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[BBW_T&A_Lover]

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[brobynight]

If it's a make or break for you in the relationship, then probably best to get that straight at the beginning. If it's just a "nice to have" then waiting is fine, until you are both more trusting of each other and have established a connection. Either way, don't force it. Maybe talk to her about her interests and see how open she is with you, maybe there will be an opportunity to express your love for the kink more to her.

 

[Islander55]

If it's a make or break for you in the relationship, then probably best to get that straight at the beginning. If it's just a "nice to have" then waiting is fine, until you are both more trusting of each other and have established a connection. Either way, don't force it. Maybe talk to her about her interests and see how open she is with you, maybe there will be an opportunity to express your love for the kink more to her.

Good advice. Go a little slow and try to find out what she might enjoy. It is the sort of thing that a woman might be OK with once she gets to know a man pretty well.

 

[Lady2020]

Seems like a huge time suck not to be upfront from the beginning.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I would think that meeting online, it would be much easier to broach that subject earlier in the "getting to know" process.

 

[oneblueye]

I would ask them if they had one they could spare, I ain't got a one.

 

[jpro56]

Bring it up now but ask her what hers are first. If she balks then tell her a small kink of yours to get her to share, then hit her with your mommy fetish.
My experience - for what it's worth - if they know up front then it won't be a surprise later.

 

[FGB]

OK.
First they are on a fishing expedition even if they can be talked into being kinkier than they might already be... you are being tested.
They know people don't tell the whole truth so you might be skewing their test results! ( Scare the fuck out of them!)

Once they get to know you better you can go full bore sex fiend. (When they find out you just a mostly harmless average pervert!)

Until then well...You want some Pussy or not?

 

[Crownvic]

Seems like a huge time suck not to be upfront from the beginning.

Always upfront...let her decide from there..

 

[Islander55]

Always upfront...let her decide from there..

Or him. More women need to let guys know that they might need more than simple sex. And yes I know that many of us do not figure this out until later in life.

 

[water_moutina]

My opinion is a big fat no. Don't.
It's been a while I "dated" but when I was I'd never tell the guy. Even now my husband doesn't know. I get it's a very personal opinion. To me kinks are just one part of the relationship. There's lot m more to it. I know my husband will freak out if he found out my kinks. I luv him more than I luv my kinks

 

[2tallpaul]

I had one date tell me, give me three drinks and I will do anything. It was a lie, she didn't need the beer.

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

I recently met a woman for a date, we hit it off and I walked her to her car. As I hugged her she turned her head and we ended up kissing. And holy fuck was it hot! Lots of tongue, moaning, holding her head and tongue fucking her mouth. Later she told me I passed the kissing test! She told me if a date goes well she tries to kiss them. If they don't kiss well there is no 2nd date! I think this test is brilliant as it gives you a hint of what's to come. She said, have you ever known a good kisser where the sex was not good? Had to say I did not! We've been together since and the sex is great, we talk about everything and are slowly opening up about our proclivities. So fun!

 

[Goldenfinger]

I have Been with my wife for a long time and have more kinks now than I did then. But if I was looking for a partner I would bring it up. I’m not sure how but if it was important to me I would.

 

[2tallpaul]

So I asked my girlfriend whose 52, how open we started, how did she know my kinks? After a meal. we had some cheese cake, she fed me the last bite and sensually stuck her finger in my mouth. She reminded me how I sucked her finger, she knew she could get me to suck a cock. She knew I had more than one bi sexual girlfriend and great at oral. She just did the math. Plus the picture of my Golden Retriever in my wallet. Goldens are pleasers, if I had a Blue Healer, she wouldn't have gone out with me, great dogs with dominant owners for the breed. She works with dogs. Some of us are Pointers and some of us are Setters.

 

[nutoseen]

I met someone last week through a dating site and we've been talking pretty much every night. She is a really nice woman. 12 years older. She is sexual as we flirted a bit here and there. I have a major Mom/son kink where I would love to be able to call my partner Mom and we act as Mom and son. It's something important to me as it's something that is mine. And I'd really like to share that with her. We had talked sparingly about it and she said she didn't know if it's something she'd be into. She didn't shoot it right down either.

So my question is do I take a chance, sit her down and tell her I want this? Do I wait until we are intimate and hope she is so turned on that the idea is really intriguing? Shut up and give up on the idea?

Any help is greatly appreciated.

yes tell her. and give her ideas what she can do.

 

[cubbyfire04]

My opinion is a big fat no. Don't.
It's been a while I "dated" but when I was I'd never tell the guy. Even now my husband doesn't know. I get it's a very personal opinion. To me kinks are just one part of the relationship. There's lot m more to it. I know my husband will freak out if he found out my kinks. I luv him more than I luv my kinks

Fair take, but how do you know he will freak out?

 

[CuttingEdge]

I would highly suggest you don't.

It seems like today a lot of women are looking to cull the crazies pretty quickly. That is for good reason as there is a lot of crazy people out there. Most seem really to bail at the smallest sign something might be amiss, because there experience so far has been to really get hurt in relationships. For many (both men and women), it is far better to risk losing a great person, then run the risk of being hurt again.

Let them get to know you first, then broach the subject. Once they are invested a bit in the relationship, they would be more understanding.

If you don't think what I say has merit, read the thread on what sexual kinks people DO NOT like. Many are dispensed with rather mild ones.

 

[mssweetangelina]

I would highly suggest you don't.

It seems like today a lot of women are looking to cull the crazies pretty quickly. That is for good reason as there is a lot of crazy people out there. Most seem really to bail at the smallest sign something might be amiss, because there experience so far has been to really get hurt in relationships. For many (both men and women), it is far better to risk losing a great person, then run the risk of being hurt again.

Let them get to know you first, then broach the subject. Once they are invested a bit in the relationship, they would be more understanding.

If you don't think what I say has merit, read the thread on what sexual kinks people DO NOT like. Many are dispensed with rather mild ones.

Solid advice.

 

[screwher]

My wife and I are a hotwife couple, so the only “dating prospects” in our lives are potential sex partners for my wife. So telling him would be the be all, end all.

 

[Marcie48]

I see you’ve already received some very thoughtful advice and of course there are as many opinions as there are people so no really knows what the best approach would be for you and this particular woman.
I can only speak for myself so here is my take.
You mentioned she is older and so has probably already raised her own children, and so it would seem to me she would want an equal partner for a relationship not a fantasy son.
I think sharing our deepest secrets is all about trust and eventually you could build that with her and then begin to express your desires to have a mom/son fantasy, but that trust would need to be there.
On the flip side if she isn’t interested at all and having that fantasy relationship is important to you then you’ve wasted her time and your own.
See, no real solution just another opinion.
Good luck finding the perfect fantasy mom.

 

[Easyvirtue]

I would now because I didn’t with my wife and it’s caused a lot of issues. She went along for a while with 1 in particular but then stopped and it was and is still an issue.

 

[fma20fma]

Most prospects want bareback anal after 2 large whisky and more. no need to ask or tell.

 

[StrongMaster7]

It would be so wonderful to have a fresh start with someone and tell them up front about how important sex is to me and what I enjoy and would like to experience. At the beginning of a relationship I was always too afraid that I might be rejected and once you are into the relationship it's awkward (or too late) to reveal some kinks.

 

[Lee364]

To

Told my bf and it didn’t go well. He thinks it weird. So it’s my secret for now.

told my bf about my kinks and it didn’t go well so it’s my secret for now.

Hey Jenny. Your profile says you can be a little bit crazy, I think crazy can be a good thing!! If ya have a daddy issue, maybe I can be yours, I'm 58 DWM in Houston. Just say'in