Annie's Sissy Help Line

Question for the online community, several members have mentioned CD clubs? If you attended or are a member, where did you go to find out about these?

Hi

I'm really fortunate because a swingers' club about 25 miles from me has a CD day once a month. Being a daytime event it's perfect and allows me to behave in all the ways I fantasise about and get the attention I crave. In the UK such events are advertised on a website called tvchix but I wouldn't know comparable sites for other locations... Good luck x
 
You have to wonder what that removal spray is doing to your skin if it can completely remove the hair as quickly as the short video in the ad suggests. Tried and true methods are that for a reason. :)
 
I just want to say thank you for this.. I am a closeted sissy who started wearing panties in college. At the time it was simply a naughty thing to do for us but it has morphed, much how OP describes, into a desire to feel like a woman. To be desired and feel beautiful in women’s clothing. My current girlfriend knows nothing of these desires and I’m struggling with how to bring it up. I have come out to a female ally that suggested I find a community somewhere to seek advice and help with coping. Perhaps this is it, perhaps it is not but I felt a connection with a lot of what was written in the OP.

I’m not interested in a mans cock, in anyway, but I am a sissy and I know that now.
 
I would say my hubby has done a pretty good job living out the fantasy. I mean we have people living in the house with us so he dresses like a man every day but only wears lingerie underneath (owns no male underwear). He dresses sissy for our sex times and wears only lingerie to bed to sleep. We've explored a lot of things and his excitement for it all seems to only grow so I expect he'd say it lived up to his expectations.

Now I think you'll always try things until you reach something that doesn't turn you on or the real doesn't match your fantasy and that's your limit. But just stick to the things that do feel as good or better than fantasy. Plenty of things fall under that list to hubby but there have been some things we've tried with him that we never repeated.

thank for the response. interesting to hear. i would love to find someone to play with, and see what clicks the most, seems like that's the hardest part for most people!
 
I just want to say thank you for this.. I am a closeted sissy who started wearing panties in college. At the time it was simply a naughty thing to do for us but it has morphed, much how OP describes, into a desire to feel like a woman. To be desired and feel beautiful in women’s clothing. My current girlfriend knows nothing of these desires and I’m struggling with how to bring it up. I have come out to a female ally that suggested I find a community somewhere to seek advice and help with coping. Perhaps this is it, perhaps it is not but I felt a connection with a lot of what was written in the OP.

I’m not interested in a mans cock, in anyway, but I am a sissy and I know that now.

Well, you are quite welcome here, honey. I'll do what I can to help you but so much of approaching your girlfriend depends on dozens of details of her personality, values, openness to sexuality, etc. that only you know. Bottom line, if she is open to 'trying new things' or 'playing' with sex, you have a good chance. If she only views sex as something deeply romantic, she's going to have a hard time accepting you as radically different than how you've been presenting to her. (Bait and switch). It is a risk but the sooner you start to address it the better. How long have you two been a couple? Start small and resist the urge to tell her your most extreme desires. Make sure she understands that what you tell her isn't the end of experimentation. I've talked to some women here who have discovered they have sissy husbands and one tried to deal with by allowing him to wear her underwear when they had sex thinking that was the end of it and was very frustrated when there always seemed to be something else he was pushing her to accept and 'enthusiastically' support.
 
Either go for the old fashioned razor or the painfull waxing,or electrolysis, ive found none of these quick hair removal schemes work.,

I would agree. I've tried 'break-throughs' over the years and so has hubby and they generally cause skin rashes or issues, etc.
 
Well, you are quite welcome here, honey. I'll do what I can to help you but so much of approaching your girlfriend depends on dozens of details of her personality, values, openness to sexuality, etc. that only you know. Bottom line, if she is open to 'trying new things' or 'playing' with sex, you have a good chance. If she only views sex as something deeply romantic, she's going to have a hard time accepting you as radically different than how you've been presenting to her. (Bait and switch). It is a risk but the sooner you start to address it the better. How long have you two been a couple? Start small and resist the urge to tell her your most extreme desires. Make sure she understands that what you tell her isn't the end of experimentation. I've talked to some women here who have discovered they have sissy husbands and one tried to deal with by allowing him to wear her underwear when they had sex thinking that was the end of it and was very frustrated when there always seemed to be something else he was pushing her to accept and 'enthusiastically' support.

I would echo a lot of what Annie says here, but it is very interesting to see it through her eyes.

