Female-Led Relationships

[gregy70]

Thanks for that little share Littlecordelera

 

[Scareltt]

The sounds of everyday life..

It's amazing how much information there is in the sound of footsteps.

It is about 8:00 AM where we live right now. It is dark and overcast outside. We had a fair amount of rain earlier, but it is very still and quiet at this moment. Usually at this time my office is bathed in morning sunlight, but I have the lamps on in order to see my work.

Just a few minutes ago, Jason was leaving our master bedroom and headed downstairs. That meant he would have to pass by my office, and as he did, I told him to take the step stool downstairs and put it away. It is a metal step stool, and it's kind of heavy. I used it yesterday, and I left it leaning against the railing next to the stairs, but I had decided I would have Jason return it to its rightful place since it's so heavy.

When Jason passed my office, he did not stop moving as I called out to him. I heard his footsteps begin down the stairs, and I could tell he did not stop to grab the step stool.

"Don't forget the step stool!" I called out as he bounded down the stairs. He stopped, and I could hear the gears turning in his head. He was wondering, "How much trouble am I going to get into if I don't get that step stool right now." I continued my work in the quiet of our house, making a list on paper of things I needed to get done today. Jason's pause lasted a good few seconds, and then I could practically hear him roll his eyes. He trudged back up the stairs, grabbed the step stool, and headed back down the stairs.

I called out, "Thank you!"

I like that you could hear his eye roll.. I also like reading that he did go back upstairs to retrieve the stool.

I tend to tune out what I cant actually see so I’d let the eye roll slide. If it happened right in front of me that’s a different story. I’d probably combine whatever chores for the next few days to keep him busy. He’d be free to roll his eyes at that, too…

 

[Scareltt]

My morning..

Since we’re sharing…

My morning became more interesting when I discovered that my key fob was in my husbands trunk. We went to the pool yesterday afternoon and the pool passes are on the key ring. After we checked in he put my keys in the pool bag. Of course when we got home I asked him to get the pool bag out of the trunk. So he could wash the towels… he forgot (or was too lazy) and there I was unable to get our oldest to softball camp, or our youngest to dance camp.

I had to text a neighbor, she’s awesome and got them both where they needed to go.

Now I’ll need something different for my husband. The usual cold shower or kneeling on rice doesn’t seem to cover this..

Any ideas?

 

[dontneedone]

Since we’re sharing…

My morning became more interesting when I discovered that my key fob was in my husbands trunk. We went to the pool yesterday afternoon and the pool passes are on the key ring. After we checked in he put my keys in the pool bag. Of course when we got home I asked him to get the pool bag out of the trunk. So he could wash the towels… he forgot (or was too lazy) and there I was unable to get our oldest to softball camp, or our youngest to dance camp.

I had to text a neighbor, she’s awesome and got them both where they needed to go.

Now I’ll need something different for my husband. The usual cold shower or kneeling on rice doesn’t seem to cover this..

Any ideas?

Cage time.

 

[Scareltt]

I appreciate your advice..

Cage time.

I try not to make his punishments sexual. I also don’t want him to view the penis cage as a punishment. The penis cage is to keep him focused on things other than his penis.

I might make him write lines.

“I will always return Amy’s keys to her Suburban after we go to the pool.”

Something like that 200 times. Plus errands for our neighbors.

Any nonsexual ideas?

 

[irishblade]

I try not to make his punishments sexual. I also don’t want him to view the penis cage as a punishment. The penis cage is to keep him focused on things other than his penis.

I might make him write lines.

“I will always return Amy’s keys to her Suburban after we go to the pool.”

Something like that 200 times. Plus errands for our neighbors.

Any nonsexual ideas?

I love the lines idea. 100 lines for sure. Nonsexual but still humiliating.

 

[Scareltt]

Overkill?

I love the lines idea. 100 lines for sure. Nonsexual but still humiliating.

You think only 100? Not 200?

 

[Indianarotica]

You think only 100? Not 200?

Definitely 200. I also think he needs to write the definition of selflessness 50 times too

 

[irishblade]

You think only 100? Not 200?

For what sounds like a first time offense, 100 seems sufficient. Not too aggressive but enough to know he shouldn’t do it again.

 

[gregy70]

Thankyou for your nice shares too Scareltt.
I like these everyday snippets.

 

[nightowl75]

Non-sexual

Do most people you both are friends/family know that you rule? Make him grovel at your feet in front of them and confess that you are the queen (or princess).

 

[littlecordelera]

I try not to make his punishments sexual.

I wish I had seen this before I answered your PM. Sorry, Scareltt.

So this is where you and I are very different. I almost always make any sort of retribution for Jason sexual. I do this because I feel like it makes it easier for him to accept and comply, since it is all part of a sexual game. It also gives me an avenue to keep variety and fun in our sex life, and really in our marriage as a whole. When we have an outright argument, and sex is the last thing on our minds, I can more or less forget any sort of compliance from Jason in the near term. But he will slowly come around, and to ease his ego as he asks for forgiveness, I become the stern wife/mom and he becomes the naughty boy. At that point, he will do eagerly whatever I tell him.

