An Unconventional personal Ad !

[LTMMC]

sorry for barging in again Pawan

and throwing some cold water on your lofty dreams. It seems to me, when only Lady JS engages with you on this thread, you are not well off.

I invite you to consider this: many people, truly loads of them, have never been lucky enough to meet even one special person in their life. In the sense that you and I define special. You have met one, so that was not bad at all.

I being twice as old as you, have met two. And as my second special woman just reminded me, the true challenge you face is not so much finding her, but realizing who she is after you found her. And then holding on to her, or more correctly: the both of you holding on to each other.

So quite seriously: have you considered renewing your first wonderful relationship? Or trying to? You must have had something very strong going for the two of you once, so maybe a good part of that is still left inside of her? It certainly seems to be left inside you, so why not in her too?

Only a difference of 15 years in age should not be so impossible to overcome, it seems to me, when love exists to aid the process. In my case, our age difference is far greater. But – I admit – it took us a while to overcome it. And maybe we still have not completely.

Anyway, I hope I have given you some food for thought that you find useful. And good luck to you, whatever you may do.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

and throwing some cold water on your lofty dreams. It seems to me, when only Lady JS engages with you on this thread, you are not well off.

I invite you to consider this: many people, truly loads of them, have never been lucky enough to meet even one special person in their life. In the sense that you and I define special. You have met one, so that was not bad at all.

I being twice as old as you, have met two. And as my second special woman just reminded me, the true challenge you face is not so much finding her, but realizing who she is after you found her. And then holding on to her, or more correctly: the both of you holding on to each other.

So quite seriously: have you considered renewing your first wonderful relationship? Or trying to? You must have had something very strong going for the two of you once, so maybe a good part of that is still left inside of her? It certainly seems to be left inside you, so why not in her too?

Only a difference of 15 years in age should not be so impossible to overcome, it seems to me, when love exists to aid the process. In my case, our age difference is far greater. But – I admit – it took us a while to overcome it. And maybe we still have not completely.

Anyway, I hope I have given you some food for thought that you find useful. And good luck to you, whatever you may do.

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Hi Ltmmc,

My dreams ,I thought was simple. But perhaps simple things,take time.

LadyJS has been supportive.And so has been a couple of others,who have connected with me. Every thing that matters, takes time to build.

And yes ,I think your second special woman is so true.The holding on to each other is the true journey. Compatibility, giving each other the space and time/value,acceptance and compromises,is what helps in the long journey.

And quite seriously,my first wonderful relationship failed because I waited too long.We were in two different continents,I procrastinated ,tried and failed to manifest enough opportunities to be and shift with her. With time, it led to misunderstandings. She left. I should have tried more.It was natural,she chose to leave and be with somebody else. Yes there were very very strong vibes.Years of waiting and the blame game has caused a lot of pain & hurt within me. For me the love never changed. After the breakup, I went through a 3-4 year depression. Regrets.But I have seen people becoming strangers too. There are no straight answers,when it comes to life.

Not the same anymore.

But thanks for the thoughts. I am coming out of my shell after a long period after being in pain for 3-4 years. That's all.

 

[LTMMC]

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Hi Ltmmc,

My dreams ,I thought was simple. But perhaps simple things,take time.

LadyJS has been supportive.And so has been a couple of others,who have connected with me. Every thing that matters, takes time to build.

And yes ,I think your second special woman is so true.The holding on to each other is the true journey. Compatibility, giving each other the space and time/value,acceptance and compromises,is what helps in the long journey.

And quite seriously,my first wonderful relationship failed because I waited too long.We were in two different continents,I procrastinated ,tried and failed to manifest enough opportunities to be and shift with her. With time, it led to misunderstandings. She left. I should have tried more.It was natural,she chose to leave and be with somebody else. Yes there were very very strong vibes.Years of waiting and the blame game has caused a lot of pain & hurt within me. For me the love never changed. After the breakup, I went through a 3-4 year depression. Regrets.But I have seen people becoming strangers too. There are no straight answers,when it comes to life.

Not the same anymore.

But thanks for the thoughts. I am coming out of my shell after a long period after being in pain for 3-4 years. That's all.

Pawan, I sure wish you all the best.

I had not realized, how unworkable my suggestion to you has become. And I am glad to hear you are on the way out of your pain. My apologies also on my remark about Lady JS.

You seem to be a very sincere fellow, and I wish you all the luck you will need in finding another soulmate again.

Enjoy the coming spring!

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Hi there Pawan,
Your ad is so very well written that I, a writer, am sitting here wondering "HOW can I match THAT?" I suppose, like you, it is best to just speak from the heart...
I am older than you are but for what it's worth, am told I don't look my age. In reality, I don't think age matters all that much between two adults hoping for authenticity and connection in an all too often disconnected world!
It is concerning to me at times how the younger generation especially seem so glued to their cellphones and devices -- almost as if the electronics were an extension of themselves. And in a sense, perhaps they are. But one has to wonder just how much they are missing out on in life! Watching a YouTube video of someone in concert or a young person biking the countryside or a family having a great day at the shore just can't compare to the lived experience.
Let me share a little bit of who I am... I like to take a somewhat open book with swirls of mystery approach with trustworthy people. Meaning, I'm open to share things about what makes me tick as well as my personal experiences up to a point and if the other person has a question, they can feel free to ask and I will probably answer. But I also like to let some aspects of a person evolve naturally... learning about the other person because we want to know more, we are curious, interested etc.
I love deep conversation or playful bantering, depending on timing and topic at hand, I am one of the most loyal people you could ever meet if I trust you and care about you. I love to learn, research, enjoy reading and am told I am a gifted writer! I love shared laughter, private jokes, simple pleasures, travel, good music, my faith in God, most people, animals and especially children. My family is both wonderful and at times I swear they could be their own worst enemies in terms of the life lessons they haven't yet grasped, lol. I love the ocean and think the scent of ocean air is intoxicating. I hate spiders and have been known to wake up a dear friend and neighbor to ask him to come kill a spider for me. I love connection....
I am from New Jersey, am a brunette of Italian background, I live in Maine. I have always been a hard worker, have worked many years in retail, while working a second job at night in mental health which is a passion of mine. I have two college degrees in the field, want to publish a memoir, sing in a piano bar, travel, and find someone who will first become my best friend and then my life partner for the best is yet to be..

