Specifically what is cuckold?

[Jada59]

The reason I ask is that the guy I'm with now, mentioned to me that he always wanted to be with two women. I know *that's* not cuckold. But we continued to discuss fantasies. I said I had no interest at all in other women and wouldn't be able to do that.

I told him that a fantasy I had was to be with two men, but I didn't think in reality, I would actually do it. As in... I don't think this is something I could ever plan to do. But... Knowing how I am, if he were to bring another guy in, and the guy appealed to me, I might do it. I didn't tell him that!

So he said, "Let's do it!" I told him "no" but he keeps persisting. Wants me to find the guy.

I had another guy who is history now because he keeps getting out of touch. Not really ghosting because he keeps coming back with apologies and excuses. So... Nope. Bye! But... His response when I told him of the fantasy was that it was okay and I could bring another man in.

I did mention the other man and he immediately said, "no". Both men know of each other and for a time it seemed like battle of the BFs.

Meanwhile, the guy I'm with now keeps wanting me to have sex with other men. He wants me to take pics (which I don't do) or let him watch.

When I asked him why, his response was that he liked watching live sex and he wanted to see me sucking another guy's cock, watching him eat my pussy and getting fucked by him. Said it would really turn him on.

OTOH when he found out that I *had* had sex with the other BF, he was furious at first, calling me slut and acting very upset. But then he came back, apologized and wanted to hear about our sex.

I am soooo confused! Could he be cuckold or a cuckold or however you phrase it. Or... Is it some other kind of kink?

 

[dannyboy1958]

this guy of yours sounds a bit screwed up, your talking threesomes, cuckhold as im sure will be pointed out by many others her, is very different.
good luck threesomes are fun but too much planning may spoil it, let it happen as naturally as you can.

 

[Jada59]

this guy of yours sounds a bit screwed up, your talking threesomes, cuckhold as im sure will be pointed out by many others her, is very different.
good luck threesomes are fun but too much planning may spoil it, let it happen as naturally as you can.

I'm not planning to have a threesome. I just don't quite get the idea of cuckold. Thanks!

 

[dannyboy1958]

I'm not planning to have a threesome. I just don't quite get the idea of cuckold. Thanks!

sorry i misread you original post. from my very limited experience, its a lot about humiliation, getting some kind of kick seeing your wife being screwed by another man, is one thing, but many of the men ive spoken to about it, are very submissive and enjoy being humiliated by it. Im in the first camp, id enjoy seeing my wife pleasured, not that i cant, but i wouldnt enjoy any humiliation that goes with it - it would be a pure sexual pleasure thing, but thats me..

 

[Jada59]

sorry i misread you original post. from my very limited experience, its a lot about humiliation, getting some kind of kick seeing your wife being screwed by another man, is one thing, but many of the men ive spoken to about it, are very submissive and enjoy being humiliated by it. Im in the first camp, id enjoy seeing my wife pleasured, not that i cant, but i wouldnt enjoy any humiliation that goes with it - it would be a pure sexual pleasure thing, but thats me..

Hmmm... I don't think he's into submission but I don't really know. I haven't seen him all that many times yet.

 

[naughtymind]

I’m not one to define what makes a cuckold, or cuckolding, but I do have a few thoughts on your questions. I don’t think it’s all that unusual for men to have thoughts or fantasies about watching their partner engage in sexual acts with other lovers. The reasons are widely varied, but on a personal level I can say that I find the concept exciting for its naughtiness, and for the visual thrills. For me though, it would also be more about giving her an extra thrill, a sexual treat if you will. So if she wasn’t turned on by the idea of being watched as she was being all hot and naughty with another guy that would pretty much quell any interest I might have. Porn has made a lot over the domination and humiliation aspects, but I have no idea to what extent that meshes with real world cuckolding, as it isn’t something that I would be into personally. There is also the big factor of what is hot in fantasy vs what might not be so hot in real life.

Your guy does sound a bit unhealthy? Perhaps he is struggling to reconcile between conceptual fantasies and real life feelings?
Just my opinions

 

[cuck72]

so many mixed feelings

I can understand his feelings, I too really get off thinking of other men fucking my wife. But it can also be a rollercoaster ride too. Like the time this guy worked at the place my wife works at. She was getting very friendly with this guy, would mention him at times to me. He started calling her late at night when I was going to bed because of my job. I don't know if my wife told him I go to bed early like 9 pm. But I'm guessing she did, because he always called after 9, sometimes 10pm.

