What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Orchidea73]

I'm nosey about how long it takes you before you know if there's a real spark (sexual and/or romantic) between you and a new person? Does the amount of time change if you've only talked online? Or if you've only talked on the phone?

I can tell pretty quickly. Whether it's online or RL.
I am a sucker for a good voice so that would help, yes. But only if I was already attracted to you while chatting. Just having a good voice it's not enough. I've heard people with a great voice which I found them dull in a conversation.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Speaking as someone who's up for making new friendships on Lit, but who isn't in the market for an eboning partner as my needs in that area are being blissfully happily met, I'd say this does make forging friendships harder. Being off the market means I'm of absolutely no interest to some here. Being off the market also means, very occasionally, that I'm seen as a challenge by others. But the anonymity of Lit, which makes it so easy to be open here about sex, militates against sharing the kind of normal, everyday, simple things on which regular friendships are built.

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I felt this to my core.

Lit has been a great place for me to test setting and enforcing boundaries. And I've made some incredible friends here who won't faint when I start talking about sexual heath. That is a lot harder to navigate "in real life".

 

[BadAmy]

I felt this to my core.

Lit has been a great place for me to test setting and enforcing boundaries. And I've made some incredible friends here who won't faint when I start talking about sexual heath. That is a lot harder to navigate "in real life".

All that in bold! I am so grateful to be able to be my dirty deviant self with the friends I have, and some to be, here.
Like the fact that I can talk about current events, my ducks, and the soft, silly folds of my vag...all in one!
This place is like the Amazon of relationships.

Amirite?

Someone high five me goddamnit.


Eta....silly folds?
I'm gonna just leave that. Seems appropriate.

 

[cheekygirl75]

https://i.imgur.com/jLmTXIg.mp4

All that in bold! I am so grateful to be able to be my dirty deviant self with the friends I have, and some to be, here.
Like the fact that I can talk about current events, my ducks, and the soft, silly folds of my vag...all in one!
This place is like the Amazon of relationships.

Amirite?

Someone high five me goddamnit.

 

[Paul_Chance]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

 

[BadAmy]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

I flirt out in the open. Blatant. For fun. Even I private...for fun. I'm in a dynamic that calls for exclusivity. And I am ok with that. I make it pretty clear.
If I wanted to e-bone someone, I'd be direct.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

I'm an indiscriminate flirt. Some people misinterpret that as sexual signaling. I'm sure there have been hurt feelings and that's unfortunate.

My favorite people here are the ones who can flirt at a level that doesn't require e+boning. Watching Corbal talk about her Cheeto and mayonnaise sandwiches with clowns is a perfect example. It's energizing for me to be in that environment and lit provides me that. Sometimes.

 

[BadAmy]

I'm an indiscriminate flirt. Some people misinterpret that as sexual signaling. I'm sure there have been hurt feelings and that's unfortunate.

My favorite people here are the ones who can flirt at a level that doesn't require e+boning. Watching Corbal talk about her Cheeto and mayonnaise sandwiches with clowns is a perfect example. It's energizing for me to be in that environment and lit provides me that. Sometimes.

Let's make out.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I totally agree with AGG. I like flirting and I like people who can flirt without needing to take their pants off. I like flirting, I like watching other people flirt (including my people).

Good flirting requires a lot of social skills that I find enjoyable - humor, intelligence, situational awareness. It's a good measure of a person. I like flirty friendships but men are generally WAY easier going than women at this.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Let's make out.

I'm down.

I hope you don't mind that I'm covered in baby puke.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I totally agree with AGG. I like flirting and I like people who can flirt without needing to take their pants off. I like flirting, I like watching other people flirt (including my people).

Good flirting requires a lot of social skills that I find enjoyable - humor, intelligence, situational awareness. It's a good measure of a person. I like flirty friendships but men are generally WAY easier going than women at this.

Definitely agree with you and AGG and BadAmy about flirting, and wanting to be able to do it without there being an assumption of sex. But I’ve always found women easier going about it than men… In my experience, men have been more likely to assume it was going somewhere. At least that’s been my experience in person. I like flirting on here because it seems like most men, and women, take it as it’s meant, just fun.

 

[saustin5432]

I'm down.

I hope you don't mind that I'm covered in baby puke.

For the record I was eating lunch when I read this and retched a little. I can definitely uncheck the baby puke kink. Lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Definitely agree with you and AGG and BadAmy about flirting, and wanting to be able to do it without there being an assumption of sex. But I’ve always found women easier going about it than men… In my experience, men have been more likely to assume it was going somewhere. At least that’s been my experience in person. I like flirting on here because it seems like most men, and women, take it as it’s meant, just fun.

