🌸 AMA ~ Honey 🌸

[Wild_Honey_66]

I did one of these a while back and for some reason was intensely serious about the whole thing.

I'll try to lighten up this time around!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

These are fun, so lighten up kid lol

What got you started in BDSM?

Tell us a kink you have that might surprise us?

What is your perfect day?

Without being specific, what do you do for a living?

What's the most impressive pickup line (spoken or written) you've ever received?

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Coffee or tea?

What makes you so fucking awesome?

 

[Bramblethorn]

What's the strangest place you've ever slept in?

What's something you want to try but never have? (food, drink, experience, whatever)

 

[MrZeno]

What threads are you subscribed to?

 

[cookiecat]

Would you call yourself a switch? Or do you identify more as D or s?

 

[midwestyankee]

Boxers or briefs?

Raised donuts or cake donuts?

Beatles or Stones?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

These are fun, so lighten up kid lol

What got you started in BDSM?

Tell us a kink you have that might surprise us?

What is your perfect day?

Without being specific, what do you do for a living?

What's the most impressive pickup line (spoken or written) you've ever received?

1. What got me started? I knew about submission from my religious upbringing, and knew that I liked it... when my partner wasn't being a complete asshole. I didn't know anything about BDSM beyond the stereotypical S&M, whips and chains, 'spank me harder' sort of thing, and I knew nothing about D/s in a BDSM context. But it was everywhere on the Playground back then, a lot of the public Lit couples were into it, and you didn't have to look too hard to find tumblr pic threads and people talking about power exchange.

Some of the very first people I remember meeting were involved in D/s to some degree, so I got an early introduction by watching and listening to them, and my biggest crushes all expressed an interest in it, or had actual offline experience. I think what sold me on it were my dear friend elli and her enthusiasm for D/s, and a guy I had a crush on who self-indentified as a Dom.

After my difficult marriages, I was curious about kink, but giving up my power? Fuck, no! I wasn't having any of that. I'll just watch from the sidelines, thanks.

But, wait! Negotiation! And limits! And safewords! And aftercare! You mean I don't have to do anything I don't want to do? You mean I can say NO??? Well, throw in a hunky guy who made me go all melty, and that was a game changer. I went from, 'I am very definitely not going to be your sub' to, 'I belong to yooouuu' in a couple of months. I was converted, and realized then that relationships without power exchange just aren't fulfilling for me in the same way that relationships with some element of D/s are.

(I did have a couple of significant D/s experiences with a partner prior to him, which also made a big impact on me, but the overall tone of that previous relationship did not include power exchange.)

2. Tell you a kink that might surprise you? Femdom? Incest? Pee? Idk, I've been pretty open about most of my kinks over the years, so I don't know that there's any I haven't talked about. I think the one that surprises me the most is discovering that I have a little sadistic streak. I've grown to fancy the thought of slapping, spitting, biting, choking, hair pulling the right person, under the right circumstances. The only one of those that I have any experience with offline is biting, and his delightful responses convinced me that there was much fun to be had by the application of a little pain. Rawr.

3. What is my perfect day? Right now my perfect day would be checking in to a nice hotel with my kids, spending the day swimming, ordering room service for dinner, watching tv together, and sleeping like the dead.

4. What do I do for a living? I am currently part of the support staff for our local school district. I'm qualified to work in six different positions, and so far have worked as a crossing guard, cafeteria supervisor, and playground aide. Because the students are all doing distance learning at this time, I'm working with our school's maintenance department to keep everything sanitized and safe for our staff and visitors. Which is a fancy way of saying I'm a cleaning lady.

5. What's the most impressive pickup line I've ever received? I honestly can't remember any. I think it's fair to say that I'm not generally a fan of pickup lines, so I'm not likely to remember them, I guess. I much prefer an honest, straightforward approach, although I do appreciate a man with a wicked clever sense of humor, and an initial witty remark will often grab my attention.

Saying I like a man to be forthright always makes me think of that scene in Tootsie in which Julie tells Dorothy the same thing, and then later Michael tries it on Julie, repeating what Julie had told Dot word for word, and Julie throws her drink in Michael's face and walks away.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I miss you. Do you miss us?

Dog or cat person?

Do you want the deep answer or do you want the shallow answer?
I love you. That's not going to change.

