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[stickygirl]

It's trans awareness week 13th - 19th November
If you know a trans person in real life, send them a message and say you're thinking of them

 

[coati]

I'm thinking of all the trans people I know, including you two, SG and GC. Thanks for sharing with us on this forum.

 

[Paradox]

It's trans awareness week 13th - 19th November
If you know a trans person in real life, send them a message and say you're thinking of them

A very happy trans awareness week to you!

 

[Crios]

It's trans awareness week 13th - 19th November
If you know a trans person in real life, send them a message and say you're thinking of them

Thinking of all my trans friends! You as well, sticky!

 

[Scareltt]

My thoughts are with the Transgender community…

 

[drobert44]

Yep, their life aint easy.........

 

[stickygirl]

Thanks all. It's the day of remembrance tomorrow Sunday 20th. There is a small gathering in the city centre for that commemoration and sadly two trans people in the county have taken their lives this year
It's important to have these meetings but I dread them too.

 

[drobert44]

Thanks all. It's the day of remembrance tomorrow Sunday 20th. There is a small gathering in the city centre for that commemoration and sadly two trans people in the county have taken their lives this year
It's important to have these meetings but I dread them too.

All they want is to be a girl....

 

[stickygirl]

All they want is to be a girl....

Often, but in this case, both dudes. I'd seen one around and I'm guessing he had a truckload of other issues going on. Sucks.

 

[drobert44]

My T girl can't find a man. Even had a penectomy, for $25K........taught me all about the lifestyle.

 

[stickygirl]

I've followed Charlie since around 2012 and posted a link to her before. She's trans and a professional racing driver. In her words, she realised two goals. Here's a link to a video posted earlier in 2022. She's a heck of an inspiration

 

[Monsterfan77]

I am very curious and don't want to ask anything too dumb

 

[stickygirl]

I am very curious and don't want to ask anything too dumb

No such thing as a stupid question

 

[Monsterfan77]

I really hope you still think so after I start asking

 

[stickygirl]

I really hope you still think so after I start asking

It's Friday evening (here) I've had a glass, I'm watching my fav band on YT. What could go wrong? Also... now intrigued

... no pressure then!

Or PM me

 

[stickygirl]

That's what I think whenever I get the random PM, haha. Better that people learn than for all of us to turn them away!

*shrug* it always has been the premise of the thread - to answer questions, though the interest in it has dropped off quite a bit. I put that down to people at Lit being more informed about trans women generally and another reason. Most people are genuinely interested, some think that I'm here for kicks. It's Lit - anything goes really

 

[Paradox]

*shrug* it always has been the premise of the thread - to answer questions, though the interest in it has dropped off quite a bit. I put that down to people at Lit being more informed about trans women generally and another reason. Most people are genuinely interested, some think that I'm here for kicks. It's Lit - anything goes really

You've been a great resource for those of us who want to learn. Many thanks.

 

[stickygirl]

Just discovered one of my favourites authors is an official trans ally - Joanne Harris. She has a trans son and ended up in twitter trouble for allegedly taking a swipe at Fr JKR. Those haters are so sensitive, poor snow flakes

 

[stickygirl]

Are there any web sites you like to visit, other than this one, for chatting or similar community? Not necessarily a hook up site.

On a more personal note, if I could only get one "adult toy" to keep hidden, what would you recommend

I've got Tumblr blog but that's not really a chat site. Then I use WhatsApp for people that insist on using it... ( not a fan of Zuckerberk ). There's some pages I used to visit on Reddit but there's always so many angry people so, no, I guess not! I'd maybe try tiktok but then I waste too much time already!
Toys? It's going to depend on your anatomy. I've got a buttplug somewhere - a vibrating one but it never gives the vibe you need in the moment. My bf is my hidden toy - hidden in broad daylight

 

[coati]

I've got Tumblr blog but that's not really a chat site. Then I use WhatsApp for people that insist on using it... ( not a fan of Zuckerberk ). There's some pages I used to visit on Reddit but there's always so many angry people so, no, I guess not! I'd maybe try tiktok but then I waste too much time already!
Toys? It's going to depend on your anatomy. I've got a buttplug somewhere - a vibrating one but it never gives the vibe you need in the moment. My bf is my hidden toy - hidden in broad daylight

I've learned so much from your thread. And, similar to what I've observed with other trans people, I've really enjoyed seeing how much you've benefited from making your transition. You had a lot of skills to begin with, but being liberated to express your true self has brought these skills to a whole new level.

