Photog1rl
Pleasure lover
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Taking on all the responsibility seems like a heavy load. As family and friends we share the responsibility for communication.I have been so dysfunctional, In my early life, I often tried to express myself with music - I thought other people “felt” it like I did. I played a part of a Rolling Stones song for my mother, stupidly thinking she would “get it“, what I was trying to say… she instead ridiculed me because I misunderstood the lyrics. I was probably 12, and instead of acknowledging what I thought Mick said, she corrected me and thus invalidated what I was trying to say. And made me feel like a total idiot for my effort to connect.
A few years later, I tried to tell my sister how I loved her and admired her, playing a Kinks song “come dancing” which would often literally bring me to tears… yeah, like my mother, she didn’t understand at all.
They were not at fault, the problem was with me. I was broken (have been for my whole life). I was not able to express my emotions apparently how they could understand.
And ridicule never has a place in that. I’m so sorry you’ve felt broken.
Sending you big huge hugs!
I humbly ask this, when someone in your family reaches out to you, and you have no idea what they mean and think they must be an idiot, please try to pay a little more attention. They might be desperately reaching for you.