How do the Cuck & Hotwife Choose the Other Man
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My next-door neighbors drew me in. Well, she did.
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The starting point is what turns her on sexually. That is as varied as it is for any woman. There might be more emphasis on physical characteristics, but not exclusively so. The cuckold needs to be on side with it all and his hot wife may well indulge him to a degree. But I think that you will find that his view on who the other man should be are much less important than the wife’s. After all she will be the one fucking him.
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I am older and have only been into this for a few years. The choice is always mine but I will accept advice. I do not think of him as being a cuckold but as allowing me to enjoy my sexuality and test my limits. Since he is so good about it, I do try and make sure that he enjoys things too. Mostly we talk about my plans and I do share details with him. It still comes down to being my choice of who and what I do. As for the type of man. I want someone near my age and that is interesting. I find it works best if we have something in common like hiking. A fun activity to do and which might lead to intimacy.
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There's an evolution to the whole dynamic. The cuck, at some point, realizes he's along for a ride he's not in control of. How he reacts is the only way he influences the situation. Usually, he just submits. Sometimes he's required to do things he doesn't really want to. It can get ugly. I've seen it.
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Well, Now that is a sexy thought right there. I would love to hear that story!!!!
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She picks who she likes and wants to have inside her.
How did this lifestyle start for you? Was it your idea or your husband's? What was the initial reaction to the idea? Which of you had more concerns and how were those concerns resolved? My wife of 50+ is very insecure about how she aged. I consider her beautiful, but, she feels like I'm just saying it because I am her husband. Do you think she would be a good candidate for a hotwife? Would the attention of other men be likely to lift her ego? Her insecurities are making things hard for us both and I think I would be open to the lifestyle, if it made my wife more confident and sexually responsive.
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I don’t pick my wife’s partners, she does. She usually meets them online, fetlife or tinder. After all she is the one who needs to be attracted to the guy.
When it comes to a Hotwife you need to start with her pleasure, if that is satisfied then the rest falls into place.
When it comes to a Hotwife you need to start with her pleasure, if that is satisfied then the rest falls into place.
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It can get ugly. True but by then you're usually in too deep to stop what's happening
I think the key to achieving balance is to let the wife take the lead. The is first and foremost about her pleasure. And neither man is really in a position to maintain balance in the situation. The cuckold will tend to want to control things to mitigate his own insecurities and sensitivities to the point of diminishing the experience for his wife (which she is likely to resent). And it is just silly to expect the other man to be in a position to set the tone in a way that works for hot wife and cuckold.
Both men will have certain needs, desires and limitations which should be heeded. But it is smoother if the hot wife makes the final call. So if the other man wants to fuck her roughly and that is what she wants, then great. But she needs to be aware of just how far might be too far for her husband and have the latitude to slow it down if necessary or save certain activities for when her husband isn't present.
More importantly there is no set of rules that is going to mitigate the risk of an ugly outcome. If any of the participants are not ready to handle seeing the truth of what the others want out of the experience, rules won't save them from harsh reality.
So to the question of how do a cuck and hot wife choose the other man, the answer is they don't. The hot wife chooses him. She can listen to her husband and take his views into account. But at least for me, I am in the lead in my own story. I am not performing for him or my lovers. I am not his "personal porn star". I am not a supporting actor in his narrative. I fuck who I want. If he finds someone particularly problematic I might forgot that guy (at least for the time being), but the next one will still be my choice. My husband choosing my lovers for me is no more valid than him choosing my order in a restaurant - in the right circumstance I might indulge that as part of play but I sure don't need a man to make my decisions.
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We had agreed to try swapping but Covid and some health issues for my husband crimped that idea. He encouraged me to consider hooking up with a guy that was part of my hiking group. Not uncommon for women in their 50's to worry about their looks and sex appeal and she would benefit from someone other than her husband to compliment her. Has she ever cheated on you or do you think she would be interested in having sex with another man. Does she enjoy sex? There are so many factors that would go into her becoming a hotwife. You really want to be sure that you would be OK with this. Once she gets started, it would be tough to give it up. As a woman in my 60's, I have found it pretty easy to take care of several men. It seems that my capacity for sex exceeds that of the average older man. I am not sure I would give it up now either. I really enjoy being able to get to know a man and let it go to intimacy if we want.
