Sexless Marriages

[Mtnmike]

That comment was not directed at you! But since you have commented, all I can say is that I've said the same thing to my other half. We are good friends, but for many years there was nothing, and of course I thought it was me. Talking about it is one of the hardest things to do, but the comment I made was to the guy who had only just got married! When we were younger we used to talk a lot, but to be perfectly honest it would not have occurred to me to look elsewhere. However, in the last few years with the third part of my life getting closer to its end, I have thought about it, and indeed made friends with others. I say do what you have to do, we only live once!

No problems, I understand.
Your story is just like mine has been, not being mean but good someone else has dealt with this and understands what it's been like, thank you. Glad you found other's to hang with.
Will say, it's easier for a lady to find "friend's" than it is for men, least been my experience.

 

[Polranny]

No problems, I understand.
Your story is just like mine has been, not being mean but good someone else has felt with this and understands what it's been like, thank you. Glad you found other's to hang with.
Will say, it's easier for a lady to find "friend's" than it is for men, least been my experience.

I totally agree, Mike

 

[silky52]

No problems, I understand.
Your story is just like mine has been, not being mean but good someone else has felt with this and understands what it's been like, thank you. Glad you found other's to hang with.
Will say, it's easier for a lady to find "friend's" than it is for men, least been my experience.

Yes, so I'm told. That's usually because women aren't supposed to enjoy sex! Most would be mortified to come on a site like this. They think it's immoral too or full of perverts (of which there are indeed a fair share). There are also a lot of men who don't enjoy sex either and I always believed the myth that men could go on until they are 80, silly me. In any event my hubby was never overly touchy-feely, but I always thought that was because he was a gentleman. Of course he wasn't uninterested in the early days. He's got prostate issues now, and viagra gives him chest pains, so we don't need that. As I said, we are still good friends and always will be. We've had a reasonably good life together. So I'm not complaining, I'm just taking care of myself.

 

[Polranny]

Yes, so I'm told. That's usually because women aren't supposed to enjoy sex! Most would be mortified to come on a site like this. They think it's immoral too or full of perverts (of which there are indeed a fair share). There are also a lot of men who don't enjoy sex either and I always believed the myth that men could go on until they are 80, silly me. In any event my hubby was never overly touchy-feely, but I always thought that was because he was a gentleman. Of course he wasn't uninterested in the early days. He's got prostate issues now, and viagra gives him chest pains, so we don't need that. As I said, we are still good friends and always will be. We've had a reasonably good life together. So I'm not complaining, I'm just taking care of myself.

Similar stories abound. I'm 73, everything still works but, sadly, my partner has lost all interest in me, we are pretty good friends still but , boy, it has been difficult and frustrating at times and I have to look elsewhere

 

[AnnieLit]

I’ll be your fuckbuddy!

You are replying to a 3.5 year old comment.
Thank you, I am good

 

[Britva415]

Frankly, it's usually DAMN annoying when a friend tries that, despite it always being clear there won't be anything else than friendship, and can even cost the friendship.

How is that "always clear" if someone doesn't bring it up?

 

[Britva415]

I've never known a woman to abstain needlesly

Yet here we are, on page 143 of a thread about this exact reality.

(Not just women, there are women in this thread talking about their sexless husbands too.)

if it was her not engaged and my libido intact I think she would help in some way

Great. Some spouses are like this, even if they do lose interest.

Then there are the ones who aren't, and won't help.

 

[Lady2020]

If marriage was all it was cracked up to be, Lit wouldn't be around.

 

[Strixaluco]

How is that "always clear" if someone doesn't bring it up?

Ever heard of non-verbal language and communication?

Frankly, one criteria for the getting in my pants is reading my body language well enough. Partly because I loose the ability to talk during sex.

 

[wildchild24143]

If marriage was all it was cracked up to be, Lit wouldn't be around.

Agreed

 

[PersonalFavors]

Yet here we are, on page 143 of a thread about this exact reality.

