Any tips on writing first lesbian scene

[mfan2112]

Hi,

I have written a few stories, and in the process of more. But looking at tackling my first lesbian scene. Being male, all I have is my imagination to work with. Any tips or suggestions?
Thanks in advance.

 

[yowser]

Right, a challenge to write from an unfamiliar perspective.

First, and perhaps you have done this already, is to read that category carefully, especially the stories that score highly. The tone and delivery of the tales are different from many other categories here, and I do not think you will have much success unless you create interesting partners.

Any Lesbian friends to talk to?

Second, there was an extensive thread fairly recently, titled the 'female gaze' and while some of the discussion will be extraneous, there were interesting observations that might be useful to you.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1528744

I wish you good luck, it is almost always valuable to write from a different place than one's own.

 

[vanmyers86]

Hi,

I have written a few stories, and in the process of more. But looking at tackling my first lesbian scene. Being male, all I have is my imagination to work with. Any tips or suggestions?
Thanks in advance.

In general, I start with the emotions and the actions follow, whether I"m writing a hetero or lesbian scene.

Your anxiety is very common - I was a nervous wreck the first time I wrote a lesbian sex scene, because even though I'm a woman, I'm straight and have no experience there and I worried about getting it wrong.

The best advice I ever read here was to think of sex as a conversation between the people involved. Try approaching it from there and see what happens.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Real lesbians getting together?
Or a fantasy first-time scene?
Or two women in a different category story who happen to be persuaded to get it together (eg BDSM or Group)?

Is your intended audience male or female?

Very different types of story.

If you're writing the former, then backstory and justification are particularly important. Women won't ignore responsibilities or personal safety in the same way men do. Think about the whole body as an erotic canvas and also what would hurt or be too much.

The latter categories - being unrealistic hasn't harmed many authors, but credit to you for wanting to write more plausible stuff.

Bramblethorn writes good lesbians. I've only put one story with lesbian sex here - it's a terrible story because it's basically 'we had sex' but the sex was real all right.

 

[HeyAll]

Try using this popular How-To.

https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/how-to-write-lesbian-sex-scenes

 

[vanmyers86]

Think about the whole body as an erotic canvas

Beautiful image. Thanks for sharing it!

 

[NotWise]

Quite of a few of my stories have two female main characters. I find it easier to develop a woman's character if I can play her off another woman. My characters are generally not bi or lesbian, so I've written exactly one lesbian scene, which gives me no basis for advising you on what to do.

I can give you some advice on one thing to not do. Don't work through all of the excellent advice in the How-To that HeyAll linked, and then go softcore when things get hot. Your readers might hate you.

 

[Omenainen]

You’ve gotten some nice advice, so maybe I’ll leave a comment that’s not so serious. What have you been writing up until now, gay male? If you can imagine a woman having sex, why can’t you imagine two? I don’t think it has to be so very fundamentally different and difficult and mysterious. So much depends on the characters and the story, actually I think more depends on the characters and story than gender.

 

[KeithD]

Hi,

I have written a few stories, and in the process of more. But looking at tackling my first lesbian scene. Being male, all I have is my imagination to work with. Any tips or suggestions?
Thanks in advance.

Start with two or more females. (Sorry, couldn't resist.)

 

[NotWise]

Start with two or more females. (Sorry, couldn't resist.)

Could the scene be one woman and her active imagination?

 

[SimonDoom]

Start with two or more females. (Sorry, couldn't resist.)

I appreciate succinctness, but I think Colleen Thomas's how-to guide is going to get a lot more traction than yours.

 

[PoisonPen33]

I appreciate succinctness, but I think Colleen Thomas's how-to guide is going to get a lot more traction than yours.

I'd like to second this. Colleen Thomas was the first author that came to mind when I was writing my first lesbian scene, and while looking at her stories I was pleasantly surprised to find a "How To" guide.

It was an immense help and a great foundation (especially the last two paragraphs), and now I feel much more comfortable delving head-first into those kind of stories.

 

[HappySpouse]

Try using this popular How-To.

https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/how-to-write-lesbian-sex-scenes

That might of been useful before I submitted lesbian stories. Now I have regrets. Oh well, maybe the next one will be even better.

 

[stickygirl]

Good suggestions here.

Writing any kind of sex scene if often a case of avoiding repetition and cliches. I'll just throw this out as an idea. Write the scene between two people with unspecific sex: how they feel about each other, the scene, the detail. If you're happy with the dynamic between your characters, then go back and add body parts. The mechanics of bodies is pretty straight forward: getting the character's relationship right is the challenge.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

The hardest part of me when writing from a female POV would be sounding authentic with the details like what she calls the different parts of her body or the sensations she's experiencing.

As help for the original OP I'll offer this: there's not a one-size-fits-most answer to most of those details and common sense prevails. For example, while I've heard different women referring to oral sex as "getting/giving head" (even to a woman) or the obvious things like "going down" or "eating pussy," I have never heard a woman refer to it as "receiving cunnilingus."