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This is important. I've known couples where the woman agreed to cuckold her partner to indulge his desires. Every time it caused problems, because their views didn't align. Remember, the wife is the one giving away her body. I dare say... I personally feel like when a woman in this position, the situation is dangerously close to toeing the line of nonconsent.
well said islander 55, once you get started it may be very hard to stop, for me the wife isnt interested in other men so i do my playing away from home and its with a guy so she knows i no its all good
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When I had an opportunity to partake it was her desire to lick pussy and was exclusive for a woman not a man. I was usually around where we found such a tryst and found my taste in ladies was very similar to hers. Like us HWP and appealing not perfect. It also did not matter if I participated with the 3rd party but I was always present. Any kind of addition or swap was always soft and limited to foreplay and the guys never interacted. Seeing the results of her blowing other guys did spark my curiosity. I liked watching others fuck too. But my pussy. And she liked it being mine too. We knew who buttered our toast and enjoying the company of others never came between us. Being able to talk about this with your clothes on was a requirement. Weeded out dipshits and weirdo's from the get go. It was all about sensual fun for us. Only once did we find someone at a bar totally unrelated to the swing lifestyle kind of parties. That one was the most amazing. Her first time with a woman or a couple. Willing innocence? Teaching pleasure? Something made it more exciting.
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Each couple needs to work out what they want out of this type or relationship. I don't think I would be interested in doing a soft swap. If I am going to get into it, I need to be able to take it as far as I want. Since we started this lifestyle, I have never gotten with a man that I did not know pretty well beforehand so the weeding out has not been an issue. However you work it out, it certainly can add some spice to the sex life.
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With us I almost always pick out the lady that I-we will play with and it’s not about the looks it’s the attitude I’m looking for another girl for me not him but I do share with him
I guess it's very uncommon then for this to be in a man's role.(wife watching) Being in a sexless marriage my wife has brought up that she cant fulfill my needs and should maybe get myself taken care of in other ways. So not to change the thread, but maybe someone could help start another thread on this or PM me to help start the process for me. Thx
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Definitely a sense of humor is important. You need to relax and have some fun before you head off to the bedroom or wherever else you may decide to do it.
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Most of the time it was someone we knew. A few drinks seams to help set the mood.
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I was away on one of my seemingly never-ending business trips. I called Joanne early one morning and she told me that she had dreamt of her old lover, Steve. She said that she had to make herself cum twice when she woke up. Joanne had previously explained to me that she and Steve were together for a couple of years. She also said that it was the best sex she’d ever experienced and that he had the biggest, thickest cock she`d ever seen.
Joanne told me that in her dream about him, he fucked her in his bed and then again in his big shower.
She related how he would have to slowly ease his huge cock into her pussy, slowly penetrating her. She said that it felt like he was buried deep in her belly. She would have orgasm after orgasm and that his energy was almost inexhaustible. He would fuck her in every position possible and also in places where either they might get caught or seen. She particularly loved it when she could climb on top of Steve and feel his cock ever so slowly slide inside her.
All this talk got me aroused. Aroused and also a bit jealous. I couldn’t stop thinking about this man with Joanne , imagining his cock penetrating the woman I loved. It started to drive me crazy and I would masturbate frequently, conjuring-up images of Joanne and Steve. God! So many mixed and intense emotions. I hardly dared tell Joanne what I was feeling.
Joanne and I continued to occasionally bring up Steve’s name in conversation and we rather half-jokingly suggested that we try to locate him. I began to look for him, both on-line and in directories. Eventually, after tracking down an old colleague of his, I made contact with Steve. It turned out that he was only 30 miles away from us and that he was divorced
Joanne told me that in her dream about him, he fucked her in his bed and then again in his big shower.
She related how he would have to slowly ease his huge cock into her pussy, slowly penetrating her. She said that it felt like he was buried deep in her belly. She would have orgasm after orgasm and that his energy was almost inexhaustible. He would fuck her in every position possible and also in places where either they might get caught or seen. She particularly loved it when she could climb on top of Steve and feel his cock ever so slowly slide inside her.
All this talk got me aroused. Aroused and also a bit jealous. I couldn’t stop thinking about this man with Joanne , imagining his cock penetrating the woman I loved. It started to drive me crazy and I would masturbate frequently, conjuring-up images of Joanne and Steve. God! So many mixed and intense emotions. I hardly dared tell Joanne what I was feeling.
Joanne and I continued to occasionally bring up Steve’s name in conversation and we rather half-jokingly suggested that we try to locate him. I began to look for him, both on-line and in directories. Eventually, after tracking down an old colleague of his, I made contact with Steve. It turned out that he was only 30 miles away from us and that he was divorced
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My wife always chose someone we knew and considered good family friends. That seemed to keep things safe. They were also Alpha type Males and if they were married their wives were also alphas. I was the beta in the situations and just did as I was told. I am finding much pleasure in the stories written by Doctoryes48 try reading his stories if you are a beta. Love his writing. Love his stories
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