What’s your most controversial opinion?

There isn’t a parenting handbook and there certainly aren’t any “textbook” children. Sure, there are the extremes out there that shouldn’t even be allowed to have contact with the rest of society but in the mainstream, most parents try to do their best and raise their children in the right way. As with everything else in life, you don’t know their story so don’t judge.
"Johnny did nothing wrong, sir. You should apologize to him!"
Right after the brat ran into ME!

Like, I'm supposed to have my head on a swivel to make sure the precious little brat doesn't run into me!
And yes, I have a child, and when he ran into someone, HE apologized!
 
"Johnny did nothing wrong, sir. You should apologize to him!"
Right after the brat ran into ME!

Like, I'm supposed to have my head on a swivel to make sure the precious little brat doesn't run into me!
And yes, I have a child, and when he ran into someone, HE apologized!
FFS kids run all the time! It is a minor incident. If you are getting worked up over something as small as that, what example are you setting your own child. A child’s mind doesn’t always think the way you want it to. Yes, we should be teaching our children to apologise when things like this happen but that child could have just been told the best or worst news in the world to them and an apology might not have been in their foremost thoughts. Sometimes you have to let the smaller things go and fight the bigger battles.
 
FFS kids run all the time! It is a minor incident. If you are getting worked up over something as small as that, what example are you setting your own child. A child’s mind doesn’t always think the way you want it to. Yes, we should be teaching our children to apologise when things like this happen but that child could have just been told the best or worst news in the world to them and an apology might not have been in their foremost thoughts. Sometimes you have to let the smaller things go and fight the bigger battles.
It is NOT THE KID!
It is the PARENT!!!! I worked at Chuck E. Cheese's for God's sake! It's ALWAYS the parents who were the worst, who ARE THE WORST!!
 
It is NOT THE KID!
It is the PARENT!!!! I worked at Chuck E. Cheese's for God's sake! It's ALWAYS the parents who were the worst, who ARE THE WORST!!
Do you think that typing in capitals makes your opinion any more valid? I personally find that offensive. It is as if you are shouting at me to get your point across. There is no need to do that as I can listen without the shouting.

Say you raise your child the right way. They hit their teens and have their whole life ahead of them. They are studying well, compete well in sports, always a pleasure to be around and you are really proud of them. One day something happens and it hits them personally, they start to withdraw, stop working on their studies, don’t turn up for training sessions. They turn to drugs. They start to steal to feed their habit, they don’t have any pride in themselves, they couldn’t give a shit about the people around them. You try to get them help but nothing works. Is it the parent then, or is it the child?
 
Do you think that typing in capitals makes your opinion any more valid? I personally find that offensive. It is as if you are shouting at me to get your point across. There is no need to do that as I can listen without the shouting.

Say you raise your child the right way. They hit their teens and have their whole life ahead of them. They are studying well, compete well in sports, always a pleasure to be around and you are really proud of them. One day something happens and it hits them personally, they start to withdraw, stop working on their studies, don’t turn up for training sessions. They turn to drugs. They start to steal to feed their habit, they don’t have any pride in themselves, they couldn’t give a shit about the people around them. You try to get them help but nothing works. Is it the parent then, or is it the child?
Your reading comprehension is abysmal and you're now trying to gaslight my opinion with words.

The parent's attitude was the problem. What part of that do you not understand? Where did I blame the child?
 
Your reading comprehension is abysmal and you're now trying to gaslight my opinion with words.

The parent's attitude was the problem. What part of that do you not understand? Where did I blame the child?
I am not trying to gaslight you at all. You had an opinion and so did I. Don’t turn yourself into a victim.

I was trying to give an example of how sometimes people see others as bad parents when that isn’t necessarily the case. You said you worked in Chuck E Cheese (I am not familiar with that place but I am guessing a fast food outlet for families) and it was always the parents that were the worst. You are only seeing the life of that parent and child for a tiny snapshot of time but you feel you can use that to judge that parent and other parents as a whole. You also said that when your child ran into somebody he apologised. Indicating that you are a good parent for teaching your child manners. If the only thing parents had to worry about was whether their child had manners or not, then life would be so much easier.
 
Parenting never ends.

It is the fault of the parents...that's just how it is. No one said life is fair. When my boy got in trouble at school....damn right it was my fault. When he got in trouble with the Johnny law...damn right it was my fault. And because it was my fault...he has learned how to move past those days. Parents are 100% responsible for the morality of their children. I don't give a fuck how old they are
 
Parenting never ends.

It is the fault of the parents...that's just how it is. No one said life is fair. When my boy got in trouble at school....damn right it was my fault. When he got in trouble with the Johnny law...damn right it was my fault. And because it was my fault...he has learned how to move past those days. Parents are 100% responsible for the morality of their children. I don't give a fuck how old they are
I agree that parenting never ends and that you give your children a moral compass. How they use that compass is up to them. There are certainly parts that parents are responsible for but at the end of the day, the decisions they make are their decisions. You have given them the foundations to build their lives upon but they will still build it their own way.
 
Parenting never ends.

It is the fault of the parents...that's just how it is. No one said life is fair. When my boy got in trouble at school....damn right it was my fault. When he got in trouble with the Johnny law...damn right it was my fault. And because it was my fault...he has learned how to move past those days. Parents are 100% responsible for the morality of their children. I don't give a fuck how old they are
My parents stopped being responsible for my choices the day I moved out, surely…

I certainly don’t hold them accountable for any moral failings I may have now, twenty-odd years later. Should I?
 
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