Why are baby girls so disposable to Daddies?

[brit_vicious99]

The title pretty much says it all.

If youre a little and have been ghosted or inexplicably dumped, please share your experiences so i know im not alone.

If youre a daddy and have done this to your little, what was the reasoning behind it?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I don’t think this is a one-sided thing. Ghosting is a sadly frequent occurrence that is committed by and happens to all sorts of people.

 

[cookiecat]

Have to agree it's not just baby girls and Daddies.

I was in a regular 'ole relationship and was ghosted with no explanation. Disposable is the right word.

I bet there are some baby girls out there who ghost their Daddies!!


It sadly works both ways in all kinds of relationships

 

[ultramarineblue]

I'm so sorry you were ghosted. I agree with the previous two that it happens in all types of relationships. Unfortunately it has become easier to just disappear than deal with the difficulty of telling someone they aren't feeling the relationship for whatever reason. It could partly be avoidance or not wanting to hurt the person even though being ghosted feels worse to me. That is why I often tell people I would rather hear the truth even if it is unpleasant than not. Even then someone could potentially ghost me.

 

[Amberyl]

I think a lot of dominants aren't as aware as they should be (IMO) of the responsibility of owning someone, especially a little! Which of course isn't an excuse, quite the opposite- I personally have been ghosted or just abandoned a few times by daddies and for me, a commitment to clear communication is now absolutely part of any dominant I engage with. That includes letting me know when interest, time or commitment fades- Saves both of us trouble, I think.

 

[Booboobear84]

I think a lot of dominants aren't as aware as they should be (IMO) of the responsibility of owning someone, especially a little! Which of course isn't an excuse, quite the opposite- I personally have been ghosted or just abandoned a few times by daddies and for me, a commitment to clear communication is now absolutely part of any dominant I engage with. That includes letting me know when interest, time or commitment fades- Saves both of us trouble, I think.

Submission is a gift which comes with responsibilities for the dominant. It’s and indication of trust. Fake or inexperienced dominants either don’t realize or worse don’t care. They aren’t true dominants. They are simply bullies and users.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

Not suggesting this is an excuse or a valid reason, but I think people are inexperienced in how to turn people down/let go.

As well as the disconnect that there is a real person behind the screen.

 

[Primalex]

Maybe because most don't take it well when you tell them that you are breaking up and are argumentative and emotionally manipulative.

 

[RoperTrace]

I'm so sorry you were ghosted. I agree with the previous two that it happens in all types of relationships. Unfortunately it has become easier to just disappear than deal with the difficulty of telling someone they aren't feeling the relationship for whatever reason. It could partly be avoidance or not wanting to hurt the person even though being ghosted feels worse to me. That is why I often tell people I would rather hear the truth even if it is unpleasant than not. Even then someone could potentially ghost me.

A few years ago, I was ghosted by a long-term friend and submissive. She had a b.f. and I knew they were breaking up and she was moving back to her hometown, after more than a decade. I called her, shortly before her move, to see how she was doing, and she was distant. Her hometown was a couple of hours away. She didn't respond to my calls, texts, or even my birthday or valentine's cards, nothing over the next year or two. I finally got her daughter-in-law's phone number, who was friendly with me, and asked how she was doing.
She told me that she was sad to tell me that her MIL was in the grip of Alzheimer's but she would try to let her know that I wished her a Happy Birthday. She passed on November, 2020.

 

[ultramarineblue]

A few years ago, I was ghosted by a long-term friend and submissive. She had a b.f. and I knew they were breaking up and she was moving back to her hometown, after more than a decade. I called her, shortly before her move, to see how she was doing, and she was distant. Her hometown was a couple of hours away. She didn't respond to my calls, texts, or even my birthday or valentine's cards, nothing over the next year or two. I finally got her daughter-in-law's phone number, who was friendly with me, and asked how she was doing.
She told me that she was sad to tell me that her MIL was in the grip of Alzheimer's but she would try to let her know that I wished her a Happy Birthday. She passed on November, 2020.

That's so sad. I'm glad that you were able to get some resolution though. Thank you for sharing your experience because I didn't even think of something like that being a reason.

 

[gunfighter6996]

The title pretty much says it all.

If youre a little and have been ghosted or inexplicably dumped, please share your experiences so i know im not alone.

If youre a daddy and have done this to your little, what was the reasoning behind it?

