thorlol]

Thats true, the 69% are quite meaningless. But what you are relating to shouldnt be as common as it was 30 years ago. Atleast in my country. Since parental leave for example is possible for man and women. The income disparity from then is also nonexistent. Today you get paid for your ability and not for what you have between your legs. In my experience childcare is way more equal than it was at the time where I was a child. Housework is pretty much the same, since in 90% of the cases, both people work. So excuses like 'I was working and dont have time for housework' are not possible.

So yeah, some facts from 30 years ago dont compute with my reality. But I also know that there are some man out there who are emotionally not fit for relationships and some reveal themselves at later stages of the relationship, like after being married. There was an interesting thread on reddit about such a guy and I still cant believe how this guy got even married. That one would fit perfectly into the 69% who get divorced, initiated by the women. Perfect example for someone who doesnt support the female partner, emotionally.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10bnywp

The intersting bit is not about babysitting, just sayin.

 

[djrip]

Sometimes they write themselves, don't they?