What’s your most controversial opinion?

[SherlockianMan]

Two unpopular literary opinions:

Haulden Caulfield is not a literary hero or classic character. He's a whiny little shit that could have benefited from a good slap.

Walden is absolute bullshit. Thoreau was a drunk tax dodger who was camping in Emerson's backyard to avoid his debtors. And his mom was still doing his laundry.

 

[Lady2020]

I think men need to learn how to end things.

 

[jason28053]

Here's some controversy for you -

YES, pineapple belongs on pizza, with crispy bacon and a drizzle of Siracha!

Here is your person @Diosax

 

[Diosax]

Here is your person @Diosax

Look at you match maker

 

[Lady2020]

There's some good humor on here if you put aside your sads bc he didn't show.

 

[Diosax]

There's some good humor on here if you put aside your sads bc he didn't show.

Men like that are trash!

 

[Lady2020]

Men like that are trash!

IDk. Think about it. Here are married men who don't want to risk what they've built up and yet have to hide who they are.

 

[Diosax]

IDk. Think about it. Here are married men who don't want to risk what they've built up and yet have to hide who they are.

Oh soooo many people hide who they are here

They pretend to be all deep but in reality they hide their true selves!

Blessing in disguise maybe? Not cool though.

 

[AlexBailey]

Oh soooo many people hide who they are here

They pretend to be all deep but in reality they hide their true selves!

Blessing in disguise maybe? Not cool though.

Oh I donno,

Many of the Lit folks I know show their true selves here

 

[Dribble]

Oh soooo many people hide who they are here

They pretend to be all deep but in reality they hide their true selves!

Blessing in disguise maybe? Not cool though.

But see...they did show themselves.

 

[Lady2020]

Oh soooo many people hide who they are here

They pretend to be all deep but in reality they hide their true selves!

Blessing in disguise maybe? Not cool though.

I tend to think that most Litsters have a core character. They have values they believe in. It's understandable they don't want anything to come between their real lives. IDT it's too much to expect that a man doesn't bullshit me with inconstency. I also imagine men on Lit are dealing with the same from women.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

That is the perfect controversial comment after *I* bumped this thread

Couldn't have gone better if I planned for it

*cough @LaisDeMarieDeFrance

You are dead to me for the 3,529th time.

 

[Diosax]

But see...they did show themselves.

True

 

[AlexBailey]

OMG this thread, lol.

And Pineapple on pizza? The song that never ends

Pineapple, garlic, and rock shrimp.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Oh I donno,

Many of the Lit folks I know show their true selves here

I think it's been about 50/50 for me. But those who do let me in. Become vulnerable are the ones I welcome the most.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Oh I donno,

Many of the Lit folks I know show their true selves here

I think it's been about 50/50 for me. But those who do let me in. Become vulnerable are the ones I welcome the most.

It's always seemed to me that people are like diamonds. They have different facets and depending on where you stand you get the light from those different facets. Like diamonds, there are imperfections, often buried deep. They may effect how the light shines through from different directions, and are visible only to those who get close enough to peer inside.

Lit - no different really than anywhere else - lets us see only a few facets of someone. Sometimes they are facets that shine brightly but are often hidden from the rest of the world, sometimes they are the worst facets, and sometimes it is a place where people can show a beautiful facet that they feel they must hide elsewhere.

Just my two cents.

 

[SassySheDevil]

It's always seemed to me that people are like diamonds. They have different facets and depending on where you stand you get the light from those different facets. Like diamonds, there are imperfections, often buried deep. They may effect how the light shines through from different directions, and are visible only to those who get close enough to peer inside.

Lit - no different really than anywhere else - lets us see only a few facets of someone. Sometimes they are facets that shine brightly but are often hidden from the rest of the world, sometimes they are the worst facets, and sometimes it is a place where people can show a beautiful facet that they feel they must hide elsewhere.

Just my two cents.

I agree with you. I just cherish those who will let me in on the imperfections. Who let me in. Period. No one is perfect and I am okay with swapping the worst of ourselves.

 

[shenglung]

I tend to think that most Litsters have a core character. They have values they believe in. It's understandable they don't want anything to come between their real lives. IDT it's too much to expect that a man doesn't bullshit me with inconstency. I also imagine men on Lit are dealing with the same from women.

From time to time everyone runs into someone that's hiding there true self and intent. I've gone into detail about one of my own experiences in a post about my time here.

Pineapple, garlic, and rock shrimp.

Now back to the controversy at hand, ham and pineapple pizza is the greatest pizza there is. For the love of all that is holy though keep your seafood away from my pizza. I'm having nightmares of my mom and brother putting anchovies on theres. Sorry Alex your a great person but we are never sharing pizza. Lol

 

[jaF0]

I don’t know about that because it wasn’t me.

Yes, that’s true. But only amongst friends. Never in a situation where it was an undisclosed punishment. I’m only human after all.

