Why won't he fuck me?

[Jada59]

My new guy and I had many conversations during lockdown. We finally met. It was wonderful! We did all sorts of things, but no fucking. He does seem very experimental. I did ask him to fuck me. He just softly said that he wanted to cum in my mouth like I said I wanted. Okay then...

We met again, earlier. This time, I put a towel down. I thought last time he was trying to get me to squirt. I came close to but didn't. I figured with the towel down, I could relax more and likely would squirt. But no. I think the reason for that was that he was fingering my ass rather roughly and with no lube. At least it felt like that. After he stopped doing that, it felt better.

At times, our genitals came close to each other. As in a teasing fashion. At times, I thought he was going to eat me (he said he wanted to), but it never happened. Once again, he came in my mouth. Not that I'm complaining. I do love that. But it also seems like he cums very quickly (he's uncut) so he keeps stopping me from sucking him and tries to keep his cock away from me so I can't touch it.

Everything is good. He's a great conversationalist, very romantic, doesn't leave an inch of me untouched, makes sure I cum many times,etc. Just no fucking.

A friend said perhaps he's afraid that I might get pregnant, but at nearly age 61, that won't happen. Oh and he's Latino. As in from El Salvador. I don't know if that factors in or not. Help! Feel free to PM me if you don't want to discuss this publicly. Thanks!

 

[curl4ever]

Wishing you good luck.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Have you talked to him about it?

 

[CottonCandy29]

Hi lady. I would stop trying to read his actions and just talk to him and get straight to it. Something might be holding him back. Make him feel comfortable and accepted and encourage a good conversation. You will feel a lot better and it will bring you closer. Good luck

 

[Taggy1]

My new guy and I had many conversations during lockdown. We finally met. It was wonderful! We did all sorts of things, but no fucking. He does seem very experimental. I did ask him to fuck me. He just softly said that he wanted to cum in my mouth like I said I wanted. Okay then...

We met again, earlier. This time, I put a towel down. I thought last time he was trying to get me to squirt. I came close to but didn't. I figured with the towel down, I could relax more and likely would squirt. But no. I think the reason for that was that he was fingering my ass rather roughly and with no lube. At least it felt like that. After he stopped doing that, it felt better.

At times, our genitals came close to each other. As in a teasing fashion. At times, I thought he was going to eat me (he said he wanted to), but it never happened. Once again, he came in my mouth. Not that I'm complaining. I do love that. But it also seems like he cums very quickly (he's uncut) so he keeps stopping me from sucking him and tries to keep his cock away from me so I can't touch it.

Everything is good. He's a great conversationalist, very romantic, doesn't leave an inch of me untouched, makes sure I cum many times,etc. Just no fucking.

A friend said perhaps he's afraid that I might get pregnant, but at nearly age 61, that won't happen. Oh and he's Latino. As in from El Salvador. I don't know if that factors in or not. Help! Feel free to PM me if you don't want to discuss this publicly. Thanks!

it seems its all about him. not good if no mutual pleasure

 

[IsItBad]

possibly

i suspect prior to meeting there was lots of communication.......? emails? posts? PMs? phone calls? etc.....

perhaps it is accurate to say that the essence of the relationship is sexual.....or at least sexualized......

i have found that when a relationship is predicated on sex or sexuality.....the expectations are preformed more based on personal likes and desires....experiments per se......

versus....a romantic relationship evolving where people date, court, kiss.....where physicality advances.....building a certain tension and pressure until the lovers are overwhelmed with the need to have and take one another.....

if, however you skip over that build up.....hey....i love to cum orally.....and you love to suck dick.....we are a match made in heaven....here let me stick my dick in your mouth.......

versus.....you are the essence of all of my thoughts and i crave to be with you in every imaginable way.......

something along those lines......

or maybe its as simple as the guy can't delay his ejaculation and knows he will never make you cum from intercourse before he cums......maybe its that simple.....and if so .....that in itself really has a fairly simple solution.....ok.....lets fuck......and dont hold back.....cum.....cum hard and fast.......good......now rest a minute.....and lets go again....sooner or later he is going to last a while.....

or....maybe he is a thinker and up in his head about his wife.....or his other girlfriend....and has rationalized that he can play with you as long as he doesn't fuck......not fucking is the test by which he will not have "cheated"......because there are many people who look at it that way......i can eat your pussy....you can suck my dick.....hell we can even do anal......just as long as my dick doesn't enter your pussy.....THEN we have not known each other in the "Biblical" way and therefore i remain on the high moral ground?

or ...maybe he has a bad back and it hurts to fuck

i bet if you were to just talk about it .....you could solve the mystery.......

