He said I was like a dead-fish

[Reyhoney]

So I was having sex with this medium level rough guy, I mean he wasn’t that rough at all. Anyway we’ve dated a few weeks then I told him I’m going to pursue things with another and he was like okay. I connected with him later on and asked him if he wanted to meet and he said he’s moved on.

Later on he matches with a girl I’m friends with (he doesn’t know we are friends) and he unknowingly brings me up and tells her “not terrible but kinda dead-fish and that it wasn’t that satisfying”

I just want to know if I could be dead fish like? I suck them upside down, I swallow, I moan,I deepthroat, I cum, I talk dirty, I ask him to call me names, I tell him to choke me, to do me doggy, to cum inside me. I ride him, I want it all day! He comes twice at least!

Could I be a dead fish if that’s what I’m doing? Is he slighted that I left him for another so overcompensating by bad mounting me? Or does dead fish mean I’m not emotionally present? I’m confused. Help

 

[geronimo_appleby]

he's probably trying to bone your friend.

 

[HeavyBalls]

So I was having sex with this medium level rough guy, I mean he wasn’t that rough at all. Anyway we’ve dated a few weeks then I told him I’m going to pursue things with another and he was like okay. I connected with him later on and asked him if he wanted to meet and he said he’s moved on.

Later on he matches with a girl I’m friends with (he doesn’t know we are friends) and he unknowingly brings me up and tells her “not terrible but kinda dead-fish and that it wasn’t that satisfying”

I just want to know if I could be dead fish like? I suck them upside down, I swallow, I moan,I deepthroat, I cum, I talk dirty, I ask him to call me names, I tell him to choke me, to do me doggy, to cum inside me. I ride him, I want it all day! He comes twice at least!

Could I be a dead fish if that’s what I’m doing? Is he slighted that I left him for another so overcompensating by bad mounting me? Or does dead fish mean I’m not emotionally present? I’m confused. Help

Sounds like overcompensating to me, and trying to make himself feel big.

 

[KimGordon67]

So I was having sex with this medium level rough guy, I mean he wasn’t that rough at all. Anyway we’ve dated a few weeks then I told him I’m going to pursue things with another and he was like okay. I connected with him later on and asked him if he wanted to meet and he said he’s moved on.

Later on he matches with a girl I’m friends with (he doesn’t know we are friends) and he unknowingly brings me up and tells her “not terrible but kinda dead-fish and that it wasn’t that satisfying”

I just want to know if I could be dead fish like? I suck them upside down, I swallow, I moan,I deepthroat, I cum, I talk dirty, I ask him to call me names, I tell him to choke me, to do me doggy, to cum inside me. I ride him, I want it all day! He comes twice at least!

Could I be a dead fish if that’s what I’m doing? Is he slighted that I left him for another so overcompensating by bad mounting me? Or does dead fish mean I’m not emotionally present? I’m confused. Help

My guess would be that he's trying to make it sound like his previous partners weren't that great compared to your friend. Some people seem to think this is a good idea.

 

[Reyhoney]

he's probably trying to bone your friend.

But is it true? I could be a dead fish?

 

[openmindedmnyc]

But is it true? I could be a dead fish?

That'd only be if when in missionary you just lay there and didn't meet his hips or wrap your legs around him. But everything else you described, no, it doesn't seem like you were a dead fish.

 

[jcED8723]

If you did all that mentioned. Then you don’t need to worry about a thing. He is trying to bone your friend. Move on find a better match and be happy.

 

[gregy70]

If you are doing the things you say you are you arn’t a dead fish.
To me if you told me you wanted to pursue others but still wanted me...personally I’d find that hot.
However not all men can handle a liberated women and I’d say he’s thought it’s easier to just say what he has.

 

[colddiesel]

Just tell your friend that he promised to show you a medical certificate to show he was over his STD, but never quite got round to it.

Two can play the game he is trying - go on the offensive, the more offensive the better.

 

[phil1955]

If a woman is a dead fish, it is probably the man's fault.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

But is it true? I could be a dead fish?

your account doesn't gel with that comparison, no.

 

[StrangeView]

But is it true? I could be a dead fish?

Nope. He probably thought he'd stand more chance with your friend than if he'd told her his ex was totally amazing but she kicked him to the kerb, so you'll have to do.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

So I was having sex with this medium level rough guy, I mean he wasn’t that rough at all. Anyway we’ve dated a few weeks then I told him I’m going to pursue things with another and he was like okay. I connected with him later on and asked him if he wanted to meet and he said he’s moved on.

Later on he matches with a girl I’m friends with (he doesn’t know we are friends) and he unknowingly brings me up and tells her “not terrible but kinda dead-fish and that it wasn’t that satisfying”

I just want to know if I could be dead fish like? I suck them upside down, I swallow, I moan,I deepthroat, I cum, I talk dirty, I ask him to call me names, I tell him to choke me, to do me doggy, to cum inside me. I ride him, I want it all day! He comes twice at least!

Could I be a dead fish if that’s what I’m doing? Is he slighted that I left him for another so overcompensating by bad mounting me? Or does dead fish mean I’m not emotionally present? I’m confused. Help

If you can say that the account of your actions sexually toward this boy (and I stress the word "BOY",) and that you felt you were as emotionally present as he would allow for you to express--; then just let him go on sucking sour grapes, while you find a fuck that is worthy of you. And just be glad he didn't leave you a firm reminder of his time with you--, ie ... disease, damage or financial ruin.
Oh and save yourself some pain and don't bother bad mouthing him back, Karma is still out there and working, he just a little backed up what the Covid and everything.

