How to get the courage to act on my Bi feelings???

[Readytogiveitatry]

I am a man and I fantasize constantly about being with another man...How do I make this a reality? Suggestions?

 

[el_uno77]

I suggest you start by watching videos of men with other men if you haven't done so already. look at what's available, white, interracial, older, younger, then decide what strikes you as doable. go to an adult book store and see what happens. I came out as bisexual to a good friend who happens to be gay. he's my lover now. we have good times when we meet. accept it for what it is. try it out and if you don't like it there is no harm done. also, practice safe sex. the only way to go until you find someone you can trust.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

Wonderful advice!!! I have watched a lot of porn and get so worked up! I have never thought of an adult bookstore...Interesting! Thanks

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

I did meet a guy for drinks and I was tingling the whole time. We both had no place to go to be together but it was extremely exciting. We did hug and I wanted to kiss him but it was too public. We are trying to work on a plan to have alone time. I am so nervous to know what to do.

 

[ultramannc]

Same Boat

I am in the same boat with the exception of meeting someone. Mine is all fantasy right now. Hope that changes but not sure how I want it to play out...

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

I am a man and I fantasize constantly about being with another man...How do I make this a reality? Suggestions?

Have a long in depth conversation with yourself as to what the hell you REALLY want.
If you discover that in spite of all indications to the opposite that you are intent on seeking a man to have sex with then go where you know or have heard, that men go to do things with other men and observe what is going on.
Make yourself watch what men do to get noticed by and approached by other men.
Then either do those things or a variation that suits your demeanor and personality.
One of the things I have done is used a 'roach clip' (an alligator electrical clip used to hold a marijuana joint) and attach it to the bottom of t-shirt right in front of my zipper. Then either approach a guy and say hi or whatever or wait and see how long it takes before he says something about the clip. Slide a hand down my shirt to the clip and flip it up, make a joke about putting it some place that I can't forget where it is ...yadda yadda yadda blah, blah blah, you get the picture.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

I am in the same boat with the exception of meeting someone. Mine is all fantasy right now. Hope that changes but not sure how I want it to play out...

I am hoping things workout for both of us...It is a HUGE step and I feel in my heart I will love it! I know I have to try it. I am nervous just posting this! I will let you know how it goes so please check back.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

I am in the same boat with the exception of meeting someone. Mine is all fantasy right now. Hope that changes but not sure how I want it to play out...

Have a long in depth conversation with yourself as to what the hell you REALLY want.
If you discover that in spite of all indications to the opposite that you are intent on seeking a man to have sex with then go where you know or have heard, that men go to do things with other men and observe what is going on.
Make yourself watch what men do to get noticed by and approached by other men.
Then either do those things or a variation that suits your demeanor and personality.
One of the things I have done is used a 'roach clip' (an alligator electrical clip used to hold a marijuana joint) and attach it to the bottom of t-shirt right in front of my zipper. Then either approach a guy and say hi or whatever or wait and see how long it takes before he says something about the clip. Slide a hand down my shirt to the clip and flip it up, make a joke about putting it some place that I can't forget where it is ...yadda yadda yadda blah, blah blah, you get the picture.

Thank you so much for the wonderful ideas... I have very strong fantasies about sex with a man but actually following through is a big step. How did your first encounter with a man go?

 

[Nadinet]

thoughts

any thoughts on what you want to do or have done to you? No point in meeting a guy who is top( someone who wants to put it in someone) when you want to be a top too, so you need a compatible partner, even if its just another guy who wants initially to have a mutual wank and/or stroke....

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

any thoughts on what you want to do or have done to you? No point in meeting a guy who is top( someone who wants to put it in someone) when you want to be a top too, so you need a compatible partner, even if its just another guy who wants initially to have a mutual wank and/or stroke....

You are 100% correct! And Thanks. In my fantasies I am a lot like your profile. I would consider myself a bottom or a pleaser. The idea of kissing and touching is very exciting to me. It seems like most guy just want sex with zero emotion. Making love to a man is what I fantasize the most about. I don’t know where that’s put me. I guess more gay than bi??? I guess one needs to have sex to know for sure.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

any thoughts on what you want to do or have done to you? No point in meeting a guy who is top( someone who wants to put it in someone) when you want to be a top too, so you need a compatible partner, even if its just another guy who wants initially to have a mutual wank and/or stroke....

I am a man and I fantasize constantly about being with another man...How do I make this a reality? Suggestions?

I am sooo thankful for this site! I think a lot of guys are in the same situation and you experienced guys are amazing to offer your onsite.

 

[Nadinet]

happy to chat via pm or email/skype if u feel the need

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

happy to chat via pm or email/skype if u feel the need

PM your later...Thanks

 

[klippert]

If you are single it should be rather easy. There are 100s of Bi / gay sites that you can join. Throughly fill in the profile. Make shure you put in your location and weather you can host.
For instance squirt dot org. If you’ve finished your profile. Most likely you will have either a chat or message that say.
If you really want to make it happen. Be ready to meet someone. Unfortunately, there are 20/1 fantasy ,/ chat people. Makes a meeting slim.