I like both! I'm more of a specific animal person than I am a species person. I loved my dogs Kabloona and Sasha, I wasn't crazy about Roxy or Millie. I loved my cats Cleo, Sammy Kitty, Clover and Felix. The cat that came with our previous house, not so much.

Coffee or tea?

What makes you so fucking awesome?

Both coffee and tea. Iced coffee is hands down my favorite beverage ever, but I drink a lot of iced tea in the summer, hot tea in the winter, and hot coffee when I remember to do a cold brew overnight, or when I'm out somewhere and somebody else has already made it.

LOL!! I think you think I'm fucking awesome 'cause you're wearing your rose-tinted safety glasses and you only see the good stuff.

What's the strangest place you've ever slept in?

What's something you want to try but never have? (food, drink, experience, whatever)

The strangest place I've ever slept in, hmm... maybe in my van in a parking lot halfway between the house we were moving out of and the house we were moving in to. It was probably 5am and we'd been moving all night and I knew if I didn't sleep, I was going to run the van and all my kids right off the road. So I parked and I power napped and everyone lived.

Something I want to try... Lots of things! I've lived a small life, I'd like to change that. I want to try traveling on my own, to prove to myself that I can. I want to try an immersive language program. I want to try living on a homestead. I want to try taking a dance class. I want to try running my own business. I want to try living somewhere else. I want to try catching a baby.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What threads are you subscribed to?

I'm subscribed to 62 pages of threads!

When I first joined, I was in a lot of flirty threads. I pretty much steer clear of those now, as I'm in a different place in my life. I like discussion threads, and conversational threads, and playful-but-not-flirty threads and sometimes I just want to answer a dumb question like What Are You Wearing Today? so that I can feel like I've put my foot on the ground somewhere, you know? I like comfortable threads where there are people who know my life. I like threads that give me a reason to think hard. I like threads that give me an opportunity to be creative. I like threads where I am welcomed, no questions asked, and I like threads that offer a place for me to talk about things that I am passionate about.

I tend to avoid threads that are overtly sexual, threads with a lot of conflict, threads with a lot of people with whom I don't gel well. I lurk in some of those, there is still valuable content even if I'm not comfortable being an active poster there.

Are you looking for recommendations?

Would you call yourself a switch? Or do you identify more as D or s?

Yes! You knew that already.

s is the thing I don't want to live without. D is super fun, but I don't require it to feel fulfilled.

Boxers or briefs?

Raised donuts or cake donuts?

Beatles or Stones?

Boxer briefs. Then boxers, then briefs. Mankinis and thongs are nowhere on my list.

Cake. Chocolate cake donut with chocolate frosting and either chocolate jimmies or chopped peanuts. Cinnamon crumb. And the occasional maple bar, cheese danish, or apple fritter. I like old fashioned donuts in theory, but they're too dense and too sweet for me to eat a whole one, which is really saying something!

Beatles, although I don't generally go out of my way to listen to either one. The Beatles are familiar and comforting because I can sing all the words without thinking about them. The Stones I enjoy on a much more selective basis. I'm not a huge rock fan. I did NOT like Rod Stewart at all, until he put out those albums of old standards.

Here Comes The Sun is one of my favorite songs. It feels like a stranger decorated my room and I can't believed they got it so right!

 

[cookiecat]

ya know, I knew you were switchy but I wasn't sure about the D part or the s part.


Do you enjoy cooking?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

What the most important thing you learned as an adult that no one taught you?

 

[Pervy_Sage]

What is one thing that you wish you could be doing right this very moment?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

ya know, I knew you were switchy but I wasn't sure about the D part or the s part.


Do you enjoy cooking?

That makes sense. I threw myself into the D part for a while when I wasn't getting my s needs met.

I don't, really. I didn't grow up learning to cook, my mom didn't like me in the kitchen and she didn't like to take me to the grocery store. When I tried to teach myself, I burned her favorite skillet and broke her new food processor. After that I figured I'd better stick to toast.

As a wife and mom, cooking has just been a chore. Spend an hour making dinner, they inhale it in five minutes and they're gone.

I think part of my problem is that I never learned to enjoy cooking just for myself. When we had cable years ago I'd watch Jacques Pepin and Lidia's Italy and begin to feel a spark, and I adore watching movies about restaurants, I guess I just haven't claimed that joy for myself. Yet.

What the most important thing you learned as an adult that no one taught you?

How to say No.