It seems that so much of this success depends on having some key people in your life support you. I know a 13-year-old whose parents are fully supporting their trans son. I saw him at the beginning of November for the first time in over a year. He is so much more settled and happier in his childhood for being recognized for who he is.

 

[stickygirl]

I've learned so much from your thread. And, similar to what I've observed with other trans people, I've really enjoyed seeing how much you've benefited from making your transition. You had a lot of skills to begin with, but being liberated to express your true self has brought these skills to a whole new level.

It seems that so much of this success depends on having some key people in your life support you. I know a 13-year-old whose parents are fully supporting their trans son. I saw him at the beginning of November for the first time in over a year. He is so much more settled and happier in his childhood for being recognized for who he is.

It's why the word transition is so apt. The journey is the difficult part - when you're inexperienced, socially anxious, uncertain, while trying to navigate perhaps a second puberty, old friendships melting down, inability to work or focus on tasks... You do need emotional and financial support and the landmarks of reliable people to guide you.

There are no guarantees to life and even less if you break all the Conditions of Sale on the label they give you at birth. You have to discover your own path and own version of who you are, like any teenager I suppose. No one enjoys being a teenager, no one enjoys transitioning, but hopefully you get through it a better person.

 

[AlexBailey]

Somewhere on the forum I’ve mentioned my wife’s brother’s family. The mom works full time and the dad stays home with the 10 yo femme boy and the 6 yo tomboy girl.

My wife and her siblings were raised in a very conservative household, one where tv sports rules every holiday and there have always been a clear difference in gender roles, but the young niece and nephew are not going with the program.

This last Halloween the son dressed as his female Fortnight character, dressed down completely in miniskirt, tights, heels, long wig, and dark but completely femme makeup done by his mother. He was completely passing in a hot game-avatar kind of way.

The daughter was a very masculine ghoul.

The parents said “that’s what they wanted to be for Halloween.” I’m guessing this is just the first outward presentation for these kids to blaze their own trails in their own versions of their gender roles.

The grandparents are in complete denial.


Halloween is a common time for US kids to experiment with their alt-egos and gender switching is not uncommon. I remember wanting to dress up as female when I was young but my mom would try to spin it off into something else, like the time she made me a Peter Pan costume but by the time I was out with friends some people thought I was supposed to be Tinkerbell.

 

[coati]

No one enjoys being a teenager, no one enjoys transitioning, but hopefully you get through it a better person.

You certainly did, and the young person I saw earlier this month is enjoying life with his peers much more now that he is getting the help he needs. He gets to be a kid, finally, and not have to deal with an overwhelming burden of internal conflict. The externals will continue to be a challenge in this world, but he has less internal conflict now.

I've known his father since his father was a toddler, and it gives me a great sense of relief that he and his wife are being so supportive.

 

[Oshkosh60]

Who was the first person you wore in front of? Who was most supportive of you in your journey? Who first took you shopping?

 

[stickygirl]

Who was the first person you wore in front of? Who was most supportive of you in your journey? Who first took you shopping?

Good questions! I never really knew my Dad, so I grew up with Mum and my sister. I need to be careful about breaking age rules at Lit so I'll be vague. Lets say, I wasn't bullied or threatened into role playing at home so I've never been stranger to female culture. Pretending to be a boy was the weird act.
My mother was my rock. Yup totally. I was blessed - still am.
If a bank card was needed then obviously it would be with Mum. I'd hang out with friends in shopping malls and annoy shop assistants like you do as a kid.