(Not just women, there are women in this thread talking about their sexless husbands too.)


Great. Some spouses are like this, even if they do lose interest.

Then there are the ones who aren't, and won't help.

if it was her not engaged and my libido intact I think she would help in some way

Relationships are complicated and unique. I don't think we have all the details.

 

[RoperTrace]

No. Our love is real. But apart the finances would not be near as comfortable for us or the kids. Apart would be really bad for the kids. I think they like mom and dad as much as we do.
Been a while since I heard that cheesy song....

Sorry for my song reference, but your line kind of triggered me. Cheesy was a song genre when C&T ruled the radio airwaves. I remember the British press having a cow, when The Capt. & Tenn, played Muskrat Lover for the Queen, LOL.

 

[RoperTrace]

I connected, at 77, with an old hottie, sexless marriage............fucked her silly!

Hey, why not pen a quickie story around these adventures?

 

[drobert44]

Hey, why not pen a quickie story around these adventures?

I will do a quickie after I hit the gym.......with my H S fuckbuddy, married like me, not fucking, like me, until a fun weekend in Kansas in Sept.

 

[Wld1936]

If marriage was all it was cracked up to be, Lit wouldn't be around.

Exactly

 

[drobert44]

I will do a quickie after I hit the gym.......with my H S fuckbuddy, married like me, not fucking, like me, until a fun weekend in Kansas in Sept.

I had retired and found a website on Facebook for my old HS, class of 62. Bumped into Bev, unhappy wife and mom. Her hubs had choked and slapped her, no sex there. My poor wife died off and I began to travel, and met her in Kansas to chat. Drove around, got acquainted, and in the cemetary, got out and gave her a hug and a kiss, slapped her cute ass.........and left for home.

Still chatting and I go out there for our 55th HS class reunion. I take her to a nice resto, and then we get to a room, where she pulls off her dress in and instant. Into the sack for a nice hard fuck. I am still trying to recover; she is playing with my tired dick, and gets it hard for round 2. Great times, a nice smile on her contented face. I went back this fall for 60th reunion, now I got a BNB. I go pick her up, straight to the house and 2 hard fucks. I then took her to the club for the reunion, fun walking in together...nobody said shit.

Next day, I pick her up and back to the BNB for another fuck. Sure enough, she is trying to get me hard again......but my wife texted me, "when U coming home?" I took off, feel like a cad.


https://i.imgur.com/rl4emxy.jpg

She looks damn good for 78.

 

[drobert44]

I had retired and found a website on Facebook for my old HS, class of 62. Bumped into Bev, unhappy wife and mom. Her hubs had choked and slapped her, no sex there. My poor wife died off and I began to travel, and met her in Kansas to chat. Drove around, got acquainted, and in the cemetary, got out and gave her a hug and a kiss, slapped her cute ass.........and left for home.

Still chatting and I go out there for our 55th HS class reunion. I take her to a nice resto, and then we get to a room, where she pulls off her dress in and instant. Into the sack for a nice hard fuck. I am still trying to recover; she is playing with my tired dick, and gets it hard for round 2. Great times, a nice smile on her contented face. I went back this fall for 60th reunion, now I got a BNB. I go pick her up, straight to the house and 2 hard fucks. I then took her to the club for the reunion, fun walking in together...nobody said shit.

Next day, I pick her up and back to the BNB for another fuck. Sure enough, she is trying to get me hard again......but my wife texted me, "when U coming home?" I took off, feel like a cad.


https://i.imgur.com/rl4emxy.jpg

She looks damn good for 78.

Never give up on romance!

 

[RoperTrace]

I had retired and found a website on Facebook for my old HS, class of 62. Bumped into Bev, unhappy wife and mom. Her hubs had choked and slapped her, no sex there. My poor wife died off and I began to travel, and met her in Kansas to chat. Drove around, got acquainted, and in the cemetary, got out and gave her a hug and a kiss, slapped her cute ass.........and left for home.

