Pegging help
- Thread starter gary04
- Start date
NikiVien
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Sep 22, 2020
- Posts
- 245
Inch and a half dowel
Goldenfinger
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Feb 18, 2020
- Posts
- 4,417
There are many out there. Different shapes and sizes. Remember lots of lube and she can use some fingers to start things out.
Crios
Wayfaring Stranger
- Joined
- May 14, 2021
- Posts
- 2,433
LOTS of lube!
You can never use too much lube. And yeah, fingers beforehand help. We also use butt plugs (wife and I have matching ones except mine is larger
). We have one softer, flexible strapon as well as a larger, more firm one that was originally intended as a penis-extender but we never use it for that.
Once you get used to it, being pegged is like HEAVEN!
You can never use too much lube. And yeah, fingers beforehand help. We also use butt plugs (wife and I have matching ones except mine is larger
). We have one softer, flexible strapon as well as a larger, more firm one that was originally intended as a penis-extender but we never use it for that. Once you get used to it, being pegged is like HEAVEN!
You can never use too much lube. And yeah, fingers beforehand help. We also use butt plugs (wife and I have matching ones except mine is larger
Once you get used to it, being pegged is like HEAVEN!
I can’t agree more with the lube. ID glide. Start shopping here on lit to find a more pliable strap-on Dildo
anniebaby10
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- May 5, 2019
- Posts
- 1,473
A soft silicone anal plug can get you used to being stretched. AND use a lotta lube. We like the Millennium Lube.
Twink_Daddi
Experienced
- Joined
- Dec 17, 2019
- Posts
- 33
Go SLOW and MORE LUBE than you will possibly believe is necessary. Them, use a bit more. Put down some towels so you don't make a mess. Take is slow, start with fingertips and (nails trimmed!) a finger or two, a small toy. Control your breathing. You both need to be patient, it's easy to get too excited and cram things in before your partner is ready!
If you've ever fisted your wife (you should!) it's the same basic idea. It's not a process to start when you're already tired and pressed for time!
But yes, there are softer toys. My wife prefers harder materials like glass and metal; I MUCH prefer something that's got a little more give, something that has a little more realism and that feels a little gentler inside me. Just make sure you use the right lube - no silicone lubes on silicone toys!
If you've ever fisted your wife (you should!) it's the same basic idea. It's not a process to start when you're already tired and pressed for time!
But yes, there are softer toys. My wife prefers harder materials like glass and metal; I MUCH prefer something that's got a little more give, something that has a little more realism and that feels a little gentler inside me. Just make sure you use the right lube - no silicone lubes on silicone toys!
Astroman72
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Jun 27, 2015
- Posts
- 999
Yep, as others have said, lots and lots of lube. I like Slippery Stuff.
And yes, it helps to start with something small and then use a few different plugs or toys to slowly and gradually work your way up to the biggest that you're going to use. And what I do, is if one seems a little big, insert it partway (just before it gets uncomfortable,) and count to 30 while you hold it there. Then remove, add more lube and repeat until you can take it comfortably.
My best anal experiences are always when I go really slow and gradual to get loosened up before the serious riding (or fucking, as the case may be.) When I'm too horny and try to get a full-size dildo in too fast, those usually aren't very good sessions.
And yes, it helps to start with something small and then use a few different plugs or toys to slowly and gradually work your way up to the biggest that you're going to use. And what I do, is if one seems a little big, insert it partway (just before it gets uncomfortable,) and count to 30 while you hold it there. Then remove, add more lube and repeat until you can take it comfortably.
My best anal experiences are always when I go really slow and gradual to get loosened up before the serious riding (or fucking, as the case may be.) When I'm too horny and try to get a full-size dildo in too fast, those usually aren't very good sessions.
Good advice above. Before you get fucked you should be practicing on yourself with a dildo so that your sphincter muscle can get used to allowing things to enter instead of just exiting. Take it slow and give your ass time to adjust. Eventually you will be taking cock like a pro!
I like the VixSkin products which are the most lifelike I've encountered for the price.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026CL6FI
But we do have a RealDoll RealCock on order which is supposed to be the absolute best, but is pricey to reflect that.
https://www.realdoll.com/realcock-2/
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026CL6FI
But we do have a RealDoll RealCock on order which is supposed to be the absolute best, but is pricey to reflect that.
https://www.realdoll.com/realcock-2/
Crios
Wayfaring Stranger
- Joined
- May 14, 2021
- Posts
- 2,433
Goldenfinger
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Feb 18, 2020
- Posts
- 4,417
Plus, what are you using? It’s hard to give you suggestions not knowing where you started.
Bittersweet1215
Experienced
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2020
- Posts
- 49
There's tons of butt plugs and beads that can get you used to larger and larger sizes. They even sell like trainer kits with much smaller plugs leading up to the bigger guys.
As far as actual dildos go for silicone. Not only is it healthier it gives a bit like the real thing and is more flexible. Stay the hell away from PVC.
It ain't something you can immediately jump into without practice. Even when you are well practiced the first penetration takes patience. Lots of lube, let it glide in, hold it for like 30 seconds. Remove, more lube, put it back in. Work slowly. Once your actual asshole is used to it the rest is history.
Should go without saying your partner should be really aware of this process too. The more you do it the less prep you'll need.
As far as actual dildos go for silicone. Not only is it healthier it gives a bit like the real thing and is more flexible. Stay the hell away from PVC.
It ain't something you can immediately jump into without practice. Even when you are well practiced the first penetration takes patience. Lots of lube, let it glide in, hold it for like 30 seconds. Remove, more lube, put it back in. Work slowly. Once your actual asshole is used to it the rest is history.
