Why do we have sex?

[Jada59]

When I was younger, I'd have men offer sex to me to relieve my menstrual cramps. I have *no* clue how this got started. Luckily I rarely had cramps but when I did, the last thing I wanted was sex. Just get away from me and let me go to bed with the heating pad!

There is also the notion that women get more horny while on their periods. Not true for me either but I could usually tell that my period was going to start because I would get super horny for a hot five minutes. But after that? No sex until it was over. Reason being, the menstrual blood was so sticky. Did not make for good sex and if there was a lot of it, it cut down on sensations and I flat out couldn't cum.

Another notion is that sex helps blow off steam. I have had men say this a lot. Maybe it's a guy thing? The last thing I want when I'm angry or stressed is sex! Actually I don't get angry often but when I do, I address the issue then get over it. Otherwise when I am stressed out, I either want a nap, a hug or sometimes just an hour or so with my weights and some good music. Good hard workout or maybe some energetic dancing. Or maybe meditation. But not sex.

Of course some people have sex to make a baby.

But me? I just get horny. This primal urge comes over me and I just want him to fuck my brains out or suck him off or if he's not around, take matters into my own hands.

You?

 

[Jada59]

Shameless bump.

 

[Runbow]

When I was younger, I'd have men offer sex to me to relieve my menstrual cramps. I have *no* clue how this got started. Luckily I rarely had cramps but when I did, the last thing I wanted was sex. Just get away from me and let me go to bed with the heating pad!

There is also the notion that women get more horny while on their periods. Not true for me either but I could usually tell that my period was going to start because I would get super horny for a hot five minutes. But after that? No sex until it was over. Reason being, the menstrual blood was so sticky. Did not make for good sex and if there was a lot of it, it cut down on sensations and I flat out couldn't cum.

Another notion is that sex helps blow off steam. I have had men say this a lot. Maybe it's a guy thing? The last thing I want when I'm angry or stressed is sex! Actually I don't get angry often but when I do, I address the issue then get over it. Otherwise when I am stressed out, I either want a nap, a hug or sometimes just an hour or so with my weights and some good music. Good hard workout or maybe some energetic dancing. Or maybe meditation. But not sex.

Of course some people have sex to make a baby.

But me? I just get horny. This primal urge comes over me and I just want him to fuck my brains out or suck him off or if he's not around, take matters into my own hands.

You?

The reason can change depending on my mood. Sometimes, I crave that intimacy and connection. The actual sex is secondary to being with someone else, totally vulnerable, and sharing that intimacy together.

Other times, it is like you said Jade, the primal urge takes over me and I just want to fuck, I want to dominate, I want to conquer.

And other times I want to please, I so want to make my partner happy and seeing them cum, or even just enjoy themselves, is enough for me.

So like many people, I have sex for different reasons. Humans are complex like that.

 

[Jada59]

The reason can change depending on my mood. Sometimes, I crave that intimacy and connection. The actual sex is secondary to being with someone else, totally vulnerable, and sharing that intimacy together.

Other times, it is like you said Jade, the primal urge takes over me and I just want to fuck, I want to dominate, I want to conquer.

And other times I want to please, I so want to make my partner happy and seeing them cum, or even just enjoy themselves, is enough for me.

So like many people, I have sex for different reasons. Humans are complex like that.

Thanks!

 

[L8tnIt]

I have found sex to be a wondeful tool. It is a great form of stress relief for me. It is an entertaining form of personal interaction with members of the appropriate gender. It relaxes me after an intense day of work. It becomes a brief but realistic escape. And on the rare occasions when I get to be tied up and whipped, it is fantasy unbound.

 

[nyguy1980]

Sex is definitely primal to me.
There is just a constant urge that slowly builds up.

I think there is also that great connection that happens with good sex. That feeling of pure pleasure that comes with an orgasm as well. Maybe I am addicted to that euphoria?

 

[Jada59]

I have found sex to be a wondeful tool. It is a great form of stress relief for me. It is an entertaining form of personal interaction with members of the appropriate gender. It relaxes me after an intense day of work. It becomes a brief but realistic escape. And on the rare occasions when I get to be tied up and whipped, it is fantasy unbound.

Oooh! Nice!

 

[Jada59]

Sex is definitely primal to me.
There is just a constant urge that slowly builds up.

I think there is also that great connection that happens with good sex. That feeling of pure pleasure that comes with an orgasm as well. Maybe I am addicted to that euphoria?

Well, maybe I am too!

 

[HoldYouDown]

The underlying reason is reproduction, whether we want it to be or not.

 

[nyguy1980]

Well, maybe I am too!

Why cant we be friends then? lol

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

When I was younger, I'd have men offer sex to me to relieve my menstrual cramps. I have *no* clue how this got started. Luckily I rarely had cramps but when I did, the last thing I wanted was sex. Just get away from me and let me go to bed with the heating pad!

There is also the notion that women get more horny while on their periods. Not true for me either but I could usually tell that my period was going to start because I would get super horny for a hot five minutes. But after that? No sex until it was over. Reason being, the menstrual blood was so sticky. Did not make for good sex and if there was a lot of it, it cut down on sensations and I flat out couldn't cum.

Another notion is that sex helps blow off steam. I have had men say this a lot. Maybe it's a guy thing? The last thing I want when I'm angry or stressed is sex! Actually I don't get angry often but when I do, I address the issue then get over it. Otherwise when I am stressed out, I either want a nap, a hug or sometimes just an hour or so with my weights and some good music. Good hard workout or maybe some energetic dancing. Or maybe meditation. But not sex.

Of course some people have sex to make a baby.