 

[Carnevil9]

Some Latinos are very religious. Could that have something to do with it? It's not a sin as long as Mr. Cock and Miss Pussy never meet?

 

[Jada59]

Wishing you good luck.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

Have you talked to him about it?

Not yet. If things don't change soon, I will. It just seems so new and he is shy so I want to be careful. At this point, I can't complain as it all has been good!

 

[Jada59]

Hi lady. I would stop trying to read his actions and just talk to him and get straight to it. Something might be holding him back. Make him feel comfortable and accepted and encourage a good conversation. You will feel a lot better and it will bring you closer. Good luck

Thanks! I will do that.

 

[Jada59]

i suspect prior to meeting there was lots of communication.......? emails? posts? PMs? phone calls? etc.....

perhaps it is accurate to say that the essence of the relationship is sexual.....or at least sexualized......

i have found that when a relationship is predicated on sex or sexuality.....the expectations are preformed more based on personal likes and desires....experiments per se......

versus....a romantic relationship evolving where people date, court, kiss.....where physicality advances.....building a certain tension and pressure until the lovers are overwhelmed with the need to have and take one another.....

if, however you skip over that build up.....hey....i love to cum orally.....and you love to suck dick.....we are a match made in heaven....here let me stick my dick in your mouth.......

versus.....you are the essence of all of my thoughts and i crave to be with you in every imaginable way.......

something along those lines......

or maybe its as simple as the guy can't delay his ejaculation and knows he will never make you cum from intercourse before he cums......maybe its that simple.....and if so .....that in itself really has a fairly simple solution.....ok.....lets fuck......and dont hold back.....cum.....cum hard and fast.......good......now rest a minute.....and lets go again....sooner or later he is going to last a while.....

or....maybe he is a thinker and up in his head about his wife.....or his other girlfriend....and has rationalized that he can play with you as long as he doesn't fuck......not fucking is the test by which he will not have "cheated"......because there are many people who look at it that way......i can eat your pussy....you can suck my dick.....hell we can even do anal......just as long as my dick doesn't enter your pussy.....THEN we have not known each other in the "Biblical" way and therefore i remain on the high moral ground?

or ...maybe he has a bad back and it hurts to fuck

i bet if you were to just talk about it .....you could solve the mystery.......

Since we first started talking during the lockdown, there was a lot of convesation. We connected on the FB dating app and almost immediately switched to phone/text. It wasn't sexual at all for a few weeks. It leaned more towards romantic. He's very romantic. Eventually the talk turned to sex and sexting.

I did tell him that I knew I would want to have sex with him as soon as we met. He was the same. And we can't really date right now as not many places are open and he doesn't have much time off.

Thing is... I cum very quickly and easily. I don't *need* to have 100 continuous orgasms. I *can* do that. And it would seem that once a guy figures this out, he will be hell bent on making this happen, every single time.

I know that even if he were to put his cock inside and cum immediately (even with no fore-play), I would cum immediately. Just the sensation of him cumming inside of me would make me cum. I gather that I'm unusual though.

 

[Jada59]

Some Latinos are very religious. Could that have something to do with it? It's not a sin as long as Mr. Cock and Miss Pussy never meet?

I was thinking of that too. Thanks!

 

[HoldYouDown]

Not yet. If things don't change soon, I will. It just seems so new and he is shy so I want to be careful. At this point, I can't complain as it all has been good!

Yeah, I think if you approach it from that standpoint, you'll be fine. He may have a personal and legit reason. Just tell him you're loving it so far and want to take it further if he's willing, and that he can tell you anything...or not. Communication is key!

 

[Jada59]

Yeah, I think if you approach it from that standpoint, you'll be fine. He may have a personal and legit reason. Just tell him you're loving it so far and want to take it further if he's willing, and that he can tell you anything...or not. Communication is key!

Thanks! That's a good way to phrase it!