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Thank you so much for this detailed and kind,sweet feedback, MaineLady. I loved reading it. What an Original - Authentic and Heartfelt response ! I am floored.

Sent you a pm ! Truly appreciate your presence here.

Pawan

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Pawan, I sure wish you all the best.

I had not realized, how unworkable my suggestion to you has become. And I am glad to hear you are on the way out of your pain. My apologies also on my remark about Lady JS.

You seem to be a very sincere fellow, and I wish you all the luck you will need in finding another soulmate again.

Enjoy the coming spring!

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Thank you for your kind wishes LTMMC.

It is not easy when the mind goes back to the past and is filled with sadness. Regrets sometimes eat away a lot of time. But the only path is ..............forward..!

I sincerely appreciate your thoughts and wishes.

Pawan

 

[DreamMerchant7]

My journey continues.

Searching for the experience......

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[LTMMC]

another couple of thoughts for you today

Pawan, it seems to me your lack of luck so far in making the kind of connection you search for – should be no cause at all for you to become anxious about.

Lit is not an ideal forum for meeting women you and I look for. You know that, I know that, yet we still come here for lack of a better alternative. Our common problem, so I see it: most women here look for short-term pleasures. And of the ones who do not, 95% have serious problems with themselves. Very serious problems often.

So the challenge we both face is patience, mainly. Because every now and then a woman starts looking around here, who is different. She is NOT a braggart, overly convinced of herself. She is NOT too self-centered to make genuine two-way conversations impossible. And she is NOT full of afflictions that shrinks love because of life-time recurring business for them.

She is simply a woman looking for what you and I love giving away: a genuine and fair companionship based on mutual affection and respect, and on needs common to both partners. For enhancing each other’s lives.

Now compared to me, you are in a truly excellent position: far younger, single, more energy left inside yourself, and having grown up in and among an interesting culture. Which genuine woman would not crave getting to know you? All you have to do, it seems to me, is befriend a lot of toads first, before you will run into the queen of your heart.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Pawan, it seems to me your lack of luck so far in making the kind of connection you search for – should be no cause at all for you to become anxious about.

Lit is not an ideal forum for meeting women you and I look for. You know that, I know that, yet we still come here for lack of a better alternative. Our common problem, so I see it: most women here look for short-term pleasures. And of the ones who do not, 95% have serious problems with themselves. Very serious problems often.

So the challenge we both face is patience, mainly. Because every now and then a woman starts looking around here, who is different. She is NOT a braggart, overly convinced of herself. She is NOT too self-centered to make genuine two-way conversations impossible. And she is NOT full of afflictions that shrinks love because of life-time recurring business for them.

She is simply a woman looking for what you and I love giving away: a genuine and fair companionship based on mutual affection and respect, and on needs common to both partners. For enhancing each other’s lives.

Now compared to me, you are in a truly excellent position: far younger, single, more energy left inside yourself, and having grown up in and among an interesting culture. Which genuine woman would not crave getting to know you? All you have to do, it seems to me, is befriend a lot of toads first, before you will run into the queen of your heart.

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Thank you for your wisdom and kind words,LTMMC. Keeping my fingers crossed and hoping/wishing for the best.

Pawan

 

[DreamMerchant7]

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[DreamMerchant7]

Searching.....Dreaming...Hoping...

Keeping this journey alive.

P

 

[DreamMerchant7]

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[LadyWhiteWolf15]

An Conventional Ad

Such a beautifully, well written, well thought out ad that you have placed, DreamMerchant. It takes a special individual to be able to convey what they truly seek. It is my heart-sent wish that you find what you are seeking.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Such a beautifully, well written, well thought out ad that you have placed, DreamMerchant. It takes a special individual to be able to convey what they truly seek. It is my heart-sent wish that you find what you are seeking.

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Dear LadyWhiteWolf,

So much appreciate your kind feedback. It is inspiring when somebody takes the time to share and express their feelings. Touched by your heart sent wishes. I really hope, for those who are as mindful as you....

I hope your exploration or experiences here have been fruitful....

Pawan

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Searching.....

 

[DreamMerchant7]

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[DreamMerchant7]

Keeping the candle of hope lit......

 

[DreamMerchant7]

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[DreamMerchant7]

You have to keep breaking the heart,until it opens.
- Rumi

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Perhaps, the time has come to close this search ??

Who else has found success here ?

 

[DreamMerchant7]

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[DreamMerchant7]

Bumping...

 

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Lol. Thanks for chiming in...

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Still searching......

I hope my personal ad does not go in vain

 

[LTMMC]

Perhaps, the time has come to close this search ??

Who else has found success here ?

good morning Pawan! I continue to wish you luck in your search.

Even though I am not another person who has found happiness, only someone who still marvels about his luck, I am greatful for the opportunity now and then, to vent the joy my sweetheart and me are feeling. About finding one another via Lit 3 years ago.

I am sure with some patience on your part, you will find something similar happening to you. Good luck again!