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[AnnieLit]

Wow! Probably if I were around more often it wouldn't surprise me, but for someone coming here very infrequently...just wow! A guy asks a question, why tear him apart?!
The whole creep idea looks so strange to me - this is Lit! We ALL here for only one reason - to read and talk about sex! Why asking the question when you are writing a story is more legitimate than if you want the answers for your own wanking pleasure? I am a woman, I am not writing anything at all at the moment, and yet I am curious about the answers to the original question. Or at least was curious before I started reading the comments here.

Ok, back to the topic. For me there are a few ways it can go:
- I am super horny and need the release. It doesn't matter what got me to this point - a picture, a story, a text that I received, an item of clothing that was rubbing the right way, at that point it's irrelevant, the only thought left is "I. Need. It. NOW." The vibe comes out and the only thing on my mind is where to place it to maximize the pleasure. The only thoughts are about the immediate physical sensations.

- I am day dreaming. I settle on a scenario and run with it, more or less writing a story in my head. I don't usually think in detail about the male character, I think about what he does, but not what he looks or sounds like.

- I am daydreaming, but about a specific person. I might pull out his picture if I miss him too much, but usually I don't need to. I am still writing a story in my head, but a bit more realistic one, scenario is more detailed, the male character has a face and a voice, he uses phrases that I know the real life He uses often. In these scenarios it is probably half and half - not only what he does to/with me, but also what I am doing to/with him. Not in the same session, I wouldn't last that long, it is either I am the giver, or the receiver on a specific day.

- I am performing for him. Whether during an e-sex, or I am recording for him, or imagining him being in the room and asking me to do it so that he could watch, does not really matter - it is back to the first option, but with intense understanding that I am (or will be, if this is a recording) being watched by Him.

- And then there is a real life performance. This one I can't quite describe as anything I say makes it into an imagined scenario, but it IS very different. Obviously more intense, but there are other differences too. For the purposes of your story this situation is irrelevant as your alien is a part of her at this point.

 

[Ambient4190]

Here you go – maybe my quick little description/story helps…she was sitting on the train reading a book. She was completely engrossed and emotionally invested in the main characters Richard & Daphne. Will they Or won’t they? About ¾ into the story it appeared ‘it’ was going to happen.

She pressed her thighs together tightly realizing how damp she was already. She kept reading and shifted in her seat pulling the seam of her blue jeans in closer. In the story, Richard had removed Daphne’s top and was kissing Daphne passionately. The story continued playing in her head but despite staring at the pages, she was no longer reading. Her heartbeat had accelerated and a hot flush had crept up her neck and face. She was clenching her thighs tighter and tighter while squeezing, releasing, squeezing her muscles in a repeated fashion. Her whole body was incredibly tense. The story was continuing in her mind as she sat holding the book in her hands. Her heart was racing and her efforts succeeded as she crested the waterfall pulsing, pulsing and pulsing on the way down. She squeezed again and shifted just to feel the remaining pulses and then let out a long slow breath. She was soaked.

Her body relaxed, the hot flush receded, and she slumped in her seat. She laid the book down in her lap. She let her head fall back on the headrest, and closed her eyes. If anyone had been watching, they would have thought she just desperately needed to pee.

 

[lovecraft68]

To be fair to OP, who has participated in a number of conversations here without being creepy so I'll give him the benefit of the doubt on this one, popular culture is always referring to boys and men thinking of a particular person, and having a wank over them. It's a cliché. I've written it myself.

I've never heard any of my male partners nor other men object to the concept, beyond 'sometimes it's multiple women, actually'. Or a few fetishists where the object of their desire is more relevant.

Women will IME sometimes do that, but there's that clichéd multitasking thing going on - the surrounding context is as important as the object of desire. So not just thinking of X actor, but them in a certain outfit, in a certain place, inviting you along, and then...

A generalisation, for sure, but to make another generalisation, if you graphed male and female arousal during a wank, against time, you'd probably have a shorter time for men as well as a much shorter time they are thinking much of anything. If women last longer at a lower level, then there's more time for thinking - of all sorts of nice things.

Writing a scene where someone is masturbating and what's going through their mind is erotica 101, and here's a newsflash: whatever you're writing in your characters head? Its fine because its your story. You don't have to "nail it". I have a hard time picturing someone telling me "No, a woman would never masturbate to X" and same extends to guys.

Everything in conversation like this is a generalization. Guys might tend to be more "porny" in what gets them off, but its not every guy and not every woman needs "more" than just the sexual thought. There are plenty of women who can get off to pure raunch and imagery.

There is no set answer to this. There is opinion, and some women can relate from experience, but its only their experience.

But I can tell you one thing about men, both from being one, and from spending years learning to spot bad behavior through a cause I support and am very involved in at a hands on level, not just a give some money, or lip service level. Guys are inherently more needy when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, they like talking about sex with them and will do so by masking it under the veneer of a "question" at least in a setting that's not a flat out free for all....like the fetish forums.

Is that the OP's intent? Maybe not. I started my post with saying there has been several of these fishing threads of late, and even if the person who starts it has no 'creeper' intent, others who see it are lubing it up while waiting for women to tell them what gets them off.

As I have said before, this is why so many men are flocking to the Pink Orchid event and discussion thread "tell me ladies, if my MC sucks a cock in a glory hole is that...."

Many men stop evolving at 16 when it comes to sex and how they see and deal with women. Here is no exception. Grabby little boys trying to cloak themselves under the guise of "writing a more realistic story"

Sure, okay.

Somehow I've written here for 12 years and have never felt the need to do the "I need a woman's perspective." I can ask my wife for that if I need to or think about past relationships and what those women were like. Many opinions could be better than a few but I'd rather not be one of those guys that go fishing for what women do, think, and feel, about sex and want details.

We're mostly strangers here to each other and I would never walk up to a woman I don't know and say "Excuse me miss, but I was wondering what you were thinking about the last time you had a little me time?"

 

[Omenainen]

Forget I asked.

Now now, don’t give up! We’re still waiting for the mansplainers lovecraft68 promised to turn up. They’re slower than normal today, I wonder what’s keeping them.

 

[AnnieLit]

We're mostly strangers here to each other and I would never walk up to a woman I don't know and say "Excuse me miss, but I was wondering what you were thinking about the last time you had a little me time?"

You really don't see any difference between asking a question on Lit and walking up to a random stranger on the street? Newsflash for you then: some of us here actually LIKE talking about our own experiences. We all probably have different reasons for that, or maybe not so different, but I can guarantee you that there is not a single woman on Lit that was offended by this question. We made a choice to come here! That should tell you at least something.

Guys are inherently more needy when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, they like talking about sex with them and will do so by masking it under the veneer of a "question" at least in a setting that's not a flat out free for all....like the fetish forums.

Is that the OP's intent? Maybe not. I started my post with saying there has been several of these fishing threads of late, and even if the person who starts it has no 'creeper' intent, others who see it are lubing it up while waiting for women to tell them what gets them off.

And this is wrong how? A "writer" (ok, a person that comes to a writer's forum on Lit) writes something and somebody gets off on that. Scandal! Call the admins! Better yet call the police! How did they dare to get sexual gratification from ... a sex site!