I feel annoyed. At myself

[girlsmiley]

You try to take the high road, you know? Walk away. Say nothing. But it bothers me. It's still bothering me six months later.

A Serbian woman I work with used to work with my missus. I introduce myself and tell this lady we have a mutual friend. She's all excited and tells me how they met and working together etc etc

I tell her the missus and I have been together for a few years and she said, "Lesbians?" I say yes. She goes all quiet.

She tells me she didn't know that about me or my better half. I tell her it's not something I talk about at work. She says she doesn't understand why people are lesbians and gays. I ask her what she means. She said "It's not natural."

I just smiled and walked away. But now? I regret not saying anything. It bothers me and I know it shouldn't, but it does. It pops into my mind from time to time and now I wish I'd said something.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Did you ask if her hair color was natural?

And really, fuck her. She didn’t know that about you? Like we all need to go around announcing our sexuality?

Sorry, I find myself annoyed with most people and their stupidity lately.

 

[Bathtubbill]

You try to take the high road, you know? Walk away. Say nothing. But it bothers me. It's still bothering me six months later.

A Serbian woman I work with used to work with my missus. I introduce myself and tell this lady we have a mutual friend. She's all excited and tells me how they met and working together etc etc

I tell her the missus and I have been together for a few years and she said, "Lesbians?" I say yes. She goes all quiet.

She tells me she didn't know that about me or my better half. I tell her it's not something I talk about at work. She says she doesn't understand why people are lesbians and gays. I ask her what she means. She said "It's not natural."

I just smiled and walked away. But now? I regret not saying anything. It bothers me and I know it shouldn't, but it does. It pops into my mind from time to time and now I wish I'd said something.

Never argue with an idiot
They will bring you down to their level and beat you on experience!

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

You are too hard on yourself.

Fuck other people and fuck their unsavory thoughts.

Next time offer her a "Dirty Sanchez"!

 

[Sean]

I used to be the walk away type. As I've got older my tolerance for bullshit has evaporated. This morning a bloke at work had to step in to stop me kicking the shit out of two scousers. Not cos they're bigots, though they are, but just because they're useless cunts that were making my life harder.

 

[girlsmiley]

Did you ask if her hair color was natural?

And really, fuck her. She didn’t know that about you? Like we all need to go around announcing our sexuality?

Sorry, I find myself annoyed with most people and their stupidity lately.

Responses like the one she gave me are just...

I feel like I've let homos down. You know, what if she says that to someone else? I should have told her that it was not a nice thing to say.

 

[girlsmiley]

I used to be the walk away type. As I've got older my tolerance for bullshit has evaporated. This morning a bloke at work had to step in to stop me kicking the shit out of two scousers. Not cos they're bigots, though they are, but just because they're useless cunts that were making my life harder.

I feel like I'm getting that way. Because it's wrong. She's a bully. I told the missus and she hugged me and smiled and said, "Tell her I said idi u kurac." Which basically means 'go to the dick' or 'go fuck yourself'.

 

[jaF0]

I guess the bigger question is about what's happened since. Still work together? Work effectively? Get along?

 

[girlsmiley]

I guess the bigger question is about what's happened since. Still work together? Work effectively? Get along?

I don't talk to her. I wave hello if she says hi. Talking to her isn't required.

 

[Dribble]

I don't talk to her. I wave hello if she says hi. Talking to her isn't required.

And that is the greatest response. The you are not important enough to be in my life response.

 

[FataMorgana]

You were probably just stunned. Sometimes you can't believe your own ears.

Fuck her. You can't educate pork.

 

[FataMorgana]

And that is the greatest response. The you are not important enough to be in my life response.

Or drop kick the bitch.

 

[littlemscurious]

You try to take the high road, you know? Walk away. Say nothing. But it bothers me. It's still bothering me six months later.

A Serbian woman I work with used to work with my missus. I introduce myself and tell this lady we have a mutual friend. She's all excited and tells me how they met and working together etc etc

I tell her the missus and I have been together for a few years and she said, "Lesbians?" I say yes. She goes all quiet.

She tells me she didn't know that about me or my better half. I tell her it's not something I talk about at work. She says she doesn't understand why people are lesbians and gays. I ask her what she means. She said "It's not natural."

I just smiled and walked away. But now? I regret not saying anything. It bothers me and I know it shouldn't, but it does. It pops into my mind from time to time and now I wish I'd said something.

Do not regret it. You can’t be an activist all the time and you shouldn’t have to fight or justify anything. It is her loss. She obviously liked and got on with you and your partner. I find it completely mental that people suddenly don’t like people when they find out their sexuality because the person hasn’t change.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

You were probably just stunned. Sometimes you can't believe your own ears.

