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[AcerbusX]

That's so sad.

And complicated, too. Thinking back to my vanilla life, I've only had 2 partners that could have gotten a cautious "ok we can try it" if they had suggested that I should submit or even be their little. It just takes a different kind of partner than almost all my past ones have been, some where not Dom-types at all and some that might have been I wouldn't ever have given that kind of power over me. It takes a special kind of person to get me to submit - one might be an good partner in the vanilla sense and a trustworthy Dom and yet not make me want to give up the power.

This is not the only site, FetLife is a place for BDSM people to meet (think kinky Facebook), but I actually strongly prefer Lit over FetLife. FL is good for finding local meetings, "munches", though.

Why thank you, that's incredibly helpful.
I think it was a whole trust issue with her, she had control and trust issues her whole life, and she just couldn't bring herself to trust me to be her Dom. And if she couldn't trust me on something like that, then the relationship wouldn't have worked out.
I'm actually ok with NOT having a little right now because, quite frankly, I have NO clue as to what I'm doing. Not only am I vanilla, but I'm also really inexperienced in being a Dom. And Lit has helped me in the past, so I'm hoping to learn a few things from here before finding my little.

 

[Strixaluco]

Why thank you, that's incredibly helpful.
I think it was a whole trust issue with her, she had control and trust issues her whole life, and she just couldn't bring herself to trust me to be her Dom. And if she couldn't trust me on something like that, then the relationship wouldn't have worked out.

For someone with control and trust issues submitting may indeed be totally impossible. Even the thought may be utterly terrifying. It requires handing over power that people usually keep to themselves. It is the ultimate level of trust - there are men I could trust to protect me literally with their lives if needed, yet submitting is another thing. To be able to let go I need to be able to trust that my Dom will not do some things even accidentally, and that he will understand to take care of some other things. That he is able to read me well enough.

Of course I am also looking this as a little. I want my partner to be not just a Dom in the bedroom but also a Daddy outside the bedroom. It brings more aspects to the equation that all must click at the same time.

I'm actually ok with NOT having a little right now because, quite frankly, I have NO clue as to what I'm doing. Not only am I vanilla, but I'm also really inexperienced in being a Dom. And Lit has helped me in the past, so I'm hoping to learn a few things from here before finding my little.

You have been vanilla, you are not anymore as you now know you are a Dom (though you may still lead vanilla life, of course). Reading is good. Having more experienced Doms mentoring is even better I think. Being a Dom brings along a big responsibility.

 

[IARainman]

Hi
I have visited Lit in the past to read but only recently looked around the Forum and chat. Okay I love this place because I can be whatever I want and no one says whore, slut, cock sucker! Well, some of you do LOL hahaha
My bf is deployed. Soooo this is my place of revenge and cheating I have never been shy as my post will testify. Now there are a lot of really sexy pretty girls on here and I am not here to compete - just to have fun with people I will never see or meet I like good girls and kind guys

I’ve always loved the anonymity of online play/chat. I find it freeing because I mostly don’t care what people think ( well I guess I do, but mostly just love that I can express myself without too much judgement)

Welcome!

You can see I’ve been here a while. I was gone a while, not sure why, but enjoying being back

 

[IARainman]

Hi
I have visited Lit in the past to read but only recently looked around the Forum and chat. Okay I love this place because I can be whatever I want and no one says whore, slut, cock sucker! Well, some of you do LOL hahaha
My bf is deployed. Soooo this is my place of revenge and cheating I have never been shy as my post will testify. Now there are a lot of really sexy pretty girls on here and I am not here to compete - just to have fun with people I will never see or meet I like good girls and kind guys

I’ve always loved the anonymity of online play/chat. I find it freeing because I mostly don’t care what people think ( well I guess I do, but mostly just love that I can express myself without too much judgement)

Welcome!

You can see I’ve been here a while. I was gone a while, not sure why, but enjoying being back

 

[AcerbusX]

For someone with control and trust issues submitting may indeed be totally impossible. Even the thought may be utterly terrifying. It requires handing over power that people usually keep to themselves. It is the ultimate level of trust - there are men I could trust to protect me literally with their lives if needed, yet submitting is another thing. To be able to let go I need to be able to trust that my Dom will not do some things even accidentally, and that he will understand to take care of some other things. That he is able to read me well enough.

Of course I am also looking this as a little. I want my partner to be not just a Dom in the bedroom but also a Daddy outside the bedroom. It brings more aspects to the equation

For someone with control and trust issues submitting may indeed be totally impossible. Even the thought may be utterly terrifying. It requires handing over power that people usually keep to themselves. It is the ultimate level of trust - there are men I could trust to protect me literally with their lives if needed, yet submitting is another thing. To be able to let go I need to be able to trust that my Dom will not do some things even accidentally, and that he will understand to take care of some other things. That he is able to read me well enough.

Of course I am also looking this as a little. I want my partner to be not just a Dom in the bedroom but also a Daddy outside the bedroom. It brings more aspects to the equation that all must click at the same time.

And that's all I want, to love and cherish my little, to master her in the bed, and loving daddy outside the bed.

Thank you so much for listening to me. There is nobody outside the board I can talk too about this stuff.