But every couple is different, and you have to do what works for you. I've just learned over the years what works for us.

 

[Scareltt]

Two different schools of thought and we probably get similar results.

I wish I had seen this before I answered your PM. Sorry, Scareltt.

So this is where you and I are very different. I almost always make any sort of retribution for Jason sexual. I do this because I feel like it makes it easier for him to accept and comply, since it is all part of a sexual game. It also gives me an avenue to keep variety and fun in our sex life, and really in our marriage as a whole. When we have an outright argument, and sex is the last thing on our minds, I can more or less forget any sort of compliance from Jason in the near term. But he will slowly come around, and to ease his ego as he asks for forgiveness, I become the stern wife/mom and he becomes the naughty boy. At that point, he will do eagerly whatever I tell him.

But every couple is different, and you have to do what works for you. I've just learned over the years what works for us.

It’s definitely a learning process for everyone involved. Last night I went with 100 lines, and he’ll help the neighbors with their new fence. In my reply to you I explained in more detail why I was more upset than maybe I should have been.

Having to write the below 100 times is far from harsh and reminded him of getting in trouble in elementary school.. haha those carefree days..

His hand didn’t fall off…
“I will never leave Amy’s key fob in my car again.”

 

[eroticspank]

I wish I had seen this before I answered your PM. Sorry, Scareltt.

So this is where you and I are very different. I almost always make any sort of retribution for Jason sexual. I do this because I feel like it makes it easier for him to accept and comply, since it is all part of a sexual game. It also gives me an avenue to keep variety and fun in our sex life, and really in our marriage as a whole. When we have an outright argument, and sex is the last thing on our minds, I can more or less forget any sort of compliance from Jason in the near term. But he will slowly come around, and to ease his ego as he asks for forgiveness, I become the stern wife/mom and he becomes the naughty boy. At that point, he will do eagerly whatever I tell him.

But every couple is different, and you have to do what works for you. I've just learned over the years what works for us.

Scareltt and littlecordelera, I just asked a PM with this same subject. My question was how do you differentiate between a punishment spanking and a sexual spanking? OR if you use sex as part of punishment how do you keep it as punishment vs something he desires? Well, the above is a great explanation, and reading the answer to my PM I think I understand.

I would add the fact that once we have made a mistake we typically already feel bad about it. I would say being confronted, talking about feelings, and understanding/apologizing is important. The punishment is like an agreed-upon sentence, like putting a dollar in a jar for each time you swear for example.

So my frame of mind going over my lady's lap for a spanking is different when it comes to punishment. I offer myself up to her and accept what is done to me. If there is a sexual element, I don't see it the same way I would if it were not a punishment. There may be erection or arousal but my mind is in a different place. I am thinking about better behavior and how I can be a better husband.

ES

 

[Scareltt]

I’ve only spanked my husband twice.

Scareltt and littlecordelera, I just asked a PM with this same subject. My question was how do you differentiate between a punishment spanking and a sexual spanking? OR if you use sex as part of punishment how do you keep it as punishment vs something he desires? Well, the above is a great explanation, and reading the answer to my PM I think I understand.

I would add the fact that once we have made a mistake we typically already feel bad about it. I would say being confronted, talking about feelings, and understanding/apologizing is important. The punishment is like an agreed-upon sentence, like putting a dollar in a jar for each time you swear for example.

So my frame of mind going over my lady's lap for a spanking is different when it comes to punishment. I offer myself up to her and accept what is done to me. If there is a sexual element, I don't see it the same way I would if it were not a punishment. There may be erection or arousal but my mind is in a different place. I am thinking about better behavior and how I can be a better husband.

ES

His first spanking happened after I received a note from a teacher. A bad word was used in school. The only person I knew at the time that said “what the fuck” was him.

I had to wait a week, but he got 50 with a shower brush. There were tears for days, however he’s hasn’t uttered a curse word around me or anyone since…

There was nothing sexual about it.

 

[eroticspank]

His first spanking happened after I received a note from a teacher. A bad word was used in school. The only person I knew at the time that said “what the fuck” was him.

I had to wait a week, but he got 50 with a shower brush. There were tears for days, however he’s hasn’t uttered a curse word around me or anyone since…

There was nothing sexual about it.

Exactly!! Well said. I like the fact that he can let his emotions flow around you. That is deep.

ES

 

[Justplatonic]

Exactly!! Well said. I like the fact that he can let his emotions flow around you. That is deep.

ES

Too right, eroticspank... Leading Women are exceptionally deep, as they are on a superior level of thinking to us. Our lives are enriched by them... I think policywank, littlecordelera, and Scareltt approaches are tailored to their lovers and the dynamic of their relationships, usually over an extended period of time.

So there is no right or wrong, only variety. The common thread with every beautifully strong, and intelligent leading Woman is this; they always have the best interests of their loved ones at heart. They care beyond what we perceive, and love beyond our expectations...