 

[FL30]

just take him with you on top riding him!

get him to lay down, straddle him, take him inside and ride to your hearts content!

 

[LadyJS]

That is kind of puzzling

Maybe he's the type that has to be head-over-heels in love with the person before he fucks them. Or perhaps he believes fucking is only for marriage, so he's waiting to take you down the aisle before inserting tab A into slot B.

And I also thought of this (though I'm sure the answer is no): any possibility he's still a virgin?

 

[subliminalmassage]

Thanks! That's a good way to phrase it!

Some guys like to make you beg for it.

 

[Jada59]

just take him with you on top riding him!

get him to lay down, straddle him, take him inside and ride to your hearts content!

I thought of that but if he does cum too quickly, that won't work. And some men are fearful to have the woman be on top. Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

That is kind of puzzling

Maybe he's the type that has to be head-over-heels in love with the person before he fucks them. Or perhaps he believes fucking is only for marriage, so he's waiting to take you down the aisle before inserting tab A into slot B.

And I also thought of this (though I'm sure the answer is no): any possibility he's still a virgin?

Hmmm... Only things I know for sure are that he is 40, an Aquarius. Had one GF in El Salvador. Has been in the US for 10 years and no GF here. He is very short. I know that could be a problem. It's not for me, but I have a male friend who is very short and he says he can't get dates because of his height. My guy put 5' 5" on his dating profile, but there's no way. I'm 5' 7" and when we face each other and hug, I can clearly see the top of his head. I have to bend way down to kiss him.

I suppose he might be a virgin. I did notice several times that he positioned us as if we were going to fuck but instead, he sort of studied things as if he was trying to figure out the logistics, then went on to do something else.

I also know that he clearly kept his cock away from me most of the time. He did allow me to touch and suck it but just briefly, telling me that would make me cum,

When he did cum, he told me he was going to and had me put my mouth over it. The last time was a tad difficult. He was sitting up, propped against pillows. I was on my tummy. I put my mouth over his cock. He held my head so I couldn't lift it up. I just sucked once and felt my mouth being flooded. I had to keep sucked to get the cum into my throat (because I couldn't move my head, and his cock was at the opening to my throat). So really, he came in a matter of seconds.

I can't play with his cock like I would normally want to do because I think he would cum very quickly. I could be wrong on that though.

He did tell me he loved me. But I took it with a grain of salt. The first two times were before we met. It was like... I love you! You're so funny! The last time was during sex.

Thanks! I'll mull over what you said.

 

[Jada59]

Some guys like to make you beg for it.

That could be too! Thanks!

 

[Escierto]

Lately, I’ve been feeling neglected since I know my fiancé is getting himself off but we haven’t had sex in over a week. He keeps whipping his cock out and playing with it, as is normal for him, and it’s pissing me off. I’ve been waiting for him to initiate, and tonight I finally thought something was happening when he put his hard dick on my shoulder and grabbed my tits. I asked him, “Are you trying to fuck me?” and he said “Maybe..... probably not.” and went to bed about three minutes later. My feelings are hurt and I don’t know what to do or say. I don’t want to just give in to him like I’m some cockworshipper when I get nothing in return. Also some back story, he always cums, I don’t. And he refuses to give me head.

Giving a woman head is one of the exquisite pleasures of life. Why won’t he do that for you?

 

[FL30]

you're both dating losers, that don't want a relationship with a woman

go find someone else that will fuck you like you need it & want it

 

[Jada59]

Giving a woman head is one of the exquisite pleasures of life. Why won’t he do that for you?

For the most part, I don't like it. I did tell him that. I now know that all but one of the guys I was with, did not use good technique. They made a "V" with their fingers to isolate my clit then stabbed at it lightly with their tongues. The guy who was good at it, only ever did it once to me, given that I had told him of my dislike for it.

This guy said he would do it and I said he could try, He did look like he wa going to do it but never did.

He does give me orgasms, so it's not that.

 

[Jada59]

you're both dating losers, that don't want a relationship with a woman

go find someone else that will fuck you like you need it & want it

The last guy I was with, wanted to fuck and only fuck. There is more to lfe than that.

This guy bought me roses, we talk, kiss, cuddle, etc. Not a loser.

 

[Modern_drunkard]

Maybe he is secretly married and feels guilty.