What should one expect from a professional massage?

[human_male]

Hi everyone. I hope you're all doing well.

I was hoping someone who is or used to be a massage therapist might be able to give me a bit of insight. I've been seeing someone for a relaxation/de stress massage about five times. And I've noticed the massages are starting to get almost... sensual. One of the things she does a few times is going just under my waistline and tracing her fingertips up my back. She's also started a scalp massage which she hasn't done before. And she spends a long time slowly and gently massaging my hands. Compare this with one of the older ladies I've seen once there was nothing like this at all.

I assure everyone I'm not going to do or say anything that might make it weird. The last thing I would want is to make her feel in any way uncomfortable. I don't know why I'm asking really, I guess my imagination just runs wild and I start wondering if I'm just imagining it.

Once again this is staying in my head, I'm not going to say anything. I'm just curious more than anything. Is it possible she's enjoying it? If you've done this for a job did you ever enjoy it with clients you came to like, or is what I'm describing all part of the job?

And I should point out its not one of these happy ending places. Its in a medical practice.

Thanks again everyone.

Take care.

 

[Lady2020]

A professional, ethical masseuse won't turn a massage sexual. Nor tell you what color your aura is.

 

[jehoram]

What Lady said. Also, one massage therapist may have been trained in a different school, from a different background, than another, possibly reflecting cultural differences in the amount and placement of touching.

I'd say that if something makes you uncomfortable, say something politely to the therapist, to let you know that your boundaries may not be hers. If nothing makes you uncomfortable, just relax and go with it.

 

[NightL]

I've been seeing someone for a relaxation/de stress massage

and that is what you are getting and paying for, that is all.

If you want to be bashed around and ache after a massage then go to a sports physiotherapist.

If you want your head twisted sideways in agony for a week go to a chiropractor.

If you think too hard about it you won't relax.

On a side note, just curious, did you go to a single sex high school? Just description under user name and your post here.

 

[human_male]

That answers that then. Thanks everyone.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hi everyone. I hope you're all doing well.

I was hoping someone who is or used to be a massage therapist might be able to give me a bit of insight. I've been seeing someone for a relaxation/de stress massage about five times. And I've noticed the massages are starting to get almost... sensual. One of the things she does a few times is going just under my waistline and tracing her fingertips up my back. She's also started a scalp massage which she hasn't done before. And she spends a long time slowly and gently massaging my hands. Compare this with one of the older ladies I've seen once there was nothing like this at all.

Not a massage therapist, but I've had plenty of relaxation/therapeutic massages in my time, and I agree with the other answers here.

It's normal for a relaxation massage to be sensual (that's the point of it!), but that doesn't mean it's sexual. The stuff you're talking about all sounds like fairly normal massage, though individual masseurs will vary.

Even when there's no sex intended, massage can be very physically intimate. If your masseuse is doing things now that she wasn't doing in your first sessions, that might mean she's more comfortable with you and no longer worrying about whether you're going to turn creepy if she touches your butt/etc. It could also be that she's trying out different techniques to see what you like best.

If she ever does offer something overtly sexual, you can decide then whether that's something you want to do. But it doesn't sound particularly likely from what you've told us, especially in a medical practice.

 

[Emberto]

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[ElizaBennet33]

I have relaxation massages all the time. They do massage your scalp, your hands, your feet and other non sexual areas.

Sometimes they put their hands on your lower back and massage slightly lower down so it's just above your ass, but they shouldn't be cupping your butt cheeks (well, not unless it's one of those other establishments and you're paying for different services!)

Relaxation massages can feel sensual and it sounds as though your therapist is being professional and not crossing a line. Just lie back, relax and enjoy it!

 

[LisaVegas]

Here in Las Vegas we have major hotels with sauna spa and massage. All legit. Nothing can happen sexually although the massage itself may seem that way. Everything is professional and on the up and up. But nudity is allowed (for females more so in some areas while men cannot in some areas). Some coed areas and some are not. Just nothing more that looking and talking.

If anything more happens at a place it is probably not legal. Unless that country or state allows it.

 

[human_male]

Thats all really helpful. Thanks again.

