Sexless Marriages

[DDBustyBrit]

Living in the 952 area code PM me married women!

This maybe in the Personals but we are not a pickup joint, we are a support thread.... don’t hold your breath really!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Anyone else finding this whole shelter in place thing with their withholding spouse extremely difficult or is it just me?

Just YES... actually rather than a baby boom as mentioned below, a divorce surge maybe more likely with Lit members

 

[AnnieLit]

Just YES... actually rather than a baby boom as mentioned below, a divorce surge maybe more likely with Lit members

Or both

 

[TornadoTys]

I hate this for you and appreciate the warning... but I’m 53 and so I consider you young still. Don’t give up yet, you have potentially 30 years to come!

my partner went through her menopause and has not been in to sex at, instead says it is me that does not want sex.
I can undersatnd why men go for younger women !

PS love your red shoe pic !

 

[TornadoTys]

This

Proven to me twice over in succession now... literally when you least expect it and sometimes with whom you least expect it too

I can not believe us brit's are going mental on stocking up when compared to the Italians. Who are buying normally considering thye have the lhighest deayj toll with CV19 !

 

[DDBustyBrit]

my partner went through her menopause and has not been in to sex at, instead says it is me that does not want sex.
I can undersatnd why men go for younger women !

PS love your red shoe pic !

Tell your partner to research the Biote implant it’s for post menopausal women and trust me it’s a game changer. I had no issues with my sex drive but I had many other symptoms, they have all been resolved after my first implant!

I think it’s sad some men feel they need to go for younger women, after all eventually they will also hit menopause. Then what, upgrade to an even younger version?

From my own experiences, it seems the men who are most desirable in their 50’s, actually prefer the mental congruence they find with women in the same age range. We are also sometimes more sexually liberated and adventurous. And thank you on the shoes

 

[IASFPWTF]

Tell your partner to research the Biote implant it’s for post menopausal women and trust me it’s a game changer. I had no issues with my sex drive but I had many other symptoms, they have all been resolved after my first implant!

I think it’s sad some men feel they need to go for younger women, after all eventually they will also hit menopause. Then what, upgrade to an even younger version?

From my own experiences, it seems the men who are most desirable in their 50’s, actually prefer the mental congruence they find with women in the same age range. We are also sometimes more sexually liberated and adventurous. And thank you on the shoes

I am more attracted to women closer to my age, but really see age as a number. I like them all!

 

[philos]

Some days you just want to give up and go play on the train tracks.

 

[mr_rippley]

Tell your partner to research the Biote implant it’s for post menopausal women and trust me it’s a game changer. I had no issues with my sex drive but I had many other symptoms, they have all been resolved after my first implant!

I think it’s sad some men feel they need to go for younger women, after all eventually they will also hit menopause. Then what, upgrade to an even younger version?

From my own experiences, it seems the men who are most desirable in their 50’s, actually prefer the mental congruence they find with women in the same age range. We are also sometimes more sexually liberated and adventurous. And thank you on the shoes

I just don't get older guys chasing younger women. Older women have always been a turn-on for me. We listen to the same music, read many of the same books. We have a lot to talk about. BTW I'm 50 lol

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Some days you just want to give up and go play on the train tracks.

I’m sorry, PM me

I just don't get older guys chasing younger women. Older women have always been a turn-on for me. We listen to the same music, read many of the same books. We have a lot to talk about. BTW I'm 50 lol

Yes I agree with you totally and that’s why I always prefer men in their 50’s. Having said that I’m currently ‘entertaining’ a 47yr old and he is an exceptional exception to my rule

 

[HampshireBoy]

I just don't get older guys chasing younger women. Older women have always been a turn-on for me. We listen to the same music, read many of the same books. We have a lot to talk about. BTW I'm 50 lol

I agree entirely, when I was between marriages and in my mid to late forties I dated women of all ages. The one in her twenties was fun, but we had so little in common, the ones in their sixties had more in common but we still didn't wuite "gel"; the women round about my own age were so much more compatible. However I had just come out of a long marriage, that had long periods of no sex, so I was grateful for any woman that found me attractive.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I agree entirely, when I was between marriages and in my mid to late forties I dated women of all ages. The one in her twenties was fun, but we had so little in common, the ones in their sixties had more in common but we still didn't wuite "gel"; the women round about my own age were so much more compatible. However I had just come out of a long marriage, that had long periods of no sex, so I was grateful for any woman that found me attractive.