Few American women will refer to their lady parts using the "c" word, unless it's for a very specific effect. Not to mention the difference in the word "fanny" between our American friends vs our UK friends.

So, it's most likely her "pussy," although it could be her kitty, kitten, va-jj, . . .

 

[Omenainen]

The hardest part of me when writing from a female POV would be sounding authentic with the details like what she calls the different parts of her body or the sensations she's experiencing.

But wouldn’t all of this also vary from character to character, regardless of gender? I have problems with sounding authentic at all, not being a native in English, so I don’t worry about it too much, it’s gonna go wrong anyway.

Much of physical sensations are the same, kissing, caresses, and it’s individual who likes what and how, or how sensitive they are. If imagining genitals other than ones own is difficult, maybe use more poetic descriptions and focus on what is easier to imagine.

 

[Handley_Page]

Hi,

I have written a few stories, and in the process of more. But looking at tackling my first lesbian scene. Being male, all I have is my imagination to work with. Any tips or suggestions?
Thanks in advance.

You might like to study the ways of description.
I recommend you start with 'First Day Of School' By eroslit.
It is a well-told tale.
There are, obviously, others but this one is reckoned ot be one of the best ever.

 

[Jamie_and_Lisa]

Do lots of firsthand research first.

 

[yukonnights]

Hi,

I have written a few stories, and in the process of more. But looking at tackling my first lesbian scene. Being male, all I have is my imagination to work with. Any tips or suggestions?
Thanks in advance.

I've been in your shoes and probably the advice to start with, as has already been mentioned, is to read a number of Lesbian stories. I've looked at your stories and you've already written female characters — the main differences in a Lesbian story is that the 'couple dynamic' will be a bit different. I didn't read very deeply into your stories, but hopefully you delved into the female's experience in them — so again, you're not altogether inexperienced in witting the female experience..

As is generally good practice, craft the characters uniquely. Very often in human relationships there is a leader and a follower — a more dominant and a more submissive partner. In same gender stories this becomes more important because it can help fill the place of the clear male/female narrative shifts. Try to have them each speak in a unique way, etc.

We all write in different styles, but I always focus on the emotions, thoughts, feelings — painting the physical images is the easy part. Vanmyers86 said this above and it's worth repeating; "In general, I start with the emotions and the actions follow, whether I"m writing a hetero or lesbian scene."

It's probable that not every author can emotionally empathize and vicariously experience some believable emotional and physical feelings of another gender. Some authors may not even do that for a character of their own gender — but if you've not tried to do this, I would suggest you try. I often stop writing a scene and close my eyes and try to put myself into it. It works for me, but probably not for everyone.

I also think obvious differences in physical appearance is good. I sometimes use characters of different ethnic origins which, again helps in keeping them both unique and identifiable to the readers.

Hope some of this helps. Good luck and have fun

 

[mfan2112]

Right, a challenge to write from an unfamiliar perspective.

First, and perhaps you have done this already, is to read that category carefully, especially the stories that score highly. The tone and delivery of the tales are different from many other categories here, and I do not think you will have much success unless you create interesting partners.

Any Lesbian friends to talk to?

Second, there was an extensive thread fairly recently, titled the 'female gaze' and while some of the discussion will be extraneous, there were interesting observations that might be useful to you.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1528744

I wish you good luck, it is almost always valuable to write from a different place than one's own.

Thank you, will check it out.

 

[mfan2112]

Thank you all for the great suggestions! Got some reading to do tonight. I think I have been creating a plausible scenario and character building to get the two women together that should be a good foundation.

 

[Rustyoznail]

Do lots of firsthand research first.

Don't think that would work in Mfan's case - unless he sat in a corner and took notes. And photos.

 

[Jamie_and_Lisa]

Don't think that would work in Mfan's case - unless he sat in a corner and took notes. And photos.

Invite two female friends over make them a nice dinner, serve a little wine, express interest...

 

[NotWise]

Invite two female friends over make them a nice dinner, serve a little wine, express interest...

Even if you're watching closely, wouldn't that be second-hand knowledge?

 

[Jamie_and_Lisa]

Even if you're watching closely, wouldn't that be second-hand knowledge?

You are going to make us be serious aren't you? Okay, of course, it's second hand. But unless you are having sex with the author its all going to be second hand. That doesn't mean its invalid.. Women aren't all precisely the same anyhow. Jamie has a different, a more vulnerable feel than say Lillian (true -- Lisa is more strategic, she has a plan, she'll flank you, Lillian jus' kicks the front door in). And we love her for it. Eva is the softest, she has the most feather-light touch, Kristin is... what ... mischievous? (good word choice) We are all unique, no perfect report of Lisa and Jamie having sex will be perfectly accurate for Kristin and Lillian for example.

Okay, enough with being serious! Just recall your last hetero experience. Write it down, and preface it with "I secured the straps of my "life like Ruff Ryder TM Strap-on" and then proceeded to ...