Should go without saying your partner should be really aware of this process too. The more you do it the less prep you'll need.
Astroman72
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Jun 27, 2015
- Posts
- 999
The problem I run into with dildos is that while the softer ones feel better, they're usually a lot more difficult to insert by myself!
Never taken a real penis, but I suspect they're the best of both worlds.
Never taken a real penis, but I suspect they're the best of both worlds.
Last edited:
Bittersweet1215
Experienced
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2020
- Posts
- 49
The two words I can offer you is "Dual Density".
Hard inner silicone core. Soft outer layers. Gives that perfect real deal feel too. Toys like this may have a slightly higher price tag but are worth every dollar. And when you get one you won't want anything else really.
NikiVien
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Sep 22, 2020
- Posts
- 245
Wow, they really do look real!
They certainly made my eyes water - and that was just the price!
Last edited:
SmokeInMyEyes
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Nov 30, 2020
- Posts
- 196
Good call on Vixen's VixSkin! My wife has their "Bandit" in her arsenal, and I've spent many a happy moment impaled on it. It's made with platinum silicone and ticks all those safe-to-use boxes so you two can forget that important-but-otherwise-boring shit and just enjoy yourselves.
That said, though, I gotta admit I'm jonesing over the thought of being done all night by RealDoll's "Jones." You know, Santa Baby - I've been extra good this year . . .
Crios
Wayfaring Stranger
- Joined
- May 14, 2021
- Posts
- 2,433
Clean
One other thing to stress is that you should try to be as clean as possible "back there" before doing anything. Good idea to have had a bowel movement recently. IMHO if you really want the experience to be the best, you can also anal douche or have an enema. You really just need a bulb syringe and some warm water.
That being said, even when you're "clean" you may still have some shit on the cock when she pulls out. Just comes with the territory.
One other thing to stress is that you should try to be as clean as possible "back there" before doing anything. Good idea to have had a bowel movement recently. IMHO if you really want the experience to be the best, you can also anal douche or have an enema. You really just need a bulb syringe and some warm water.
That being said, even when you're "clean" you may still have some shit on the cock when she pulls out. Just comes with the territory.
Womanluvr
Sexual explorer
- Joined
- Feb 20, 2009
- Posts
- 815
Lots of good advise above. I think the most import thing is to slow down. You can't go from zero to flange deep is 60 seconds. Especially the first few times. Start small and work your way to something larger when you are craving more. Also, get a lube shooter. You need to get lube into your rectum, your sphincter muscle is going to act like squeegee on your toy as it slides in so most of lube you apply to it ends up running down you balls or the crack of you butt.
Crios
Wayfaring Stranger
- Joined
- May 14, 2021
- Posts
- 2,433
Yep!
Someone just asked me why my wife doesn't peg me more frequently than once every month or so. My response was basically that it takes some effort to be ready for it. Not exactly a spur-of-the-moment exercise, at least for us. But its just amazing when we do it!
When I am being fucked every day my ass gets used to being fucked and I don’t need any preparation (except making sure that I am clean). It’s only when I have not gotten it for a while that I need to get my ass ready for it again. So if you are only getting it once a month your ass never really gets used to it like it would if you were getting fucked every day.
Goldenfinger
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Feb 18, 2020
- Posts
- 4,417
SmokeInMyEyes
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Nov 30, 2020
- Posts
- 196
One other thing to stress is that you should try to be as clean as possible "back there" before doing anything. Good idea to have had a bowel movement recently. IMHO if you really want the experience to be the best, you can also anal douche or have an enema. You really just need a bulb syringe and some warm water.
That being said, even when you're "clean" you may still have some shit on the cock when she pulls out. Just comes with the territory.
An enema is probably inescapable for anyone wanting to explore this brave new world, but focusing on a regular regimen prior to each time your partner plays in your poop chute is counter-productive to the real problem, and that's YOUR DIET. Introducing an enema to your dark regions is like unleashing a holocaust upon the flora our bodies need to keep it right. The last thing the little sweethearts need is to be subjected to Total War.
If we haven't already, those of us who have made pegging part of our lifestyle need to come to grips with what we really are. We might see ourselves as red-blooded hetero males just playing around on the ends of our wives' or girlfriends' strap-ons, but we're still BOTTOMS, and for best results, a fuckee really needs to be on some type of a bottom's diet.
For me, that means drinking a LOT of water while foregoing caffeine in any form, and I take a cue from my late great grandmother by adding Metamucil to at least one of those many daily glasses of H20. I'm heavy on soluble fiber but watch the insoluble fiber by peeling my fruits and vegetables. I go light on red meat and, while seafood's mostly fine, I run as far from dairy as I can get. The ideal appearance of my stool should neatly replicate our dog's compact turd nuggets and, if they sink like a stone to the bottom of the toilet, I'm reasonably assured my fat intake is well in hand.
Those are the high points. It's not a hermit's diet, and there is some built-in flexibility. I won't live forever eating like this, but so far I think I still look fairly decent. Best of all, I don't nave to make excuses when I feel the tip of my wife's strap-on against my lips in the middle of the night or experience her fingers tenderly circling my asshole. It's just time to play . . .
Crios
Wayfaring Stranger
- Joined
- May 14, 2021
- Posts
- 2,433
That's kind of what I was getting at by "preparation" - cleaning myself out beforehand. Even though I don't get pegged on a regular basis, I'm pretty able to take most everything she fucks me with without pain or serious discomfort. Last weekend, she used a strapon on me that was 2.5 inches longer (7.5inches to 5 inches) and 1.25 inches thicker around (6 inches to 4.75 inches) than what we normally use. Went in without a whimper. Well, of course I whimpered from the ecstasy of the anal invasion
Similar threads