When you are dealing with a sexless marriage I think finding validation from anyone is an important process of the healing process. In some ways, that person being much younger adds to the self-realization that it is NOT that you are unattractive, unfit, etc. - ideas that are often planted in many of our heads by spouses who refuse to have sex with us. I can't say it is necessarily a permanent solution, but it is a helpful step in self-healing.

That being said, it was my affair with a much younger woman that ultimately provided me so much more than just that psychological need. Perhaps she was special and I was extremely lucky, but our connection awakened so much in me - not just sexually, but just about my own life, priorities, and ultimately what I needed and was missing most from my marriage - which wasn't sex, but intimacy and positive support. Through her I was able to end my destructive behaviors and haven't had an affair since her. Of course that also means I haven't had sex now in nearly 3 years!

Before her I was involved with a few other younger women along the way, they were fun, the sex was amazing, but the connection wasn't there like it was with her. But the same was also true with the older women I was involved with - they had their own needs and were very particular about meeting those, were less flexible, more demanding - things I didn't need. Obviously, my situation was quite different - these were affairs, they knew my situation, and a couple of them were married themselves.

All of us are attracted to very different things in people and all of us are at very different stages in our lives and have varying needs and desires. No one-shoe-fits-all broad rule can ever be applied to everyone. Age differences have their advantages - if it is something that fulfills the both of your needs and desires; similar ages also has its advantages...

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Some days you just want to give up and go play on the train tracks.

It sounds like you are still battling your depression and perhaps some demons lurking around in your closet. I hope you can at least find some mode of self-expression - though a hobby, writing, just listening to music - something that provides you a few moments of stepping out of the day-to-day, transcending the murky waters you seem to be wading through, and find a few moments of joy.

Joy is out there, waiting for you...

 

[IASFPWTF]

When you are dealing with a sexless marriage I think finding validation from anyone is an important process of the healing process. In some ways, that person being much younger adds to the self-realization that it is NOT that you are unattractive, unfit, etc. - ideas that are often planted in many of our heads by spouses who refuse to have sex with us. I can't say it is necessarily a permanent solution, but it is a helpful step in self-healing.

That being said, it was my affair with a much younger woman that ultimately provided me so much more than just that psychological need. Perhaps she was special and I was extremely lucky, but our connection awakened so much in me - not just sexually, but just about my own life, priorities, and ultimately what I needed and was missing most from my marriage - which wasn't sex, but intimacy and positive support. Through her I was able to end my destructive behaviors and haven't had an affair since her. Of course that also means I haven't had sex now in nearly 3 years!

Before her I was involved with a few other younger women along the way, they were fun, the sex was amazing, but the connection wasn't there like it was with her. But the same was also true with the older women I was involved with - they had their own needs and were very particular about meeting those, were less flexible, more demanding - things I didn't need. Obviously, my situation was quite different - these were affairs, they knew my situation, and a couple of them were married themselves.

All of us are attracted to very different things in people and all of us are at very different stages in our lives and have varying needs and desires. No one-shoe-fits-all broad rule can ever be applied to everyone. Age differences have their advantages - if it is something that fulfills the both of your needs and desires; similar ages also has its advantages...

So, you really mean it has nothing to do with age at all...

 

[Lost_Yonder]

So, you really mean it has nothing to do with age at all...

not sure what you are asking...

Age has lots to do with lots - but what we find attractive, what we desire varies extensively. Like you, I like women of all ages. I've been bored out of my wits with women my age just as much, if not more, than women much younger. Just because they are the same age doesn't mean there are any shared interests, values, desires...

 

[HampshireBoy]

When you are dealing with a sexless marriage I think finding validation from anyone is an important process of the healing process. In some ways, that person being much younger adds to the self-realization that it is NOT that you are unattractive, unfit, etc. - ideas that are often planted in many of our heads by spouses who refuse to have sex with us. I can't say it is necessarily a permanent solution, but it is a helpful step in self-healing.