Just to clarify my post - I agree with men being quicker to try to bone down but women are quick to assume that I'm trying to bone down.
I've gotten a few of those "im not into girls msgs". I just want to say - "I'm friendly flirting. I assume no girls want to climb between thighs unless they make it BLATANTLY obvious." Most women just find other women safer to flirt with.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Just to clarify my post - I agree with men being quicker to try to bone down but women are quick to assume that I'm trying to bone down.
I've gotten a few of those "im not into girls msgs". I just want to say - "I'm friendly flirting. I assume no girls want to climb between thighs unless they make it BLATANTLY obvious." Most women just find other women safer to flirt with.

Oh, yeah, I get that…

 

[Lonelywife1205]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

I struggle with this. I flirt A LOT. Most of the time it’s just all harmless and in good fun and I have no sexual intentions with the person I am flirting with. Sometimes this has gotten me into trouble because the person I was flirting with took it like I was interested in more than fun, flirty banter. Sometimes I flirt with intention and I want more than innocent fun. I feel like I flirt differently in these situations and make it clear I’m interested in them, but apparently I don’t. I need to work on this because I never want to hurt someone or lead them on.

 

[Wand3rlust]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

Mine is always the second. I very rarely mean the first, and om often surprised that it's taken that way. Sometimes I've got myself into situations where I'm like 'oh no - this has taken a VERY unfortunate turn' - and others where I've been 'oh - ok - this is moving in an interesting direction' - in either case, there has to be some sort of connection.

If it moves to the first it would be organically, over time - not on the first or second interaction.

 

[Jake069258]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

This brings a thought to my mind. I am on the record as quoting "90% of all communication is non-verbal" I have said to others here... but in the case of lit, and the chat that sometimes follows, the ONLY communication that is available is words. So I attempt to try to be as direct as possible. I will tell someone that I find them attractive. Be it that we have a common interest, or have flirted on boards, or they are flat out physically beautiful... but I find myself being gun shy at times, because I don't want to come across as creepy or disrespectful. Creepy is something that, I feel, a man cannot come back from online haha.

 

[FunLi]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

My flirting usually consists of some type of awkwardness created by myself to just spice things up a bit. It’s fun, it’s casual. Sometimes I impress myself with my flirting skills and other times I feel like I need to apologize for how terrible they are. I don’t typically flirt with sexual intent. I feel that when I’m into someone, it just sorta happens without that intention - which now I feel doesn’t make any sense at all.

Sometimes my style, both good and bad instances, can be taken in the wrong direction and men automatically think it’s with sexual intent. For women, I feel like it’s taken much more casually, which makes it easier to flirt with women and usually more fun

 

[Orchidea73]

I think peoples opinion on what flirting is and means to them varies. But I agree with PLP, flirting requires good social and communication skills.

I think great flirts always have a positive attitude and put the other person first. When you are flirting with someone, you are paying them a compliment. Flirting can be frivolous, or it can have far-reaching uses that goes beyond attracting somebody’s attention, getting a date or even being romantic. It’s a feel-good activity. It is a fun way to connect with others. It brings good vibe and energy to your daily interactions.

At its simplest, flirting is fun and entertaining. However, it also has the potential to be complex and political.

But to answer the more specific question. I can flirt in all ways possible, with sexual intent or just casual and fun, and/or get way with something. It depends from the person and situation/context. It comes out organically. There is nothing forced about it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

For the record I was eating lunch when I read this and retched a little. I can definitely uncheck the baby puke kink. Lol

My job here is done

 

[AmberLGreen]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

On the boards I am a massive flirt and know that some of what I say implies more than what it means. I even shock myself sometimes! I have no filter and I will not apologise for that. In private I am totally different, still flirty but on a much friendlier level.

I am 100% straight but I will flirt with the ladies as much as the men. Flirting makes people feel good and if it means somebody can have that feeling, even if only for a few minutes, then that is a good thing.

If I was truly interested in somebody I would make that very clear.

 

[keeperofsecrets69]

My job here is done

hopefully your job of cleaning that mess up is done also. People cant be making out or flirting or basically doing anything around the playground with puke on them. That shit just isnt natural

 

[BadAmy]

For the record I was eating lunch when I read this and retched a little. I can definitely uncheck the baby puke kink. Lol

Meh. I've been covered in worse.

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[Whiskeyjack]

If I'm flirting with you, it probably means I'm not interested. When I'm interested I get too nervous and flustered to flirt properly. So instead I'll blurt out something blunt and awkward like, "I think you're the best lady on the planet and I want to look at your face every day." That's how I got married.

 

[Daisy_Love]

So, the preceding conversation brings up an interesting point I've got a question around.

Flirting.

There are very generally two types of flirtation. Flirting with intention of signaling sexual interest and flirting without intention, just general flirting to spice up a conversation or encounter.

What's your style? How do you signal the difference? How do you tell the difference?

Ohhhh I love seeing people get their flirt on!! It’s fun to watch the banter and playfulness. I mean, I love flirting with Orchi even though we’re not into girls but it’s fun and it comes without consequences.

I think I’m friendly more than flirty. I agree with PLP and Orchi, flirting definitely requires good social skills, communication, intelligence and self awareness of the situation etc