Erotic Conversation

[Rosa2019]

“Dirty chat” may have its place, but I think it feels hot only after some “erotic conversation”. Of course there is no clear line between the two. Well, facing the challenge itself can be very arousing.

We may first need to investigate what makes a conversation erotic ?

(This is a scenario where people try to get a personal connection on a site like this )

Update:
Here are some suggestions from the posters below that maybe helpful :
Teasing / bantering / flirting/ humor.... slow down and open up.... talking about one’s own or others' sexuality... deeper thoughts/emotions....creative, seductive / tantalizing

 

[xhxhxh]

“Dirty chat” may have its place, but I think it feels hot only after some “erotic conversation”. Of course there is no clear line between the two. Well, facing the challenge itself can be very arousing.

We may first need to investigate what makes a conversation erotic ? I might have some ideas for discussion but I’ll let people who have insights speak up first.

(If you have a bad experience to complain, please come with a constructive / rational suggestion. Let's NOT get into arguments.)

i like the chase. i don't alwAys like getting right to it. i love the build up. Feeling each other out to find out preferences. such is the delightful tease ....

 

[Rosa2019]

..... the delightful tease ....

Teasing / bantering can be erotic. It can break the ice and lubricates the air in between.
Come to think of it, teasing seems rare. I hardly see people on this site tease one another in any forums, not even in the “Personals” section where people look for “hot chat”. . ...Teasing is a good suggestion for them.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

tease

I remember how my wife reacted to my cock brushing the back of her legs when astride her as she lay on her stomach. She got cranked up by wondering where the thing was going to enter her. Can't quite get my mind to imagine a similar arousing situation were the roles reversed as there would not be the same sense of possibilities or anticipation.
Can anyone relate?
Is this sort of teasing included?

 

[Rosa2019]

nfrrdscnnr1,

You were talking physical tease. A little off-topic. Thank you still.
whether physical or mental, the point is what one can do to make it more erotic, as to how it’s going to be received by the other party, it’s not something can be controled.
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Another factor that may help make a conversation erotic is that one needs to be in an erotic state of mind which is a bigger realm than, not separate from, merely wanting sex. I am not talking “love” now. It could be involved but doesn’t have to be.....I just used the word “bigger”, in the sense that it encompasses your mood---the yearning or frustration or the constant thought on sex...one needs to be open and express the mood to the other party-----Just a rough idea for a very delicate affair.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I love erotic chat and think I am good at it.
I do need to be in the right mind, and can have several orgasms while chatting.

I find describing the actions, painting a picture, is what really helps.

Giving a virtual blow job, that ends with us cumming at the same time is my favorite.

To have someone want to chat again is a great complement.

 

[Mr_Neb]

For me the answer is simple (like most things for me )

When in the throws of passion, erotic talk consists of any and all of the following:

• You telling me what/how you are feeling
• Me telling you what/how I am feeling
• You describing what I am doing as in, "Ooo I like that when you..."
• Me describing what you are doing as in "Mmmm like it when you..."
• You describing what you are doing to me as in, "I love it when I..."
• Me describing what I am doing to you as in, "I love it when I..."
• You describing how I am reacting as in, "I can feel you getting harder"
• Me describing how you are reacting as in, "You are getting so wet..."
• You describing how you are reacting as in
• Describe what you want me/us to do next
• Describe what you/we are going to do next

*Not a complete list but these are the biggies.

When we are not in the throws of passion, I love talking about these same topics in the context of what was done in the past and what will be done in the future.

 

[Steve53335]

I love erotic chat and think I am good at it.
I do need to be in the right mind, and can have several orgasms while chatting.

I find describing the actions, painting a picture, is what really helps.

Giving a virtual blow job, that ends with us cumming at the same time is my favorite.

To have someone want to chat again is a great complement.

She’s fantastic

 

[Bigboobbabe]

She’s fantastic

Awww, thank you.
I enjoyed our chats too.

 

[nightowl75]

As of late, I’ve been getting off more on erotic chat than actual pics or videos. There’s more of a human aspect to chat.

 

[Rosa2019]

I love erotic chat and think I am good at it.
I do need to be in the right mind, and can have several orgasms while chatting.

I find describing the actions, painting a picture, is what really helps.

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I was thinking erotic conversation (teasing and being emotionally open) as foreplay, a process of getting warmed up, before the two people get into action (describing the act).
If you receive a pm from a total stranger and the message is all about sex act. Would it work for you ?

 

[Rosa2019]

.... There’s more of a human aspect to chat.

perhaps you would elaborate a bit more.

 

[nightowl75]

perhaps you would elaborate a bit more.

Pics can be generic, even photoshopped. The back and forth conversation can include so much more. I find that telling people very personal fetishes or kinks can be therapeutic for some who are too shy to share such things with friends and family. Yes, we really don’t know if the other person is who they say, but it is still fun.

 

[Rosa2019]

........When in the throws of passion, erotic talk consists of any and all of the following:

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  Your list looks like the two people are already in or after the sex act. What do you say to the other party before that ? What do you do to start the fire when you approach somebody new? That's the question of the topic of this thread. What do you write when you initially pm somebody for the purpose of getting into the act ?