Still chatting and I go out there for our 55th HS class reunion. I take her to a nice resto, and then we get to a room, where she pulls off her dress in and instant. Into the sack for a nice hard fuck. I am still trying to recover; she is playing with my tired dick, and gets it hard for round 2. Great times, a nice smile on her contented face. I went back this fall for 60th reunion, now I got a BNB. I go pick her up, straight to the house and 2 hard fucks. I then took her to the club for the reunion, fun walking in together...nobody said shit.

Next day, I pick her up and back to the BNB for another fuck. Sure enough, she is trying to get me hard again......but my wife texted me, "when U coming home?" I took off, feel like a cad.


https://i.imgur.com/rl4emxy.jpg

She looks damn good for 78.

Thanx for the blow by blow. 78 . . . Wow!

 

[Britva415]

Frankly, it's usually DAMN annoying when a friend tries that, despite it always being clear there won't be anything else than friendship, and can even cost the friendship.

How is that "always clear" if someone doesn't bring it up?

Ever heard of non-verbal language and communication?

Frankly, one criteria for the getting in my pants is reading my body language well enough. Partly because I loose the ability to talk during sex.

Of course I have. I'm just of the opinion that it is no substitute for words.

Talking out loud about things should happen BEFORE sex knocks someone's brain offline, naturally. It should be clear way way before that point whether there's going to be anything else besides friendship.

We have a difference of opinion, I see.

Mine is that if it has not been verbalized, then, it's totally OK to talk to the friend about one's desire for more and find out.

 

[PersonalFavors]

Sorry for my song reference, but your line kind of triggered me. Cheesy was a song genre when C&T ruled the radio airwaves. I remember the British press having a cow, when The Capt. & Tenn, played Muskrat Lover for the Queen, LOL.

Don’t apologize. It was actually funny. I was what 9 or 10 years old in rural South Carolina. C and T are British? Who knew?

 

[Strixaluco]

Of course I have. I'm just of the opinion that it is no substitute for words.

Talking out loud about things should happen BEFORE sex knocks someone's brain offline, naturally. It should be clear way way before that point whether there's going to be anything else besides friendship.

We have a difference of opinion, I see.

Mine is that if it has not been verbalized, then, it's totally OK to talk to the friend about one's desire for more and find out.

Oh I do talk before sex, about the things that should be discussed. But if someone is so oblivious to my body language that he doesn't realise I am not interested in anything else than friendship, well that seals the no deal ever.

I am not afraid of someone mentioning their desire, I am usually well aware if my male friends fancy sex with me, but I've never encountered a version of "chatting me up" that wouldn't make me annoyed, because there always seems to be the assumption that my mind can be changed by chatting. Which naturally is impossible, because it's not really about my thoughts but my body's reactions. I don't react to all men and never will.


And there are plenty of situations during sex that cannot be covered by discussing beforehand, because it's about what happens in that very moment, and foretelling just doesn't happen. Like when something is too much or not enough. So, my partner has to be able to read them. That's a lot more finetuned than noticing if I am interested or not.

 

[CuriousInAR78]

Before I got married to my ex wife we had sex all the time because she was a freak but then once we got married the sex slowed way down for the first for few years and then around year five it picked back up until right before she walked out on me because I wouldn't get rid of my aquariums. After we got divorced she turned into her old "loose" self. I am afraid to get married again because I barely get sex now so I am afraid once I get married I will only get it twice a year or less

 

[Strixaluco]

she walked out on me because I wouldn't get rid of my aquariums.

Really?

 

[CuriousInAR78]

Really?

Sad but so true she use to threaten me all the time that I was gonna come home from work and my three huge Oscars and my red devil was gonna be laying in the driveway dead

 

[hmmm53]

Anyone else with this problem?
I have a high sex drive and the wife doesn't.
Looking for others with this problem, and possibly helping fill our needs.

got that t-shirt too...damn it. Anyone have a recommendation for a toy that helps? Something discrete