Anyone else not sexually insatialble or don't always need orgasms?

[MundaneOne]

Anyone else not sexually insatiable or don't always need orgasms?

There are many threads on Lit, in this section and others, that detail Lit users either having sex daily or multiple times a day, or people masturbating daily or several times a day, and almost always having an orgasm each time. Threads that detail one's sexual insatiability and attempts to satisfy that need.

And I don't see anything particularly wrong with that. This is a sex-themed site, so it goes without saying that people who have a great affinity for sexual pleasure will talk about it.

For myself, I also enjoy sex, and have had what I would like to think a fairly active sex life from when I was young until about now. There have been periodic lulls over the years, but I've enjoyed almost all of my sexual experiences, and I think my partners who have been with me have as well. The same goes for masturbation. I've always enjoyed it from when I first discovered how it felt to touch myself "down there" many many years ago, until now.

Where I differ, and the premise of my post, is that I don't feel an overt need to engage in any kind of sexual activity on a daily basis, or multiple times a day. For example, I last masturbated this past Saturday and the orgasm that I gave myself was very intense and satisfying. So satisfying that I haven't felt the need to give myself another one. I may or may not have another one this weekend, I don't know.

When I say I masturbate, that means I rub and touch myself until I make myself cum. There are times, usually at night when I'm in bed, I may slowly rub myself, not with the intention of cumming, but just to make myself feel good. I'm not edging myself as I'm not working myself up close to an orgasm and then stopping. Rather, I just touch myself for maybe five or ten minutes, and it makes me feel good. And then I usually go to sleep after that. Maybe some people would find that frustrating if they did that, but for me it works.

I don't think I've lost interest in sex. I enjoy it every time that I engage in any sexual activity. I just don't have that 24/7 drive that some people on here seem to have. I don't feel the need to chase an orgasm. And I've felt that way about the last two years or so. Maybe it's my age, or maybe it's due to menopause, or something else, I really don't know.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis or a cure. I just want to know if I'm unique in feeling and thinking this way (I don't think that I am), or are there others out there who do enjoy sex, but don't need it on a daily basis, or multiple times a day. I would just like to know others thoughts on this.

(I see I spelled 'insatiable' wrong in the thread title. I never claimed to be a spelling bee champion)

 

[Escierto]

Why did you remove the text of your post? I meant to respond but I didn’t have time. I absolutely agree with you. This forum is all about jerking off multiple times a day with a kind of OCD attitude towards sex. I am a man in his sixties and I jerk off once or twice a week. Sometimes even that seems like more work than it’s worth but I read that it’s good for the prostate.

 

[MundaneOne]

With no prior interest in it, as I noted in my edit reason, I saw no need to go forth with the conversation. Plus it made me realize that I was probably only reaching out to a slim minority on Lit. As you noted, masturbating multiple times a day with double-digit orgasms achieved seems to be more the fare of the day on Lit.

Also, I meant to post this in the 'How To' forum, as I don't think it really fits under fetishes. Maybe that's the reason for so little interest. I'll think about it and consider re-posting it, because I did want to start a conversation about it.

 

[Escierto]

I was hoping that there would be more responses myself.

 

[MundaneOne]

It may also be that people who don't masturbate daily and don't have countless orgasms every week don't want to read about it. They may prefer to read about those who do jerk off two, three or more times a day. That I suspect appears to the masses more.

 

[phoenix58]

It is down to once or twice a week for me. For various reasons, real life pressures, not as much alone time, age. But I still visit this site and one others to interact with members and get the urge to play with myself.

I suspect there are many like this, but we are just not as driven as those that are insatiable.

It may also be that people who don't masturbate daily and don't have countless orgasms every week don't want to read about it. They may prefer to read about those who do jerk off two, three or more times a day. That I suspect appears to the masses more.

 

[Escierto]

It may also be that people who don't masturbate daily and don't have countless orgasms every week don't want to read about it. They may prefer to read about those who do jerk off two, three or more times a day. That I suspect appears to the masses more.

I don’t even bother to open the threads that talk about nonstop masturbation.

 

[MundaneOne]

It is down to once or twice a week for me. For various reasons, real life pressures, not as much alone time, age. But I still visit this site and one others to interact with members and get the urge to play with myself.

I suspect there are many like this, but we are just not as driven as those that are insatiable.

You may be right, there could be a lot of other here. Maybe the ones who are insatiable drown out the rest of us by posting more about their sexual achievements. Not that I'm accusing them of bragging about what they're doing. I suppose that if I masturbated five times today and gave myself fourteen orgasms, I might post about it, as unrealistic sounding to me at seems.

 

[MundaneOne]

I don’t even bother to open the threads that talk about nonstop masturbation.

I'll read some of them just to get some kind of gist as to who is posting and about what, and to see if it's the same individuals or different people. I like to see if there's some commonality, maybe age, background. I don't know. Maybe I'm just wasting my time with it.