 

[Strixaluco]

And that's all I want, to love and cherish my little, to master her in the bed, and loving daddy outside the bed.

Thank you so much for listening to me. There is nobody outside the board I can talk too about this stuff.

There is a thread called Daddy's Little Girl (now version 3 already) that you would certainly enjoy. It is totally about DDlg - sometimes talking seriously about things within the dynamic or someone's experiences, sometimes just enjoying being together with other Daddies and littles, fooling around a little and having fun.

 

[AcerbusX]

There is a thread called Daddy's Little Girl (now version 3 already) that you would certainly enjoy. It is totally about DDlg - sometimes talking seriously about things within the dynamic or someone's experiences, sometimes just enjoying being together with other Daddies and littles, fooling around a little and having fun.

Thank you, I'll check it out

 

[Neat_bourbon_Kitten]

I am older, 57, and brand new to the page and BDSM. I have been very blessed to find an amazing Dom that helps me explore in such a safe, protected fashion. I finally feel free and more of my authentic self. The quote above really resonated with me. I am a natural submissive. Never in a million years in my vanilla life would I have thought I could relinquish control, but now I do so freely. Glad to find this community of like minded explorers.

 

[petes478]

I am older, 57, and brand new to the page and BDSM. I have been very blessed to find an amazing Dom that helps me explore in such a safe, protected fashion. I finally feel free and more of my authentic self. The quote above really resonated with me. I am a natural submissive. Never in a million years in my vanilla life would I have thought I could relinquish control, but now I do so freely. Glad to find this community of like minded explorers.

Interesting

 

[Isevil1976]

Hello all, been a member of Lit for a while maybe since 2016 or so but haven’t been online here in about 2 or 3 years… took a little hiatus is all. Glad to be back!!

 

[Neat_bourbon_Kitten]

Interesting

Hopefully positive interesting?

 

[Smarthomanid2]

I’ve always loved the anonymity of online play/chat. I find it freeing because I mostly don’t care what people think ( well I guess I do, but mostly just love that I can express myself without too much judgement)

Welcome!

You can see I’ve been here a while. I was gone a while, not sure why, but enjoying being back

Love what you both said. I too have read stories and that's all for many years. Just joined because a friend said something about the forums, and I was like Whaaaaat. I also love to chat with people and learn all kinds of naughty, kinky, hilarious, interesting things about people and life.

 

[Smarthomanid2]

Hi, I too have lurked around for a couple months, so thought it would be fun to join up and say hi. So hi

Something to do while the cat’s away, lol that’s great. Where’s that cat?

 

[kathyisgr65]

Hola..not new to lit...I'm just incapable of remembering passwords...others screen names where...long ago-krackheadkathy
More recently-krankybytch
Maybe y'all can find them or remember...or I'm starting all over again..growl

 

[Smarthomanid2]

He travels a lot, so it’s easy to get bored.

This place is the pill for boredom for sure!!!

 

[Smarthomanid2]

LOL, I think I like this pill a little more than I should

It has some strange side effects though. Unexplained Stiffness, excessive wetness

 

[thefishfryer]

Hola..not new to lit...I'm just incapable of remembering passwords...others screen names where...long ago-krackheadkathy
More recently-krankybytch
Maybe y'all can find them or remember...or I'm starting all over again..growl

Didn't anyone tell you that passwords should be written on post-it notes and stuck to fridge door?

 

[kathyisgr65]

Didn't anyone tell you that passwords should be written on post-it notes and stuck to fridge door?

Now u tell me...3 profiles later..

 

[thefishfryer]

Now u tell me...3 profiles later..

I had to change mine when we got a new fridge.

 

[kathyisgr65]

I had to change mine when we got a new fridge. i truly adore someone who can make me laugh. Ty

 

[barefootgirl69]

There is a thread called Daddy's Little Girl (now version 3 already) that you would certainly enjoy. It is totally about DDlg - sometimes talking seriously about things within the dynamic or someone's experiences, sometimes just enjoying being together with other Daddies and littles, fooling around a little and having fun.

Thank you, I'll check it out

We would love to have you explore our thread and add to it! It's always nice to have thoughts from the DD perspective and, especially, if they show up with cookies!

 

[Msbau071]

Hello everyone!
I’ve been on fetlife & was told to try Lit so here I am.
I have a significant other. We live together in a cute little house. Also have an amazing prince that introduced me to the lifestyle when I was 19 & has always given me exactly what I need & then some.

Love to chat w/others that share a similar lifestyle.

"You're mine. The minute I told you to spread your legs and you did it, you were mine. When I told you to beg for it and you did, you were mine. When you put your hands behind your back without being told, I owned you. You never had to say a word. You're a natural submissive." — C.D. Reiss​

Naturally submissive, I’ve never thought of it that way, but here I am.

 

[Darkweather]

Hello.
Im relatively new here and still finding my way around ... on which seems a rather quaint forum.

Older Dom guy who should know better with a soft spot for littles and brats.

Nice to meet you.

 

[Strixaluco]

Older Dom guy who should know better with a soft spot for littles and brats.

In that case, see also barefootgirls post above!

 

[irishsin]

Old Irish guy out of the "local scene" for quiet some time - but occasionally finds a way to stray