 

[gunfighter6996]

please remove

 

[Primalex]

Ghosting or personal insults are provided by people who are twisted and insecure. Common decency requires that a posting is acknowledged.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Just found your post. Ghosting or personal insults are provided by people who are twisted and insecure. Common decency requires that a posting is acknowledged. If the recipient is not aroused by your offering they should reply with a simple "not Interested" and to be gracious offer you good luck. I am astounded at the lack of manners pervades the computer age. Best of luck in finding a worthy daddy.

g.

Who are you talking to and what is your angle here?

 

[SquishyBits]

I have been ghosted and done the ghosting. For me the ghosting was unintentional. If a conversation or relationship is feeling one sided then I start to back off in hopes that the other person can rise to the occasion. If they don't put effort into their responses then I don't put effort into mine and things just fizzle.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I have been ghosted and done the ghosting. For me the ghosting was unintentional. If a conversation or relationship is feeling one sided then I start to back off in hopes that the other person can rise to the occasion. If they don't put effort into their responses then I don't put effort into mine and things just fizzle.

To me you if someone starts pulling back. It shows they’re not interested. So why put in any more effort. Especially when getting to know one another.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

To whoever
I use an old rule. If I reach out 3 times and hear nothing back. I’m done. Moving on.
Before y’all tell that fib
“ oh I was super busy” BS. It takes 10 seconds to send a text. “ hey I’m busy call/ text later “

 

[cocktaildress21]

Well, I have a theory. I mean I'm not saying the premise here is correct - but I still have sort of an answer.

I have had a total of only 4 real ... bdsm dates, let's call it that. The best one was with a british guy, and I can only say that it was a great success. But he was married, and left for home the next morning. And I don't think his wife at home was anything like I am. So I think he happens to love a woman who just isn't a submissive, and when opportunity presents itself, he'll take it, provided there's no risk of it getting back to his 'real life'.

So this, and variations of this, would be my guess. My guy at least was entirely honest about it, so no ghosting involved.

 

[EdwardsOtherSide]

Ghosting is sadly common in all kinds of relationships.

If a Daddy Dom ghosts, it begs a lot of questions to me. I think the big one is "did the guy really have 'daddy energy', or was he faking it for some reason?"
Being the DD can be demanding, and not every guy "gets" it at first. He may have found you attractive, and wanted to do his part so he could get laid, but realized that the DD role requires a lot more sincere caring than he was capable of providing.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Well, I have a theory. I mean I'm not saying the premise here is correct - but I still have sort of an answer.

I have had a total of only 4 real ... bdsm dates, let's call it that. The best one was with a british guy, and I can only say that it was a great success. But he was married, and left for home the next morning. And I don't think his wife at home was anything like I am. So I think he happens to love a woman who just isn't a submissive, and when opportunity presents itself, he'll take it, provided there's no risk of it getting back to his 'real life'.

So this, and variations of this, would be my guess. My guy at least was entirely honest about it, so no ghosting involved.

I think there’s a lot of people that don’t explore a different lifestyle until they’re 40 ish. They get married in early 20 cause they’re pressured by society/ family/ friends. I’m thinking not many 20 somethings really know what they like/ don’t like. It takes experience to figure you out.
I’m thinking as people get older. They’re likes/ dislikes change. Some might want to explore other things. Their partner may not be open to those changes. At some point those changes are going to come out to the partner. It’s up to those in relationship to figure out how to proceed.

 

[Acktion]

Not a fun feeling. Or a fun question.

The answer I finally came up with after this happened one too many times is this;

Back in the olden days of yore, we had radios. And these radio stations would broadcast stuff. Music mostly, although there were NEWS (Noteworthy Events, Weather, and Sports) reports and a few talk radio stations that were talking heads yammering away about their opinions.

It was pretty rare that people would put it on a radio station and just leave it there. Instead, what they would do is they would tune it to one station after another until they found something they liked, listen to it for a little bit until they didn’t like it anymore, then tune it to a different station.

Then, there were televisions which were basically radios with pictures. And served pretty much the same function. Oh, not music. Not at first. That came later. (And I’m trying really hard not to go off on a tangent about when MTV actually played MUSIC.) Instead, they had these little filmed plays they would put on, stories that were acted out rather than just told. Still had Noteworthy Events, Weather, and Sports reports. And more than a few talking heads yammering about their opinions on stuff.