 

[Escierto]

I'll read some of them just to get some kind of gist as to who is posting and about what, and to see if it's the same individuals or different people. I like to see if there's some commonality, maybe age, background. I don't know. Maybe I'm just wasting my time with it.

Now you have me curious what the results are of your reading. Anything stand out?

 

[MundaneOne]

Now you have me curious what the results are of your reading. Anything stand out?

Nothing really, no. Most from what I can tell are about 30-50 years of age, though I'm sure there are some younger and older. Many are married but not getting enough sex from their partners, that's a common complaint. Many who masturbate daily seem to do it during the day. Maybe that's an advantage of so many people working from home.

I still really don't know why they all have an almost obsessive need and desire for sexual satisfaction. A guess is because Lit is a sex site, people here tend to have positive attitudes towards sex, and obviously a strong interest in sex. So the postings are probably skewed due to this. I'm not a statistician, so I'm just making guesses. Like I said before, I'm more than likely just wasting my time with this.

 

[MundaneOne]

I added back my original posting. I obviously didn't save the original, so I can't repost it word for word because I just don't remember how I worded it, but I put it back together the best I can. I still don't think there will be much interest going forth, but maybe I'll be proven wrong. I guess it can't hurt.

 

[Loveitdady]

I added back my original posting. I obviously didn't save the original, so I can't repost it word for word because I just don't remember how I worded it, but I put it back together the best I can. I still don't think there will be much interest going forth, but maybe I'll be proven wrong. I guess it can't hurt.

I read both this post and your original one. Loved both...older guy here who loves a hot lady and I understand where you are cumming from..Would love to chat with you...

 

[MundaneOne]

I read both this post and your original one. Loved both...older guy here who loves a hot lady and I understand where you are cumming from..Would love to chat with you...

I would like your thoughts on my OP. You seem to fall into the sexually insatiable category, judging by your post history, and this thread you created in particular:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1531641

And there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just trying to get perspective on those who are insatiable, and those who aren't. So please feel free to express yourself, as I'd like to have a conversation about it.

 

[Escierto]

In this forum there is one thread called “Most orgasms in one day”. I laughed.

 

[MundaneOne]

In this forum there is one thread called “Most orgasms in one day”. I laughed.

I saw it as well. I won't doubt anyone's counts in there, but if I had as many as some did I'd be lucky to be able walk the next day!

 

[o_pague]

Maybe promote discussion?

Very interesting post, Mundane. Since your last paragraph in the beginning of this thread indicates why you posted and what you expect from it, I’ll address what you say there.

No, you’re not unique, and yes there are many others out there who “do enjoy sex, but don't need it on a daily basis, or multiple times a day.” I expect all you describe about your sexual self is very recognizable to most people.
That being said, I’m certain after many years, in myself, in the Missus, and others, that sexuality is made up of infinite dimensions. I can tell you how it has been for me.

Beginning with the first discoveries of childhood (which, as I understand the rules, we can’t really talk about on Lit), going through adolescence, and then settling into adulthood, sexual expression has always occurred in phases for me. Hormones rage and hormones go into a slumber. It’s like a thunderstorm in the mountains swelling the streams into torrents that cannot be stopped, and it’s like a prolonged drought that causes the streams to dry up except for little pools here and there. And, of course, everything in between.

My experience with maturity is, not that these shifts in sexuality have stopped, but that they have lessened in the frequency of shifts from one to the other. They’ve also lessened in intensity for the most part, but not altogether. By that last sentence, I mean, every once in a while the Missus or I, or both of us at the same time (that’s when it’s really sweet!) will suddenly experience one of those thunderstorms. The sexual atmosphere becomes highly charged, the clouds roil, lightning strikes and thunder rolls, all toward a highly intense discharge of whatever our imaginations come up with.

Other times we will go for weeks with nothing much happening, and the weather radar showing calm. Yes, some of these phases have included masturbation every day for a time, especially in early years, and multiple orgasm a day, both for her and me individually. I think more me than her. For me, those hyper phases have been reined in a fun way: A number of years ago, I offered (more like asked her permission) to surrender my sexuality to her guidance. She put me on a regimen of controlling myself, saving myself for her, really. No, she is not in charge of me. It’s more like the relationship between a piano teacher and her pupil. She guides me, but is in no way responsible for monitoring my behavior. That’s my job—she’s made that clear many times. I masturbate much less frequently (hardly ever) by focusing on her. If I feel a special need to do it, I ask her to participate, and she does the same when she feels a special need. Sometimes either of us will go it alone, such as when the other is not feeling well (that happens to you when you get older), but we very freely ask “how it went” and support each other, often in kinda kinky ways.

