Litiquette VII

[SMNaughtywife]

Happy healthy highs.

When I finish a long project.
A new canvas arriving in the mail.
Long hard bike rides.
And this morning it was sitting on the back patio, the first taste of espresso and watching the sun rise. Oh and yes, some chocolate.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Happy Wednesday.
Short, sweet and full of thought today.

When you're successful in your personal life and/or work, you have a right to feel a sense of pride about it. But not everyone is going to share your good feelings. Or know how much work and sacrifice went into getting to where you are today.

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

 

[tnman03]

Happy Wednesday.
Short, sweet and full of thought today.

When you're successful in your personal life and/or work, you have a right to feel a sense of pride about it. But not everyone is going to share your good feelings. Or know how much work and sacrifice went into getting to where you are today.

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

Good question from someone whose not only an exceptionally hard worker but is also sucessful in life, work and accomplishments.

I pondered on this response, writing and deleting mine because this attachment is far more accurate.

https://www.inc.com/wanda-thibodeau...dle-your-success-according-to-psychology.html

And the upshot of it all is don't let the bastards get you down. If your a sucessful person with a happy personal and professional life then the haters can just go on hating.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Long hard bike rides.

❤

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

I honestly have no idea and I'm not going to pretend I do. I am not like this now, but I do think that I've had to work on it. In my experience, I was in a lot if sports growing up and everything was a competition, that can easily translate until life if you let it. I would say that the more I wrestle with my own feelings the happier I've been overall, for myself and others. Taking a minute to understand your own feelings is underrated AF.

But overall, I have no idea why people do this. This is just personal experience as I think we need more cheering for each other.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Happy Wednesday.
Short, sweet and full of thought today.

When you're successful in your personal life and/or work, you have a right to feel a sense of pride about it. But not everyone is going to share your good feelings. Or know how much work and sacrifice went into getting to where you are today.

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

I don't know....I wish I did. I've scrapped and earned what professional success I have obtained to this point, but I've never been jealous of others' successes.

I have had subordinates who applied for the same positions I have applied for - I never begrudged that...I encouraged it, and made it clear that I would be happy to work with them in that capacity if they were judged to be the better candidate.

Being jealous of others' successes and to be bitter about it (barring some form of nepotism/other unearned or abused success) should trigger you to hold up a mirror to yourself as to why.

On a personal level - similar, though I'm more prone to jealousy in a very shallow manner. Character flaw. *shrug*

 

[SassySheDevil]

❤



I honestly have no idea and I'm not going to pretend I do. I am not like this now, but I do think that I've had to work on it. In my experience, I was in a lot if sports growing up and everything was a competition, that can easily translate until life if you let it. I would say that the more I wrestle with my own feelings the happier I've been overall, for myself and others. Taking a minute to understand your own feelings is underrated AF.

But overall, I have no idea why people do this. This is just personal experience as I think we need more cheering for each other.

I am not sure how to answer this question. But this reminded me of why I don't like competition.

Growing up in the Horse Showing world. EVERYTHING was competition. Who had the most expensive horse. Who could afford the best trainers. Who had the most silver. Everything was money.

I got to the point where something I loved with all my heart, became something I dreaded. I was not Rich. My parents both worked 2 very normal jobs, and would have sacrificed anything and everything to make me happy. But I refused to cave and "Make them" spend more for a better horse/training/bling.

It was my first real lesson on how nasty competition could be. Maybe that threw me in the opposite direction because competition now makes me feel ill.

So working hard. Yes. I have a beast of a husband who's worked for everything he's ever wanted and doesn't know when to quit or slow down.

I've seen how nasty people can be towards him because of it.

Jealous.. Yes. I wish I had that drive. That energy. But I'm never nasty to him about it. I love him more for how hard he works.

All these fit/in shape/dedicated people.. Again. Jealous.. Wish I had their drive. I would love to be that dedicated to my health. But I'm too damn lazy to put in all the work.

Depression has ruled my life for so long now. So anything I feel. Sadness/Envy/Jealousy etc. Comes from that. Insecurity. I try not to be nasty to anyone, but I admit, I've been there. I've learned that when I get that way. It's because I'm unhappy with myself.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Depression has ruled my life for so long now. So anything I feel. Sadness/Envy/Jealousy etc. Comes from that. Insecurity. I try not to be nasty to anyone, but I admit, I've been there. I've learned that when I get that way. It's because I'm unhappy with myself.