I would even mention him in bed when we fooled around, and my wife really got off on it. I would masturbate thinking of my wife parking someplace with him, and him fucking her in the back seat. Or get hard thinking of him and her going out for lunch, and my wife giving him blow jobs. I picture these things and get so hard and excited. BUT! I was feeling hurt and worried when he was calling her, afraid I was losing her to him. Thinking she didn't love me anymore.

But again, the next day I'd start having these fantasies about him fucking her after work. And I'd jack off so excited thinking of her cuckolding me. So I'm one that can get so turned on thinking of other guys fucking my wife, but also so jealous and worried about her only wanting him.

To me there are different degrees of cuckolding. { 1 } A wife or GF cheating, fucking another man behind her partners back. { 2 } would be the husband or BF knows, but doesn't leave her, he puts up with her fucking the other man. { 3 } the partner / cuckold just gets to watch, maybe jacks off, BUT! he don't get her, only her lover gets to have sex with her as he beats off. Maybe there would be some humiliation in that also, like name calling, putting the husband or BF down. { 4 } would be a bi cuckold, the one where the husband is submissive, only getting to clean up. Told to eat her lovers cum from her pussy, maybe even sucking the lover clean. I think of that as a cuckold slave.

To me the rest is just a 3sum wife sharing, which we've done.

 

[Carnevil9]

The TRUE definition of a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with other men behind his back. Generally other people know about it, but he doesn't, and therefore he is (unknowingly) belittled by the community.

But nowadays, especially at Literotica, the term is used for men who knowingly and willingly have their wives fuck other men, often in front of them, because they get off on the shame and humiliation.

This second definition really applies to the term wittol, not cuckold, but it seems to be the way cuckold is used round these parts.

 

[CuttingEdge]

One thing to remember is that the English Language is always in flux, so there is little reason to get upset about terminology as it used to be because word meanings change.

Cuckolding to me is where the wife knowingly to her husband, has sex with another man. There are various degrees of that, like the husband watching, or not watching, or humiliated, or not humiliated, etc, but that is the basic premise.

But another term a lot of people do not realize exists is Candualism. That is where the husband shows off his wife, but does not actually have her sleep with another man. It might be where a man watch him and his wife have sex, or it might be where the husband has his wife dress very sexy and shows her off that way. The point being, there is no sex with another man.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I believe my interest in Cuckolding started because my first wife cheated on me. We were high school sweethearts and both lost our virginity together, so to have her cheat years into our marriage really hurt.

I think my interest in cuckolding is because it is a form of control on that hurt. With my current wife, if I allow her to "cheat"...to cockold, then I have a sense of control. I have a say of when, where, and whom that happens with, so for me the idea of cuckolding is not about letting go, but rather a sense of control of my wife's "cheating".

That cross-references with the idea of the man breeding her, and so pregnancy risk, because last year my wife and I lost our infant son. That too is hurtful, and so there is this thought that maybe it was due to genetics, so if my wife was breed by another man as she was cuckolded, perhaps the baby would live?

I think overall it is a set of life-circumstances that create fantasies of these different flavors.

For some men, the idea of their wife being impregnanted by another man would be intense hell, but because of the reason I listed, a person can see why I might fantasize about a stranger impregnating my wife.

 

[LibraStud]

Imagine a married couple very much in love.

Then imagine the woman wanting sex with another man, perhaps an old boyfriend, and not wanting to cheat.

She discusses this with her hubby. He agrees to share her with the old bf - in return she tells him all of the details after every session with the bf. sometimes hubby is in the room with them and masturbates while they enjoy sex.

 

[honestWithWifie]

Meanwhile, the guy I'm with now keeps wanting me to have sex with other men. He wants me to take pics (which I don't do) or let him watch.

When I asked him why, his response was that he liked watching live sex and he wanted to see me sucking another guy's cock, watching him eat my pussy and getting fucked by him. Said it would really turn him on.

OTOH when he found out that I *had* had sex with the other BF, he was furious at first, calling me slut and acting very upset. But then he came back, apologized and wanted to hear about our sex.

I am soooo confused! Could he be cuckold or a cuckold or however you phrase it. Or... Is it some other kind of kink?