And, again, it was pretty rare that people would put it on a broadcasting station and just leave it there. Instead, they would flip over to something they wanted to see and once that was over, they would flip it to another station that had something they wanted to see.

Oh! My! God! Then some infernal idiot created the remote control! And suddenly, they (usually the “man of the house”) wasn’t interested in what was on so much as what ELSE was on! Or was that just my Dad and Grandfathers?

Anyway, absolutely drove me fuckin’ nuts! We would be watching something, and a commercial would come on. Now, rather than sitting there like a rational person through the commercial so that we didn’t miss anything on the show we were watching, they would start mashing buttons. Bad enough when there were four channels to choose from. Then along came cable and over a hundred channels for them to flip through. When they came back around, there was a commercial, so they would keep flipping. Only, guess what? It wasn’t the same damn commercial break! We’d missed a whole segment of the show we were watching!

And then, guess what would happen. Go on, take a wild guess.

Yup. They would look at me, all confused, when they got back to the show we had been watching fifteen damn minutes ago and ask me, “What did I miss?” How the Hell should I know?! Some monkey was over there pushing buttons like it was gonna give him a peanut was all I saw.

And people wonder why I spent most of my time in my bedroom with my books.

But, I digress. Or did I?

It took me a little while to piece it together once I actually started looking into these infernal nets. But, effectively what social media has done is to turn us into broadcast stations for the entertainment of others.

Oh, there are some of us out here that still recognize that there is an actual person on the other end of this contraption with actual thoughts and feelings. But, for the most part? No. They are more fans than friends, looking to us to entertain them. And when we are no longer entertaining to them, they change channels to see what else is on.

The thing is… did this new technology fundamentally change us? Not really. Once I got to thinking about it, there have always been people like this around. They claimed the title of “friend,” but when it really came down to it, they were bored and looking for something to alleviate their boredom. So, they hung out with us because we alleviated their boredom. For awhile. Then, when we became boring, when we were no longer entertaining, they moved on to something or someone else.

About the only thing that this new fangled infernal net did was to spread our attention past the people in our immediate geographic vicinity to where we could “visit” people on the other side of this hunk of rock twirling through empty, lonely space.

But, people are still people.

Some are little monkeys smashing buttons and hoping for a peanut. Some are genuinely interested, but their attention is spread too thin. Some are self-centered, obnoxious, loud-mouthed jerks. Some of us… well, I can be a bit of an asshole. But, once invested, I tend to stay invested until diminishing returns turn to pain and a wedge driving me away.

And, I will grant that sometimes other things are happening, completely unrelated, where, if we knew, it would make sense that they didn’t have time to chat at the moment. On the other hand, it’s not really my responsibility to stare at a blank screen and divine what is happening a thousand miles away either.

For whatever it’s worth, I’ve pretty much gone with the conclusion that if someone ghosts me once and gets back in touch with an explanation, then it’s all good. Twice, I’m going to be leery of trusting them. The third time, they might as well not bother. Because, frankly, they have proven they think I’m a TV or radio station, here for their entertainment, and I have neither the time nor the inclination to push true friends aside for a mere fair-weather fan.

Any road, here’s to the wind at your back and the sun out of your eyes, not to mention fewer haunting specters, for smoother sailing tomorrow than yesterday.

 

[BiBunny]

I once ghosted a guy who tried to rape me because I figured if he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I don't want to have anal sex with you," he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I am not interested in you because you can't take 'no' for an answer." If I lack common decency for that, I honestly could not give a fuck less.

 

[EdwardsOtherSide]

I once ghosted a guy who tried to rape me because I figured if he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I don't want to have anal sex with you," he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I am not interested in you because you can't take 'no' for an answer." If I lack common decency for that, I honestly could not give a fuck less.

That is far nicer than he merits.

 

[Ingenue844]

The title pretty much says it all.

If youre a little and have been ghosted or inexplicably dumped, please share your experiences so i know im not alone.

If youre a daddy and have done this to your little, what was the reasoning behind it?

I’m curious if your experience may have been with a Fake Dom.

I read horror stories about Fakes not providing aftercare, not guarding emotional well-being of their little, and instead just treating it as a NSA sex act with abuse.

 

[lanceGibs]

Either the Dom is a fake or there was no real connection