Faithfully married people who are turned by the IDEA of adultery/cheating?

[GPLockwood]

(44/MWM/Southern Illinois)
Are there any other married people out there who have never actually cheated on our partners, but who admit to being really just insanely turned on by the idea of breaking our wedding vows, perhaps with someone else's spouse? For me, while I hate the possible consequences of real-life cheating (although I've had some hot friendships over the years where we came closer than I ever intended) I love the forbidden, taboo, dangerous nature of that whole fantasy. Everything just feels so naughty about it! Adultery is about the most forbidden thing a married person can do in bed, and after years of marriage to a woman who has very little interest in sex, the idea of getting to just go wild in the bedroom and experience all the pleasure we've been denied for years with someone else who has felt the same way- that would have to just be incredibly hot! I don't know if we would feel shy about having new lovers for the first time in years, or of we would simply collapse into a withing tangle of raw, desperate, dirty sex. Using each other to meet our long-neglected needs together. I'm visualizing two barely-restrained dams holding back lakes of pure lust being allowed to burst together at the same time- and then I could go home to my wife with another woman's forbidden juices still drying on my married cock. Just to be desired again for the first time in years would feel amazing, and the fact that it's so totally and completely wrong somehow makes me want or even more.

And the funny part is, I'll bet nobody who knows me has a clue that I feel this way. I've always been the nice, quiet, responsible, "good guy" in the group. I think the fact that it feels so out-of-character for me makes it feel even naughtier and hotter. I love the thought of two good, nice married people who nobody would ever suspect doing the most forbidden and naughty thing we possibly can together! Any other otherwise good, faithful, normal spouses who (maybe) haven't ever actually cheated and don't ever plan to, but willing to admit that they secretly fantasize about risking everything for hot, steamy, forbidden sex with someone else's spouse?

 

[agedmac]

For years, my best friend has had a secret desire to find out his wife cheating on him. They are very close to another couple whom they vacation with at the beach and my friend and his the 'other wife' end up staying up late at night as their spouses go on to bed. My friend and the other wife talk frankly about sexual needs and one night sitting on the swing w/ the other she admitted to having a deep desire to sleep with my friend. He let his hand rest on her bare thigh (she was wearing a long t-shirt. She grabbed his wrist and he thought she was going to push his hand away. Instead she guided his fingers below her shirt and he found her wet pussy with his fingers. He lightly grazed her labia a few times and then they heard one of their spouses get up for a bathroom stop.

He told me all this and is convinced that they could ruin their marriage but the 'almost' nature of what has happened.........

 

[Mystories189]

I ended up cheating on my husband with a guy from the gym. I drove to the back behind the gym where no one goes. He fucked me on top of my car and I guess I was little loud, because a few people from the gym heard me apparently. Photos were taken. It git back to my husband. He threatened divorce.
But I caught him staring at the picture masterbating. I told him that it doesn't look like he's mad about it now. I told me that he's not going to lie, it is pretty fucking hot. Since, I've able to cheat guilt free since.

 

[Sassyunicorn]

My first marriage was pretty bad, so sex was completely out of the question. I longed to feel desired by another woman. When a woman finally gave me the attention I craved, I gave in and cheated on my wife. That woman was also married. From then I found it fairly easy to find women interested enough in me to have sex with me. It finally emboldened me to get a divorce.

I still have fantasies about cheating. I adore cheating women. I love the taboo and risk of cheating. I'm in a happy, healthy marriage now, so I have no desire to cheat on my wife. I haven't been out looking, but I have to admit it would be pretty damn hard not to if a woman were to make the first move. The real-life consequences aren't worth it in this marriage, so I intend to keep it just fantasy. I've talked to my wife about cheating, but she has made it clear that it is a definite deal breaker for her. She knows my thoughts on it and that she has a free pass if she ever wants to use it.

 

[shinybikiniwife]

There is always an allure for the unknown, the random...

Is it worth it? Overwhelmingly no. Does the fantasy idea persist? Yes...

 

[Nylonian]

We have an open relationship so this isn't really a fantasy per se but it's hot hearing about my partner's experiences when they happen. It's been a bit quiet lately on that front with the Pandemic and everything but we're still quite intimate with each other and like to fantasise about various scenarios.

 

[gtnlynn]

We have been in love for many years, dated for almost 8 and married for 40. She enjoyed having sex with other men in college, although she told all of them that she was devoted to me and they were just for fun. After we became engaged, she did not have sex with anyone else. After we had been married about 10 years, I asked her if she missed the variety of other cocks, and she paused long enough that I took her answer to be "yes." So I gave her permission to have sex with others. She ended up having sex with a few younger men and one older man whom she met through her work at a medical office. Part of the deal was that she had to tell me all about it, and she did. I enjoyed the stories, and she seemed to get turned on by telling them. When she turned 40, she stopped the outside sex and never did it again. She still has permission.

 

[Roughscrewu]

I have meet a few women nearing 50 and married who wanted to explore a few Fantasies while they still could.
I'm sure they weren't unique.