But me? I just get horny. This primal urge comes over me and I just want him to fuck my brains out or suck him off or if he's not around, take matters into my own hands.

You?

I have sex or concentrate on sex or the feelings of orgasmic release;
to stop that fucking, runaway train that's screaming thru my head.

 

[de_valmont]

There can be a combination of sex, really pleasing sex, with love (not crush, love) between lovers, mutual comfort, sensuality embedded in a real liaison. Well, sometimes, phases. It's hard work to build it up and preserve it, many failures and set-backs, so ...

 

[uncle easy]

The worst sex that I ever had was wonderful. Aaaaand it just got better from there. My wife and I are what is called elderly and have far less sex than we used to,,,, but we both still love it very much.

 

[dp4shelly]

Great question

This is a really good question. I don't think there is a simple answer and I know there is not just one reason. So I am going to give it some thought and get back to this thread later.

 

[dp4shelly]

Still working on the answer...

I am still working on the answer. Right now I think I need to do some research. Probably a group think-tank would be the most productive. One way or another I am going to get to the bottom of this.

 

[de_valmont]

A group think-tank is what we are trying here, right?

 

[KinoKe]

The first time? Probably out of curiosity. After that? Because it felt so good the first time.

 

[Mtnmike]

When I was younger it was hormonal, want to fuck all the time, so guess this was primal. As I got older and hormones stated dwindling it became more like love making, slow, pleasurable type. Don't get me wrong I still like to have primal sex on occasion just not like I used too but yeah I still like to fuck, just wife's libido died 10 years ago and I don't get it anymore. Man do I miss it sometimes lol.

 

[jaysonfrommars_del]

We live in a world of arbitrary rules and diminished dreams... of inauthentic people and artificial flavors. Sex is the one activity where we can reconnect with both the primal, animalistic part of our soul and the transcendent, divine spirit within us. We are predator and prey and at once also combined with the energies of the universe to which we belong.

When we are sexual we can, for a moment, become something more than ourselves, something beyond ourselves, yet deep within ourselves.

 

[naughtymind]

The underlying reason is reproduction, whether we want it to be or not.

I disagree with that entirely. Obviously for some people it is, but how would that explain homosexuality? Sorry, but that’s just too broad and sweeping. As noted above, we are complex and different. Personally, I think there is a primal need for physical intimacy that is completely separate from our drive to reproduce. The pleasure that many of us get in seeing the pleasure we are giving our partner for instance. In relationships, it is often the glue that holds thing together (obviously not for everyone). There’s so many reasons really.

 

[KinoKe]

The underlying reason is reproduction, whether we want it to be or not.

Reproduction has never been my objective. Never.

 

[anniebaby10]

When I was younger, I'd have men offer sex to me to relieve my menstrual cramps. I have *no* clue how this got started. Luckily I rarely had cramps but when I did, the last thing I wanted was sex. Just get away from me and let me go to bed with the heating pad!

There is also the notion that women get more horny while on their periods. Not true for me either but I could usually tell that my period was going to start because I would get super horny for a hot five minutes. But after that? No sex until it was over. Reason being, the menstrual blood was so sticky. Did not make for good sex and if there was a lot of it, it cut down on sensations and I flat out couldn't cum.

Another notion is that sex helps blow off steam. I have had men say this a lot. Maybe it's a guy thing? The last thing I want when I'm angry or stressed is sex! Actually I don't get angry often but when I do, I address the issue then get over it. Otherwise when I am stressed out, I either want a nap, a hug or sometimes just an hour or so with my weights and some good music. Good hard workout or maybe some energetic dancing. Or maybe meditation. But not sex.

Of course some people have sex to make a baby.

But me? I just get horny. This primal urge comes over me and I just want him to fuck my brains out or suck him off or if he's not around, take matters into my own hands.

You?

I am horny a lot especially the week after my period when I need to have an orgasm 4 or 5 times a day for about 5 days. So it is relief during those days and the other times, I just love the feeling of all parts of sex.... my tits being sucked, my clit being stimulated, my pussy being filled up with his cock and cum, my ass being fingered, my lips being kissed.... it all is so wonderful.

 

[Codeman93]

When I was younger, I'd have men offer sex to me to relieve my menstrual cramps. I have *no* clue how this got started. Luckily I rarely had cramps but when I did, the last thing I wanted was sex. Just get away from me and let me go to bed with the heating pad!

There is also the notion that women get more horny while on their periods. Not true for me either but I could usually tell that my period was going to start because I would get super horny for a hot five minutes. But after that? No sex until it was over. Reason being, the menstrual blood was so sticky. Did not make for good sex and if there was a lot of it, it cut down on sensations and I flat out couldn't cum.

Another notion is that sex helps blow off steam. I have had men say this a lot. Maybe it's a guy thing? The last thing I want when I'm angry or stressed is sex! Actually I don't get angry often but when I do, I address the issue then get over it. Otherwise when I am stressed out, I either want a nap, a hug or sometimes just an hour or so with my weights and some good music. Good hard workout or maybe some energetic dancing. Or maybe meditation. But not sex.

Of course some people have sex to make a baby.

But me? I just get horny. This primal urge comes over me and I just want him to fuck my brains out or suck him off or if he's not around, take matters into my own hands.

You?

There’s so much to it! I also have the primal urge but also it’s relaxing I’m not saying it’s simple but it’s simple, there’s nothing else to it just you and your partner doing every thing that you possibly can to make each other feel pleasure, and the pleasure alone is enough to want to have sex. Me I love the union of two body’s becoming intertwined and feeling the most pleasure possible!

 

[Jada59]

The underlying reason is reproduction, whether we want it to be or not.

Good answer.

 

[Jada59]

Why cant we be friends then? lol

We can!