He could be a cuck. Maybe he is confused. Cuckold is confusing. Maybe he is into hotwifing. Maybe he is a stag/vixen. Maybe he is a cuck. Maybe he wants a poly three way. Maybe he wants to see live porn.

What is obvious: He's down with you having sex with another guy. Maybe he will get a little jealous. If your relationship is shaky, this may be a good way to flesh out the problems. If it survives - then win for all. If it doesn't - it wasn't meant to be.

A possible three way is on the table for you. I say go for it.

 

[Jada59]

I’m not one to define what makes a cuckold, or cuckolding, but I do have a few thoughts on your questions. I don’t think it’s all that unusual for men to have thoughts or fantasies about watching their partner engage in sexual acts with other lovers. The reasons are widely varied, but on a personal level I can say that I find the concept exciting for its naughtiness, and for the visual thrills. For me though, it would also be more about giving her an extra thrill, a sexual treat if you will. So if she wasn’t turned on by the idea of being watched as she was being all hot and naughty with another guy that would pretty much quell any interest I might have. Porn has made a lot over the domination and humiliation aspects, but I have no idea to what extent that meshes with real world cuckolding, as it isn’t something that I would be into personally. There is also the big factor of what is hot in fantasy vs what might not be so hot in real life.

Your guy does sound a bit unhealthy? Perhaps he is struggling to reconcile between conceptual fantasies and real life feelings?
Just my opinions

Maybe. I guess rtime will tell.

 

[Jada59]

I can understand his feelings, I too really get off thinking of other men fucking my wife. But it can also be a rollercoaster ride too. Like the time this guy worked at the place my wife works at. She was getting very friendly with this guy, would mention him at times to me. He started calling her late at night when I was going to bed because of my job. I don't know if my wife told him I go to bed early like 9 pm. But I'm guessing she did, because he always called after 9, sometimes 10pm.

I would even mention him in bed when we fooled around, and my wife really got off on it. I would masturbate thinking of my wife parking someplace with him, and him fucking her in the back seat. Or get hard thinking of him and her going out for lunch, and my wife giving him blow jobs. I picture these things and get so hard and excited. BUT! I was feeling hurt and worried when he was calling her, afraid I was losing her to him. Thinking she didn't love me anymore.

But again, the next day I'd start having these fantasies about him fucking her after work. And I'd jack off so excited thinking of her cuckolding me. So I'm one that can get so turned on thinking of other guys fucking my wife, but also so jealous and worried about her only wanting him.

To me there are different degrees of cuckolding. { 1 } A wife or GF cheating, fucking another man behind her partners back. { 2 } would be the husband or BF knows, but doesn't leave her, he puts up with her fucking the other man. { 3 } the partner / cuckold just gets to watch, maybe jacks off, BUT! he don't get her, only her lover gets to have sex with her as he beats off. Maybe there would be some humiliation in that also, like name calling, putting the husband or BF down. { 4 } would be a bi cuckold, the one where the husband is submissive, only getting to clean up. Told to eat her lovers cum from her pussy, maybe even sucking the lover clean. I think of that as a cuckold slave.

To me the rest is just a 3sum wife sharing, which we've done.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

The TRUE definition of a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with other men behind his back. Generally other people know about it, but he doesn't, and therefore he is (unknowingly) belittled by the community.

But nowadays, especially at Literotica, the term is used for men who knowingly and willingly have their wives fuck other men, often in front of them, because they get off on the shame and humiliation.

This second definition really applies to the term wittol, not cuckold, but it seems to be the way cuckold is used round these parts.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

Imagine a married couple very much in love.

Then imagine the woman wanting sex with another man, perhaps an old boyfriend, and not wanting to cheat.

She discusses this with her hubby. He agrees to share her with the old bf - in return she tells him all of the details after every session with the bf. sometimes hubby is in the room with them and masturbates while they enjoy sex.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

He could be a cuck. Maybe he is confused. Cuckold is confusing. Maybe he is into hotwifing. Maybe he is a stag/vixen. Maybe he is a cuck. Maybe he wants a poly three way. Maybe he wants to see live porn.

What is obvious: He's down with you having sex with another guy. Maybe he will get a little jealous. If your relationship is shaky, this may be a good way to flesh out the problems. If it survives - then win for all. If it doesn't - it wasn't meant to be.

A possible three way is on the table for you. I say go for it.

Thanks!