That being said, it was my affair with a much younger woman that ultimately provided me so much more than just that psychological need. Perhaps she was special and I was extremely lucky, but our connection awakened so much in me - not just sexually, but just about my own life, priorities, and ultimately what I needed and was missing most from my marriage - which wasn't sex, but intimacy and positive support. Through her I was able to end my destructive behaviors and haven't had an affair since her. Of course that also means I haven't had sex now in nearly 3 years!

Before her I was involved with a few other younger women along the way, they were fun, the sex was amazing, but the connection wasn't there like it was with her. But the same was also true with the older women I was involved with - they had their own needs and were very particular about meeting those, were less flexible, more demanding - things I didn't need. Obviously, my situation was quite different - these were affairs, they knew my situation, and a couple of them were married themselves.

All of us are attracted to very different things in people and all of us are at very different stages in our lives and have varying needs and desires. No one-shoe-fits-all broad rule can ever be applied to everyone. Age differences have their advantages - if it is something that fulfills the both of your needs and desires; similar ages also has its advantages...

I wouldn't play around with anyone else whilst married, though there were several very clear opportunities. But I agree, once we split, women being attracted to me was definitely part of the healing process - proving to me that I was actually attractive and these womens not only would have sex with me but wanted to repeatedly.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I really hope ccs29745 didn’t leave, I know it was a joke comment & not serious, but he’s been gone since!?

If you read this get back in here. You & I have been here from the start & always partnered to keep this thread active... I need you dude!

 

[The_gladiator]

I really hope ccs29745 didn’t leave, I know it was a joke comment & not serious, but he’s been gone since!?

If you read this get back in here. You & I have been here from the start & always partnered to keep this thread active... I need you dude!

it was certainly a joke. I used to be a proud member of the thread killers anonamous. Wore it as a badge of honor. I would have never expected him to seriously take offense at my words. had I seriously thought he would I wouldn't have made a joke.

 

[MatureChattyMann]

I really hope ccs29745 didn’t leave, I know it was a joke comment & not serious, but he’s been gone since!?

If you read this get back in here. You & I have been here from the start & always partnered to keep this thread active... I need you dude!

We all need of each another here.

 

[philos]

How is it we are so physically close these weeks and I feel totally unseen or heard? It’s enough to make you weep but no privacy for a breakdown.

 

[CuriousColorado]

40 y/o white male... Sexless marriage.

I've had offers... recently got a 30 year old acquaintance off but stopped short of actually having sex with her. I'm trying to feel guilty, but really I just regret not taking her when she begged me. I don't want to be "that guy", but at the same time I'm very adventurous and very, very frustrated. Not so glad I'm not the only one... I wouldn't wish this on others.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I’m checking out thread family. Most know I work for Amazon, I’m back to 60hrs/wk, but I’m interviewing for a big promotion up the management ladder. If I get it I will be gone 6mths, onboarding a large new team, training & then leading them. So no other issue for me disappearing, I’m very settled with my man, it’s all work

Take care and all stay safe, I’ll check back when I can

 

[Doctor Joe]

I’m checking out thread family. Most know I work for Amazon, I’m back to 60hrs/wk, but I’m interviewing for a big promotion up the management ladder. If I get it I will be gone 6mths, onboarding a large new team, training & then leading them. So no other issue for me disappearing, I’m very settled with my man, it’s all work

Take care and all stay safe, I’ll check back when I can

Stay safe Busty Brit...return to us when you can!!

 

[philos]

I’m checking out thread family. Most know I work for Amazon, I’m back to 60hrs/wk, but I’m interviewing for a big promotion up the management ladder. If I get it I will be gone 6mths, onboarding a large new team, training & then leading them. So no other issue for me disappearing, I’m very settled with my man, it’s all work

Take care and all stay safe, I’ll check back when I can

Good luck. I’ll miss you

 

[IASFPWTF]

I’m checking out thread family. Most know I work for Amazon, I’m back to 60hrs/wk, but I’m interviewing for a big promotion up the management ladder. If I get it I will be gone 6mths, onboarding a large new team, training & then leading them. So no other issue for me disappearing, I’m very settled with my man, it’s all work

Take care and all stay safe, I’ll check back when I can

Good luck