I have had different results over the years when broaching it, 'the one that I let get away' was very open to things, I was too shy to go very far ... if only

My first wife was yuch, no way, freak

Girlfriend was / is up for it, embraced it, enjoys it. We fold in her kinks / likes, so sometimes its more focussed for her, sometimes more for me, sometimes a free for all. She is strictly hetero, but was 100% on board with Sissy me

Wife is probably lesbian, certainly not interested in cock. It has allowed us to have a sex life as 'two girls', which works for both of us

In all cases though, there is a massive leap of faith when the topic is first broached. I wish I could say there is a way to raise it which helps the outcome, but I haven't found it if there is. For me, being honest about who you are, emphasising how you feel about her, how this sissy thing is part of you, asking about her, her kinks, her fantasies and how you can work together is the way I have opened the debate.

After many years of hiding it, or even denying my feelings, I came to a point where I couldn't keep living the lie, and am lucky that it is now 'out in the open', but I have heard tales and experienced relationships that couldn't stand the news, so it is a risky step
 
I would echo a lot of what Annie says here, but it is very interesting to see it through her eyes.

I have had different results over the years when broaching it, 'the one that I let get away' was very open to things, I was too shy to go very far ... if only

My first wife was yuch, no way, freak

Girlfriend was / is up for it, embraced it, enjoys it. We fold in her kinks / likes, so sometimes its more focussed for her, sometimes more for me, sometimes a free for all. She is strictly hetero, but was 100% on board with Sissy me

Wife is probably lesbian, certainly not interested in cock. It has allowed us to have a sex life as 'two girls', which works for both of us

In all cases though, there is a massive leap of faith when the topic is first broached. I wish I could say there is a way to raise it which helps the outcome, but I haven't found it if there is. For me, being honest about who you are, emphasising how you feel about her, how this sissy thing is part of you, asking about her, her kinks, her fantasies and how you can work together is the way I have opened the debate.

After many years of hiding it, or even denying my feelings, I came to a point where I couldn't keep living the lie, and am lucky that it is now 'out in the open', but I have heard tales and experienced relationships that couldn't stand the news, so it is a risky step

Well put. Thanks for sharing.
 
You can alway use the my friend bit. Some guy you know was tellin to much info “insert your kink”. Then ask her what she thought about and is there a thing to it and go from there. I just know if you keep doing what your doing that’s all you get. Oh and maybe a divorce in 10 years when she either finds your stash or comes home Early And catches you. If she your GF it’s better to know now.

She’s not the only one. You can find another, you won’t be lonely the for of your life. So don’t settle.
 
Hmm, I would recommend you find a bra... or thigh highs (which would be more concealable). Heels really change your legs and posture. A corset would really make you feel different, though it is the most expensive option. Bras and heels you can find at a second hand store or discount store.

Thank you SweetAnnie, I love going to thrift stores, that is where I bought my prom 👗 dress.
You give such good advice :heart:
 
SweetAnnie, please help a gurl out who won’t pass as a woman. How can I truly embrace my feminine side. I have no one to share my feelings and desires with. I long to have a girlfriend to confide in, shop with, be my guide as I embrace my gurly side.
 
SweetAnnie, please help a gurl out who won’t pass as a woman. How can I truly embrace my feminine side. I have no one to share my feelings and desires with. I long to have a girlfriend to confide in, shop with, be my guide as I embrace my gurly side.

Good question. I'm adding it to the FAQ at the beginning of this thread so you can see my answer there.
 
Well, you are quite welcome here, honey. I'll do what I can to help you but so much of approaching your girlfriend depends on dozens of details of her personality, values, openness to sexuality, etc. that only you know. Bottom line, if she is open to 'trying new things' or 'playing' with sex, you have a good chance. If she only views sex as something deeply romantic, she's going to have a hard time accepting you as radically different than how you've been presenting to her. (Bait and switch). It is a risk but the sooner you start to address it the better. How long have you two been a couple? Start small and resist the urge to tell her your most extreme desires. Make sure she understands that what you tell her isn't the end of experimentation. I've talked to some women here who have discovered they have sissy husbands and one tried to deal with by allowing him to wear her underwear when they had sex thinking that was the end of it and was very frustrated when there always seemed to be something else he was pushing her to accept and 'enthusiastically' support.

Thank you so much for welcoming me with such open arms. We have been together for 5 years. I approached her early on with a desire to be pegged that she seemed open to. She even went out and bought me a prostate massager to play with and has fingered me before during foreplay. However, she did not seem to enjoy fingering me and that never happens anymore. I have learned since then that my true desires are to feel like a woman, feel desired, and beautiful in women’s clothing, along with being pegged and all that. I am often very shy about what I want during sex but have considered reintroducing the prostate massager to try to spark things down that path again.