Fuck her. You can't educate pork.

Nice. I'm definitely using this the next time it applies.

and there's plenty of nimrods here to apply it to!

 

[Dribble]

Or drop kick the bitch.

Just another way of saying fuck you...you aren't important in my life

 

[mayfly13]

You try to take the high road, you know? Walk away. Say nothing. But it bothers me. It's still bothering me six months later.

A Serbian woman I work with used to work with my missus. I introduce myself and tell this lady we have a mutual friend. She's all excited and tells me how they met and working together etc etc

I tell her the missus and I have been together for a few years and she said, "Lesbians?" I say yes. She goes all quiet.

She tells me she didn't know that about me or my better half. I tell her it's not something I talk about at work. She says she doesn't understand why people are lesbians and gays. I ask her what she means. She said "It's not natural."

I just smiled and walked away. But now? I regret not saying anything. It bothers me and I know it shouldn't, but it does. It pops into my mind from time to time and now I wish I'd said something.

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[horrorotic]

The usual pattern of responses all in the fuck her fuck stupid people vein

why is it that people who claim to be tolerant and who also feel they should be treated equally and accepted,(as all should be) immediately go on the attack when someone doesn't understand something?

Obviously the woman was raised to think that, so rather than throw shade at her ignorance, try to enlighten her? Explain it to her, or try at least.

No, easier to spew hate...then claim its the other people who hate.

 

[PaxNurgle]

Yes she is ignorant and intolerant but in many countries that is still how people think- go to any Muslim country for example, or even some of the poorer Catholic countries, where people believe gays should be stoned to death. It's fucked up, but that doesn't mean that tolerance and love that we in the West enjoy cannot be taught. It takes patience. But even still, there are some people who are just spiteful, hateful and judgemental people by nature, no matter where they were from- just read some of the comments by the usual suspects on this board and you'll see what I mean, you can try and teach them love and tolerance till you are blue- and they won't change. Those are the people who truly deserve scorn.

 

[jomar]

Pinch her tiny head

 

[Dingobaby]

You should've gone all bull dyke on her ass.

 

[HisArpy]

So let me get this straight: You brought up a subject that was both personal and controversial; to someone you didn't really know; in a setting where the subject shouldn't have been discussed because, HELLO, sexual harassment lawsuit anyone?

And you're upset over the way they responded?


You live an alternative lifestyle that no matter how much you want to believe it is, it's NOT "mainstream" and probably won't ever be in your lifetime. Talking about it to strangers, let alone AT WORK, isn't something you should even be considering, let alone doing.

 

[Dribble]

The usual pattern of responses all in the fuck her fuck stupid people vein

why is it that people who claim to be tolerant and who also feel they should be treated equally and accepted,(as all should be) immediately go on the attack when someone doesn't understand something?

Obviously the woman was raised to think that, so rather than throw shade at her ignorance, try to enlighten her? Explain it to her, or try at least.

No, easier to spew hate...then claim its the other people who hate.

Because it would fall on empty ears...just like trying to explain to you that ignoring a person because they aren't worthy of you isn't attacking them and surely isn't hating them. But nice try.

 

[girlsmiley]

I live in Sydney. It's known as the gay capital of Australia. I love it here. I wouldn't want to live anywhere else. You get the odd bigoted fuckwits like everywhere I suppose, but it's very rare. I was stunned all right. Could not believe my ears.

 

[Champakian]

You shouldn't say anything, it's the polite thing to do. You're not going to change a single attitude with confrontation. That's a shortcut and shortcuts tend to end up badly. Outing someone else? Not cool. The long road is the high road. Let people get to know you as a person, not as a sexual orientation. Then, over time, a conclusion can be reached. As in The Hobbit, they innkeeper at Bree, Butterburr (?), could see through a brick wall in time. Acceptance is a process. That's what I absolutely detest about the transgender movement, it is an in-you-face or else approach to acceptance.

 

[Champakian]

So let me get this straight: You brought up a subject that was both personal and controversial; to someone you didn't really know; in a setting where the subject shouldn't have been discussed because, HELLO, sexual harassment lawsuit anyone?

And you're upset over the way they responded?


You live an alternative lifestyle that no matter how much you want to believe it is, it's NOT "mainstream" and probably won't ever be in your lifetime. Talking about it to strangers, let alone AT WORK, isn't something you should even be considering, let alone doing.

As this person says, she has retreated to an enclave where it is more mainstream. The downside to this is that it is not the world at large.