Litiquette VI

[Lonelywife1205]

Stick around. I’ll be dropping my twerking video shortly.

*pulls up a chair*

 

[SassySheDevil]

*pulls up a chair*

Move over!!

 

[Rapha1979]

*pulls up a chair*

*brings popcorn and a towel*

Move over!!

if you’d ever seen me dance, trust me, you’d be running for the exit!

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I don’t think we’re necessarily focused on your dance technique, just be sure to wear a sparkly thong and we’ll be sufficiently distracted

Yeah, it has very little to do with the quality of the dancing. LOL

 

[Rapha1979]

Yeah, it has very little to do with the quality of the dancing. LOL

My moves could make Thelma & Louise-era Brad Pitt look repulsive!

 

[SassySheDevil]

*brings popcorn and a towel*

BTW are you bringing a towel to sit on, or wipe him down with?

 

[Lonelywife1205]

My moves could make Thelma & Louise-era Brad Pitt look repulsive!

You’re fine. Just please wear your nerdy glasses.

 

[Trekka]

I think we set expectations that are harmful to people. That if you’re not a college graduate with a degree in something elite, you’ve not reached your full potential. Kids feel the need to go to college, even if it isn’t for them. It always makes me laugh how people discourage the trade jobs because of these silly expectations and idea that college makes you something special.

Totally agree on this. I bang this drum all the time. My BF has a GED and I have a Master’s degree in a high-demand field, we are the same age— he makes more than I do.

I’ve always hated the “everyone should go to college” mantra. Totally decimates the self esteem of a kid that needs a bachelors in poli-sci like a hole in the head, but would make an excellent welder/mechanic/hair dresser/entrepreneur etc.

I’ve got more to say. I’ll be back later. I have new tropical fruit trees that need attention

 

[SassySheDevil]

Totally agree on this. I bang this drum all the time. My BF has a GED and I have a Master’s degree in a high-demand field, we are the same age— he makes more than I do.

I’ve always hated the “everyone should go to college” mantra. Totally decimates the self esteem of a kid that needs a bachelors in poli-sci like a hole in the head, but would make an excellent welder/mechanic/hair dresser/entrepreneur etc.

I’ve got more to say. I’ll be back later. I have new tropical fruit trees that need attention

and as an addition. There are many that go to College to get that degree, but come out with a useless degree and hugely in debt.
My daughter started off at a University, struggled so hard, and finally came home, to enroll in a CC. She is much happier now, and almost done with her degree.

 

[JerseyJade]

and as an addition. There are many that go to College to get that degree, but come out with a useless degree and hugely in debt.
My daughter started off at a University, struggled so hard, and finally came home, to enroll in a CC. She is much happier now, and almost done with her degree.

I did want to go to college, but only for the frat parties.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

and as an addition. There are many that go to College to get that degree, but come out with a useless degree and hugely in debt.
My daughter started off at a University, struggled so hard, and finally came home, to enroll in a CC. She is much happier now, and almost done with her degree.

Working in HR, i see this everyday. People stay in school collecting degrees like refrigerator magnets, in debt up to their eyeballs and they come out expecting to make 75K + right out of school with zero experience! They have PHD’s but can’t get a job!!!!!!!

Sorry to get off topic...

 

[SassySheDevil]

I did want to go to college, but only for the frat parties.

haha I think that's why she stayed as long as she did.
She still goes back for Halloween to visit her friends, and party lol

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Success is a mindset.

That's a real mindfuck for me.

I can often fall victim to measuring success by money or really impressive titles, but that's only one measure. I've stopped measuring others and measuring up to others and life has become much more pleasurable.

When kids are told they can do anything, there is an element of truth to that but there's a huge "and" hidden in there. We're not created equal. We're not all suited for the same things. We all have unique MOs and approaches to problem solving. If we work against our natural inclinations we're going to get stressed. If we work with them we're going to feel less stress, even invigorated. This is true not only in work, but all things in life. We can all do whatever we want, but there are consequences.