Hopefully, I’ve addressed your observations and questions in a way that may promote discussion from others.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Hello Ms. M

I don't have anything to add to the conversation other then to say kudos , and I've enjoyed reading your thread so far. It's in my subscribed threads now so I'll be able to follow your journal here on lit.

Best of luck with having the patience to let the thread happen organically. I'm more then positive there are plenty of lurkers or potential posting newbies that will have input on the topic.

Best of luck

 

[MundaneOne]

Very interesting post, Mundane. Since your last paragraph in the beginning of this thread indicates why you posted and what you expect from it, I’ll address what you say there.

No, you’re not unique, and yes there are many others out there who “do enjoy sex, but don't need it on a daily basis, or multiple times a day.” I expect all you describe about your sexual self is very recognizable to most people.
That being said, I’m certain after many years, in myself, in the Missus, and others, that sexuality is made up of infinite dimensions. I can tell you how it has been for me.

Beginning with the first discoveries of childhood (which, as I understand the rules, we can’t really talk about on Lit), going through adolescence, and then settling into adulthood, sexual expression has always occurred in phases for me. Hormones rage and hormones go into a slumber. It’s like a thunderstorm in the mountains swelling the streams into torrents that cannot be stopped, and it’s like a prolonged drought that causes the streams to dry up except for little pools here and there. And, of course, everything in between.

My experience with maturity is, not that these shifts in sexuality have stopped, but that they have lessened in the frequency of shifts from one to the other. They’ve also lessened in intensity for the most part, but not altogether. By that last sentence, I mean, every once in a while the Missus or I, or both of us at the same time (that’s when it’s really sweet!) will suddenly experience one of those thunderstorms. The sexual atmosphere becomes highly charged, the clouds roil, lightning strikes and thunder rolls, all toward a highly intense discharge of whatever our imaginations come up with.

Other times we will go for weeks with nothing much happening, and the weather radar showing calm. Yes, some of these phases have included masturbation every day for a time, especially in early years, and multiple orgasm a day, both for her and me individually. I think more me than her. For me, those hyper phases have been reined in a fun way: A number of years ago, I offered (more like asked her permission) to surrender my sexuality to her guidance. She put me on a regimen of controlling myself, saving myself for her, really. No, she is not in charge of me. It’s more like the relationship between a piano teacher and her pupil. She guides me, but is in no way responsible for monitoring my behavior. That’s my job—she’s made that clear many times. I masturbate much less frequently (hardly ever) by focusing on her. If I feel a special need to do it, I ask her to participate, and she does the same when she feels a special need. Sometimes either of us will go it alone, such as when the other is not feeling well (that happens to you when you get older), but we very freely ask “how it went” and support each other, often in kinda kinky ways.

Hopefully, I’ve addressed your observations and questions in a way that may promote discussion from others.

Thank you for this o_pague. It's great how you and your wife communicate with one another about each others sexuality and needs. This is somewhat similar to a posting I made in another thread, where I said that if a relationship is to be successful, the two people have work at it and communicate with one another, and from your description the two of you are doing just that. It sounds like you two are quite happy with this arrangement, and I thank you again for sharing.

 

[MundaneOne]

Hello Ms. M

I don't have anything to add to the conversation other then to say kudos , and I've enjoyed reading your thread so far. It's in my subscribed threads now so I'll be able to follow your journal here on lit.

Best of luck with having the patience to let the thread happen organically. I'm more then positive there are plenty of lurkers or potential posting newbies that will have input on the topic.

Best of luck

Thank you for the kudos and the positivity of your post Fingerfuxs

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Aren't you fancy Ms. M

It works wonderfully. And it's packaged embedded into text no less

Just for ecstatic purposes , and to stand out in a sentence full of words. U might consider adding some color to the hyperlink portal .

I wonder if adding the word " thread lipstick " is a good description . Odd or just a funny grouping of words , in a little white box.

 

[lonely_hubby60]

your most interesting post #1

Dear Mundane One, I know of exactly two threads here that got started on the Personals lately, with some kind of substance in them; yours and that one with lofty words by Pawan. I am glad you resurrected your post #1 again, BTW.

If you had not blocked PM reception, even for me after I responded to your post on Pawan's thread, I would send you a basket full of kudos. But because of that reason, here comes only half a basket.

I will go further than you and posit that 75% or more of those who claim 24/7 arousal are just plain lying and bragging their heads off. Because on Lit it is expected that every woman need at least a C cup, every man sport at least a 7-inch cock, and everybody orgasms at least twice a day.

Now when I was younger, my need for orgasms was stronger also. And when I was not together with a woman, I reached them thru masturbating. But as erectile issues developed with time, I need to have a damned good reason now for masturbating. So I agree with you in the main.

Another thought of yours I agree with, the one you mentioned to Pawan: relationships do not come for free. Ought to be self-evident; anything associated with the potential of immense pleasure and joy, requires an investment of effort, and some skills as well. And motivation. And mature people like us do not make such investments lightly.

