Alternate words for “slut”

[NotWise]

To recap, I have a newfound respect for “slut” from some of the comments, but I’m still wondering if there’s a word without the negative connotations.

I've always thought that "slut" carried a lot of negative connotations. In what context is "slut" a compliment?

 

[KeithD]

In what context is "slut" a compliment?

During sex for some folks. For some, talking really dirty and reducing one's partner to slave or whore during sex is arousing to them both, liberating them to think of this being done by an entirely different person than who they want to think of themselves being.

 

[NotWise]

It can be acting out as part of PTSD from sexual abuse, that's full on mental.

Hypersexuality often accompanies a bipolar's "up" phase. Some don't have it. Some learn to deal with it. It's a serious problem for others.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Apparently "Yup," is too short of a response.(a post requires five characters according to be warning I got, lol)

Motherfucking yup works!

 

[Lifestyle66]

While people with hormone issues can have an increasing or decreased sex drive it's not always the case that excessive sex drive is because of a hormonal disorder. It can be an effect of trauma and it can be a symptom of other mental disorders

Good point. There can be mental issues causing such behavior. But, pump a woman up with estrogen and testosterone, and watch the fun begin!

 

[NotWise]

During sex for some folks. For some, talking really dirty and reducing one's partner to slave or whore during sex is arousing to them both, liberating them to think of this being done by an entirely different person than who they want to think of themselves being.

OK, I can see that. That's a pretty personal circumstance.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Hypersexuality often accompanies a bipolar's "up" phase. Some don't have it. Some learn to deal with it. It's a serious problem for others.

My adoptive sister is bipolar but as far as anyone knows she isn't a slut, a'tall. In fact, she was missionary for five or six years. Worked in disaster areas, in Africa during one of the genocidal wars, in Thailand after the tsunami, and other hot spots over the world. Never heard of her fucking her brains out. I think, just my opinion as she was grown when I was brought into the family, as close as we are, she'd have told me about being a slut.

 

[jsmiam]

I've always thought that "slut" carried a lot of negative connotations. In what context is "slut" a compliment?

To clarify, A couple people made the comment that some self proclaimed sluts do their thing without concern for what others think, thereby a form of self empowerment. In that respect only, there’s more/newfound respect than there was before. (I’m on my phone, too hard to click and look up their names).

I’m definitely not a fan of the word and its normal context, 99 percent of the time. My previous score was not a fan 100 percent of the time. So the points they made improved the words score by one percentage point, by my scale.

(I may come back with edits and quotations. Maybe)

(Edit- still via slow phone typing. djmac post 17, rescatoor kinda-sorta-maybe post 38 and 40, and motherloveson post 48 made some counterpoints to earn my one percent point change. )

 

[MillieDynamite]

To clarify, A couple people made the comment that some self proclaimed sluts do their thing without concern for what others think, thereby a form of self empowerment. In that respect only, there’s more/newfound respect than there was before. (I’m on my phone, too hard to click and look up their names).

I’m definitely not a fan of the word and its normal context, 99 percent of the time. My previous score was not a fan 100 percent of the time. So the points they made improved the words score by one percentage point, by my scale.

(I may come back with edits and quotations. Maybe)

(Edit- still via slow phone typing. djmac post 17, rescatoor kinda-sorta-maybe post 38 and 40, and motherloveson post 48 made some counterpoints to earn my one percent point change. )

We will be waiting with baited breath. Um, that sounds a bit gross, if you have bait in your breath, you know, worms and itty bitty fishes, wouldn't it stink, stunk, or stank?

 

[NotWise]

My adoptive sister is bipolar but as far as anyone knows she isn't a slut, a'tall. In fact, she was missionary for five or six years. Worked in disaster areas, in Africa during one of the genocidal wars, in Thailand after the tsunami, and other hot spots over the world. Never heard of her fucking her brains out. I think, just my opinion as she was grown when I was brought into the family, as close as we are, she'd have told me about being a slut.

Like I said, some don't get it and some handle it.

My wife is a Psychiatric nurse. As far as she's concerned the association is about 100%, but she deals with severe cases.

 

[NotWise]

To clarify, A couple people made the comment that some self proclaimed sluts do their thing without concern for what others think, thereby a form of self empowerment. In that respect only, there’s more/newfound respect than there was before. (I’m on my phone, too hard to click and look up their names).

I’m definitely not a fan of the word and its normal context, 99 percent of the time. My previous score was not a fan 100 percent of the time. So the points they made improved the words score by one percentage point, by my scale.

(I may come back with edits and quotations. Maybe)

(Edit- still via slow phone typing. djmac post 17, rescatoor kinda-sorta-maybe post 38 and 40, and motherloveson post 48 made some counterpoints to earn my one percent point change. )

I remember their comments, but when I see "slut" used, it seems misogynistic.

Maybe it isn't true any more, but a gay man used to be able to call another gay man a "fag" and it wasn't an insult, but if a straight man called a gay man a "fag," it was an insult. Maybe it's something like that.