I'm all for setting goals, dreaming big and going for it. But, I also want people to know if they would rather sit at home and garden, that's ok too.

This pressure to always be hustling is toxic.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I have new tropical fruit trees that need attention

Elton, John, Billy and Joel have new friends? Maybe we’ll call her Sinead.

 

[Guyblue82]

Working in HR, i see this everyday. People stay in school collecting degrees like refrigerator magnets, in debt up to their eyeballs and they come out expecting to make 75K + right out of school with zero experience! They have PHD’s but can’t get a job!!!!!!!

Sorry to get off topic...

My wife and I both have masters degrees and are lucky to have had the chance/support/privilege to explore what interested us, chart a course and make sure we knew where to apply it...and knowing that work ethic is just as important as the knowledge you've acquired.

Too many colleges/universities view students as a revenue stream now and I think it's really put our nation in a bad spot (debt, knowledge, innovation, etc).


Oh no.... I'm being sucked into the general board...


Save me

Save me

Someone flash me some skin, quick....

 

[Matthew82]

Totally agree on this. I bang this drum all the time. My BF has a GED and I have a Master’s degree in a high-demand field, we are the same age— he makes more than I do.

I’ve always hated the “everyone should go to college” mantra. Totally decimates the self esteem of a kid that needs a bachelors in poli-sci like a hole in the head, but would make an excellent welder/mechanic/hair dresser/entrepreneur etc.

I’ve got more to say. I’ll be back later. I have new tropical fruit trees that need attention

Big fan of your post here. Hate the college = success. Everyone is different and can forge a different path. I feel bad for people that rack up a ton of college debt to not even work in the field they have a degree in. What was the point?

Also, Mike Rowe. Advocate for what you're talking about. Guy just makes sense.

 

[Matthew82]

Success is a mindset.

That's a real mindfuck for me.

I can often fall victim to measuring success by money or really impressive titles, but that's only one measure. I've stopped measuring others and measuring up to others and life has become much more pleasurable.

When kids are told they can do anything, there is an element of truth to that but there's a huge "and" hidden in there. We're not created equal. We're not all suited for the same things. We all have unique MOs and approaches to problem solving. If we work against our natural inclinations we're going to get stressed. If we work with them we're going to feel less stress, even invigorated. This is true not only in work, but all things in life. We can all do whatever we want, but there are consequences.

I'm all for setting goals, dreaming big and going for it. But, I also want people to know if they would rather sit at home and garden, that's ok too.

This pressure to always be hustling is toxic.

We can all do whatever we want, but there are consequences. --- words of wisdom!

 

[parker77]

Success is a mindset.

This pressure to always be hustling is toxic.

to my way of thinking, success parallels Maslow's Heirachy of Need. the further up the pyramid the more successful you are. that's not as rigid as it sounds, since the higher the level on the pyramid (love, esteem, self-actualization), the more fluid the definition of achievement. so, we agree, success is to some great degree, a mindset.

the pressure to hustle CAN BE toxic, but i don't see that as an absolute. plenty of people thrive on the hustle and derive energy and satisfaction from constantly setting and achieving more challenging goals. perhaps serial entrepreneurs best demonstrate this point. i don't disagree that for many the pressure to hustle is overwhelming and unhealthy, only that it's not anything like an absolute.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

to my way of thinking, success parallels Maslow's Heirachy of Need. the further up the pyramid the more successful you are. that's not as rigid as it sounds, since the higher the level on the pyramid (love, esteem, self-actualization), the more fluid the definition of achievement. so, we agree, success is to some great degree, a mindset.

the pressure to hustle CAN BE toxic, but i don't see that as an absolute. plenty of people thrive on the hustle and derive energy and satisfaction from constantly setting and achieving more challenging goals. perhaps serial entrepreneurs best demonstrate this point. i don't disagree that for many the pressure to hustle is overwhelming and unhealthy, only that it's not anything like an absolute.

There's always a trade off.
Noone can do it all.

