Being straight forward

[atariblue]

Is there anything wrong with being straight forward by saying you're into more than just vanilla sex on your dating profile? I've taken the bold step to include my interest in BDSM, roleplaying, Ddlg, dom/sub, etc. It's a change of pace in what I normally do. But is it kosher? Or is it too cringy to put it all out there with your desires and wants?

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Nothing wrong at all in my opinion. It's just a way of making sure you don't waste time. Yours and other people's.

 

[Wageslave]

Didn't our parents always tell us to tell the truth?

 

[Islander55]

Is there any wrong with being straight forward by saying you're into more than just vanilla sex on your dating profile? I've taken the bold step to include my interest in BDSM, roleplaying, Ddlg, dom/sub, etc. It's a change of pace in what I normally do. But is it kosher? Or is it too cringy to put it all out there with your desires and wants?

Generally honesty is the best policy but I think on a dating profile, you may limit the people that will be interested in talking to you. If the kinky stuff is your main thing than it should be there. Otherwise I think it would be better to discuss it after the initial contact. Now I don't have any experience on a dating site but I think I would be reluctant to respond to that type of ad even though I do have a little bit of interest in BDSM.

 

[Floridafun4everyone]

You’re more apt to get what you’re looking for by putting it all out there

 

[LittleMissStubborn]

From a female perspective, I would recommend against this if you are actually looking for a relationship and not just a hookup. There's always a possibility you could meet someone great who could be favorably introduced to your kinks once she knows you and likes you, but would be completely turned off if you lead with it.

 

[J_Bone]

From a female perspective, I would recommend against this if you are actually looking for a relationship and not just a hookup. There's always a possibility you could meet someone great who could be favorably introduced to your kinks once she knows you and likes you, but would be completely turned off if you lead with it.

Wise woman LMS. Totally agree. Seems you'd be cutting out too many possibilities.

 

[Goldenfinger]

No but that might not get you very far. I do think it is something that you should mention in some way before you get stuck. What I mean by stuck is before you start to develop feeling for the person which might give you second thoughts on telling them. Feeling and relationships develop quick and sometimes there’s a small window.

 

[Escierto]

My experience is to be up front - yes you are eliminating a lot of people you might find attractive but it’s better that way. If certain sexual activities are important then they should know that.

 

[atariblue]

I'll try it with both, we'll see how it goes.