Do you get horny while writing?

[Djmac1031]

It's weird. You'd think I'd get horny writing all this sex stuff, but I don't.

I guess I'm too preoccupied trying to choose the right words, use proper grammar and punctuation, and generally figure out what the hell is happening next.

I also can't write while horny. I gotta get it out of my system before so I can focus on the story.

I'm certainly not knocking on anyone who maybe gets off to their own stories or anything. But I also find it funny that once a story is done, I don't dwell on it too much.

 

[KeithD]

When I write erotica, yes. If the story didn't make me horny, I probably wouldn't have started writing it--horny has to kick in when my muse is delivering a story to write.

 

[Djmac1031]

When I write erotica, yes. If the story didn't make me horny, I probably wouldn't have started writing it--horny has to kick in when my muse is delivering a story to write.

Obviously most of the stories I write involve fantasies that actually turn me on; otherwise why write them?

But I'm just not horny during the process.

If I'm turned on enough by the idea, I usually have to get it out of my system BEFORE I write it.

Is that weird?

 

[SimonDoom]

No. If I want to get off, I turn to pictures and videos, not stories. I find story-writing erotic in a distinctive way, but not exactly horny. Same with story-reading. It's a particular category of erotic experience.

 

[KeithD]

But I'm just not horny during the process.

If I'm turned on enough by the idea, I usually have to get it out of my system BEFORE I write it.

Is that weird?

That's not weird. Everyone his her/his own way. But I do get horny during the process.

 

[JuanSeiszFitzHall]

Sometimes I get horny while writing. If I get stoked while writing a sex scene, I take that to indicate that the story is working--not just that scene, but everything in the story that sets up that scene.

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[Djmac1031]

Sometimes I get horny while writing. If I get stoked while writing a sex scene, I take that to indicate that the story is working--not just that scene, but everything in the story that sets up that scene.

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I do go back and read my own stories when finished, obviously to edit and tweak them before publishing, but also to make sure it's actually erotic. (Which is subjective of course, what's erotic to me may not be for others, obviously)

Still, I'm reading it with the intent to make sure it will (maybe) turn on a reader, and I guess at that point yeah if I'm turned on then mission accomplished (again, hopefully) but I'm not as turned on as if I were reading someone else's story for the express purpose of getting myself aroused.

 

[KeithD]

I do go back and read my own stories when finished, obviously to edit and tweak them before publishing, but also to make sure it's actually erotic. (Which is subjective of course, what's erotic to me may not be for others, obviously)

I'm not turned on in the editing/review phase.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

no.

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[mynameisben]

Yep. But then, I'm an easy riser. I get horny looking at a pair of sunny side up eggs.


Ben

 

[ScrappyPaperDoodler]

I went through a time where I got massive anxiety about scenes not making me horny, which is why I haven't made any submissions recently. Like most anxieties, it was self-reinforcing and the more I tried to 'solve the problem' the more anxious I got and the less I enjoyed writing the scenes.

Getting some feedback that the sex scenes worked helped, but I think the thing that finally got me out of that headspace was to just skip over the scenes and return to them later. I used to write very linearly — writing one scene after the other. Now, I skip ahead when I feel the need and fill in the blanks later.

Another thing to consider is that the reader has the aid of their hand or fleshlight or vibrator as they read. Meanwhile, we typically have both hands on the keyboard, so it's a different experience.

However, when all is said and done, I doubt I'd feel confident making a sex scene public if I didn't feel anything at some stage or another.

 

[lovecraft68]

To be honest not as often as I used to. Over the last couple of years I find that writing the sex scenes are getting more difficult.

The story itself flows well, but when I get to the sex I stall and it can take me a few sittings to finish the scene. Why? My only thought is after 12 years, 180 stories/e-books and multiple scenes in many of those works I've reached the point of....here we go again

Now my focus is more on building the scenario, conflict and desire more, and sometimes that can get me 'going' when I write because I've invested enough in the characters that the sex is exciting not just as sex, but seeing them get what they want.

This could be a phase, and one I may slip out of as far as being close to bored with writing sexual encounters, but I'm not worried about it. I still get get them done and a lot of people commented on my contest entry about the sex so as long as readers are happy I'm still doing okay.

 

[desecration]

I type one-handed when I write, and I go through a lot of keyboards.

 

[TadOverdon]

Sometimes.

If I have fantasies before I write, it's motivating whether they have anything to do with the scene or my characters at all.

 

[rescatooor]

I regularly get asked this via feedback. No.

 

[lovecraft68]

I usually write because I'm horny. This was suggested as a part of therapy to rein in fantasies and impulse control issues.

I was told to employ that same exercise when i was younger, but it wasn't about sex it was writing to rein in fantasies and impulses to...try and beat the piss out of someone.

 

[TadOverdon]

I'm always jotting notes in a file for the next book or two, and other than character stuffs a large part of that is ideas for sexual scenarios, paragraphs of sexual description and so on. Those are fantasies that start my engine when they occur to me and when I'm making the notes. By the time I write out the scenes, I'm usually too focused on the details of the prose and such to get aroused. Sometimes it does happen when I'm rereading to revise.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I only get turned on writing if it is a lesbian story. Then, sometimes, I find it difficult not to get randy while I write.

 

[Ian_Snow]

It depends, and in my particular case, it usually comes down to the number of partners involved in the scene. If I'm writing more than two characters, I'm generally so focused on remembering what each person has taken off or where they're at in the scene to get much out of it. If it's one on one and something that falls within my particular likes, oh yeah, definitely. And invariably those end up being my best sex scenes.

 

[Emirus]

I’ve never understood when someone says they masturbate with one hand whilst tapping the keyboard with the other. I also can’t understand when someone says they have to be horny in order to write a horny scene. Perhaps it’s got something to do with the category for which the story is intended. Perhaps it’s what they need themselves.

A writer’s supposed to have imagination and the ability to put that imagination into words. Do you have to shoot someone before being able to write a scene for a book? There’s the famous conversation between Hoffman and Olivier when filming Marathon Man.

“How did your week go, dear boy,” Olivier said.

Hoffman told him that he had filmed a scene in which his character was supposed to have been up for three days straight.

“So what did you do?” Olivier asked.

“Well, I stayed up for three days and three nights.”

Laurence Olivier then uttered this famous line, “Why don’t you just try acting?”

 

[LAHomedog]

I do not get horny while writing. I'm in a zone, focus with the characters occupying my mind.

I hope to get horny when I read it the next day. If I do, I know the story works, but I never masturbate to my own work. Yuck. For me, that would be like looking at myself in the mirror and whacking off to myself. Yuck.

 

[KeithD]

I’ve never understood when someone says they masturbate with one hand whilst tapping the keyboard with the other.

I've always understood that different people respond to different stimulus, but I'm a touch typist. I couldn't type with just one hand and be able to keep up with and type out my running thoughts.

 

[lovecraft68]

I’ve never understood when someone says they masturbate with one hand whilst tapping the keyboard with the other.

I've always taken this as figurative, not literal.

 

[Blind_Justice]

No. I'm too busy trying to put the whirling images behind my eyelids in words - in a foreign language to boot - to worry about getting horny. I work best when sober and/or freshly fucked.

 

[Zootonius]

I'm in the middle of part two of my first story (part one isn't out yet). It was very peculiar. Not horny, but some physiological effect. I skipped lunch and didn't notice. Some hormones were active.