 

[jckontharocks]

I guess I am missing the point of the question. If you are attracted to this woman, I would say it is VERY acceptable to politely ask her on a date if you think your vibing. It sounds like maybe she's flirting with you and you like it. If so, ask her out.

Have had many professional massages. When they asked why I was there, I mentioned I sit a lot at my job and get stiff. 3 different masseuses have on their own gave very nice butt rubdowns. Thier job is to rub muscles and make you feel good. Nothing more happened.

 

[Catsandtats]

As everyone said earlier, none of that stuff is sexual at all, it's just a normal massage. You don't need anyone else yelling you that.

This is just a comment saying do NOT ask a woman out at her work, that is not okay. All you will do is make her really uncomfortable. So do not do that.

Just enjoy your normal massage, and that's the extent of the relationship.

 

[human_male]

As everyone said earlier, none of that stuff is sexual at all, it's just a normal massage. You don't need anyone else yelling you that.

This is just a comment saying do NOT ask a woman out at her work, that is not okay. All you will do is make her really uncomfortable. So do not do that.

Just enjoy your normal massage, and that's the extent of the relationship.

Yes, I don't intend to. Thank you.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

Never had a professional massage turn sexual

 

[jehoram]

Never had a professional massage turn sexual

But it is a common fantasy trope, and there must be zillions of videos that show just that.

 

[Catsandtats]

I get massages fairly frequently (pre-covid). The last one I got she spent a lot of time on my scalp. Which, I LOVE having my scalp rubbed, and during sex, I REALLY like having my hair pulled, so my whole body was psyched she was doing it, and it just felt amazing.

But then after it was over she was like, wow, you really love having your scalp rubbed, huh? Then I was like ????? And she was like, well, your breathing changed and got super deep and I could tell how much you enjoyed it! It was honestly super embarrassing, lol. I never went back to her though, it just felt weird.

 

[Curvycutiepie]

No I think it’s just your mind getting carried away! I’ve given and received professional massages and nothing she has done sounds inappropriate or suggestive in any way.

 

[ericalauren]

I used to give my friends foot massages after soccer practice sometimes. It can be enjoyable to give a massage. However, I doubt that your massage therapist is trying to come on to you. If you want a massage that culminates in a hand job, go to a place that is known for them. And pay them well, of course.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Sometimes you never know with massages, I went to an Asian massage parlor and got massages by a chubby Asian lady who found me attractive, when I flipped over after she massaged my back I had an erection she smiled at me. She asked if I had a girlfriend and I told her I was gay, she was surprised and ended up fingering my asshole and giving me a blowjob, she swallowed my load too. If the masseuse is attracted to you anything is possible.

 

[Somehowyou]

Even when there's no sex intended, massage can be very physically intimate. If your masseuse is doing things now that she wasn't doing in your first sessions, that might mean she's more comfortable with you and no longer worrying about whether you're going to turn creepy if she touches your butt/etc. It could also be that she's trying out different techniques to see what you like best.

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I love massage. I have been getting them for years. I've had messages on four different continents. I've had everything from therapeutic to sexual messages. Nirvana for me is to have a therapeutic massage followed by sex. Typically it's either one or the other. There have been a few occasions where I have had both. But it's like trying to find a 4-leaf clover.

As Bramblethorn said, even a therapeutic massage can become intimate. I had a the same masseuse for years. She helped me to deal with some severe issues with my back, hamstrings, and IT bands. She eventually got her own studio. We got so close. We started to kiss on the lips, hello and good bye. She was showing me tattoos in intimate areas and confiding in me in different ways. She told me that she felt close to me. We both had other people in our lives but I loved it. I made play lists with love making music to play during our massage time. I used to take a 1/4 Viagra and I would hope and wish for her to brush up against my cock.

Then it happened. She had broke up with her fiance'e and she said she had to get ready for dating again. She had implants and other work done. I came to see her after all her work and before the massage she let me feel her new breasts. She told me she had felt so close to me...during the massage she nicked up against my male parts several times and spent extra time on my naked ass. I reached out and massaged her vagina. She let me do it. It was so hot. I was thinking "is this finally happening?"

