I have a question?

[Bbwlonghairedlover]

Before I start, I understand that women my size are not everyone's cup of tea. I get that. I am not going into this naive or anything. But what is it about a woman that is a little and also a bbw that turns men off. I know I am a great catch in and out of the bedroom. I am funny, smart, kind, and yes a little as well. I am also a large woman, who has her adult life in order. I don't get it. when I post this, I am only asking for constructive reply's. Yes I love head pats and being told Im a good girl, but right now I want answers to my questions. *sighs* my stuffy will just have to get me through another night of sleeping alone.

 

[dp4shelly]

You don't need to be everyone's cup of tea...

Before I start, I understand that women my size are not everyone's cup of tea. I get that. I am not going into this naive or anything. But what is it about a woman that is a little and also a bbw that turns men off. I know I am a great catch in and out of the bedroom. I am funny, smart, kind, and yes a little as well. I am also a large woman, who has her adult life in order. I don't get it. when I post this, I am only asking for constructive reply's. Yes I love head pats and being told Im a good girl, but right now I want answers to my questions. *sighs* my stuffy will just have to get me through another night of sleeping alone.

You don't need to be everyone's cup of tea. You just need one person that loves you for who you are. That doesn't mean that we should not try to improve who we are. We should. But if you have not found that person yet that doesn't mean they are not out there. They probably are out their and they are looking too.

My life felt "off" until I met my husband. He completes me and it just feels natural like we really were made for each other. I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

You don't need to be everyone's cup of tea. You just need one person that loves you for who you are. That doesn't mean that we should not try to improve who we are. We should. But if you have not found that person yet that doesn't mean they are not out there. They probably are out their and they are looking too.

My life felt "off" until I met my husband. He completes me and it just feels natural like we really were made for each other. I hope you find what you are looking for.

This is a beautiful answer.

It isnt head pats, I'm also a BBW mittle (middle/little) and honestly this is spot on. Now as to why it is a turn off... because men are visual creatures. If their kink is truly about "little" then someone who is not physically matching their visual perception of what they want it may be difficult for them to get into the headspace they want. I personally understand this. I think it might be a problem for some Doms on the shorter end of the spectrum? Maybe?

 

[Bramblethorn]

I'm sure this was meant well, but... trashing thin women isn't the solution to trashing fat women. It still sends the message that a woman's worth depends on achieving the "right" body shape, which it doesn't.

 

[brightsmile]

Before I start, I understand that women my size are not everyone's cup of tea. I get that. I am not going into this naive or anything. But what is it about a woman that is a little and also a bbw that turns men off. I know I am a great catch in and out of the bedroom. I am funny, smart, kind, and yes a little as well. I am also a large woman, who has her adult life in order. I don't get it. when I post this, I am only asking for constructive reply's. Yes I love head pats and being told Im a good girl, but right now I want answers to my questions. *sighs* my stuffy will just have to get me through another night of sleeping alone.

It's just their personal preference but nothing personal against you. Some men like thin women and some men like women with meat on their bones. I've had both ends of the spectrum where I used to be smaller and now I'm a small BBW.

Unfortunately you have no say in the matter. Not all men are turned off by BBWs. I'm quite sure you will get men that will send you messages telling you just how much you turn them on. Just make sure they get to know the real you and not the fetish. I hope this helps.

 

[yukonnights]

Before I start, I understand that women my size are not everyone's cup of tea. I get that. I am not going into this naive or anything. But what is it about a woman that is a little and also a bbw that turns men off. I know I am a great catch in and out of the bedroom. I am funny, smart, kind, and yes a little as well. I am also a large woman, who has her adult life in order. I don't get it. when I post this, I am only asking for constructive reply's. Yes I love head pats and being told Im a good girl, but right now I want answers to my questions. *sighs* my stuffy will just have to get me through another night of sleeping alone.

It's not just you. No person is everyone's cup of tea. I'm pretty sure that not every man is your cup of tea. So first, recognize you're asking the wrong question —> "what is it about a woman that is a little and also a bbw that turns men off."

Attractions and romantic connections are as variable as faces.

Personally, I find it difficult to make a "connection", but at the same time I can't get into a parson w/o a connection first. The only solution I have come up with is to be up front with anyone who might approach me for some level of relationship.

You seem to have a good sense of who you are and you seem pretty self-confident. Trying to put myself in your shoes, I would probably desire a large man — a man who is confident that you indeed will be the "little" with him. What I'm getting at is; Instead of them choosing you — maybe try it the other way around?

Beautiful, kind, woman seeks Mr Right for Dom/sub explorations. I'm a big girl who needs a big man to fill those shoes. I'll say up front, I'm kinda picky. But for the right man, I'll be a little bundle of joy. Please, no small guys — I seek a man's man.

Carol King — Beautiful
You've got to get up every morning with a smile on your face
And show the world all the love in your heart
Then people gonna treat you better
You're gonna find, yes, you will
That you're beautiful as you feel