I am glad you raised both issues; a welcome change, I find, from the more or less dribble-like posts that appear on the Personals usually. All the better that your thread had reached 21 posts by now.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

You are hardly unique. Certainly a website devoted to erotica is going to attract people with a strong interest in sex, but I think that even the people who post on those insatiability threads are a minority even within the Lit community. I hang around primarily in the Playground section, and you will see that most people send most of their time posting on a wide range of subjects unrelated to sex or of borderline relevance: word games, humor, chat about life.

To speak for myself, I will say that I think about sex much more often than I do anything about it. As you suggest, age is a significant factor. I do remember when sex was a daily or more than daily activity, but this is a bit of a vague memory. In my late 60s, I have a refractory period of more than a day. I have an orgasm once or twice a week, and that seems sufficient. I know you are younger (and female), so there are differences. But as you say, your climax lasts you for some time and you don't need another.

I was particularly struck by your description of stimulating yourself, giving yourself pleasure without seeking a climax. Many of the threads I visit on Lit provide me with some sexual arousal. As you sometimes do at night, I sometimes find myself touching my genitals while posting or reading Lit postings because it feels good, but with no expectation of cumming

I hope this is responsive.

Mike

There are many threads on Lit, in this section and others, that detail Lit users either having sex daily or multiple times a day, or people masturbating daily or several times a day, and almost always having an orgasm each time. Threads that detail one's sexual insatiability and attempts to satisfy that need.

And I don't see anything particularly wrong with that. This is a sex-themed site, so it goes without saying that people who have a great affinity for sexual pleasure will talk about it.

For myself, I also enjoy sex, and have had what I would like to think a fairly active sex life from when I was young until about now. There have been periodic lulls over the years, but I've enjoyed almost all of my sexual experiences, and I think my partners who have been with me have as well. The same goes for masturbation. I've always enjoyed it from when I first discovered how it felt to touch myself "down there" many many years ago, until now.

Where I differ, and the premise of my post, is that I don't feel an overt need to engage in any kind of sexual activity on a daily basis, or multiple times a day. For example, I last masturbated this past Saturday and the orgasm that I gave myself was very intense and satisfying. So satisfying that I haven't felt the need to give myself another one. I may or may not have another one this weekend, I don't know.

When I say I masturbate, that means I rub and touch myself until I make myself cum. There are times, usually at night when I'm in bed, I may slowly rub myself, not with the intention of cumming, but just to make myself feel good. I'm not edging myself as I'm not working myself up close to an orgasm and then stopping. Rather, I just touch myself for maybe five or ten minutes, and it makes me feel good. And then I usually go to sleep after that. Maybe some people would find that frustrating if they did that, but for me it works.

I don't think I've lost interest in sex. I enjoy it every time that I engage in any sexual activity. I just don't have that 24/7 drive that some people on here seem to have. I don't feel the need to chase an orgasm. And I've felt that way about the last two years or so. Maybe it's my age, or maybe it's due to menopause, or something else, I really don't know.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis or a cure. I just want to know if I'm unique in feeling and thinking this way (I don't think that I am), or are there others out there who do enjoy sex, but don't need it on a daily basis, or multiple times a day. I would just like to know others thoughts on this.

(I see I spelled 'insatiable' wrong in the thread title. I never claimed to be a spelling bee champion)

 

[stickygirl]

Broadly speaking I think Lit attracts people who are comfortable to talk about sex, so they're probably comfortable talking about a wide range of other topics too. It's simple enough to avoid threads in which you have no interest and there are only few pests that post inappropriately.

I'm no medic but my understanding is that libido runs on testosterone, and men as they age have less in their veins. It's not such a bad thing and I found this, which originally I heard quoted as Winston Churchill, but apparently not

'I remember someone asking Sophocles, the poet, whether he was still capable of enjoying a woman. ‘Don’t talk in that way,’ he answered; ‘I am only too glad to be free of all that; it is like escaping from bondage to a raging madman.’

 

[Pantux]

MundaneOne I find your post interesting. I have been a regular poster for the last couple of months. Right now I have been masturbating almost every day. Before COVID I would go weeks without masturbating. Not sure if boredom had something to do wit it. My wife has been very ill for almost 3 years little or no intimacy. When she was at her sickest, I had no sex drive well over 18 months. As she has started to get a bit better and she wants to cuddle my sex drive has began to strengthen. Sex is not possible so I masturbate way more than I have since I was young. I also feel that this and another site I am on has fuelled this. Your post has kind of made me wonder why? Like I said I have gone long periods of time without sex or masturbation. I do find the need waining a bit as various stresses change in my life. A lot of posts, I post are memories from when I was younger. I find it nice to have a place where talking about sex is not taboo. Not sure if this is what you are looking for but it did make me think.