 

[Mystories189]

That was me first few years of my marriage. I slipped up a few times when I was dating my husband including my wedding day, but I was committed to being good after getting married. Then I met an old high-school friend and we rekindled our friendship. We exchanged pictures, then I cheated with him in a big way. Since, I've fucked countless men, still married.

 

[Cdn_Couple]

Agree completely and very well said.

 

[Tribe77]

Great post. Agree 100%. I've not cheated, but fear that I would if given the right opportunity. It's a battle.

 

[NC_Coastal]

When in college, I was a lifeguard at Myrtle Beach. I have stories. There's something about married women, away from the family, salt air, alcohol and no witnesses.

 

[EStaccato]

Yes. Me. Absolutely me. All of the things.

 

[Bbl87]

Yes, big fantasy of mine. I've chatted plenty online, but never done anything in real life.

That being said, I'm less sure of the fact that I wouldn't follow through if given the opportunity, especially with one particular individual I've gotten to know on Lit. She lives several states away, which will likely prevent it from ever happening, but a man can dream. Alot of that goes back to the feeling of being desired, as described in the OP. Haven't felt that for some time.

 

[MichiganBiker27]

That was me first few years of my marriage. I slipped up a few times when I was dating my husband including my wedding day, but I was committed to being good after getting married. Then I met an old high-school friend and we rekindled our friendship. We exchanged pictures, then I cheated with him in a big way. Since, I've fucked countless men, still married.

What happened on your wedding day?

 

[Justfantasies]

I think that if you are thinking about it so much that you comment on it here you are 95 percent of the way there

 

[Mystories189]

What happened on your wedding day?

Jerked off one of my male friends

 

[Justfantasies]

Jerked off one of my male friends

Did the new hubby know?

 

[littlecordelera]

I'm pretty sure every normal, healthy, adult, married or not, fantasizes about sex with other people. Those who do not are not normal.

 

[georgerb]

Never touched or kissed another woman during my marriage, but my existence on here pretty much is a way to play out those cheating fantasies as well as other things I might not try out in the real world.

I think there are a number of folks on here that play out their fantasies. Isn’t that what Lit is mainly about?

 

[georgerb]

And sometimes things happen where you achieve them….

 

[Bbl87]

Never touched or kissed another woman during my marriage, but my existence on here pretty much is a way to play out those cheating fantasies as well as other things I might not try out in the real world.

Ya, I'd agree with that for the most part.

Though, if you really connect with someone on here, you can get to a point where following through on it doesn't seem so out there. That's where I'm at right now.

 

[sixfoot4]

I think there are a number of folks on here that play out their fantasies. Isn’t that what Lit is mainly about?

Lit is 100% fantasy.

 

[sixfoot4]

Married twice. Had long term fuck buddies through each. Enjoyed ourselves but no romance, affection yes. Of course, as soon as you walk in your wife susses you've been fucking so try to put a day between the fuck and going home.

 

[MarionsLover]

(44/MWM/Southern Illinois)
Are there any other married people out there who have never actually cheated on our partners, but who admit to being really just insanely turned on by the idea of breaking our wedding vows, perhaps with someone else's spouse? For me, while I hate the possible consequences of real-life cheating (although I've had some hot friendships over the years where we came closer than I ever intended) I love the forbidden, taboo, dangerous nature of that whole fantasy. Everything just feels so naughty about it! Adultery is about the most forbidden thing a married person can do in bed, and after years of marriage to a woman who has very little interest in sex, the idea of getting to just go wild in the bedroom and experience all the pleasure we've been denied for years with someone else who has felt the same way- that would have to just be incredibly hot! I don't know if we would feel shy about having new lovers for the first time in years, or of we would simply collapse into a withing tangle of raw, desperate, dirty sex. Using each other to meet our long-neglected needs together. I'm visualizing two barely-restrained dams holding back lakes of pure lust being allowed to burst together at the same time- and then I could go home to my wife with another woman's forbidden juices still drying on my married cock. Just to be desired again for the first time in years would feel amazing, and the fact that it's so totally and completely wrong somehow makes me want or even more.

And the funny part is, I'll bet nobody who knows me has a clue that I feel this way. I've always been the nice, quiet, responsible, "good guy" in the group. I think the fact that it feels so out-of-character for me makes it feel even naughtier and hotter. I love the thought of two good, nice married people who nobody would ever suspect doing the most forbidden and naughty thing we possibly can together! Any other otherwise good, faithful, normal spouses who (maybe) haven't ever actually cheated and don't ever plan to, but willing to admit that they secretly fantasize about risking everything for hot, steamy, forbidden sex with someone else's spouse?

You have articulated my experience quite well.
Fortunately I'm not terribly handsome. I'm just a short, terribly average, balding, "nice" guy, so temptation has never come my way. Or when it did, I was either feeling strong or wasn't tempted by her.

Conversely I'm also turned on by the idea of coming home to my wife passionately fucking someone else and either watching and wanking or joining in.