 

[n8Romantic]

What Klippert said.

squirt.org is a good place to begin. Be accurate in your profile about your experience level, your desires, and your boundaries. Getting together before going any further is essential in my opinion. Saves for embarrassing moments and regrets. And safety first, always safety first.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Thank you so much for the wonderful ideas... I have very strong fantasies about sex with a man but actually following through is a big step. How did your first encounter with a man go?

my first time with a man , I was much younger than one should be to be taken by four grown men...it was NOT a fun time for me.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

If you are single it should be rather easy. There are 100s of Bi / gay sites that you can join. Throughly fill in the profile. Make shure you put in your location and weather you can host.
For instance squirt dot org. If you’ve finished your profile. Most likely you will have either a chat or message that say.
If you really want to make it happen. Be ready to meet someone. Unfortunately, there are 20/1 fantasy ,/ chat people. Makes a meeting slim.

Thank you for the help finding the right guy to start with. How was your first experience? BTW... I never thought I would love watching the male penis so much! Your penis is absolutely perfect!!!

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

What Klippert said.

squirt.org is a good place to begin. Be accurate in your profile about your experience level, your desires, and your boundaries. Getting together before going any further is essential in my opinion. Saves for embarrassing moments and regrets. And safety first, always safety first.

Finding the right partners with compatibility is huge! Safety is a must. I know in my heart I really want to be with men! How was your first encounter?

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

my first time with a man , I was much younger than one should be to be taken by four grown men...it was NOT a fun time for me.

I am sooo sorry! I know there are a lot of crazy people out there! I am going to wait for the right one.

 

[Mrfixitgood]

Same situation

I’ve been bicurious for as long as I can remember. I don’t have any experience with a guy. I think it d more like a friends with bi benefits things. Just someone I know and trust rather then a random hook up. I also want a mutual thing. We both stroke and suck and maybe fuck each other. I don’t know how hard that is to find. Seems one guy is a top and the other a bottom.
Been watching bi / gay porn and like it. Just want someone I feel comfortable with to experiment and enjoy.
Any advice would be nice. Id also like a online bi guy to chat with as I became more comfortable about being open with this.
Please pm if you’d like to chat.

 

[bikurinpa]

I am sure alot of men have the same desires but dont know how to approach a guy about it for fear of it going all the wrong way! I myseld would love to find a guy who we can get together with as regular friends and when we get behind closed doors, then make love together. Man to man sites are just a joke, most all on those will chat and then ghost out and be GONE.

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

I am a man and I fantasize constantly about being with another man...How do I make this a reality? Suggestions?

FINALLY DID IT! Ur SO AMAZING!!!We met online and were a good match and decided to met in person at his place. He was so sweet and made me feel comfortable. Once he put his hand on my thigh I know I was his. We made out for an hour and then off to his bedroom. We took all our clothes off and kissed again . I was about to cum the whole time. He has a huge penis 8-9 inches but not too thick. We did the 69 position with me on top and I was able to take most of his cock down my throat without or very little gag reflex. Having a cock in my mouth was one of the best feelings I have ever experienced. It was wonderful and sooo natural. He said I was a natural cock sucker and I loved that. He stopped me and rolled me on my back lubed my ass and put a condom on and slowly enter me. It hurt for a minute but I got used to his size and we fucked for along time. I came 3 times. It was the greatest sexual experience of my life. I am hooked and can’t wait to be with him again...At this point I don’t think I am bisexual. Honestly, I consider myself gay and I am happy with that!

 

[human_male]

That's great news. Your story gives me courage. I'd planned to go to a queer and kinky munch so I can hang out with gay and bi guys socially and see how I feel. Or there's a gay club in town with glory holes. I figured i'd take some hot videos on my phone so i could get in the mood.

Once I'm there I think I'd go for it. Its just getting the courage to go.

Good on you, man.

 

[TheUKGirl1]

I'm a gay girl but know a few gay men.

Just go to a gay pub. Here in the UK they are THE most friendly places. You're more likely to find somebody you can at least have a drink with and talk to there. And there will be those that will jump on me for this, but here, online, is no way to meet somebody.

If all you want is a fuck, then here in Newcastle we have the Gardens, a delightful name for a bit of waste ground that at night is crawling with blokes after the same thing. One of our pubs had a curtained off area in which likeminded men could explore a bit. Look in your town, something similar will be about.

And dont worry.

EDIT.. I see your nervousness extended to sex on a first date. It reads like a hurriedly typed fantasy...and no paragraphs!

 

[Readytogiveitatry]

UPDATE...The last two weeks have been amazing! I NEVER dreamed in a thousand years I would have a male lover! I certainly fantasized about it for years but never thought I would ever act in my secret feelings. I want to thank all of you that responded to my post and everyone in the same boat.

My first experience was amazing and we are really enjoying each other’s company if you know what I mean. Our first encounter was magical in a nervous kind of way. Now, our time together is so much better as far as the intimacy goes. We love to kiss and touch and even talk. I am enjoying the process and how to please him. I love giving him oral sex and really want to be good at it. He is good at communicating what he likes. We both love to make out the touch and anal sex. When he is on top of me while we are having sex and kissing is simply the best feeling in the world.

So, acting on the my gay feelings is the best thing I have EVER done. I highly recommend Find the right guy and make sure your interest are compatible.

Please Message me if you have questions...