 

[SimonDoom]

I've always thought that "slut" carried a lot of negative connotations. In what context is "slut" a compliment?

Trying to sort out whether it's a compliment or an insult misses the point. In the real world, there are women who enjoy being called "sluts" in a sexual context, and there are men who enjoy calling women "sluts" in a sexual context. The naughtiness of the word makes it sexy. It may or may not be empowering. But it's sexy, at least to some.

There is an undeniable connection between the erotic and the transgressive, but many people, including many experienced erotica authors, seem to have a hard time accepting what is, to me, an obvious fact. The word "slut" is hot and sexy precisely because it has such nasty and negative connotations. That's not true for everyone. I've known women who enjoyed being called "sluts," and I've known women who hated the mention of the word. In sex, just about anything is possible, and if you poke around enough, you'll find someone for every taste and preference.

 

[NotWise]

Trying to sort out whether it's a compliment or an insult misses the point. In the real world, there are women who enjoy being called "sluts" in a sexual context, and there are men who enjoy calling women "sluts" in a sexual context. The naughtiness of the word makes it sexy. It may or may not be empowering. But it's sexy, at least to some.

There is an undeniable connection between the erotic and the transgressive, but many people, including many experienced erotica authors, seem to have a hard time accepting what is, to me, an obvious fact. The word "slut" is hot and sexy precisely because it has such nasty and negative connotations. That's not true for everyone. I've known women who enjoyed being called "sluts," and I've known women who hated the mention of the word. In sex, just about anything is possible, and if you poke around enough, you'll find someone for every taste and preference.

In that case, it seems like most of the alternatives we gave jsmiam should fulfill the same purpose. The word selection would just depend on what the fictional character wanted to be called.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I remember their comments, but when I see "slut" used, it seems misogynistic.

Maybe it isn't true any more, but a gay man used to be able to call another gay man a "fag" and it wasn't an insult, but if a straight man called a gay man a "fag," it was an insult. Maybe it's something like that.

Pretty much, yeah.

IMHO, as long as it's seen as shameful for a woman to enjoy sex and have lots of it, any replacement word for "slut" is likely to end up with the same stigma. So some folk have decided that rather than trying to change the word, the best thing is to embrace it and make it clear that they're not ashamed of their sex lives - see e.g. "The Ethical Slut".

 

[LAHomedog]

One of my least favorite words in the English language. And I object to the cultural belief in the term. (Not anyone on here, the culture.)

A guy with a high sex drive and lots of lovers is a stud, a cocksman and admired and respected around the world. Playboys and James Bond.

But the women are allowed that. It is a double standard and chauvinistic.

 

[NotWise]

One of my least favorite words in the English language. And I object to the cultural belief in the term. (Not anyone on here, the culture.)

A guy with a high sex drive and lots of lovers is a stud, a cocksman and admired and respected around the world. Playboys and James Bond.

But the women aren't allowed that. It is a double standard and chauvinistic.

Fixed it for you. You need to be more careful with the negations. I think you've done it a couple time recently.

 

[LAHomedog]

Fixed it for you. You need to be more careful with the negations. I think you've done it a couple time recently.

Thank you so much. I truly appreciate it. I have mentioned on here before I am dyslexic. I reread my post at least three times before posting, but sometimes something slips through. My biggest weakness are the letters after "i" like it and in. Also, negations and tenses. I misses past tense a lot.

Thank you again for the help. (In real life I have a long-term writing partner and he does the proofing for me, but not on here.)

 

[MillieDynamite]

Thank you so much. I truly appreciate it. I have mentioned on here before I am dyslexic. I reread my post at least three times before posting, but sometimes something slips through. My biggest weakness are the letter after "i" like it and in. Also, negations and tenses. I misses past tense a lot.

Thank you again for the help. (In real life I have a long-term writing partner and he does the proofing for me, but not on here.)

I make the same mistakes and I wear glasses for my dyslexia, most of us know what you meant.

I edit my post for several minutes and several times, after I load them. I edit them before, but shit always slips though. Shit is like that, slippery, you know.

 

[jsmiam]

There’s a thread currently in fetish and sexuality, “when did you become a slut”, https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1554209

I started asking this in that thread (not for a story, just trying to come up with one), then decided to go more cerebral and ask here.

So, just as “geek” changed meanings (generally speaking) from an insult to a point of pride whereas “nerd” did not, is there an alternate word for “slut.” Hmm. “Uninhibited” is accurate but too long. “Eager beaver” is two words. “In touch with (one’s) sexuality”, again too many words. “Sensual” is too ‘massage with hot stones’ and such (which is fine), but we’re talking about fucking. I always shake my head chuckle at “Sperm receptacle” because it’s just so outrageously awful, but clearly that’s even more insulting than slut.

It’s a tough one, fraught with peril too, since it’s so skewed into negative sexism. So with focus on finding a good word, any thoughts?