 

[policywank]

punishment

My husband has a deep need to be obedient and receive my approval, so it isn't like dealing with a child or subordinate who resist my authority.

Chances are that when he does something wrong it was an oversight or carelessness or occasionally laziness. The simple act of expressing my disapproval is often enough.

When more is required denying him the things he craves is quite effective. The things that resonate most with him are sexual and/or fetish oriented. I have no problem denying them because I all I am doing is taking that thing or that experience away for a period of time. I am not compromising or tainting it in any way so i can return it to him fully intact when his punishment is over.

Conversely I rarely use spanking as a punishment. That is because erotic spanking is something he truly enjoys. It is easy enough to alter the experience so that he doesn't enjoy it, but I find it a challenge to do that without running the risk of altering his relationship to the experience. I think that is a by-product of his personality as opposed to the act itself. For other men spanking can be quite effective.

It takes quite a bit of creative thinking though and it can be counter-intuitive. For instance, for some men putting them in a cock cage might be seen as punishment. But for my husband it is a symbol of my authority and his submission. He revels in the way I subtly dominate him and exercise authority over him. Removing the cock cage and ignoring him or refusing to exercise any authority over him for a period of time is punishment and it is highly effective.

 

[gregy70]

That’s a beautiful share Policywank. Thankyou!
I think I’m like your husband and I could see your style working on me too.
Now I’m craving if I’m to be honest.

 

[irishblade]

Thanks for the perspective on this PW. I agree that spanking as punishment could definitely alter the relationship he has with erotic spanking. I’m not sure it would be a good thing to change.

My husband has a deep need to be obedient and receive my approval, so it isn't like dealing with a child or subordinate who resist my authority.

Chances are that when he does something wrong it was an oversight or carelessness or occasionally laziness. The simple act of expressing my disapproval is often enough.

When more is required denying him the things he craves is quite effective. The things that resonate most with him are sexual and/or fetish oriented. I have no problem denying them because I all I am doing is taking that thing or that experience away for a period of time. I am not compromising or tainting it in any way so i can return it to him fully intact when his punishment is over.

Conversely I rarely use spanking as a punishment. That is because erotic spanking is something he truly enjoys. It is easy enough to alter the experience so that he doesn't enjoy it, but I find it a challenge to do that without running the risk of altering his relationship to the experience. I think that is a by-product of his personality as opposed to the act itself. For other men spanking can be quite effective.

It takes quite a bit of creative thinking though and it can be counter-intuitive. For instance, for some men putting them in a cock cage might be seen as punishment. But for my husband it is a symbol of my authority and his submission. He revels in the way I subtly dominate him and exercise authority over him. Removing the cock cage and ignoring him or refusing to exercise any authority over him for a period of time is punishment and it is highly effective.

 

[policywank]

That’s a beautiful share Policywank. Thankyou!
I think I’m like your husband and I could see your style working on me too.
Now I’m craving if I’m to be honest.

It is in your nature to be a submissive cuckold so very little force is necessary.

As a woman who leads I know that once I identify that craving it will be the key to obedience. The submissive man will want to comply and be grateful for the opportunity. There is no conflict in objectives.

 

[gregy70]

It is in your nature to be a submissive cuckold so very little force is necessary.

As a woman who leads I know that once I identify that craving it will be the key to obedience. The submissive man will want to comply and be grateful for the opportunity. There is no conflict in objectives.

You already know what those words of yours do to me but Thankyou!
I’m grateful that you understand the nature of such things and make it feel natural.

 

[MaleProtagonist]

These things are a massive myth and very very rare to be found IRL out in the wild. Most everything you read on the internet is written by fantasists masturbating in front of the computer screen. The appeal for women of an FLR is something close to nil.

 

[Justplatonic]

These things are a massive myth and very very rare to be found IRL out in the wild. Most everything you read on the internet is written by fantasists masturbating in front of the computer screen. The appeal for women of an FLR is something close to nil.

Hi MaleProtagonist... Of course you're entitled to your opinion... We all live on this planet, call it real life, or vanilla world... It doesn't matter... Know this... I am a very real submissive man, and extremely proud of my love and adoration of Female Leaders. That is no myth, or fantasy with all due respect... Just scroll back through all these pages on this thread and other threads to read the truth...

I'll admit the male dominant aspect is larger in numbers, but please let me assure you Female Leaders are very real, and very capable...

 

[MaleProtagonist]

Hi MaleProtagonist... Of course you're entitled to your opinion... We all live on this planet, call it real life, or vanilla world... It doesn't matter... Know this... I am a very real submissive man, and extremely proud of my love and adoration of Female Leaders. That is no myth, or fantasy with all due respect...

Sorry didn't mean to imply people like you don't exist, obviously there is a sizeable desire for FLR out there amongst submissive men. But I think the reality is you're not going to get many takers on the female end of the bargain to run the ship.