Six Months, no WoB.

 

[RjThoughts]

Some people should have taken parenting classes BEFORE deciding to have children!

 

[Strixaluco]

Some people should have taken parenting classes BEFORE deciding to have children!

Or just never have any at all.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Some people should have taken parenting classes BEFORE deciding to have children!

Or just never have any at all.

There isn’t a parenting handbook and there certainly aren’t any “textbook” children. Sure, there are the extremes out there that shouldn’t even be allowed to have contact with the rest of society but in the mainstream, most parents try to do their best and raise their children in the right way. As with everything else in life, you don’t know their story so don’t judge.

 

[Strixaluco]

There isn’t a parenting handbook and there certainly aren’t any “textbook” children. Sure, there are the extremes out there that shouldn’t even be allowed to have contact with the rest of society but in the mainstream, most parents try to do their best and raise their children in the right way. As with everything else in life, you don’t know their story so don’t judge.

I'm not talking about "most parents", the ordinary parents with faults - we all have faults, with or without kids. I'm talking about the actually horrible cases which aren't included in those.
There are parents who think having kids destroyed their life, and direct their frustration to the kid. Parents who don't even really try to be responsible (like leaving a 3yo home alone at night and going to a bar). And cases a lot worse than that. Truly people unfit for parenthood.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm not talking about "most parents", the ordinary parents with faults - we all have faults, with or without kids. I'm talking about the actually horrible cases which aren't included in those.
There are parents who think having kids destroyed their life, and direct their frustration to the kid. Parents who don't even really try to be responsible (like leaving a 3yo home alone at night and going to a bar). And cases a lot worse than that. Truly people unfit for parenthood.

I did say there were extremes but let me ask you a question…

There is a young, pregnant girl who has just moved in a few doors down. She had a boyfriend and everything was going well until she fell pregnant and he did a runner. Now she is all alone with a baby on the way. She works full-time so doesn’t really have time to get to know her neighbours. Her parents have died and she was an only child. She keeps herself to herself and doesn’t cause anybody any bother. The baby arrives and she takes to motherhood well. She returns to working full-time so that she can provide for her child rather than live on benefits. The child goes to a good nursery during the day. The girl gets up at 5am every day, drops the child at nursery and then goes to work. She picks the child up at 6pm, goes home, plays with the child while dinner cooks, feeds herself and the child, runs a bath for the child, has a fun bathtime and then tucks the child into bed, reads them a story and kisses them goodnight. It is 8pm by this time then the young girl sets about doing household chores to keep the house clean. At 10pm she showers and makes her way to bed ready to do the same thing again tomorrow. At the weekend she spends quality time with her child, going to the park or the lake, playing games and doing crafts at home. This continues for 3 years.

Are you the neighbour that keeps peeking behind your curtains waiting for her to put a foot wrong or are you the neighbour that tries to strike up conversation with her, to ask if she would like you to watch the child for a couple of hours to give her a break?

 

[Strixaluco]

I did say there were extremes but let me ask you a question…

There is a young, pregnant girl who has just moved in a few doors down. She had a boyfriend and everything was going well until she fell pregnant and he did a runner. Now she is all alone with a baby on the way. She works full-time so doesn’t really have time to get to know her neighbours. Her parents have died and she was an only child. She keeps herself to herself and doesn’t cause anybody any bother. The baby arrives and she takes to motherhood well. She returns to working full-time so that she can provide for her child rather than live on benefits. The child goes to a good nursery during the day. The girl gets up at 5am every day, drops the child at nursery and then goes to work. She picks the child up at 6pm, goes home, plays with the child while dinner cooks, feeds herself and the child, runs a bath for the child, has a fun bathtime and then tucks the child into bed, reads them a story and kisses them goodnight. It is 8pm by this time then the young girl sets about doing household chores to keep the house clean. At 10pm she showers and makes her way to bed ready to do the same thing again tomorrow. At the weekend she spends quality time with her child, going to the park or the lake, playing games and doing crafts at home. This continues for 3 years.

Are you the neighbour that keeps peeking behind your curtains waiting for her to put a foot wrong or are you the neighbour that tries to strike up conversation with her, to ask if she would like you to watch the child for a couple of hours to give her a break?

I'm the one trying to talk to her. I might not be the best one to watch a child, but I would try to get some help. I am generally a forgiving and understanding person, the one giving the benefit of doubt, but not without limits.

The actual parent in my mind leaving a toddler home alone was actually a teacher, of all professions. Got enough child support to actually pay for someone too watch after the kid (and they really lived comfortably). Also she left the kid home alone much more than occasionally, and of course several other things as well. I met the kid for the first time as 8 year old. Afraid of dark and being alone, and pretty much grabbing any adult feeling safe. Now the kid is, luckily, already an adult and a new mother. I just wonder where she picks her models for motherhood... I hope she has found some good ones.