I came up with sexpot, tart, and wench, since they seem (US) to generally be said with a humorous tone. None of them seem just right though, for US answers. (And by no means is this intended just for US English either. )

Ideas?

As a PSA, recapping the original question with some bolding.

There’s room to list all the words that don’t do the job, list some for a chuckle, and of course, to open debates, etc. it’s a tough topic, possibly impossible. Worth trying though.

 

[KeithD]

There’s room to list all the words that don’t do the job

There are no words that don't do the job for someone at some time in some circumstances.

It's really frustrating that this doesn't get across to all on the board.

 

[LAHomedog]

There are no words that don't do the job for someone at some time in some circumstances.

I agree with this 100%. Also, there are no "bad" words. By that I mean swear words. We always told our son that there were "adult words" but no bad words. There are words that should not be used but a word is a word. It is the usage that matters.

 

[SimonDoom]

In that case, it seems like most of the alternatives we gave jsmiam should fulfill the same purpose. The word selection would just depend on what the fictional character wanted to be called.

I don't agree that most of the proposed substitutes fulfill the function as well as "slut." Vixen? Seriously? Minx? Watered-down substitutes. And if one waters it down, one misses the whole point.

I cannot tell others what is erotic to them. But I know what's erotic to me, and I've been reading and writing here long enough that I have a pretty good idea what's erotic to an awful lot of readers, and what they want . . . is naughtiness. They don't want a term that's nice and affirming and pleasant. They want it dirty. It's more exciting, and more erotic, that way. The word "vixen" does not capture what "slut" captures. To embrace the word "slut" is to go all-in with a pedal-to-the-metal, full bore, "fuck you, I'm getting laid" attitude, and the other words don't quite do the trick. That's my view, at least.

 

[jsmiam]

“Semp”, “sempie”, and “sempuals” and the never married “Semptster”

I’m going to go classic, using word play, letter play, rhyming, and jumping on bandwagons to blend classic group naming methods with “-ials”.

Semp for sexually empowered has an appropriate number of letters, and roughly the same ratio of letter counts from each word (2/8 and 3/9).

“Sempual” adds the “ual” at the end of sexual and borrows from the “ial” sound of millennial.

I almost cringe at adding “ster” as in spinster for that smaller cross section, but it just works so darn well.

I do agree with other points, including that there isn’t one word (until now.) that does the job. It’s worth pointing out that there’s just one main meaning for “curmudgeon”, and it does a great job. And I also agree with Simon (myself too) that the current crop of less insultive ones veer to the playful side too much.

We need a word for “likes it” who isn’t suffering from low self esteem, mood disorders, being a grifter, being manipulative, or needing a man. Sexually empowered. Semp.

So there it is. If this many smart people on this forum can’t find the perfect word, we just have to make one.

 

[XerXesXu]

There’s a thread currently in fetish and sexuality, “when did you become a slut”, https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1554209

I started asking this in that thread (not for a story, just trying to come up with one), then decided to go more cerebral and ask here.

So, just as “geek” changed meanings (generally speaking) from an insult to a point of pride whereas “nerd” did not, is there an alternate word for “slut.” Hmm. “Uninhibited” is accurate but too long. “Eager beaver” is two words. “In touch with (one’s) sexuality”, again too many words. “Sensual” is too ‘massage with hot stones’ and such (which is fine), but we’re talking about fucking. I always shake my head chuckle at “Sperm receptacle” because it’s just so outrageously awful, but clearly that’s even more insulting than slut.

It’s a tough one, fraught with peril too, since it’s so skewed into negative sexism. So with focus on finding a good word, any thoughts?

I came up with sexpot, tart, and wench, since they seem (US) to generally be said with a humorous tone. None of them seem just right though, for US answers. (And by no means is this intended just for US English either. )

Ideas?

Erotophile

Gender fluid. Does what it says on the box.

 

[rescatooor]

I’m going to go classic, using word play, letter play, rhyming, and jumping on bandwagons to blend classic group naming methods with “-ials”.

Semp for sexually empowered has an appropriate number of letters, and roughly the same ratio of letter counts from each word (2/8 and 3/9).

“Sempual” adds the “ual” at the end of sexual and borrows from the “ial” sound of millennial.

I almost cringe at adding “ster” as in spinster for that smaller cross section, but it just works so darn well.

I do agree with other points, including that there isn’t one word (until now.) that does the job. It’s worth pointing out that there’s just one main meaning for “curmudgeon”, and it does a great job. And I also agree with Simon (myself too) that the current crop of less insultive ones veer to the playful side too much.

We need a word for “likes it” who isn’t suffering from low self esteem, mood disorders, being a grifter, being manipulative, or needing a man. Sexually empowered. Semp.

So there it is. If this many smart people on this forum can’t find the perfect word, we just have to make one.

It's always easy to come up with words. More difficult to make them stick.