Dating in today's world

[misstrust]

I am 32. I am happily divorced with no dram from my ex...i have 2 kids and sole custody. Dating is non existent for me. I have tried online dating, in person dating, being set up friends... and more often then not i am the only one who shows up to the date. I would guess that they see me and run away...but i have been told several times that this is not the case. Or the exact opposite will happen...the guy will show up things will go great and then they drop off the face of the earth and i am left disappointed... giving up is looking better and better all the time.

Dating today has become "meet, fuck, leave" and in today's world this is considered a realtionship. I swear I was born in the wrong era because dating should be so much more then these 3 things.

What ever happened having meaningful in person conversations or even over the phone? Having meals together? Taking walks? Or just spending the afternoon together? Building an actual relationship?

Instant gratification has ruined so much in our society....

Am I alone on this?

 

[HisArpy]

No one says you HAVE to play the meet/fuck/leave game.

 

[dolf]

I never had that experience...

This is going to sound harsh but, are you wearing eau de desperation? I found that the happier I am with myself, the more decent men show interest.

 

[RobDownSouth]

Some people want to have an emotional connection as well as a physical connection, Tim.

 

[misstrust]

I never had that experience...

This is going to sound harsh but, are you wearing eau de desperation? I found that the happier I am with myself, the more decent men show interest.

I'm pretty happy with my life and most of the time at this point I don't even try to date

 

[HisArpy]

I never had that experience...

This is going to sound harsh but, are you wearing eau de desperation? I found that the happier I am with myself, the more decent men show interest.

Even when I was single I didn't "date" (because dates are fruit). The concept of showing up formally to go somewhere and do something in public so that you MIGHT get lucky some day, seems very strange to me.

Instead, I would get to know someone, see them as I could even on a passing basis, talk about ourselves and our plans, and so on.

Many women found someone else;. A lot of them are single again, burned out on men and life, and wondering what happened. Meanwhile I was married by 22 and still am 39 years later.

Compatibility isn't about how many times he picks up the dinner check. Or how big a ring he can buy, or what his credit rating is, or any of the other things women THINK they want. Compatibility is about knowing he's going to be there. You want someone who fits that bill? Look around and see who's always in view and looking back at you.

 

[HisArpy]

Some people want to have an emotional connection as well as a physical connection, Tim.

Lol.

Tell us why there's this thing called "cheating" then. Or divorce for that matter.

FUCKING someone doesn't mean there's any emotional connection. It means you got off and then left.

But, if that's what you want out of "dating", I'm not saying you can't have it. Just don't lie and say it's more than it is.

 

[RobDownSouth]

Tim has been out of the dating scene for almost four decades, yet continues to offer advice to the lovelorn. Not much has changed since 1981, has it Tim?

 

[Aglaopheme]

Poor harpy doesn’t understand what the word some means.

 

[HisArpy]

Tim has been out of the dating scene for almost four decades, yet continues to offer advice to the lovelorn. Not much has changed since 1981, has it Tim?

I guess timeless advice on how to find a lifemate is too difficult for you to understand. Even though it's worked for THOUSANDS of years so far.

But, you know, there's an app for everything...

 

[HisArpy]

Poor harpy doesn’t understand what the word some means.

<-- Doesn't really care that you're bitter.

(Meanwhile, I have a "date" with a nice lady who needs some help with the laundry. Taa...!)

 

[Aglaopheme]

<-- Doesn't really care that you're bitter.

(Meanwhile, I have a "date" with a nice lady who needs some help with the laundry. Taa...!)

There, there, cranky little feller. Is it nap time already?

 

[silver gurl]

Practice abstinence, until you find someone you are serious about. It’s that easy.

 

[islandman]

Compatibility isn't about how many times he picks up the dinner check. Or how big a ring he can buy, or what his credit rating is, or any of the other things women THINK they want.

What else do women THINK they want?

 

[dolf]

or any of the other things women THINK they want.

Oh ffs

 

[RobDownSouth]

I guess timeless advice on how to find a lifemate is too difficult for you to understand. Even though it's worked for THOUSANDS of years so far.

But, you know, there's an app for everything...

What was your internet dating experience like back in 1980, Grandpa?

Did you text or email much?

I suspect you didn't, primarily because Internet/Email/Texting wasn't available back then.



#TimesChangeTimmyDoesnt

 

[surdeep]

What was your internet dating experience like back in 1980, Grandpa?

Did you text or email much?

I suspect you didn't, primarily because Internet/Email/Texting wasn't available back then.



#TimesChangeTimmyDoesnt

I love the smell of irony in the morning.

 

[FescueFan]

What was your internet dating experience like back in 1980, Grandpa?

Did you text or email much?

I suspect you didn't, primarily because Internet/Email/Texting wasn't available back then.



#TimesChangeTimmyDoesnt

#RobCaintReadTewGud

 

[WillJ8787]

I am 32. I am happily divorced with no dram from my ex...i have 2 kids and sole custody. Dating is non existent for me. I have tried online dating, in person dating, being set up friends... and more often then not i am the only one who shows up to the date. I would guess that they see me and run away...but i have been told several times that this is not the case. Or the exact opposite will happen...the guy will show up things will go great and then they drop off the face of the earth and i am left disappointed... giving up is looking better and better all the time.

Dating today has become "meet, fuck, leave" and in today's world this is considered a realtionship. I swear I was born in the wrong era because dating should be so much more then these 3 things.

What ever happened having meaningful in person conversations or even over the phone? Having meals together? Taking walks? Or just spending the afternoon together? Building an actual relationship?

Instant gratification has ruined so much in our society....

Am I alone on this?

I'm with you on this...if you have no personality then it isn't gonna work for me. So many people think they are "something" and they really are not all that much. If you have gravitas then give me a shout.

 

[HisArpy]

Oh ffs

Please note, I didn't rag on you for what you believe or what method you used to catch your current boy toy with the trademarked sized cock.

OTOH, you seem to miss out on things like this. And this. And then try to pass off your views as how the world works.

There's a Maxwell Smart meme that fits that error on your part.

 

[HisArpy]

What else do women THINK they want?

You should ask a woman. If you can get close enough to one before they run away screaming that is.

 

[HisArpy]

There, there, cranky little feller. Is it nap time already?

Like I said, I don't really care if you're bitter.

 

[HisArpy]

What was your internet dating experience like back in 1980, Grandpa?

Did you text or email much?

I suspect you didn't, primarily because Internet/Email/Texting wasn't available back then.



#TimesChangeTimmyDoesnt

*shakes head at rubbery's ignorance on how people used to do things back in the "stone ages"*

 

[islandman]

You should ask a woman. If you can get close enough to one before they run away screaming that is.

You stated that you know their minds.

Are you backtracking?

 

[HisArpy]

You stated that you know their minds.

Are you backtracking?

Nope.

I just mentioned that if you want the real skinny, you should go direct to the source rather than do your usual thing and rely on secondhand info.

But that's kind of a thing with you.