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I was thinking erotic conversation (teasing and being emotionally open) as foreplay, a process of getting warmed up, before the two people get into action (describing the act).
If you receive a pm from a total stranger and the message is all about sex act. Would it work for you ?

If the message was just "wanna fuck by text?"
No.

I like creative introductions. And when guys research my posts, it shows an interest.
Then I look at their profile and posts.
That's the introduction.
A few flirty messages later, I am usually wet and ready for more.
Or I am not interested and politely say so.

 

[Mr_Neb]

Your list looks like the two people are already in or after the sex act. What do you say to the other party before that ? What do you do to start the fire when you approach somebody new? That's the question of the topic of this thread. What do you write when you initially pm somebody for the purpose of getting into the act ?

Well I certainly wouldn't start off with that level of conversation with someone I have just met but those are the sorts of things I would like to talk about once the conversation gets to a higher level. Those topics are a tease as to a) what will eventually take place, or b) as fodder for some very enjoyable fantasy chatting.

My only point really is that for me, my preferences are not along the lines of the primal bump and grind.

Great topic.

 

[DennisB]

I have discovered that many guys have no clue how to articulate. It is a slow build up and when guys come on Lit, they are already so worked up sexually they have no patience for foreplay. Women on the other hand have been so beat up and hit on that they are highly defensive and it is very difficult to even get them to respond. One would think that if someone is on Lit, they are sexually aroused. This is not a cooking website or a how to website. You are here because you are aroused. Furthermore, you dont have to make a profile to be on Lit. You can read stories or look at some of the pics in the main room. You make a profile to socialize.

So, you are horny and want to socialize. Ok, I get that. Cant guys take it slow? Cant girls open up? Some of my most erotic moments have involved erotic conversations both in person and on some sort of media. When we were dating before getting married, we had many erotic conversations about our past and sexual fetishes which always led to actual sex. Online, over the phone, even in email, I have had many erotic conversations but with only a few individuals. Like I said, it is an art form that sadly many just have not understood.

 

[Nekidinaz]

Oh, yes...I agree

As of late, I’ve been getting off more on erotic chat than actual pics or videos. There’s more of a human aspect to
chat.

For me, erotic chat can be very exciting and sensual at the same time. Often times when I'm chatting, I become very excited and aroused at my own thoughts and words rather than those of the other person. I don't know if that makes sense but I love steering our conversation toward sexual chat that is not to be confused with "dirty" talk, although dirty talk, done right, can also be very erotic and sensual too...not trashy or filthy, dirty talk for me has to be subtle and provocative...sexy

I do love sexy talk and erotic exchanges and have had a few back and forths here on lit that have bordered on "erotic conversations"...love to do some more of that...

 

[Rosa2019]

... just "wanna fuck by text?" No..... creative ........ flirty ....

Creative and flirty would be on my list of factors that may help make a conversation erotic.

 

[Rosa2019]

... my preferences are not along the lines of the primal bump and grind..

The primal bump and grind can be great when time is ripe.

 

[Rosa2019]

........ Cant guys take it slow? Cant girls open up? ......
an art form ...

Many good points. Very insightful.
It would be nice if you be the coach for this erotic -to -be group.

Slow---it doesn’t mean sluggish .
It means taking time to understand and to organize one’s thoughts.

an art form---the most arousing

 

[Rosa2019]

.......aroused at my own thoughts and words rather than those of the other person. ...not trashy or filthy, dirty talk for me has to be subtle and provocative...sexy

You are your own source of fire.
You get to enjoy your own self... This energy, it is erotic.
May it transmit to others the way electricity does.
And I remember the pull of the one being seductive and tantalizing.

 

[Rosa2019]

So we’ve been talking. Talking is easier than doing right ? Let’s do it. Let’s practice.

Here is a list of ideas from the contributors in this thread :
Teasing / bantering / flirting/humor, slow down and open up , creative, seductive / tantalizing ....or talking about one’s own or others' affairs...., deeper thoughts/emotions....

Remember our focus is What makes a conversation erotic online.

 

[guysimple1674]

Online, it has to be a mind game

IN real life, we have the glances, body movements, then the touches, the gestures, which bring two people closer as they enter the realm of eroticism, and then get on with the sexual release.

Online, the same effects need to be realized without the physical presence, and so it has to be done by textual communication which needs to play with the mind of the other. The most difficult part is to get on the same page with the other person, once that is attained, the rest progresses organically (or should I say "orgasmically"!!) .

 

[DennisB]

So we’ve been talking. Talking is easier than doing right ? Let’s do it. Let’s practice.

Here is the list of ideas from me and the contributors above :
Teasing / bantering / flirting, slow down and open up , creative, seductive / tantalizing and conversations about one’s own or other couple’s affairs.

Remember our focus is What makes a conversation erotic ?

Anybody is welcome to start by writing a pm or ? Anybody may respond.
(To avoid confusion, those gender-unclear user names may need to specify at the top of one’s post.)

I am curious why someone as articulate as you seem to be and as social as you are; have not allowed PMs? Even in your reponse you mention beginning some sort of erotic chatting utilizing private message but your profile has no contact abilities. Just seems strange to me? Perhaps I dont have the big picture??