What is one thing that you wish you could be doing right this very moment?

Well, it feels as though I am eternally starved for physical affection, so I'd be with someone I like and trust immensely. Probably just chillin' on the bed, talking and cuddling and snogging.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

What is the best thing a Litster has taught you?

If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your days, what would it be?

What is the thing (right now, as you stated that changes) that makes your panties damp?

 

[Blue]

What does your imaginary ideal house look like? Where would you live when not constrained by reality?

I.e. tiny log cabin, rural bungalow, Victorian estate, giant igloo, 12th century castle, high-tech home in a hollowed out asteroid, etc etc?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Okay, what am I doing wrong? Anyone? Why isn't my thread inspiring conversation? It's just question, answer - question, answer - question, answer. Thoughts?

Genuinely open to constructive input. Halp!

 

[Pervy_Sage]

How are you different now than when you first came to Lit?

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Okay, what am I doing wrong? Anyone? Why isn't my thread inspiring conversation? It's just question, answer - question, answer - question, answer. Thoughts?

Genuinely open to constructive input. Halp!

I’ll engage. Whatcha wanna talk about?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

My best friend is having plastic surgery. I’m jealous, but I’m not. You have helped me a lot accepting my own body with your vulnerable posts.
How did you get there, and is it something that fluctuates?

This is meaty, this is important. I'm going to come back to this another day when I feel I can do it justice.

What is the best thing a Litster has taught you?

If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your days, what would it be?

What is the thing (right now, as you stated that changes) that makes your panties damp?

The best thing a Litster has taught me? That I'm worthy of more than I think I deserve. Sometimes I feel it and sometimes I don't, but I'm choosing to believe it even when my anxiety/depression/whatever is in disagreement.

One meal? No idea. I don't really have favorite foods, but it would probably be something my mom makes.

The thing that makes my panties damp? Did we talk about this already? I don't remember. The first thing that always comes to mind is something an ex used to say, not just what he said but how he said it. It's entirely possible that I read all kinds of things into it that he didn't mean, but it remains sort of the symbol of a lot of what I like in a relationship, summed up in one word.

What does your imaginary ideal house look like? Where would you live when not constrained by reality?

I.e. tiny log cabin, rural bungalow, Victorian estate, giant igloo, 12th century castle, high-tech home in a hollowed out asteroid, etc etc?

Blue! This question makes me happy. I've always liked daydreaming about my perfect house.

For years I've imagined myself in a big Queen Anne farmhouse, kids and dogs running in and out the back door while I work in the kitchen, friends and family letting themselves in the front door with a hollered greeting. Lots of space, lots of books, lots of cups of tea at the big kitchen table.

As I've gotten older, I've begun leaning toward the idea of a little cottage - clapboard? stone? - something easier for me to maintain as my body slows down. I also have a thing for 'skoolies' - busses transformed into RVs. I like the idea of travelling to visit my children when they're out on their own and having my own place to stay.

 

[barefootgirl69]

*subscribes and starts singing*

Getting to know you...getting to know all about you.

When we get together this spring, should I do the cooking?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

How are you different now than when you first came to Lit?

Less dependant on others, better with boundaries. Less inclined to invest energy into things that clearly aren't working, more likely to let go and walk away. Less motivated to make relationships right or perfect or how I'd want them ideally, better at allowing for imperfection and disappointment and accepting that we're all flawed. I'd say that I've raised my standards and lowered my expectations and that I'm working on learning to be content with my own company.

I’ll engage. Whatcha wanna talk about?

I'm talking already! I'm talking!

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Less dependant on others, better with boundaries. Less inclined to invest energy into things that clearly aren't working, more likely to let go and walk away. Less motivated to make relationships right or perfect or how I'd want them ideally, better at allowing for imperfection and disappointment and accepting that we're all flawed. I'd say that I've raised my standards and lowered my expectations and that I'm working on learning to be content with my own company.



I'm talking already! I'm talking!

Common lessons with specific ramifications depending on each person. I’ve learned all of those as well

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

*subscribes and starts singing*

Getting to know you...getting to know all about you.

When we get together this spring, should I do the cooking?

Yes. Yes, you should.

I'll chop the veg, and set the table, and admire your handiwork as you cook, but I don't want to be in charge.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Common lessons with specific ramifications depending on each person. I’ve learned all of those as well

*high fives*