I'm not going to say competition sucks, I do feel like there's some good lessons to be learned in competitive sports, but I really don't like the cutthroat-ness of what it can turn into (and certainly did in my experiences.) I still play lots of sports (well not during COVID), but once I got out of that have to win/killer instinct mentality, man, do I have more fun. And crazy, you can still set goals, want to win, put your best effort... and still be happy when someone beats you. Both for them and for you.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm not going to say competition sucks, I do feel like there's some good lessons to be learned in competitive sports, but I really don't like the cutthroat-ness of what it can turn into (and certainly did in my experiences.) I still play lots of sports (well not during COVID), but once I got out of that have to win/killer instinct mentality, man, do I have more fun. And crazy, you can still set goals, want to win, put your best effort... and still be happy when someone beats you. Both for them and for you.

Sorry. I didn't mean to imply that you disliked competition. Just that it reminded me why I don't. But then I also admit I'm not secure enough in myself to enjoy it. I've never had enough confidence in myself to feel good about it.

I think it can be very healthy.

 

[JerseyJade]

Happy Wednesday.
Short, sweet and full of thought today.

When you're successful in your personal life and/or work, you have a right to feel a sense of pride about it. But not everyone is going to share your good feelings. Or know how much work and sacrifice went into getting to where you are today.

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

Because they're jealous bitches. Enough said.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Sorry. I didn't mean to imply that you disliked competition. Just that it reminded me why I don't. But then I also admit I'm not secure enough in myself to enjoy it. I've never had enough confidence in myself to feel good about it.

I think it can be very healthy.

That's not what I thought at all, I'm sorry if that's how it seemed! I just think my definition of what that looks like has changed for the better and agree with pretty much all you said, especially about competition!

 

[Daisy_Love]

Happy Wednesday.
Short, sweet and full of thought today.

When you're successful in your personal life and/or work, you have a right to feel a sense of pride about it. But not everyone is going to share your good feelings. Or know how much work and sacrifice went into getting to where you are today.

Why are some people resentful and bitter to see others happy and successful?

I don’t think I’m going to bring anything that hasn’t already been said but I’ll join in anyway
I think it’s insecurity within another person when they become bitter, resentful of someone else. And I do think it can run deeper than that into their past etc.

As for competition, I’m not particularly competitive and when others win I’m good with that. I think life is a bit of a competition at times and I’m quite happy to not engage in it. I’m confident within myself to be happy for others success and happiness but maybe that’s because I’m happy with my own. I do think in Britain some people have a really unhealthy way of being bitter and resentful toward famous/highly successful people, it’s almost like they build people up but are waiting to tear them down at the nearest opportunity.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Absolutely I own my pride. I acknowledge the privilege I hold to be in the space I am and understand how it can be hard for others to celebrate. I'm not responsible for their feelings, though. I'm empathetic to their struggles and thankful for my circumstances.

Jealousy/Envy in themselves are not bad emotions. I use them as a guide to discover what I truly want in life. If I catch myself of feeling envious, I get curious and redirect that potential negativity into an opportunity to follow something I want.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

TNman - thank you.

Sassy - I grew up showing horses as well. TWH and Arabians. Rode both English and Western.
Too fancy and not a high $$ QH for western.
Not quite fancy enough for English.
Two very different worlds and stuck in the middle.
So yup, know all about that.
But the cool kids from both would saddle up right before sunset and we’d go out and race each other. Mighta got caught and scolded a few times. What ever.
Until the next time we got together.

JJ - such a cheeky little thing.

And Aussie - women, you couldn’t of said it any better. Agree. Nicely done.

Reading everyone’s posts and thoughts.
Lots of good points.
Perhaps there’s no one concrete answer and requires some individual soul searching.

I think everyone is rocking a little healthy jealousy, seems normal and varies between each. I mean, some of these closets people have.
*Drools.*
I feel those who become bitter and spiteful for what ever reason that day are also the ones to pass judgement quickly. People have a lot to say about lives they never lived.
At the end of the day, you gotta be happy rocking your own life, and if that’s the case- well, you’re golden.
Enough said.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Stepping in for Trekka today, she’s kinda tied up. Not by me tho, which is almost- well more like absolutely tragic.
Late day question.

Fav part of your home and why?
Is it the furniture, decor or maybe the direction it faces?

 

[QuietCanadian]

With how this week is going? Any part of it that has alcohol stored in it. Hellllllooooo poor life choices

 

[SassySheDevil]

TNman - thank you.