I really love her and I’m scared of losing her, but I can not deny my desires.. I have tried to do that in the past and I cannot get it out of my head..
 
I would echo a lot of what Annie says here, but it is very interesting to see it through her eyes.

I have had different results over the years when broaching it, 'the one that I let get away' was very open to things, I was too shy to go very far ... if only

My first wife was yuch, no way, freak

Girlfriend was / is up for it, embraced it, enjoys it. We fold in her kinks / likes, so sometimes its more focussed for her, sometimes more for me, sometimes a free for all. She is strictly hetero, but was 100% on board with Sissy me

Wife is probably lesbian, certainly not interested in cock. It has allowed us to have a sex life as 'two girls', which works for both of us

In all cases though, there is a massive leap of faith when the topic is first broached. I wish I could say there is a way to raise it which helps the outcome, but I haven't found it if there is. For me, being honest about who you are, emphasising how you feel about her, how this sissy thing is part of you, asking about her, her kinks, her fantasies and how you can work together is the way I have opened the debate.

After many years of hiding it, or even denying my feelings, I came to a point where I couldn't keep living the lie, and am lucky that it is now 'out in the open', but I have heard tales and experienced relationships that couldn't stand the news, so it is a risky step

Thank you for your response. It is valued. I feel I’m in a similar situation,
Where I have tried to deny my desires but I just can’t. I want them more now than ever before.

But I am not willing to give up on my relationship with my current girlfriend. Perhaps that is forcing me into a corner but I just can’t give up on it.
 
Thank you for your response. It is valued. I feel I’m in a similar situation,
Where I have tried to deny my desires but I just can’t. I want them more now than ever before.

But I am not willing to give up on my relationship with my current girlfriend. Perhaps that is forcing me into a corner but I just can’t give up on it.

There is another side of the advice I've been providing here based on my own journey and experience with my sissy husband.

If you could have your girlfriend in your life for the rest of your life OR you could play like a total sissy as much as you wanted to without her in your life, which would you choose? What % of your life is spent seeking/having orgasms and what % is spent sharing and living a life together? What do you enjoy about being with her that is not having sex? Do you want to get to the end of your life and say "wow, I had 10,000 orgasms and was a total sissy slut" or say "I spent this journey with a beautiful, loving woman who we built a life together"?

I know I'm addicted to sex and it has caused me problems in my life. I still indulge myself, I still come here and other places on the internet to get my fix but I try very hard to keep family first. That's why this spring was so hard when my adult son caught me in a very sexual and compromised position. I was playing with someone here on Literotica who is an amazing woman and who I'd become very close to but I had to walk away from that (and hurt her in the process). I just know that I do risky things when she and I are playing, things I don't want to put my family in risk for. So even though I think about her every day, I don't try to connect with her again (if she'd even have me).

I guess I'm just putting a message out here that is quite rare on sex forums like this... maximizing your orgasms and pleasures is probably not the wisest thing to pursue. I strive for a balance. If you feel yourself driven to a place where you'll risk a whole life relationship for momentary pleasures (pushing your partner to indulge you in things she's already signaled to you she is not interested in and is probably turned off by), maybe you can't have them both. It might be better if you avoided online porn and other fantasy reinforcers. I know sissies have a very hard time walking away completely but maybe just keep some panties for your masturbation but give yourself a break from it as much as you can. Sometimes masturbate without panties and think of her. De-program yourself a bit to see if the urgency to go "full sissy" can be put in check so you don't risk your relationship.

This is really a message for anyone who craves more sissy play with their partner but if they are honest, knows their partner is not interested, has expressed that they don't want to, or the like. If the subject has never been broached, then your situation is different (and more hopeful).
 
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Annie's Sissy Thought for the Day

"You know when you wear pretty panties under your guy clothes... EVERYONE can tell exactly what you're wearing, don't you?"
 
Annie's Sissy Thought for the Day

"You know when you wear pretty panties under your guy clothes... EVERYONE can tell exactly what you're wearing, don't you?"

Exactly, it's always a thrill to be around a bunch of people, especially men, and be aware that i am wearing cute little girl panties :heart:
 
Annie's Sissy Thought for the Day

"You know when you wear pretty panties under your guy clothes... EVERYONE can tell exactly what you're wearing, don't you?"

Am not sure people clock my panties, but i do know they see my stockings - no socks - and garter clasps - tight chinos... and when a woman makes eye contact with me on a train or in a cafe and looks down then up... such a rush knowing she sees and approves!
 
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