 

[Reyhoney]

Thank you everyone so much. It really hurt and gutted me because weeks earlier (2 weeks exactly) he was saying I’m delicious and amazing and he hopes he doesn’t disappoint, begging me to go over and how he wished I could stay for an entire weekend so we keep doing it.

Maybe he expected a certain sexual reaction I didn’t give him? Why didn’t he give me any feedback if that’s what he needed then?

 

[AsianFusion]

You're being much too sensitive, he's just another wanker

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Sounds like he is talking out of both sides of his mouth. Better to leave this one in the dust... You have more to offer someone who truly appreciates you.

 

[nutoseen]

dead fish

you lay there when hes trying to go to pound town not moving much, if at all.

if that aint you, then its his issue not yours.

 

[Shenanigans90]

Unfortunately, it makes some people feel better about themselves to put others down. He is most likely insecure and is hoping his snide remarks about you will make your friend get freakier in bed.

 

[Escierto]

Here we are in Simp City.

 

[ChuckandAndrea]

So I was having sex with this medium level rough guy, I mean he wasn’t that rough at all. Anyway we’ve dated a few weeks then I told him I’m going to pursue things with another and he was like okay. I connected with him later on and asked him if he wanted to meet and he said he’s moved on.

Later on he matches with a girl I’m friends with (he doesn’t know we are friends) and he unknowingly brings me up and tells her “not terrible but kinda dead-fish and that it wasn’t that satisfying”

I just want to know if I could be dead fish like? I suck them upside down, I swallow, I moan,I deepthroat, I cum, I talk dirty, I ask him to call me names, I tell him to choke me, to do me doggy, to cum inside me. I ride him, I want it all day! He comes twice at least!

Could I be a dead fish if that’s what I’m doing? Is he slighted that I left him for another so overcompensating by bad mounting me? Or does dead fish mean I’m not emotionally present? I’m confused. Help

Well, lemme cut through the hoards of white knights up in here trying to defend your honor...

You could be a dead fish, even with your account of things. What are you doing with your hands? What are you doing with your hips? Other than "I ride him" it sounds like you ask him to do a lot of things to you (or with you)... but what do YOU do to him.

Deepthroat, sure, but that doesn't necessarily describe technique as much as it describes the ability to take him all the way in (which, don't get me wrong, is a total gift).

"Dead fish" maybe a bit harsh and may be hyperbole to a certain extent, but again, your description of what you do seems pretty reliant on him doing things to you.

So that said, who gives a shit? Do YOU get off? Cause that's what matters. If you do what you need to do to get off, then get yours. If you find someone you're REALLY into and want to take it beyond sex, that's when you start needing to care about shit.

Unless you're a literal 'lay there and do nothing' the whole fucking time, you're fine. Maybe he needs someone who's slapping his balls and shoving fingers up his ass every time they start to make out. If you wanna be that, be that. If not, don't sweat it.

 

[Reyhoney]

Well, lemme cut through the hoards of white knights up in here trying to defend your honor...

You could be a dead fish, even with your account of things. What are you doing with your hands? What are you doing with your hips? Other than "I ride him" it sounds like you ask him to do a lot of things to you (or with you)... but what do YOU do to him.

Deepthroat, sure, but that doesn't necessarily describe technique as much as it describes the ability to take him all the way in (which, don't get me wrong, is a total gift).

"Dead fish" maybe a bit harsh and may be hyperbole to a certain extent, but again, your description of what you do seems pretty reliant on him doing things to you.

So that said, who gives a shit? Do YOU get off? Cause that's what matters. If you do what you need to do to get off, then get yours. If you find someone you're REALLY into and want to take it beyond sex, that's when you start needing to care about shit.

Unless you're a literal 'lay there and do nothing' the whole fucking time, you're fine. Maybe he needs someone who's slapping his balls and shoving fingers up his ass every time they start to make out. If you wanna be that, be that. If not, don't sweat it.

My hands are all over him. On his face, in his hair, holding his hands, my hips grind and go into circles, I thrust myself into him, I kiss him everywhere, I wrap my legs around him and bring him in close, my hands are on his back and his ass. I deepthroat him to the degree that he cums in my mouth, I don’t just do it and stop there. I don’t see what I’m not doing, and if there was something why didn’t he say he needed specifics? I can’t read his mind and he was only giving positive feedback, how am I supposed to know?

 

[saintcero]

Confused and wanting help

Your attitude is good in that you care and want to be a good lover. With that said, I doubt that you are a dead fish. Chances are that he is compensating for getting dropped OR your “girlfriend “ is playing mind games with you.

 

[Reyhoney]

Your attitude is good in that you care and want to be a good lover. With that said, I doubt that you are a dead fish. Chances are that he is compensating for getting dropped OR your “girlfriend “ is playing mind games with you.

She isn’t. She sent me their screenshots. She’s a hardcore feminist so she can’t tolerate any of that.

 

[saintcero]

She isn’t. She sent me their screenshots. She’s a hardcore feminist so she can’t tolerate any of that.

Good. Better to have a solid friend. Don’t worry about your prior lover, Mr Pencil Dick.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

Good. Better to have a solid friend. Don’t worry about your prior lover, Mr Pencil Dick.

I second that response, dude should have been grateful for what you did.. forget him.