Sassy - I grew up showing horses as well. TWH and Arabians. Rode both English and Western.
Too fancy and not a high $$ QH for western.
Not quite fancy enough for English.
Two very different worlds and stuck in the middle.
So yup, know all about that.
But the cool kids from both would saddle up right before sunset and we’d go out and race each other. Mighta got caught and scolded a few times. What ever.
Until the next time we got together.

I mostly rode Western. Did try English. Did Western Gaming for a while. My horse was 3/4 Arabian- 1/4 QH.. I loved him! He was the best. I had a Saddlebred for a while. And of course. I started on a Welsh/Arabian pony. Had her until I was an adult.

Funny thing is. I just took my old Show boots into try and get them stretched.. Told the guy they were like 30 years old and he dropped his jaw.

But yes. At the end of the day. Trail riding kicked ass!!

 

[SassySheDevil]

Stepping in for Trekka today, she’s kinda tied up. Not by me tho, which is almost- well more like absolutely tragic.
Late day question.

Fav part of your home and why?
Is it the furniture, decor or maybe the direction it faces?

Favorite part. The memories. When my parents passed away, they left me this house. It's an old Farm house with the biggest barn ever. Both are 100 years old. The house is small. But it is my parents house. Now mine.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I love my living room. It has a huge bay window that looks out to our garden and the entire view is greenery. There are trees everywhere and it's so relaxing to just sit and exist. We also don't have lots of books and no tv, so it's perfect to curl up with a cuppa and read.

I also have a room that we've converted into a library because we have that many books it's pretty special to go in there and just read about what you want. It's amazing how many subjects we've collected over the years and it's awesome to me.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

My office/music room is pretty cool. Starting to get a little crowded but it's still pretty fun. Also love the attrium. Great place to hang and sip coffee on weekend mornings.

You know, I'd love to sit with you on a Saturday and drink coffee. That sounds rad

 

[Orchidea73]

I love my living room. It has a huge bay window that looks out to our garden and the entire view is greenery. There are trees everywhere and it's so relaxing to just sit and exist. We also don't have lots of books and no tv, so it's perfect to curl up with a cuppa and read.

I also have a room that we've converted into a library because we have that many books it's pretty special to go in there and just read about what you want. It's amazing how many subjects we've collected over the years and it's awesome to me.

That sounds lovely. Both rooms. I would probably not stick my nose out, If I had that.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’m in the mood to be bad and create some mischiefIt, is Friday ya know.

If the world froze for the afternoon and only you could move - no one could see you or remember what you did, what would you do?

*Wonders who’s gonna be naughty or nice.*

 

[BongoGal]

If the world froze for the afternoon and only you could move - no one could see you or remember what you did, what would you do?

The afternoon would be awfully boring if I were to be nice for the duration. I don't know what the rules of physics are that would apply here, but I'll assume that articles of clothing can be removed but the frozen folks can't move at all. If that's the case, I think I'd unleash my inner 16-yr-old boy and pull a big prank. I'd need scissors, I'm sure, but I'd take off as many bras as I could from as many women as I could. I'd pull their tops back down, or button them back up, but I'd try to leave them dressed as they had been, just now without a bra on. I guess the payoff of this prank would be watching the sudden realizations of bralessness. Some might not notice at first, and some might notice and be quietly shocked because they could have sworn they put one on this morning.

 

[QuietCanadian]

I’m in the mood to be bad and create some mischiefIt, is Friday ya know.

If the world froze for the afternoon and only you could move - no one could see you or remember what you did, what would you do?

*Wonders who’s gonna be naughty or nice.*

I'd devise a way to benefit financially that doesn't seem like stealing from anyone maliciously, I don't know what that looks like though. But likely in a way that also benefits some charity as that would make it seem better somehow.

I feel like I need to know if I can teleport myself places. That changes a lot. If everyone here froze this afternoon, I'm not sure how interesting that would be and odd w probably waste the opportunity to do something fun.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Can I send my kids to the park for a picnic and have them freeze in the shade? It's been March since I've had my house to myself and that's the best use of alone time I can think of.

A quiet cup of coffee, a vigorous cleaning session without interruption, a chance to do supper prep without having to field requests or complaints, a bath without having to lock the door. An afternoon of reading and napping and painting and studying and watering my plants, dressed only in a nightie or little sundress.

Time to think, time to dream, time to create. My perfect staycation.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’m in the mood to be bad and create some mischiefIt, is Friday ya know.

If the world froze for the afternoon and only you could move - no one could see you or remember what you did, what would you do?

*Wonders who’s gonna be naughty or nice.*

Touch boobies.