I will amend my statement to say that the pressure to hustle is nearly always toxic. If that's all you want in life, then it's your calling. Most people want more. They want connection, love, etc. If you're always hustling, those things take a backseat.

Most serial entrepreneurs I know have figured out that's it's important to stop. The best ones take long breaks and often.

 

[Lord Pmann]

*brings popcorn and a towel*

Why do you need a towel?!?

Totally agree on this. I bang this drum all the time. My BF has a GED and I have a Master’s degree in a high-demand field, we are the same age— he makes more than I do.

I’ve always hated the “everyone should go to college” mantra. Totally decimates the self esteem of a kid that needs a bachelors in poli-sci like a hole in the head, but would make an excellent welder/mechanic/hair dresser/entrepreneur etc.

I’ve got more to say. I’ll be back later. I have new tropical fruit trees that need attention

I know a lot of trades people who make way more money than people with multiple degrees. Are the jobs hotter or dirtier? Yeah. Sometimes. But the work is often much more recession proof. It’s always needed.

For some reason, we’ve put pressure on people to get lots of degrees. Sometimes in useless fields. It’s okay to get a degree in basket weaving if you know the salary and number of jobs available. But people go to school and learn this shit and sometimes it’s useless. And they’re sad when they don’t start out at $70k year.

I did want to go to college, but only for the frat parties.

I hear there are lots of dicks there. Literally and figuratively.

 

[JerseyJade]

I hear there are lots of dicks there. Literally and figuratively.

Yep, you heard right.

 

[Lord Pmann]

There's always a trade off.
Noone can do it all.

I will amend my statement to say that the pressure to hustle is nearly always toxic. If that's all you want in life, then it's your calling. Most people want more. They want connection, love, etc. If you're always hustling, those things take a backseat.

Most serial entrepreneurs I know have figured out that's it's important to stop. The best ones take long breaks and often.

I think the narrative should change from “you can be anything” to “you can be the best person you can be”. Find what your skills are and direct resources that way. Encourage your kids/friends/self to do their best and try their hardest. That’s what we should be teaching. Not this notion that you can be anything.

Kids have the idea that they can be a doctor from the time they’re five years old because they see one on TV, but the kid isn’t good at tests and academics... the kid’s going to feel like shit trying to move somewhere that his/her natural abilities aren’t used.

No matter your age or station in life, we should always aspire to be the best we am be at any given time.

 

[Rapha1979]

No matter your age or station in life, we should always aspire to be the best we am be at any given time.

The secret is to figure out what the best ‘you’ looks like and how you measure it. As a society, we associate success and happiness in our minds with status and material attainment, despite the fact that research generally shows these things don’t actually make us any happier (and in some cases make less happy).

Social media and the totally false representations of life that are portrayed on it just feed the desperation for the perfect life. And it’s all bullshit.

I really hope that the situation we find ourselves in at the moment helps some to reassess and focus on the stuff that’s really important like our health, family, friends and freedom. Not getting the latest iPhone or posting heavily filtered pictures on Instagram showing off our clothes/hair/house/car/holiday.

Happy Ever After by Paul Dolan is a really interesting book on how we all blindly follow the societal narrative of what will make us happy instead of being brave enough to take our own path and not worry what others might think about it.

 

[Guyblue82]

To sit on, I don’t trust the couches/chairs in this place - I have no idea who fucked what, where! And just in case I decide to get ..ahem..comfy.. I’m keeping my ass off the stained furniture

Just watch out for that pile of used innuendos, filthy words and vibrating butt plugs...

Also, masks are now required by law.... I don't think I did mine right

https://www.reactiongifs.us/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/fucking_idiot_arrested_development.gif

 

[parker77]

There's always a trade off.
Noone can do it all.

I will amend my statement to say that the pressure to hustle is nearly always toxic. If that's all you want in life, then it's your calling. Most people want more. They want connection, love, etc. If you're always hustling, those things take a backseat.

Most serial entrepreneurs I know have figured out that's it's important to stop. The best ones take long breaks and often.

i think you're right.