As I lay on the massage table, facing up, she ended the massage by putting her forehead against mine. She then exhaled and gave me a deep kiss and then started to walk out of the room. I got up and jumped off the table completely naked and stopped her. We kissed and made out for 10 minutes. I placed her hand on my rigid penis as we made out some more. I pushed her ass against the table and continued making out with her while placing my manhood on her pussy.
The only thing separating her love canal from my member was the thin material of her black cotton yoga pants. She told me to stop. And then I said, "can I just see your tits?" She pulled down her tube top and I kissed, sucked, and squeezed them. I made sure I sucked each nipple. After a few minutes of this she pulled her top up, we kissed again, and she left the room.

I got dressed and walked out of the room. She looked at me and said "You! You are the first one..." She was upset that she lost her bearing and let down her professionalism. She proceeded to tell me that she dreamed about me fucking the shit out of her. She told me that her boyfriend used to look through the schedule and he became very jealous if he found my name, etc. They would talk about me all the time, she told me. I had no idea. She told me that she was not going to be the other woman. She knew my significant other and she wasn't going to do this unless I left my SO. I wasn't about to do that. I just wanted an affair...She told me that I better not ruin her business by breathing a word of this to anyone. I told her that if I did, the men would be lined up around the block.

I had two or three more massages with her and then she tried to avoid me. She started to cancel our appointments and tell me that she was sick. When I tried to make another appointment she would make an excuse that she didn't have her appointment book in front of her. She said that she would call me back when her schedule was in front of her, etc. She would never call me back. This happened a couple of times.

A year later, I had a close call with my health and I reached out to her. She got back with me and we were talking again. She was genuinely concerned. I told her because of my issue that I couldn't have a massage for a few months but I told her that when I was ready, I'd reach out to her. A few months later, I contacted her and she played the same game.

THE BOTTOM LINE: I ruined it. My favorite masseuse on the planet will no longer see me. A woman I really had feelings for...I decided that I should just let it be. Maybe I should start a thread about what to do? I sure wish I could see her again. I miss her touch. I miss our conversations. I miss that kiss we used to give each other...our conversations and hugs and how she helped me through all my sports related ailments. I guess I was falling in love with her and she with me? I still have that memory at least but she will not see me.

 

[human_male]

Thanks to all for sharing your experiences. It was really interesting.

I have continued to see the massage therapist I talked about and we've got quite friendly and comfortable with each other but its never gone beyond that.

I did got to an Asian erotic massage place once or twice. I didn't find it all that awesome. The girl didn't even take her top off. The best bit is when she sat on me. Anyway the last time she kept asking me to take my underwear off. I'm shy so I kept it on. She said "You show me I show you." I couldn't think what she meant at the time but she seemed very concerned that I take them off. Now I wonder if she was offering to take her top off if I took my undies off. I don't know why she would want that.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Thanks to all for sharing your experiences. It was really interesting.

I have continued to see the massage therapist I talked about and we've got quite friendly and comfortable with each other but its never gone beyond that.

I did got to an Asian erotic massage place once or twice. I didn't find it all that awesome. The girl didn't even take her top off. The best bit is when she sat on me. Anyway the last time she kept asking me to take my underwear off. I'm shy so I kept it on. She said "You show me I show you." I couldn't think what she meant at the time but she seemed very concerned that I take them off. Now I wonder if she was offering to take her top off if I took my undies off. I don't know why she would want that.

Not sure, but if you're in an area where erotic massage isn't strictly legal, her legal situation when you make the first move may be different to if she does.

 

[JOwwruJost]

I think there can be no sexual overtones in professional massage. After all, massage is something like a treatment. And a doctor should not behave in a dubious way with a patient, because the doctor is always in a dominant position. And as far as I know, in good salons and clinics where you can order a massage, it is strictly forbidden to harass clients. For such a massage therapist can lose his job. A friend of mine works for https://dundixhealthcare.ca / and he told me that often a masseur can be fired even if only 1 client complains that the masseur touched him in indecent places. So don't worry.